Someone on Weibo asked, "How can I feel secure, do I have to have a lot of money, or do I have a lot of love?"

The real sense of security is preference, it is discrimination, and it is to make it clear that the other party feels that they are different from everyone else.

Of the countless reasons I've heard of breakups, one of the most poignant is called: "I don't think he has to be me." “

Chen Ran and her boyfriend met at a company dinner, when she had just arrived at the company and was not familiar with everyone. On the day of the dinner, the air conditioner in the private room was turned on very low, and the tuyere was always facing Chen Ran, the boy saw everything in his eyes and offered to change positions with her.

Chen Ran sat in a position with the right temperature, watching his hair being blown messy by the cold wind of the air conditioner, his heart was warm, and he couldn't help but fall in love with his gentleness because of such a trivial matter.

But as the saying goes: the person who can talk to you at the first meeting can actually talk to many people.

Chen Ran always thought that her boyfriend's tenderness was out of love for herself, and it was her exclusive treatment as his girlfriend, but the longer they were together, the more she found that it was just a way for boys to behave in the world.

The boy will also let the company's female colleagues sit in his co-pilot, will also leave his umbrella to others when it rains, and then come back in the rain, and he will even be willing to spend rare alone time with Chen Ran to comfort the lovelorn female friend, all of which seems normal to the boy, but Chen Ran suffered a lot of grievances in this relationship.

I used to think that loving someone is enough as long as I am sure that I love you enough, but Chen Ran's incident made me understand that there is no love in this world that can last for a long time just by unilateral giving.

Love should be mutual, and when one person takes the initiative to open up the privilege of love to another, one will certainly hope to get the same response, because only being favored can give love confidence.

This reminds me of Chen Qianqian in "My Favorite Women", Chen Qianqian in the show has been criticized by netizens for being too squeamish, not liking housework, not liking sports, and even being said by netizens to be "too much".

But at the same time, Chen Qianqian is also envied by many people, because no matter how many small problems Chen Qianqian has, her husband Yuan Chengjie will accept all the orders, even when playing games, as long as he hears his wife calling himself, he will immediately give up the game and run to see her.

is like Eason Chan sang in the song: "Those who are favored have no fear." "That kind of flamboyant willfulness and petty temper can only be found by those who are favored.

Yesterday, I brushed up on a clip of Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen in a variety show, when the two of them watched the sunrise, because the scenery was very beautiful, Cai Shaofen excitedly asked the people next to him to come over to watch, but Zhang Jin immediately said: "Don't come over, it's good for the two of us to be alone." In the face of Zhang Jin's domineering refusal, Cai Shaofen's face was full of spoiled smiles.

One of the most praised comments under the video said: "Zhang Jin is really good, he always takes the initiative to refuse, except for coaxing his wife, he will always be indifferent to other girls." “

A person can be polite, of course, a good quality, but all gentleness needs to be measured, especially in love, knowing how to be appropriately indifferent and refusal, is the greatest respect and favor for the lover.

Cai Kangyong said in an interview: "My indifference comes from, things that have nothing to do with me don't bother me, I have to hold the energy to stay, solve the things that are important to me, so when my friend describes me as cold and warm, he is the beneficiary, it is because I am indifferent to others, I have time to pay attention to him, if there is no indifference, it will not be able to achieve the warmth behind." “

Although this passage is describing friendship, the same principle applies to love, because all heartfelt feelings need to be favored in order to gain security.

In the face of feelings, we all have to understand that if you really love someone, you must treat them differently, and you must leave the best and most special love to the most important person.