"Since you know so much about negative emotions, what about positive emotions?"

The doctor turned a new page and continued: "Negative emotions are understandable that you want to kill because of hatred. But on what grounds do you kill positive emotions?"

Yuan Changwen: "Emotions are not real in themselves, and they have nothing to do with negative and positive emotions. ”

Doctor: "It's easy to say, can you really kill the positive emotions of emotion, love, and joy?"

yes, that's easy to say.

No matter how beautified human beings are, they can't escape the boundaries of animals after all. Well, some instincts are also unavoidable.

For example, the continuation of the race, such as the pursuit of advantages and the avoidance of disadvantages.

In the history of mankind, almost all development has been aimed at pursuing advantages and avoiding disadvantages.

If Yuan Changwen declares that negative emotions should be killed, it is estimated that everyone will agree with it, or no one will pay attention to it at all, after all, these words are too normal.

If so, even positive emotions need to be killed, and everyone will blurt out, "You're crazy!"

No one doesn't want to be able to experience pleasant emotions, and it's even possible to be in pleasure for the rest of their lives.

Come to think of it, it's impossible.

But everyone is usually too bitter and tired, even if they know that eternal bliss is a lie, they will still seek pleasure.

Some people shop, some people vent, some people sing, some people box......

Either way, pleasure is like a slippery catfish that slips out of your hand if you are not careful.

However, there is no need to worry, because positive emotions will always come, which is the protection mechanism of the "ego".

If you keep a person in negative emotions for a long time, then you will face a collapse, that is, Lao Tzu will stop doing it!

So the man began to find out what was it that made him so uncomfortable. As long as that person is serious enough, he will eventually find that everything is a self-woven definition.

These are things that the "ego" does not allow to happen. It is like a master who trains monkeys, not to make the monkeys too happy, nor to let the monkeys die of depression.

Yuan Changwen is just fed up with the pull of emotions and is unwilling to continue this kind of slap to a sweet date.

I'm gone!

What kind of slap sweet dates, Lao Tzu doesn't want them!

Who allowed you to have such a mood, and why did you want to appear in me?

Yuan Changwen knew that just killing negative emotions was not enough to end this state.

The urge to find happiness is inherently full of negative emotions.

Can you always find happiness?

When you can't find happiness, don't you fall into negative emotions!

If you can encourage yourself, all this is temporary, but you can't find happiness for the time being, and you will find happiness one day.

Then, you will become unflustered and anxious, and seem to be full of peace, just waiting to find happiness.

If you can really be calm, why should you look for happiness?

At that time, in the absence of the contrast of negative emotions, is happiness or happiness?

Positive emotions and negative emotions are like the north and south poles of a magnet, and it is difficult for only one of them to exist for a long time.

Yuan Changwen: "Moreover, emotions are the product of the interaction between self-definition and reality. Retaining emotions means retaining certain self-definitions. And this is something that Yuan Changwen can't bear!"

Doctor: "Are all emotions the same? So how do you explain some emotions that make you want to cry? Sometimes, people are moved for some reason. ”

This is the hardest.

A lot of touching happens inadvertently, and I don't even know what I'm moving, but it's just a sour nose and tears dripping.

Some of the roots of emotion are easy to find, for example, as you increase your experience, when you read an article, you will resonate with its emotions.

"Back", "Me and the Temple of Earth" and the like, when I was in school, I didn't think it was very well written. Except for memorizing the full text, the rest of the bullshit is not.

But when people read it again in middle age, sighs immediately envelop their whole body.

Yuan Changwen still remembers that at noon that day, he inadvertently flipped through "Me and the Temple of Earth" in the library, which described Shi Tiesheng's own disability, bored wandering around the Temple of Earth, remembering all the details of all the grass and trees.

With a twist of the pen, thinking about Shi Tiesheng's own willfulness at the beginning, he often stayed in the altar of earth until dark. And his mother, who was worried about him, was also looking around in the altar of earth. Another time, Shi Tiesheng deliberately hid and couldn't come out, looking at his mother's anxiety.

That's right, when Shi Tiesheng was in his youth, his legs were disabled and he couldn't walk, and he was very uncomfortable and sad. But what about his mother?

Isn't it unbearable and painful, his son suddenly broke his legs at the age when his life was about to start flying. How does this mother hide and cry secretly, how she pretends to be strong, and how she has to cheer up her son.

When Yuan Changwen saw this, he couldn't help but start crying, although it was only a few tears, but after all, it still fell on the floor.

This is the "self" related to experience, and as we get older, the "self" is constantly added and expanded.

I understand the pain of my parents and their difficulties.

And when you have a baby, you are also full of expectations for the baby, looking forward to what will happen to the baby in the future.

But at the same time, some seeds were planted.

I've bothered so much to take care of you, you can't let me down when you grow up.

You can't make me angry compared to the hardships I've paid.

When you grow up, you must be filial to me.

If a person has no concept of maternal love, he will not interact with these words, let alone have any emotions.

So, it's all the definition of self-weaving.

Although Yuan Changwen was reluctant and uncomfortable, he still had to kill these definitions after all.

There are also emotions that simply cannot find a deep self-definition.

For example, in the last years of the Qing Dynasty, many people clamored that the country could not live without an emperor.

Even many people, unable to bear the future of a country without an emperor, committed suicide.

Now it seems, in addition to being ridiculous, there is also ridiculousness.

Yuan Changwen himself often stands at the current height, laughing at those ancients, thinking that they are idiots, such a simple truth can't be figured out.

Look at yourself, many emotions are inexplicable, and you don't even feel that there is anything wrong.

If you go back to feudal society and ask everyone, "Why should there be an emperor", will it be regarded as a mental illness?

But at that time, no one could explain the problem, no one could argue why the emperor had to exist. It's just that everybody says so, and history has done it.

So now, there is something that cannot be explained, but if it is raised, it will be regarded as mentally ill, and even in exchange for being abused and spurned by everyone.

This question is a question worthy of Yuan Changwen's careful consideration.

Yuan Changwen can't find the problem by himself, and only by relying on the appearance of emotions can he find the self-definition that interacts with reality.

Why get married?

Why Success?

Why work hard?

Who can convince me with reason?!

Everything is just a self-woven definition, how can there be so many arguments, no one can convince others.

The method used is nothing more than fear of the other party.

More often than not, of course, it's the fear of oneself.

There are also some touches that are imperceptibly placed in my mind, and it is not easy to see them in ordinary times, and even if I see them, I don't care.

For example, the musical genius Mozart, such a brilliant figure, did not even have a tombstone name when he died. The one who buried him was just an unknown old man.

This makes many people who love music not even have the courage to read it.

and Michelangelo, the representative of the Renaissance, who has been fighting against villains almost all his life.

Those villains write articles to criticize him, like something out of nothing in the sixties and seventies. Others first blackmailed him and attacked him without giving him money. After the defeat, the villain immediately joined the ranks of the attack.

Michelangelo, who is already in his seventies, often says to himself: "I have just come into contact with the threshold of art, but because of these villains, I can't continue to create with peace of mind." ”

Michelangelo's death is also a sign of the decay of the Renaissance.

No one will feel abnormal when they read these articles. Some people will think deeply, some people will sigh, and some people will be sad.

But no one thinks there's anything wrong with these emotions.

And Yuan Changwen must forcefully pull himself out of these emotions, let it be sad and emotional, and then tell himself:

These are nothing more than self-woven definitions. ”