Today, 43-year-old Ma Yili ended her 11-year marriage with the article, and the two posted on Weibo one after another: One parting and two wide, each life is happy.

There is no tearing, no slander, no even complaining, a shallow sentence "You and I have loved deeply, worked hard, and in the future, each life will be happy", behind it is a woman who is not confused, after experiencing many ups and downs in life, she can still be open-minded with kindness and blessings, and it is also the most calm and decent adult when her marriage comes to an end.

Someone on the Internet asked: When does a person start to grow up?

The reply said, "When there is no one behind him, he must be relied on by others." “

I still remember that a few years ago, the article derailment storm swept the Internet, and Ma Yili, who was pregnant with her second child, became the "poor woman" in the public opinion outlet, and people regarded her remarks of "doing it and cherishing it" as a compromise on marriage, and even the words of concern were full of pity.

But Ma Yili didn't explain much about this, nor was she depressed because of the changes in that marriage, she just silently accepted the test of life and proved herself again and again with career success.

In the past few years, she won the Huading Award for Best Actress with "Beishangguang Don't Believe in Tears", and then won the Magnolia Award for Best Actress with the role of Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life".

She used facts to prove to this society that the success or failure of marriage does not determine a woman's happiness, and what a person can live depends on what you want to live your life in.

As she said on Weibo on her 43rd birthday:

"In my twenties, I just want to control everything I have in my hands for eternity, so I am inexplicably troubled by the uncertainty of the future and miss some of the good things. In his forties, he knows that mortals and things are not eternal, and he thinks of yin and yang. The only thing to grasp is the time in front of you. “

No longer sticking to the past, but cherishing and enjoying every moment with your heart is the most transparent perception of life.

When Ma Yili was filming "Beishangguang Don't Believe in Tears", because she was breastfeeding and did not wear underwear, she was ridiculed by netizens for "sagging breasts", and even female stars can't escape the harsh criticism of society and time, let alone us ordinary people?

Perhaps because of those experiences, Ma Yili understands the voice of every modern working woman very well, and she has spoken out for women in public many times, hoping that the society can have more respect for women and that employers will be more considerate of mothers.

The real strength of a person lies in the ability to protect more people after he becomes stronger.

I have to admit that our society does have a lot of prejudice against women.

If a woman neglects her children and family for work, she will be criticized as an incompetent mother, but if a woman gives up her hobbies and career and devotes herself to the family, she will be ridiculed for being lazy and doing nothing.

I also have friends who chose to give up their careers in order to take care of their families after giving birth to children, but after giving up their careers, they will inevitably become anxious and insecure because they are surrounded by firewood, rice, oil and salt. So I worry all day that my relationship will deteriorate, blame the child for being ignorant, and complain that life is unfair.

But as the saying goes: "A woman can't live in marriage all her life." “

As a mother, of course, love your children, but more importantly, you should never forget to love yourself.

I remember that the life ranking of Papi sauce was discussed by many people before, and everyone envied her for ranking herself first in life, and it was precisely because of that seemingly "cold" life order that Papi sauce could make Papi sauce less entangled on the road of hard work, and a little more confident in the face of love.

In fact, if you look at those women who have succeeded in their careers, you will find that the people we envy have one thing in common, that is, they will always love themselves and will never let themselves be stopped because of marriage.

Only when a person truly loves himself can he focus on himself, can he constantly improve himself, and will he have the ability to resist the inevitable bad stages in his life and have the ability to tear off the bad label.

It is useless to complain, a woman's sense of security can only be given by herself. Only when you are strong can you have the confidence and courage to deal with all the changes in the relationship, so that you will not suffer from gains and losses just because of a relationship.

Just like Ma Yili said when she won the award in "The First Half of My Life": "Women don't live to please others, I hope you live for yourself, everyone has only one chance in the first half of their lives, be brave and hard to love, struggle, and make mistakes, but remember to grow." “

When life's trials weigh down again and again, I hope we can all learn to grow through the tribulations. Whether it's love or career, on the road of life, the best things always have to come to the finale.

So don't worry, when you're good enough, the world will be gentle.