"I've done so much for you, how can you do that?"

This phrase is very familiar, and it has subtly influenced my thinking.

For example, it seems that there should be this default rule between the two of them, which is "I'm good to you, then you have to listen to me in certain things, and if you don't listen then I'm going to feel bad and start complaining about you." ”

This default rule is particularly serious between couples, but it is not unique to couples. Even your own pets will have this idea.

The owner will think, "I'm giving you food, you're going to live and you're bathing, and you're not listening to me?" and you're going to ignore me when you go home? And then the owner will start to be upset, and even think about keeping the pet out for a day and starving or something.

This mode can be applied to any scenario.

Between husband and wife, between parents and children, between teachers and students, between colleagues, almost everywhere there are people, this set of default rules can be applied.

It's funny, who established this set of rules?

I don't want to talk about emotional intelligence, harmony or anything like that. Why does this set of rules affect me, and why do I still have this distortion in my head?

The most fundamental reason is to believe in the memories in the head. It seems that I remember that I used to be nice to my pets, to my parents, to my wife and children, so now, how can you not listen to me?

Once the time is removed, these things look ridiculous.

Even if time is not removed, this default rule is nothing more than wishful thinking, a humble bargain based on fear.

What others do is because they can only do it, so it's nothing more than the virtual data about other people in my head, which conflicts with the content of the picture that I perceive. Why do you think that the virtual data in your head is correct?

The character wants to do this, but the picture he perceives is not like this, so the character has all kinds of emotions. But what is a character's idea? Why should the character's idea be satisfied, why should the character's wish be fulfilled?

Everything about the character is just a perceived picture element, thinking, body, wishes, etc., there is no difference between flowers and trees, and it will not be more noble just because the character always appears in the perceived picture.

"Man is the spirit of all things", I don't know what kind of mentality the person who said this said. Perhaps, it is the rapid development of human civilization, perhaps it is the gradual strengthening of human power to control nature, or perhaps it is the discovery that only human beings can summarize the laws and develop civilization instead of just satisfying survival.

None of this is true, what else is there to say?

The boss in the game is only set as a boss, so what's there to feel noble? Even this idea of feeling noble is designed, and it's just the content of the picture that you perceive.

I believe in the memory in my head, and because of the default rules, the behavior of the other party is already predicted in my head. And when there is a conflict between this prediction and the perceived content of the picture, if the conflict is large, then I will find that I still don't understand the other person.

If the conflict is generally large, I will think that it is the fault of the other side. If the conflict is small, then I don't care, and what will say something like "everyone thinks differently".

And the default rule goes down to the spinal cord, and I never doubt that. Like, if someone else helped me and I said thank you, the other person suddenly became angry. Then, I will directly suspect that the other person has a brain problem or is mentally ill or something.

I never wonder why, "I said thank you, and people had to smile back, or say something that doesn't matter." ”

It seems that if I say thank you, then others must also show kindness.

Awesome!

I was more and more surprised by this kind of careful planning, and when I thought about it, I realized that I always seemed to know only a small part of the tulle. Every time, I thought I had torn off the layer of tulle, but then I found that there seemed to be a layer of tulle there.

I'm still believing in the memories in my head, after all, that's how I've lived my life for so many years. However, who knows if the memory in the head is correct? Pretending to have the right memory in the head can make life easy and very down-to-earth.

But how do I prove that, how do I prove that the memories in my head are real?

I don't know, this feeling of suspension is a little uncomfortable. I don't know why, I don't know what I'm going to do, I don't know if the kill can be done, and I don't know why the content of the picture I perceive is the way it is.

It's a good feeling, although a little panicked and a little overwhelmed. But this is the state of no distortion, those characters who know their future goals in a down-to-earth manner are just believing in the distortion in their heads.

This down-to-earthness, this sense of purpose, this so-called moving towards the dream are nothing but a perfect deception twisted in the mind. How can it be down-to-earth? There are no characters, the world is not real, and thinking is just a set thing, can it still be down-to-earth?

On the one hand, he is down-to-earth, and on the other hand, he is afraid of the future, and he is up and down in the story he weaves. I really don't understand, is it down-to-earth or shaky?

How many of these distortions do I have in my head? How many predictions about the future do I have? I take those predictions as real and hold on to them, so I can have all sorts of discussions and so on.

Shit!

Those topics are discussed, whether it is a bus giving way, or respecting the old and loving the young. What's the point of nothing more than a distortion in the minds of one group of people against the distortions in the minds of another group of people?

There is no reason for either side, both sides take the distortion as real, and both sides are. That's it, it's so ridiculous, nothing should be necessary. The emotional response comes from the distortion of the mind and the interaction of awareness of the content of the picture.

There is nothing to rejoice in, and nothing to grieve.

Alas, this question still bothers me to this day, how many chapters ago was this question? God, am I being too stupid or too misleading?

I really don't understand, the end of the world doesn't seem to be afraid at all, and if the house is stolen, it will panic. How did this idea come about? Where else could this state of absurdity that cannot be changed exist except dreams?

Over the years, predicting has become instinctive. Every time you do something, you weigh the consequences. Ironically, where does the information come from for this trade-off? When does the limitation of the mind qualify as the final presiding judge of the prediction?

It's like, the distortion in my head thinks it's okay, it's just okay.

I do not know.

This state is the best state, so why reject "I don't know"? Why denigrate "I don't know"?