At the recent "Talk Show Conference", a passage from Siwen touched me a lot:

Women must be financially independent and earn money well before and after marriage.

The sense of existence is not brushed out, it is earned.

(Excerpt from the variety show "Talk Show Conference")

This super independent passage reminds me of the papi sauce that was on the hot search not long ago because of the "Declaration of Independence".

She is also exceptionally independent when it comes to marriage.

She described the relationship with her lover Lao Hu as follows, I make more money, I support you, I will not look down on you, and if you make more money to support me, I will not look down on myself.

We respect each other and there is no pressure on anyone.

At that time, many netizens left messages saying that they were very envious of this kind of independent woman, who was more capable than her husband and made more money than her husband, it was like taking the script of the big heroine.

But in addition to envy, he began to wonder if the relationship between a strong woman and a weak man can really last for a long time?

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"Absolutely. ”

The one who said these four words categorically was my friend Xiao Liu.

From the day I met her, she was a queen who walked with the wind in high heels.

Whether in school or after entering the workplace, she is the most shining presence in the crowd.

In comparison, her boyfriend seems a little bland.

Xiao Liu is in the sales department, often has to work overtime, sometimes when she gets off work late, her boyfriend will bring a lunch box to bring her food, and then accompany her to get off work.

At a party of colleagues in the department, someone jokingly said that Xiao Liu is the trump card of the sales department.

With such a high income, it should have surpassed that of a boyfriend a long time ago.

remembers that Xiao Liu's boyfriend just took her cup and drank the wine for her.

Then he said gently, "Yes, she is indeed very good." ”

There was no trace of flattery on his face, nor was he embarrassed, but his calm appearance made the colleagues who provoked trouble a little embarrassed.

It was then that I learned why Xiao Liu could firmly say that "there is nothing in the relationship between strong women and weak men".

Is her boyfriend weak? I don't think so.

A man who can respect women must be strong and confident in his heart.

When he went back that day, Xiao Liu was a little drunk and stood at the door of the hotel looking for her boyfriend to ask for a hug.

Without saying a word, he picked her up and said goodbye to us.

Looking at their distant figures, I suddenly began to envy this mode of love and getting along.

Maybe in terms of ability, Xiao Liu is better.

But this man can still hold her up when she is tired.

He was never afraid that his partner was better than him, on the contrary, he was proud.

I suddenly remembered a sentence I had read in a book:

The best way to live is to rely on myself when I like to rely on myself, and rely on men when I like to rely on men.

In fact, there is no one who is strong and who is weak, it's just that the fields are different, and each has its own strengths.

This reminds me of a couple in the entertainment industry who I like very much, Du Jiang and Huo Siyan.

Huo Siyan became famous very early, as early as when Du Jiang was a student, she was already popular all over the country.

The difference in fame between the two people is not half a star.

When Huo Siyan wanted to marry Du Jiang, almost all of her friends were against it.

Because he was just a small actor who was not famous at that time, this kind of husband and wife relationship between strong women and weak men made her friends worry that they would not last long.

A few years after marriage, Du Jiang still only plays some supporting roles.

But it was still reported by the media that he could only receive the play because of Huo Siyan's relationship, and he didn't like this statement very much.

But he did not alienate Huo Siyan as the public thought, or put on any machismo to maintain the dignity of men.

He still loves Huo Siyan very much, just like when the two were in love, but he also works very hard.

He wanted to prove by his own strength that he was worthy of her.

(Excerpt from the movie "Operation Red Sea")

In the end, he succeeded and won the Best Supporting Actor Award at the 34th Popular Film Hundred Flowers Awards for the movie "Operation Red Sea".

This is the most comfortable relationship in love, just like Siwen's lover Cheng Lu said in the show:

The relationship should be between two people in the same boat, sometimes she is in the bow and I am in the stern, and sometimes I am in the bow and she is in the stern.

But as long as the ship is guaranteed to move forward, it is good.

Love is not a competition, there are not so many roundabouts, and there are not so many wins and losses.

It's nothing more than a point, I love you and I want to be with you.

I've always felt that the best relationship doesn't matter what is stronger or weaker.

It's like playing seesaw, we sit at opposite ends, sometimes I'm a little taller, sometimes you're a little taller.

But it is in this kind of high and low that happiness can be experienced.

I remember watching an award video before, which was Cai Shaofen's husband Zhang Jin giving an acceptance speech when he won the first award in his life.

He said:

I want to thank my wife Cai Shaofen, some people say that I will rely on her for the rest of my life, yes, the happiness of my life depends on her.

When we got married, we said that we would walk together through thick and thin, and now that we have the wind and rain, we hope to see more scenery together on the same road in the future.

Can you say that they are not happy, now they are a pair of fairy couples that everyone envies.

Strength and weakness are just the evaluation of outsiders to them, and for themselves, each other is a lover who will accompany them through their lives.

(Excerpt from the variety show "Talk Show Conference")

True equality between men and women starts with allowing women to be better than men.

I want to compete with others, but I just want to fall in love with you and grow old together.

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