Many times, people fall into a "three-question" pattern: why should you choose this path, how should you take this road, and how long will this road take?

Most of the troubles and confusions are hidden in these "three questions", how much you see through, how clear the future is. However, there is no absolute clarity in the world, and even if you see it thoroughly, there will always be times when you can see flowers in the fog. Therefore, instead of "three questions", it is better to "move with one heart", that is, to act wholeheartedly.

Personally, I often fall into the "three questions" mode, why do I choose this way to shine, how can I shine in this way, how long does it take to shine after choosing this way? I expect too much of a bright future, and I ignore the indispensable and potentially boring, troubled, confused, painful and happy process.

So, I won't ask......

Back on February 20, 2017, I teamed up with a new aunt to boot up......

Actually, it's just a very ordinary collaboration, but for me, if it can trigger some thoughts or memories from the collaboration, it is unusual.

That aunt can be said to be a newcomer, or a veteran employee, because she worked here a few years ago and is very familiar with many old employees.

Well, I forgot where this aunt came from, but she looks very in line with the aesthetics of the Tang Dynasty, and she also has a powerful aura, and every time she speaks loudly, she is domineering! She and her husband are very compatible in figure, because when the two of them stand together, the feeling will tell you, well, it must be a couple.

Her husband is the director of the quality department, known as Lao Du. I haven't spoken much to Lao Du, so there isn't much description of him. Or I can't say that I don't have much interest in men, so I don't know much about them.

I know, you're more interested in women, aren't you?

Ouch yo?!

Especially the aunts, right!

Hold your head with your feet in your hands!

Auntie's surname is Zhang, so she should be called Aunt Zhang or Sister Zhang, but I call her Miss Zhang. Just because she humorously called me Mr. Liu. Therefore, return the way of humor to others.

Our beginning starts from the three philosophical questions of life. Well, who are you? Where are you from? Where are you going to go in the future?

Regarding "Who are you?" has already been answered, she is Miss Zhang, and I am Mr. Liu.

Then, the answer to the question "Where did you come from?" crosses the boundaries of geography and goes back to the source of life.

Where did I come from? When did I come from? Well, I came from a flooding river in the winter of 1992. And I was alive because my great aunt and uncle found me by hearing my cries in the flooding river and thus nurtured me. That's why I'm so mysterious. Hehehe......

Where did she come from? I didn't ask, I didn't have to ask. However, she talked about her son, who was a year or two younger than me. Her son, like other children, asks his parents a philosophical life question: "Mom, how did I get here?"

The answer she gave was so natural and true: "You were born by me." ”

And then there was no then, and it seems that her son did not have a spirit of inquiry. You know, most children with a strong sense of curiosity will ask innocently. For example, when the child learns that he was born by his mother, he will continue to ask, "Mom, how did you give birth to me?" and even "Why am I in my mother's womb?" The child's curiosity is so big that only you don't want to say, and there is nothing they don't want to know.

Therefore, in order to skip this tedious process that is a bit embarrassing or a little difficult to express, many parents will generally plant a white lie. Well, it's like my uncle and aunt planted a white lie in my heart when I was a child that I would like to believe - one day it rained heavily and the river flooded, and I was pushed by the river.

Although it's a bit like the exaggeration of the plot of the TV series, looking back at these white lies when I grow up feels a humorous warmth and happiness.

Miss Zhang's choice to let her son know naturally what he wants to know is also a method that is conducive to the child's cultivation of a correct foundation of three views.

She also talked about her son's love, and I only had one question about it: "Do you have any requirements for the wife your son will find in the future? ”

She replied very seriously: "I don't have any requirements for this, as long as my son likes it, after all, that is the one who lives with him, not with me, as long as the two of them live happily." I also have my own life, so I don't have any requirements for my future daughter-in-law......"

Her answer made me think she was very special, after all, most male mothers will have some requirements for their daughters-in-law, such as where they want to be, what kind of work they want to do, and what kind of people they want to have in the family.

Finally, the answer to the question "Where are you going?" is a combination of ideals and reality.

She said that she would work here for a while, and if she could accept the salary limit and the environment, she would continue to work. As for me, I don't know, at least I can't live without this job for the time being, and I can't think about doing anything else. However, when I had a new direction to pursue my dreams, I thought, I will leave.

After all, Miss Zhang has worked here, so she naturally has more experience in this job than me, and belongs to my seniors. In terms of product packaging and product quality assurance, I need to learn from Ms. Zhang.

However, when it's time to eat, it is always necessary to leave one to pick up and the other to eat first. Naturally, when two people take turns to eat, which is an hour later (each person has half an hour to eat), the person in charge of packing will be faced with the challenge of packing a large table of products that need to be packed quickly.

Well, and Miss Zhang, who was in charge of packing, was too busy and seemed a little impatient. Although I really want to help her, I need to cut small parts to get the product on the machine, so I really can't spare time to help her.

In order to make our cooperation a little more natural, I later suggested that she didn't need to help me cut small parts when she picked me up at dinner time in the future, and just took the product and checked it and packed it. She felt much more relaxed about it. Because, the busy focus returned to me, and after eating, I was faced with a large number of small parts that needed to be cut. In other words, I have to turn on the machine and pick up the product and the new small parts, and I have to take a second or two to cut through a large pile of small parts piled up on the table. Whew, this has the advantage of not dozing off.

Because of this suggestion, Miss Zhang felt that I was a very good boy. That's right, I'm a pretty good boy.

She saw that I was too busy, and she would cut a little for me. I feel that this kind of cooperation is the harmony that I like.

It's time to go to the hospital for a third vaccination, and I need to take time off. has said that the previous reasons for taking leave need to be foreshadowed. This time, I was very well prepared.

I brought the doctor's diagnosis report and the time record of the injection with me, in case the cold face boss thought I was lying to him.

The reason for the leave on the leave slip is still to go to the hospital for injections, and I still like to take a day off for a day, although it only takes half a day for injections to be enough, but I want to rest. It was not easy to take a leave of absence during the busy rush at the time, but I believe I could!

When the cold noodle boss came to our machine to look at the products, I handed the leave slip to the cold noodle boss with a natural expression and posture as much as possible.

He took it a little puzzled, and immediately blurted out: "What?!

As I explained, I took out the doctor's diagnosis report from my trouser pocket and the record of the injection time and handed it to him.

After reading it, he still said lightly that he couldn't.

I see the possibility, though. Because his tone is not very firm, after all, I am on sick leave, it is normal to be bitten by a dog to get vaccinated, if this is not agreed, if it causes other people's physical discomfort, he will be in trouble.

So, I'm going to do it again!

I smiled and called him, "Dear boss!!"

Miss Zhang, who was beside her, couldn't help laughing: "Ouch, dear boss!"

The cold-faced boss instantly changed his expression of wanting to laugh but couldn't help but not laugh, and finally, he approved my leave.

Therefore, the best reason to take a leave of absence is to be so real that he can't resist it, plus a little sincerity.

Usually working with aunties, I like to get to know their marriages because it feels a little awkward to have nothing to say. So, you need to find a topic to talk about. Personally, I feel that the best place to start chatting with aunties is to talk about their families, such as their children and husbands.

So, when I talked to Miss Zhang as if I didn't have anything to talk about, I talked to her about her family's Lao Du.

What kind of existence is marriage for her?

She smiled, her eyes as if full of light, quietly recalling the beauty of her youth, and describing to me the beginning of her and Lao Du. At that moment, she seemed to have changed back to her when she was young, and her whole person seemed to have regained her youth. Because when a person recalls the good memories of his youth, he becomes young again.

Lao Du has a very good temper and belongs to the kind of person who doesn't look like angry when he gets angry, while Miss Zhang is a short-tempered and impatient person. However, they have different personalities and have been together for half their lives. Perhaps, this is the fate of fate.

Lao Du was a very ordinary young man when he was young, and his figure was on the thin side. As for Miss Zhang when she was young, she was a beautiful girl with a good figure.

Miss Zhang said that it was Lao Du who chased her back then. In fact, there were many handsome boys who liked her and chased her at that time, but she accepted the pursuit of the ordinary-looking Lao Du. Because, Lao Du is very honest, kind, and reliable in her mind. Well, sure enough, quality prevails over hormones.

Miss Zhang actually understands her temper very well, and she also feels that only Lao Du can stand such a bullish temper. Therefore, she really loves Lao Du, and she still loses her temper with Lao Du when she wants to.

The value of marriage lies in the fact that both parties can love their true partners with their true selves.

And Lao Du generally doesn't lose his temper with Miss Zhang for two reasons. One is that he has a natural personality and has no temper. The other is that even if he really loses his temper with Miss Zhang, he can't afford it, in addition to love, there is also the truth - "Pigs can't eat tigers".

After the two got married, they had a happy and complete image of their bodies, and they were far from thin. After that, I had a son. When her son began to be sensible, she asked Lao Du: "Dad, why did you fall in love with my huge mother back then?" Lao Du smiled: "Your mother was not like this back then, your mother was beautiful and in good shape at that time!"

Miss Zhang's memories are full of happiness......

When Lao Du walked to our machine to check the quality of the products, Miss Zhang said to him happily: "Lao Du, Lao Du, hehe, I talked to Mr. Liu about our youth and said how you chased me." ”

Lao Du took the frame of his glasses and replied calmly: "What is there to say then?"

In fact, Lao Du also loves face in front of young people. However, Miss Zhang likes to tear face, so she will follow her.

Although the marriage with crystallization has entered a dull year, the occasional small fortune can ripple with romantic memories.

There are willfulness and tolerance in marriage, and there are many emotions that are uncontrollable, but all disharmony can be moderately neutralized like liquids of different densities slowly with their respective components. And the premise of neutralization is that there is love between the two parties in the marriage.

Once, because of an unsuccessful change of rental house, Miss Zhang counted Lao Du in front of me in her hometown dialect while packing. After all, she had already reminded Lao Du to book with the landlord, but because of Lao Du's procrastination habits, the favored rental house was rented by others.

Although Lao Du had an expression of "I know I was wrong, forgive me, wife!", Miss Zhang completely ignored my existence as an outsider like a tiger roaring, and tore his dignity as a man to pieces, with no room for bargaining.

At that moment, I was very sympathetic to Lao Du's situation, after all, men love face. It's okay to be roared like this at home, but it must be very uncomfortable to be roared like this in front of outsiders, but you have to endure it helplessly.

Auntie has always taught me that the husband and wife of the neighbor in a certain vegetable field used to get along, and a married woman should try not to trample on her husband's face outside, because her husband's face is gone, and her own face is gone. Therefore, even if you want to count the husband's faults, you should do it privately at home and do not let the children know. This not only preserves the dignity that her husband should have as a man, but also fulfills her responsibility as a wife to assist her husband to follow the right path and has respect for her husband, which also contains love.

Therefore, I think it would be more appropriate for Miss Zhang to choose to educate Lao Du after returning home from work.

Of course, every couple has their own way of getting along. Although Miss Zhang scolded Lao Du so fiercely, when she found a new rental room later, Miss Zhang's anger subsided, and they would still get along happily as before. So, in between, there must be one who can endure it, and the support that can endure the uncomfortable feeling is love.

After marriage, although there is less turbulent passion, the calm and powerful love is soaked into the heart.

Miss Zhang once asked me a question: "Did you have that with your girlfriend?"

I was stunned, this aunt is so direct! I ...... Forehead......

I don't know how to answer this intimate Smecta question, after all, I'm very shy...... Ahaha......

Seeing that I squirmed and didn't answer much, Miss Zhang felt that I shouldn't have been with Xiaoshi yet, so she told me a shocking truth: "Boys should take the initiative, when girls experience the first time, you don't need to take the initiative the second time." ”

I looked a little confused: "Huh?"

She smiled: "Because when a girl experiences the pleasure of the first time, she understands." So, she will take the initiative to find you in the future......"

I was dumbfounded as I filtered through what she said in my mind, and it was so clear and sharp!

This world is wonderful!

There is still a great distance between me and my aunt, smiling, worshipping......