There is such a saying.

How can the phenomenon of blaming the victim be explained in social psychology?

The answer is the fair world fallacy.

When a child is bullied and bullied in school, many parents' first reaction is not to protect their child, but to question him:

[Why are all the other kids doing well, but you're the only one being bullied?] ]

When a QJ case happens, many people do not blame the QJ offender, but blame the victim:

[You must have been dressed too revealingly and behaved inappropriately to be targeted by QJ.] ]

[I'm embarrassed to come out and cry, phew, dead bitch!]

This kind of unreasonable accusation is actually quite common.

So what's at work that keeps people falling into the trap of blaming the victim?

Psychologists have come up with the [Fair World Fallacy] to explain this phenomenon.

People tend to think that the world is just, and what everyone does will bring him a corresponding result, that is, as the saying goes, good is rewarded with good, and evil is rewarded with evil.

When a person achieves something, he must have done something right, and when a person suffers misfortune, the victim must have his own faults.

And then, there is:

Justice may be late, but it will never be absent.

Or:

There is reincarnation in the way of heaven, and feng shui takes turns.

Rhetoric like that.

Merely......

If justice is always late, what is the difference between it and absence?

Heavenly reincarnation, feng shui takes turns.

Attribute everything to the heavens, luck and feng shui.

So is it too blind to the real people's promotion efforts?

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In short, Zhang Yaqi is a sad figure in the fallacy of a fair world.

Because she's been through it almost all over again.

The QJ prisoner was rumored by her former best friend that she was a man, so after the prisoner was shot, Zhang Jiaqi was given the sad nickname of Widow Zhang by the school.

Parents' side.

At first, in order to send my daughter back to school, all the good things were said.

But the reason why Zhang Jiaqi returned to school was not because of the comfort of her parents.

But as time went on, she could already see the impatience and disgust in the eyes of her parents.

I'm afraid that my parents have begun to feel hypocritical more than they cared about themselves at the beginning.

Or maybe you even feel like you're pretending.

Because parents always say this:

"Didn't you just meet a QJ criminal? As for it? Now that Lao Ji is in the hospital, his academic performance has dropped, how can he get it?"

Zhang Jiaqi was scared, and she began to fear her parents.

She even sometimes thinks to herself that if only she had the money to travel around, she will never return home.

But she has nowhere to go, she can't even run away from home, she has no income.

So he thought, it would be nice to have a reliable boy to elope with him.

She is not afraid of hardship and just wants to escape from her current life.

But, after all, it's just a girl's naïve thinking.

She has no money, no place to go, and she is destined to be unable to leave her residence.

Anyway, the eyes of her parents scared him, so she plucked up the courage to go to school.

However, Widow Zhang's nickname was a fatal blow to her.

The fear in her heart increased again, and those who liked to joke about it, as well as the disgust and disdain that her former best friend now cast, made her panic.

So, she changed the makeup she usually likes to dress up.

In fact, she was not in the mood to dress up anymore, just because she wanted to reintegrate into the class.

Because she originally had a good foundation, she was also a beautiful girl after makeup.

No, isn't there a saying that is good?

It's a world of faces!

It's just that no matter how good-looking the face is, if it encounters a reputation problem, it will only be thought of as a pornographic magazine by people with bad taste.

was dressed up well, but I heard all kinds of foul language.

From the moment he stepped into the school, those strange eyes came, and Zhang Jiaqi knew that his school life was over.

I didn't want to dress up, but I did unnecessary work this time, so let's follow my heart.

The hair is no longer tied in a variety of beautiful ponytails, but is disheveled, in short, it must cover most of the face.

Eyes without degrees are also brought, and clothes are specially worn with dirt.

In short, how to look unfeminine.

In this way, although I was laughed at by my classmates for a long time.

But that's all, people talk about it, hiding from themselves like a plague.

After despair, Zhang Jiaqi suddenly laughed.

I guess I was involved in school violence, but it was just verbal violence, but no one hit me.

Perhaps this is the greatest luck.

It's just that some people are very annoying, and they are always playing pranks on all kinds of trivial things.

The stools were glued, the homework books were torn, and the garbage was dumped on his desk...... And so on and so forth!

But what can be done?

I went home and told my parents, but my parents scolded me.

Everyone is fine, why do you do anything.

In short, I didn't mention anything about my mental illness and three months of treatment in the hospital.

It's as if I've never met that QJ criminal.

So all what has happened to me so far, I can't blame others but myself.

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I didn't go to school for three months, so my academic performance was destined to plummet.

When the parents saw this, they scolded even more.

It seems that in their opinion, they are to blame for all this.

Grades seem to be your only value, and nothing else matters.

Countless times, Zhang Jiaqi wanted to cut off relations with her parents and run away from home.

Of course, it's just a thought, and you can't implement it.

She knows very well the reason why people are under the eaves and have to bow their heads.

So she wanted to secretly take a part-time job to earn some money to buy tickets and living expenses.

When the time is ripe, I will run away from home to work in other places, leaving the right and wrong places of school and home.

Originally, her idea was to lie to the teacher and ask for leave, and then use the time off to work, and the plan was even made.

Unexpectedly, today's teacher told her that her grades were so bad that she had to fall into class five.

This is normal, Class 5 is a camp for poor students.

Although she was a little stunned, Zhang Jiaqi was happy to see it happen if she could change classes.

No matter how bad it is, it's better than the original class of others, those who like to bully themselves behind their backs and engage in small action pranks, isn't it?

No, the people in the class just talked softly, not throwing chalk heads or boosing.

That's a good situation.

Moreover, the teenager who looked out the window in the last row in a daze, Zhang Jiaqi also knew him.

I heard that there is also the nickname of dumb, which is much better than my own widow Zhang.

Zhang Jiaqi remembered that the young man was called Eleven.

It's my elementary school classmate, and I heard that she once confessed to her class, but she seemed to be rejected, which is really pitiful.

So, for Eleven, who was also unwelcome, just met again, Zhang Jiaqi had a sense of intimacy.