What would you do if a person sent you a WeChat message at 12 a.m. saying that she was going to jump from dozens of floors?

Would you treat him as a psychopath, pretending not to see it and ignore it?

Or as a joke about the big adventure, send a sentence, if you have the guts, you will jump!

Or will immediately video call with him, do everything possible to calm his emotions and prevent him from taking the next step.

If it were me, I would choose the last one.

Because if a person is not very painful and desperate, he will never think of ending his life.

And when he comes to you for help, it shows that you are a very important person to him.

Your words, a thoughtful move, may pull him out of the ghost gate.

Instead of blocking his last door in the world with indifference.

Recently, I received such a WeChat message from my best friend Yiyi, she said:

I'm on the 22nd floor right now, sitting on the couch in the living room, very close to the window.

If, if I jump......

I hurriedly asked her, "What's wrong? Are you in a bad mood?" Tell me, don't be impulsive. ”

Then we talked for a long time, and I realized that she had been diagnosed with "major depressive disorder" for a long time.

She told me that she had insomnia for half a year due to some family and work reasons, and when she finally fell asleep, the alarm went off when she was scheduled to get up.

I used to like to go shopping with my girlfriends and go to sing K and eat barbecue with my colleagues, but now I can't do any of this.

Just shut himself up in the house day after day, with the curtains locked and the door locked, refusing all communication.

Sometimes you can become irritable and irritable, such as that morning a few days ago:

The last second was still drinking water, and the next second he would definitely smash the cup to the ground with a hideous expression, and he would fall to the ground.

Her fragile and sensitive heart, the slightest dissatisfaction and disdain in other people's tones will be captured.

Then I wonder if I will cause trouble for others, whether I will make others uncomfortable, and then I will start to deny myself.

Every night when I can't sleep, I think:

Why don't I be cared about by others? I can't let others take the initiative to get close to me.

No friends, no lovers, thinking about the long road ahead without one to accompany you.

She didn't like herself, but there was nothing she could do, she couldn't control her thoughts and actions at all.

She wanted to confide, she wanted someone to give her a hug when she broke down, not much, just a hug.

She wants to be loved, she wants someone who can give her enough company when she is lonely, not much, just a little.

But the reality is that the more extravagant hopes there are, the more disappointed you are.

She told her family, she told her friends, but their reactions were the same.

He looked incredulous: "What's the big deal, go buy some medicine yourself, and it will be fine after a while." ”

If it was good to really take some medicine, then she wouldn't be so miserable today.

Until a second before she sent me a WeChat message, she stood guard in front of the window.

Looking at the vehicles coming and going on the road dozens of meters below, there was a moment when I wanted to jump impulsively.

She wanted to get rid of hell once and for all.

There are actually many reasons why Yiyi has become like this, and it is not entirely due to various pressures.

If at the beginning, the people around Yiyi could detect her changes early and give her enough warmth and companionship in time.

Rather than being indifferent, there is a very high probability that this kind of scene will not happen.

However, as her best friend from college, I believe she will get better.

No matter what happens, I'll always be there.

I think that in the near future, I will definitely see the smile on this girl's face again.

She will be as warm as a sunflower shining in the sun.

There are 10,000 reasons in this world that can kill us, we will feel lost because of the small things in life, and we will feel uneasy because of some extraneous sounds that we have realized afterwards.

The fear in the dead of night, the loneliness in the bustling crowd, and the uncontrollable worry......

But sometimes there is only one reason to keep us alive:

It can be a slender unknown flower, a soft and fragile insect at the edge of standing water, an indelible image in memory, or someone waiting for you in front of you.

So I hope I'm the one who meets her and finds a reason to keep her alive again.

Then have the reason and courage to fall in love with the world again.

Therefore, I hope that when you face people with depression, you will not be an indifferent bystander.

Instead, they did everything they could to give him understanding, help him get out of the endless darkness, and light a light for his confused future.

Later, I recommended a song from Mika Nakajima "I used to think about a hundred" to Yiyi.

僕が死のうと思ったのは

中島美嘉-僕が死のうと思ったのは

The song was given to Mika Nakajima by the composer because it was at her lowest point during that time.

What the composer didn't know was that this song saved more than Mika Nakajima's soul.

Here's a hot comment that says this:

When you come to this world, you must see the majestic or steep mountains;

Be sure to see the meandering creek or the magnificent sea;

Be sure to see the endless grasslands, be sure to see the colorful Northern Lights, and be sure to see the vibrant sunrise.

Be sure to live well.

I want to tell her that no matter when, life is hope, and we must live well.

For example, there is a sentence in "100 Ways to Commit Suicide" that touches people, on the last page of the book, the last line:

"So suicide is really painful, please live well. ”

However, depression is a disease with a high incidence of suicide.

According to the World Health Organization, there are about 322 million people with depression worldwide, with an incidence of about 4.4%.

Two-thirds of patients have had suicidal thoughts, and 15% of severe patients will choose suicide to end their lives.

The number of people who die by suicide due to depression is estimated to be as high as 1 million each year.

Depression is currently the fourth most common disease in the world, and it is expected that by 2020, depression will become the second most common disease in humanity after heart disease.

At the same time, the incidence of depression (and suicide cases) has begun to appear at a younger age (university, and even primary and secondary school students).

(The above data comes from Baidu Encyclopedia)

(Excerpt from the movie "Husband Has Depression")

I don't think we know much about depression, and it is easy to understand it as: "It's like the common cold", "Introverted", "It'll be fine after a while", "Everyone has it", "It's okay to find trouble".

But that's not the case.

The clinical manifestations of depression are:

1. Low mood: the light ones are depressed, unhappy, and have decreased interest, and the heavy ones are in pain, pessimistic and hopeless, living like years, and life is worse than death.

2. Slow thinking: active speech is reduced, the speed of speech is significantly slowed down, the voice is low, it is difficult to answer, and the communication cannot be carried out smoothly in severe cases.

3. Decreased volitional activity: slow behavior, passive life, laziness, do not want to do things, unwilling to interact with people around them, often sit alone, severe patients are often accompanied by negative suicidal concepts or behaviors.

4. Self-harm or suicidal thoughts or behaviors: mainly manifested as decreased memory of recent events, attention disorders, long reaction time, increased alertness, poor abstract thinking ability, learning difficulties, and poor language fluency.

5. Somatic symptoms: sleep disorders, fatigue, loss of appetite, weight loss, autonomic dysfunction.

The more obvious symptom is that they will lose interest in almost everything and even give up doing things they once enjoyed.

When you find yourself having these symptoms, don't ignore them!!

1. Go to the hospital in time. Don't believe those depression test questions on the Internet, be sure to go to a professional hospital and ask for help.

2. Actively cooperate with treatment and face up to depression. Many people think that having depression is a shameful thing, so they treat it negatively and miss the best treatment period.

3. Adjust your mindset. You have to believe that there are actually many people who care about you and still love you.

So, if you have someone around you who also has these symptoms, please pay attention to it, okay?

Please understand them more and be less indifferent.

(Excerpt from the movie "Husband Has Depression")

If someone who has always been an extrovert suddenly tells you that he is sad, please, don't take it as a joke and stay with him.

Some people seem outgoing, maybe the warmth he exudes is the last light from his burning life.

They bear pain that we cannot imagine and that we cannot express in words.

Those words that everyone thinks are "disgusting" and "hypocritical" may be the last "distress signal" they send.

Maybe one day... You'll never see him again...

You can try to tell them something like, "Don't be afraid, it's okay, I'm here." “

No matter what happens, I won't leave, you have to believe that everything will be fine.

No matter what happened in the past, the best will never come.

More beautiful tomorrows are waiting for you to create.

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