Han Ting called her ex-husband and made an appointment for a showdown in the evening - her ex-husband has returned to the ministry to resume work, although he is still in a "reserve" state, but at least he has his own desk and can receive calls during working hours.

Gu Biao said very diligently: "I'll drive you there in a while, Mina and I can find another place next to it, there is something to take care of, if it's okay, we won't eavesdrop on your specific conversation." ”

Gu Biao said very sincerely, he had absolutely no evil thoughts towards Han Ting, he purely felt that the other party was a respectable teacher, and he always wanted to repay her, but last time she didn't accept gifts.

Han Ting did not refuse.

She saw that it was still a little early before the appointment, so she sat down and drank some hot water to sober up, and talked to Ishminaya for a while.

"I went to Iraq this time, and I wasn't taken advantage of, right?" Han Ting asked with concern.

"No, Mr. Han, Senior Gu is very attentive to me. Although I was shot later, I was a little relieved, and I lay there recuperating from my injuries, not afraid of being looked at. Isminaya's tone was a little inexplicably complicated.

Han Ting sighed bitterly: "It's good if you don't have it, you have to remember, especially girls." No matter how heavy the task of foreign affairs is, we must not let ourselves fall into ambiguity. In fact, when you grow up, you will understand that personal sacrifice or not has no effect on whether the task is completed or not.

If the other party refuses to agree to your conditions, it is the other party's national policy, and even if you sacrifice yourself, it is useless. Today you have also heard the story of my youth, and this is the lesson. Everything I do today is also retribution, fate. So I don't want any girls in the two classes I have brought to repeat my mistakes. ”

After Han Ting and Ishminaya taught some of the experiences of the people who came over, seeing that the time was almost up, Gu Biao drove her to the café where the showdown would be better.

Gu Biao and Isminaya found a table in the other corner of the hall after parking the car, ordered some drinks and desserts and waited.

……

Within 15 minutes of Han Ting sitting down, a man and a woman came in, the woman looked about twenty-seven or eighteen years old, and she was indeed younger than Han Ting, but her appearance was not as beautiful as Han Ting, and she had no foreign spirit.

"Ma Jianqiang, sit down. Don't worry, I won't embarrass you. Han Ting said very magnanimously.

Ma Jianqiang sat down with his neck crossed, never daring to look at Han Ting, nor taking the initiative to talk, but his facial expression was very hard.

Han Ting could only continue to sing a one-man show: "You are friends in trouble, but in the eyes of outsiders, I once abandoned you, so I have nothing to say."

Today, I came here to remind you to confirm: Xiao He, before you made your mistake, you were not from the capital, and you didn't work in the capital, right? Now that you're back, are you going to separate from your husband in two places, or do you want to stay in the capital with him? If you stay in the capital, you will have no establishment, no job, and you can only rely on Jianqiang's salary to support you......

"My 100 yuan salary is enough to support her! Xiao He is not a woman who is greedy for vanity!" Ma Jianqiang finally retorted.

These words were a little hurtful, and Han Ting's face turned white all of a sudden:

"Then I am the 'greedy and vain woman'? Ma Jianqiang, how many times have I handed over the materials for you in the past few years? When I was in the capital to appeal for you with a fake divorce, this was discussed by both parties, not my own opinion. But now you think I am greedy for glory and riches......"

Ma Jianqiang sneered: "I see that you look very good, and you still have the smell of foreign wine." Is that how you helped me, helping me while you spent all your time drinking. ”

Han Ting laughed angrily, she didn't want to say more to the man, but finally tried to confirm Xiao He's position:

"Xiao He, you are a first marriage, I respect you, and I don't want to break up. I just hope you think through the difficulties ahead. If you want to go back to the local area, I can introduce you to a better job or even help you start a better life.

Of course, if you feel that the relationship is very sacred, and you are not with the surname Ma because you want to rely on him in the most difficult time, and you are willing to continue to live on his salary of more than 100 yuan, then when I don't say it, I will respect you instead. ”

Xiao He had never seen the big world, and was suppressed by Han Ting's aura, and he didn't know how to speak.

Ma Jianqiang stabbed the last time: "Xiao He followed me as a virgin, I will take care of her for the rest of my life!

Han Ting was stunned: "Back then, you said you didn't care?"

Ma Jianqiang was a little weak-hearted: "I really don't care, what I care about is character! If I didn't hurt any virgin in my life, I could live with you." But since Xiao He gave me everything, of course I am still responsible for her after weighing the two sides!"

Han Ting's face was like ashes, and she didn't want to say anything.

"Okay...... I'm a vain woman, who told me not to plant trees with you? I thought you really wanted to come back, and you weren't willing to stay in the Great Northwest for the rest of your life......"

Ma Jianqiang obviously didn't want to put himself in the weak aura of "being helped by a woman", and retorted strongly: "Don't say it as if it's all for my good." What kind of good life have you had in the past few years? Don't think I don't know, drinking and socializing, circling among men, I heard from my colleagues that you even had a good time at the Christmas Eve dance with a group of school boys in your arms!"

"You...... The surname is Ma, I have already let go, what do you mean by this? You can do without me, but you can't insult me!" Han Ting trembled with anger, threw down two bills to pay, and rushed out of the café directly.

……

Gu Biao and Ishminaya hurriedly drove to follow, picked up Han Ting halfway, and sent her back to the dormitory.

When she was in the car, Ishminaya also quietly asked Han Ting about the content of the conversation - it was not that she was gossiping, but that she was afraid that the teacher would not be able to think about it again. Only when you ask clearly, can you prescribe the right medicine and enlighten you.

While driving, Gu Biao also glanced at a few ears, and he roughly understood.

Back in the dormitory, Han Ting cried silently.

Gu Biao patted her on the shoulder: "Teacher Han, don't be like this, I know, the surname Ma doesn't really doubt you, he just has low self-esteem." In psychology, this is called 'suggesting the subconscious mind as one's destiny'. ”

"Low self-esteem?" Han Ting's tears were still pouring out, but her heart seemed to have found a breakthrough and felt better.

In his previous life, Gu Biao had also listened to the psychology class of Mr. Wu of Peking University on the "Get" APP, so he definitely had more theoretical experience in this area than people in this era.

He analyzed: "It's very simple - when you were in school, you must have performed better than him? After working, did you have a higher position than him, and your salary was more than his?"

"How do you know?" Han Ting suddenly became surprised.

"However, you did not dictate to him because of this, but obeyed him because you had been ...... by foreigners In your words, defiled, so you feel indebted to him?"

“…… That's true. Han Ting recalled for a long time, and then collapsed backwards.

Gu Biao slowly analyzed: "There is a famous case in psychology, a person's first girlfriend is very beautiful, all conditions are good, and I really want to marry him." But that man just thought, 'Such a good girl, what the hell is trying to do with me, it must be just playing, not sincere, and it won't last long'.

In the end, when I went on a blind date, I found an ugly wife to get married, and then I kept my beautiful first girlfriend in a lover relationship. When the counselor asked him, he just said, 'This is fate.'" ”

Speaking of this, Han Ting was already fascinated, and she forgot her sadness, and asked very humbly: "Yes, why is there such a stupid man? That woman is so stupid." ”

Gu Wei laughed: "Then the man is not stupid! The reason why you feel stupid is nothing more than based on the premise that 'human beings must find a better partner to marry'.

But in fact, a marriage that truly 'maximizes benefits' will not last long. I can even predict that in the future, if technology is developed and information retrieval capabilities are developed, men and women can be matched with the other half of the 'conditions that are most suitable for themselves', and they will marry on a blind date like that, and the final result will be a nightmare for society! The divorce rate will skyrocket!"

"Why?" asked Han Ting eagerly.

"Because in addition to the right marriage, in fact, it is more important to be 'slightly less compatible', so that one party in the marriage will have a little inferiority, and at the same time be grateful to the party with good conditions, and the two parties will accommodate and gradually run in if they have differences in personality.

If the two are completely made in the same match, even if they are golden boys and girls, but as long as 'no one feels that they owe anyone', then why should they accommodate each other and change themselves for each other? It must be a little bit of a personality difference, and it will blow up directly.

In the psychology case I mentioned, the reason why the man wants to marry an ugly wife and continue to maintain his beautiful first love as a lover is that he wants to imply his superiority in the marriage, so that he can become the one who is accommodated by the other party, and he doesn't want to be pressured.

And Ma Jianqiang is obviously the same for you: he was inferior to you back then, so he could still use 'your bad character' to imply himself, so as not to make him inferior.

If he comes back and finds that you saved him, and you have not felt sorry for him in the past four years, and at the same time your position has been promoted to a higher level, how much more aggrieved will he have to raise his head? If he is the same as the one surnamed He, the situation will be completely different, he does not owe anything to the other party, and even brought her from a small city to the capital and raised her......

Even dare I say that after Ma Jianqiang's life stabilizes, if you are willing to compromise and be his lover for the rest of your life, then he will definitely accept all the orders. And Miss He will also feel that she is climbing high, and you have an old relationship with him, so she swallows her anger and accepts this result. ”

Han Ting's pupils widened violently: "He wants to be beautiful! Since he doesn't want the old lady anymore, he still expects the old lady not to post the name upside down? I just ...... It is...... I won't see him again anyway!"

At this moment, Han Ting completely figured it out: although she rescued the body surnamed Ma, the two were no longer in the same social class.

Especially men's self-esteem, sometimes very fragile, when encountering positions, salaries, and status far higher than their ex-wives, of course, they can only imply that their ex-wives have changed their minds, and then completely erase them.

What else is there to be nostalgic for this kind of negative person!

Although this is a bit hurtful to women's rights, from the perspective of social reality, it is true that women are more able to accept husbands or lovers who are better than themselves in all aspects, and then use "accommodation and inferiority" in exchange for the balance in this.

Men would rather pay the practical conditions of real money, silver and handsomeness to buy dignity and make the other party accommodate themselves.

If Ma Jianqiang is really for his own self-esteem, will he slander me in the unit in the future? If he and I are still working in the ministry, he is only a section-level ......" Han Ting is worthy of being a high-achieving student, and after being ignited by Gu Biao's theory, she will soon be able to draw inferences.

The wise man saw that Han Ting could already follow the train of thought and make up for the other party's mistake of remarrying on her, and maybe she would arrange her greedy vain courtesans in the past four years......

"Xiao Gu, you said, if I'm a person like me, I really want to be out of sight and leave the ministry in the future. Where can I go to do things, and where should I go to do things?" Han Ting completely believed in Gu Biao's vision, and even consulted about this kind of future.

"It should ...... It's not so serious, right? Even if there are rumors, it should be a change of career surnamed Ma!" Gu Biao was a little upset about Han Ting.

"Men value face much more than women. I don't care about this kind of person, out of sight is pure - anyway, I've lived alone all my life, and I don't want children, why should I expect to be promoted? Isn't it good to find a free job and enjoy life?"

"What about you...... If you plan to resign from public office or transfer to another post, when will it be?" Gu Biao was not easy to persuade, so he could only ask in passing.

"At the latest, let's take you to graduate this class. If he pushes me too hard, it's possible to leave early and overtake early. ”

Gu Biao secretly kept the time in his heart, wondering if he could arrange a way out for Teacher Han.