Someone on the Internet did a survey and asked, "After the breakup, what do you think is the biggest problem in this relationship?" and the most praised answer is: "My biggest problem is that I care too much about the other person, and he is the opposite." “

What are the manifestations of caring too much about a person?

Someone said: "I will set his WeChat as a strong reminder, so that I don't miss every message from him, and I will reply to every WeChat message of his in seconds." “

Someone said, "I get nervous and even a little overwhelmed when he gets close to me, and I get jealous when he gets too close to other people of the opposite sex." “

Someone else said, "My emotions will change with him, I will be sad when he is sad, and I will be happy when he is happy." “

Many people are like this, they will live themselves as the other party expects in their relationship, and every breath and breath will change with them, and their every move will be deeply affected. I can't say it's wrong, but it's a bit blind.

There are two classic lines in the movie "My Morning Girlfriend", I am particularly impressed, Zhou Xun asked after falling out of love: "Isn't unconditional love the most vocal in the world?"

Tong Dawei replied to her: "The love that breaks even is called love, and you give too much." “

Many people often lose themselves in a relationship, don't understand what love is meant by, and don't understand why they have given so much sincerity, but they still can't get equal love, and finally make themselves bruised.

Love is not about giving more than ever, you can care about someone, but yours should care in moderation.

Storyteller

My good friend Xiao He fell out of love some time ago, the girl said that Xiao He couldn't give her the life she wanted, and as soon as she broke up, the girl blocked Xiao He's WeChat and phone, but Xiao He was reluctant to replace the girl's photo on the cover of the circle of friends for several months.

I asked him, "Why bother if you care about her so much and she doesn't take you seriously?"

He shook his head and said, "I don't know why this is happening, but even if I change her photo, I will still miss her, so I simply won't change it." “

I remember that on the day Xiao He just fell out of love, I stayed up until four o'clock in the morning with him, he collapsed on the sofa and smoked, looking at me who was already sleepy, and asked: "Why does love always make people suffer from gains and losses?

I replied to him coldly: "Because you care too much and don't know how to stop losses in time." “

Yishu once said: "Anyone who feels hard is forced, true love is pleasant, if you feel pain, something must have gone wrong, you need to end it in time, and start all over again." “

In a relationship, the most taboo is that one party blindly gives, while the other party accepts it as a matter of course. If we can do enough to care about someone, we will be greeted with a completely different life.

A netizen on Weibo posted a sentence from Qian Zhongshu: "Don't waste your time on some people who are indiscreet, unclear, and painless, because it's not worth it." “

The girl with the first hot comment said: "But we can't tell which talents are unworthy people, we still have to take the time to get to know a person, understand a person, and then fall into the care of this person, and finally find out that we are not worth it at all, which is really sad." “

The reason why many people suffer from gains and losses in their relationships is because we are not sure whether the person in front of us is really the right person, whether he cares about you as much as you care about him, and whether you can exchange equal love after you give your absolute sincerity.

This kind of uncertain care has become the biggest trouble in a relationship.

So, I want to say to you, until you're not sure if the other person really cares about you, please put away your precious care. There is nothing wrong with caring about a person, but your care must be moderate, and don't waste your sincerity on unworthy people.

We all have our own lives, don't spend too long in uncertain feelings, there will always be someone who loves you, cares about you, and gives you a long-lasting love.

I hope everyone can cherish the sincerity of others, and I also hope that everyone can meet the person who is willing to love you at all costs.