Speaking of summer, I just did it, and from that evening, I started the writing of the article "Father's Advice" in a bit of a marathon, and it took more than a year until this article was finalized.

He writes:

Advice from my fathers

Inscription: This article is written in the name of "admonishing" the twenty-third Sun Xiayu, but the meaning of the text is broader. The article closely follows the theme of "advice", combined with the author's life experience in the past 50 years, and talks about success or failure straightforwardly and calmly, and talks about the sincerity of the instructions. From the text, we can see the author's pioneering and innovative, indomitable perseverance, diligent thinking, philosophical personality and serious and loyal way of life. At the same time, the author's words of "condensing the true interest and turning stones into gold articles" also reveal the tenderness of the iron man from time to time. It is not difficult to imagine that the author's resolute face may reveal anxiety about posterity from time to time. I believe that this article will be beneficial for future generations to choose the right path in life.

Summer went on to write:

Xia Yuwu'er - dear son!

Do you know: In ancient China, when a woman grew to the age of 15, she was called a hairpin and a hairpin ceremony, and a man was called a weak crown when she was 20 years old, and a crown ceremony was held. Both of these rituals signify that the child has grown up. In the blink of an eye, you have grown from a naughty and cute little baby who only said to your aunt on the phone when you were just babbling, "I'm very good", to a seven-foot strange man. After experiencing the golden years of your father's and mother's care for you in your early childhood and the ardent expectation of your son Jackie Chan when you were a teenager, it is your turn to think about how to integrate into society and take a good path in life. Of course, it is still your father's responsibility to inspire you and enlighten you so that you can do better in the process of entering society. Accordingly, when you enter the threshold of society, I, as your father, have the following solemn exhortations:

First, we must study hard, only through learning to understand and abide by the laws and social rules of the country, and use knowledge to promote ourselves to improve our ability to survive and compete, and use wisdom to choose a life path that suits us.

Society is always moving forward, not only in science and technology, but also in humanities, regulations, institutions, culture and democracy. Someone philosophically pointed out that everything in the world is changing, and the only constant thing is "change". Now, if we use ten, five, or even one year as an interval to analyze the global scientific and technological development, people will have a deep understanding of the artistic conception of "a thousand miles in a day". Human beings, as a part of the natural society, will fall behind and be at a loss if they do not learn, and will be incompatible with society. Therefore, the first is to understand the laws and social rules through study, which is to solve the problem of red light and green light - that is, whether a certain thing can be done and whether it can be done. The second is to do what can be done, and not to do what cannot be done, that is, to abide by the law. The Monkey King in "Journey to the West" written by Wu Chengen in the Ming Dynasty is an unruly capable man, and his kung fu is refined to the top to catch the moon in nine days, and to catch turtles in the five oceans. However, when he saw that the Queen Mother's fairy peach was delicious, and heard that he could live forever after eating it, he secretly ate it until he was half dead, and then he went to the Sea Dragon King to toss it once, and then pulled out the Zhenhai God Needle and clamped it on his ear as his own weapon. Because of these problems, he was punished by his master Tang Sanzang. Of course, Sun Wukong is also constantly learning and improving. Anonymous, who was also in the Ming Dynasty, wrote a "Continuation of Journey to the West", saying that Sun Wukong changed all his problems on the way back to China, only doing good things and not doing bad things, which is very likable. Third, we must bear in mind that those who violate the laws of nature and the rules of the social game are bound to endure hardships, and no one can be an exception. Fourth, it is necessary to realize that study is an effective means to solve core problems such as eating, dressing, and supporting one's family, and realizing the strength and prosperity of the country. This is evident in the information industrial revolution that the United States initiated in the 70s of the 20 th century, which led to a strong national strength.

Learning is not only about entering school, but also about learning skills, increasing social knowledge and dealing skills. As the saying goes, "a man can carry everything with him", it vividly speaks of the benefits of extensive knowledge. In the spring of 1975, I was 18 years old and became a village cadre. One day, I was with some old farmers to inspect the field management of the whole village. When I arrived at the field of a production team, the captain of the team asked me, "Can you tell how many days the seeds of this field have been in the field?" In the evening, Uncle Zhaoxian, who was nearly sixty years old at the time, came to my room and said to me: "Tiangu, I have been plowing the field for more than 40 years, and I can't tell how many days the seedlings have fallen in the field, how can you see it?" I smiled shyly and did not answer, probably my face was a little red. Now, can you analyze what I thought about my uncle at that time?

Learning – Broadening one's horizons and increasing wisdom through learning can also help oneself choose the right path in life.

Throughout the ages, people have survived in their own careers. Some people are showy, some are exposed, some like leaders, some like to be led, some people like mental work, some people like to do hard work, some people like to do business, and some people like to run businesses. "There are seventy-two lines in society, and it is difficult to do it, and it is the champion of the line. "There are no bad industries, only industries that are not suitable for you. The key to success in life is to combine your own knowledge accumulation and choose a path that suits your survival and development. Recently, there is a sobering news: according to foreign news reports, more than 40 mayors in Chinese mainland committed suicide in 2004. I can't verify the truth of the news, but the country is so big, and I also responded: "The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds." The specific reasons for this vary widely, and the so-called "unhappy families have their own misfortunes," and the common reasons that cannot be denied are all because they are tempted by the interests of their careers to enter the wrong profession and take the wrong path. In "Xu Jiujing's Promotion to Official", Mr. Xu faced the thorny career and sang helplessly: "Officials, officials, officials, officials are in charge of officials, they are managed by officials, I advise the world not to be officials!"

If you are not mayors, you may be good sons and grandsons of your ancestors, good fathers of your sons, good workers, good engineers, and good scientists of your fatherland!

If they can see through the temptation of career interests and insist on developing in an industry that suits them, they may be able to glorify their ancestors and benefit their children and grandchildren! And now, why should they go to see their ancestors underground?

Some people may say, I don't want to be an official, I don't want to be a scientist, I love Dong Yong and the Seven Fairies' kind of ordinary life of "you plough the field and I will weave, I will carry water and you will water the garden", and learning is not so important. This is not right, if they were in modern times, Dong Yong might sing in the tune of Huangmei Opera:

The heavenly Chang'e can gather, the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl are husband and wife;

No longer suffering from that separation, Xiao Bei's affection is more freehand.

If you stay in China and I will go to the United States, you can contact me on the Internet;

Knowledgeable and global, wisdom in exchange for dollars.

During the Northern Expedition, there was a battalion commander in our hometown who could not read a single liter of words, and it was said that he was very brave in battle, but his brave deeds are no longer able to be investigated, and there is only one story left in the world: Once, when he led the troops to charge, he held a shell gun in his right hand and shouted: "Brothers, rush! I will come when I pee!" His brothers heard the roar of the battalion commander and killed them with their lives. In this way, he has repeatedly performed miraculous feats. When the Northern Expedition won the battle and was rewarded for meritorious deeds, his clerk bullied him for not knowing how to read, and wrote himself on the battle merit report as the organizer of the heroic command and victory, but the battalion commander peed at the critical moment and asked him to press his fingerprint to report. Later, this document became a senior official of the Kuomintang, and until the founding of the Republic, he was still selected as a member of the Guangdong Provincial Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference (CPPCC) as a meritorious member of the Northern Expedition. At the beginning of the founding of the People's Republic of China, the battalion commander was still the battalion commander, and he was shot dead because he met the condition of "the army company commander and above is a historical counter-revolutionary" in the "army, government, police, and constitution of the old regime" stipulated in the policy.

Coincidentally. In the early days of the founding of the Republic, it is said that there was a county magistrate who was not very literate, and when he encountered a court report on the execution of a prisoner, he always liked to write his name after the words "agree to be shot".

There is an even more interesting story:

Our hometown was liberated by the Fourth Field Army, a well-known unit of the People's Liberation Army. This unit fought from the three northeastern provinces to the southern Xinjiang of the motherland, and their military exploits are truly commendable. What is even more coincidental is that the "Tashan Heroic Regiment" that fought a blocking battle when the People's Liberation Army attacked Jinzhou became the vanguard of the Kuomintang Hu Lian Corps entrenched in Guangdong this time, and started a pursuit war. The Art of War says: "Know yourself and know your enemy, and you will not be defeated in a hundred battles", and Hu Lian, who was once a famous anti-Japanese general, was also a master in the battle, knowing that he could not do anything, he soon fled in the direction of Taiwan. Therefore, the "four wilds" did not exert great effort and liberated the entire territory of Guangdong in one go.

After the liberation of Guangdong, these troops were stationed in Guangdong. Among them, stationed in our hometown was a branch of the "Tashan Heroic Regiment" that was intimidating to the enemy, and the soldier who served as a heavy machine gunner in the Tashan Resistance Battle became the deputy director of the Military Management Committee (and later became the deputy county magistrate) in a county, and one of his comrades-in-arms, who took turns carrying machine guns with him during the march, presided over the work of clearing bandits and countering hegemony in a township under his leadership. This comrade-in-arms had a firm position, a high political consciousness, and was very brave in battle, but he was slightly disgusted by the lack of education because his family was poor at that time.

At the time of liberation, there was a lot of waste waiting to be rebuilt, and the legal system was not as perfect as it is now. At that time, in order to help mobilize the masses, some landlords and bullies who were more angry with the people could be shot as long as they were studied by the military management committee at a certain level, and there was no need to go through a court verdict at any level. With regard to this period of history, some educated leaders later said in an appreciative tone: This is "overkill," and people usually call it "cutting through the mess with a quick knife." At that time, every time a mass meeting was held, more than a dozen bad people would be pulled out and lined up. Among them, there are those who want to be shot, and there are those who do not shoot and only use the means of knocking on the mountain and shaking the tiger to deter him. As for who was shot and who was left behind, only a very small number of people presiding over the conference knew it. On that day, ten people were to be shot, and this comrade-in-arms had asked the village clerk the night before to teach him to read out the names on the list. After a night of studying, by the next morning, he could read all the names on the list.

At about 9 o'clock in the morning, the township's anti-bandit and anti-hegemony rally was held on the lawn by the river as scheduled.

I saw this northern man, looking at the nearly 10,000 people, and after saying a few opening remarks in a hurry, he took out a piece of paper from his pocket and began to read the list of bad guys to be suppressed. Every time he called his name, he shouted loudly: "Comrade militia, execute it immediately!"

When he read the eleventh name of not shooting, he raised his head, glanced at the venue with the residual power of his eyes, and said loudly without reading the script: "Comrade militia, execute it immediately!"

I saw a few militiamen dragging this landlord, who was supposed to die, and threw him on the beach. Then, only to hear the sound of "pop!", "pop!", "pop!", "pop!", and a wisp of grievances rolled into several circles and spiraled up to the western sky.

At this time, I suddenly saw this man calm down, with beads of sweat on his head, and muttered, "No, wrong!" and "No, wrong!"

It turned out that on the piece of paper, the eleventh name was followed by the words: "Suspend the suppression to see the after-effects".

Later, during the rectification movement, this comrade was seriously criticized both inside and outside the party, and he personally realized that he had made a serious mistake and was sorry for the cultivation of the party and the people.

This man who was "wrong" back then has been tossing and turning in Guangdong for decades, and he can be regarded as being able to turn lessons into experience, be good at learning, and his cultural level is constantly improving. In the end, the official to the prefectural city director position only retired, in the director of the bureau there were some interesting things, he can be said to really do "in the study of the official, in the study of the official". - That's an afterword.

Child: The above three men really don't know who they got home! One is that he didn't know who killed him, and the end was really worse than that of a fool who "sold someone and helped people pay for it"; one was a group of vermilion and didn't know who approved the killing; and the other killed an innocent person in vain, and he didn't know that he was "wrong" until that person died.

People are amazed because of their lack of culture and knowledge.

The fundamental purpose of learning is to transform the knowledge acquired through learning into skills to improve oneself and the ability of human beings to survive. As the saying goes, no diamond is no porcelain work. A person who loves labor, a person who does a line of love, when he is as skilled as a cooker in his job and is as handy and comfortable as a cow, he is actually enjoying the fun of labor and the harvest of learning, and at the same time, he is also practicing his successful life. It is true that knowledge is constantly being updated, and learning is an ongoing process. Even if you have more knowledge at the beginning, if you don't continue to study hard, there will be a day when Jiang Lang will be exhausted.

There was a TV host who told a story that I still remember vividly: a writer wrote several martial arts films in his early years, but he could no longer write works, so he spent a lot of money to buy an authentic "Martial Arts Secrets", hoping to increase his creative material. At this time, it happened that his wife was hospitalized in childbirth, and he only heard his wife's painful moans for several days, but did not see his son born, so the writer asked with concern: "Wife, is it painful to give birth?"

His wife said, "Of course! It's the same feeling you can't produce now!"

The writer immediately sank his face and said angrily: "How can you compare it like this! You have it in your stomach, but I don't have it in your stomach." ”

The field of knowledge is like the vast universe, and people have only taken the tip of the iceberg after thousands of years of excavation. Human cognition is an endless process of exploration and accumulation over generations. From slash-and-burn cultivation to hybrid rice, to space plants, from the legend of Chang'e to the moon to the space station's travel and space exploration, from the poetry of "sitting on the ground and traveling 80,000 miles a day" to the current national "surveying the sky and seeing a thousand rivers from afar" has become a reality, and people have obtained better conditions and space for survival and development from the accumulation of knowledge. Some people say that science and technology are the primary productive forces. And learning is the premise and process of mastering this primary productive force. A person who has made a difference has a learning process throughout his life.

Second, we must establish unswerving will, perseverance and determination, and train and cultivate our indomitable character.

People and all things, like all things, have to go through the replacement of spring, summer, autumn and winter, and people who have and do not have their own sweet, sour, bitter and spicy life experiences. Looking at successful people from all walks of life, the reason why they can succeed is that they have been honed for ten years and accumulated steadily. The second is to find the right goal and be unswerving. Third, it can withstand the blows of setbacks and failures. It has been said that people are the richest when they are young, because they have the time and the ability to experience failure – because they can afford to lose. Of course, it also means that you can win it back. The key is to be good at analyzing the causes of setbacks and mistakes, have the courage to overcome difficulties, and sharpen the indomitable will.

It is true that people are passionate and creative at a young age, but they are also the stage when they are most prone to making mistakes. The key steps in a person's life are only a few steps, and it is difficult to turn back if you take one wrong step. Therefore, everything should be decided to do or not through feasibility analysis. Confucius said that if you are a threesome, you must have my teacher. If possible, you should seek the opinions of others as a reference for your own decision-making. In the early 50s of the 20 th century, the United States was preparing to launch the Korean War, but there was one question that they were never sure about: Will the newly founded New China join the war? Will it dare to enter the war? At that time, a very well-known consulting (consulting) company in the United States offered to the US Government that it was willing to provide information for a fee, but the US Government was unwilling to pay for it. Later, the US government came to the opposite conclusion of the company: China would not enter the war. Based on this, the Korean War was quickly launched, and the commander of the US army, General MacArthur, threatened to return to the United States for Christmas after the war.

The result of this war was that due to China's entry into the war, it dragged on for several years and changed several US commanders without retreating, becoming the first war in the history of the United States that was not won. Decades later, the American politicians who decided the war are still remorseful for the terrible price they paid.

You must keep in mind that correct willfulness with knowledge accumulation is called decisiveness, while ignorant and incorrect decisiveness is both willfulness and rashness; stubbornness with a level is called persistence, and stubbornness without a level is both stubbornness and willfulness. And anyone's willful and rash behavior comes at his own cost. Therefore, when making a decision, we should think calmly about the following: What are the bright prospects after doing this? What are the possible adverse consequences after doing this? What are the disadvantages of not doing this? Also: How much does it cost to do this? Can I afford to pay this price? Am I willing to pay this price? and so on. When it is deliberated again and again, once it is decided, it is necessary to hesitate and be consistent.

Life is the most taboo. This kind of person does not think carefully about what he does beforehand, only has three minutes of enthusiasm, and when he wants to do it, he can find a lot of reasons to do it, and he wants to do it immediately, and when he doesn't want to do it, he can casually say a lot of reasons for not doing it and stop immediately. The drum is fast, and the anger is also fast.

In my opinion, you should work the following areas:

First, we should focus on solving problems in the tempering of faith, will, perseverance and determination. It is necessary to sharpen the ability to endure hardships and stand hard work. As the saying goes, only when you eat hard can you become a superior person. During my time living in the countryside, I have seen many hard-working people and many lazy people who have different experiences and their different positions in society. In the 60s and 70s of the 20 th century, China's rural areas were engaged in "people's communization," and the peasants relied on working in the production teams to earn a share of their labor to distribute grain and money. The industrious people have a lot of food, and they do not panic. And the lazy man is always not enough to eat, and he hopes that the production captain will quickly distribute the grain. There is a lazy man to the production team leader's house at night to have nothing to do to chat, sit on the captain's rice bowl and hit the rice bowl with his feet, when he hears the sound of "Peng, Peng, Peng", he is very calm, because the production team leader's house does not have much rice; when he hears the sound of "Bu, Bu, Bu", he hurries home and takes a rice bag on his shoulder, and goes out to borrow rice from others. The situation of this lazy man's house is just like the "Guerrilla Words in Southern Jiangnan" written by Marshal Chen Yi, who stayed in the Jiangxi Soviet District after the Red Army's Long March, day and night when he was dealing with the encirclement and suppression of the Kuomintang army, which makes people who see it sad:

(Choose one)

It's almost noon, and the hungry bowels are beating like drums,

The food blockade has been three months,

The rice in the bag can be counted.

Wild herbs and boiled.

(Choose 2)

Sigh for lack of food, and don't taste meat in March.

Eat bayberry in summer and peel bamboo shoots in winter,

Hunting wild boars is busy all over the mountains.

Snake Catch II is longer.

"Oh my God!" - I want to say: how suspenseful and unfortunate it is when the survival of a person, a family, a people, and even a nation depends on others!

I forgot to tell you: our family originally relied on my grandmother's labor, combined with our holiday labor to earn work to support a family of five, and we are still one of the families that lend the most rice to others.

Second, it is necessary to solve the problems of ideological methods and self-confidence in analyzing problems. For example, how do you look at the family problem? Some people say that happy families are the same, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes; while others say that every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. For example, answering the proposition "Am I the lowest level of society?", as the saying goes: "When I think of Liu Xuande, I can't sleep every night: when I think of calling Huazai, I can still get by." This is also a positive attitude towards life. However, in the method of analysis, we should not first have a point of view and then find evidence to support it, but to find out a lot of "yes" reasons, and at the same time find a lot of "no" reasons, and then draw an objective conclusion through repeated rejection and scrutiny.

Third, it is necessary to have a view of the overall situation, and to correctly deal with setbacks and mistakes with an optimistic and open-minded attitude, that is, to achieve objective analysis, adjust mentality, and balance and stability. When making a mistake in decision-making, we should analyze: Can we resolve it with the overall ability of ourselves and our family? If we can resolve it, then it is not a big deal, at most we have to pay for it to understand. What should we do when we encounter setbacks? We must firmly believe that as long as I remember the lessons, will success be far away? This is the artistic conception of the willows and flowers.

As the saying goes, life is like a dream, and everything is like chess. I wonder if we can change it to: Life is like chess, and the key to success lies in strategizing and strategizing. In the early days of the Liberation War, the command of Liu and Deng Dajun by revolutionaries such as ** and others marched thousands of miles into Dabie Mountain was a stroke of genius for planning the layout. And in his "Operational Guidelines for the Liaoshen Campaign", "even if all other goals are not achieved, as long as Jinzhou is conquered, it will be a great victory." It is also a "abandoned son attack" that dominates the overall situation. This reflects the profound attainments of the founding fathers of the People's Republic of China in the overall situation.

The first sentence of the "Three Character Classic" is: "At the beginning of man, his nature is good." "I said, "Human life is fair. A person should not complain that God is unfair to me, let alone feel sorry for himself, and always feel that society is responsible for me. It has been said that God has given happiness to everyone, depending on whether you want it or not. I think that if a person wants to settle down in society, he must first adjust his mentality and use his strengths to adapt to society. The second is determination and motivation. In other words, through repeated deliberation, the goal is determined and the will to achieve it is strengthened. The third is to be relentless in working around the goal.

The ancients once said: The heavens will descend on the people, and they must first work their muscles and bones and sharpen their minds. In fact, the experience of ordinary people who do not have a great responsibility in their lives cannot be smooth sailing, and there are often opportunities to work their muscles and bones. Recently, I saw a tragic story from Phoenix TV's "Cold and Warm Life" program, an old man named Zhang × Chun, who was a people's hero who participated in the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, the War of Liberation, and the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea. He once blew up 11 enemy pillboxes in a single battle in the War of Liberation. After the end of the war, he transferred to the local government and successively served as the director of the freight yard and the deputy head of the unit. After working in the local area, he often thought that "the country gives me honor, not happiness" and worked hard, and won the title of advanced worker 21 times. Unfortunately, in the sixties of the twentieth century, he was unjustly imprisoned. After he was released from prison and even later restored his reputation as a "meritorious hero of the people", he still made a living by shining shoes on Northeast Street. Now in his 80s, he is still helping laid-off workers learn the craft of shoe repair. He said frankly: "I used this craft to support my family in the most difficult time of my life, and now I use it to help others, there is nothing to be embarrassed about!"

You see, a meritorious hero of the people who sheds his blood and his life's roles are constantly switching between soldiers, heroes, cadres, workers, prisoners, cobblers, and retired cadres, and he stands between heaven and earth. It should be pointed out that under today's fiercely competitive social conditions, people must have this kind of spirit and realm in order to be invincible.

I have an experience that I would like to share with you: when learning from the successful experience of others and summarizing our own life struggles, we should pay attention to: do not envy the success or happiness of others, but learn and learn from the experience of others for success; do not complain about mistakes and mistakes, but summarize and analyze mistakes; do not boast of success and revel in success, but analyze and evaluate success. Whenever you finish something or pass a period of time, it means that you have gone through a stage of life, and you should not be nostalgic, and there is no need to regret it. This is called "the past is unbearable to look back on, and success is enough to be intoxicated and not intoxicated." In computer terms, it's about being good at "zeroing" or hitting "enter". This is also the necessity of moving forward in waves in the course of life.

Third, we must be daring, good at, and willing to integrate into society, expand the living space in social competition, and find our own position.

Society is a three-dimensional concept, and the ancients said that the time, place, and people are the expression that people use social forces to the greatest extent when doing things. A successful person is inseparable from the cultivation of the great soil of society. At that time, he fought with Chiang Kai-shek in Jinggangshan, where there was no trench to speak of, and played hide and seek in the encirclement of Chiang's army, which was the organic integration into the local society and the clever use of the sum of social forces in the Luoxiao Mountains that were beneficial to him.

I was born in the mountainous areas where the Hakka people have lived and multiplied for generations, and naturally I have a deep attachment to the mountains, and I like to watch the tide by the sea, and sincerely praise the sea for its broad mind.

Son, when you stand on the edge of the sea and look at the endless and magnificent sea, when you climb to the top of a high mountain and look at the clear sky and the mountains, your heart will suddenly be opened. At the same time, you may feel your personal insignificance. Yes, although human beings are endless, a person (whether a great man or a villain) has survived in society for decades is like a drop of water in the sea, and if this drop of water does not dissolve into the sea, it will long be disappeared into nothingness. Therefore, the contradictions between the whole and the part, the collective and the individual, and the society and the self -- these pairs of contradictions must be correctly understood and properly handled. Only in this way can life have a smooth path.

My hope for you is:

1. Actively participate in the beneficial activities of colleagues, units and communities, activate interpersonal relationships, and understand the truth that "friends are wealth". Looking back at the early days of my business in Shenzhen, one of the important reasons why I was able to become the backbone of Meilin and Hubei Financial Services Co., Ltd. (the predecessor of Shenzhen Minmin Bank) within three months was because I participated in the audit work meeting organized by the competent department of the municipal government when I was working in the Shenzhen Special Economic Zone Corporation. To put it simply, your father had the courage to sing a five-tone karaoke at Silver Lake Resort and swim twice in Xiaomeisha, so he got to know his peers from various group companies in the city, and these peers inadvertently became your father's future bankers. The good living conditions you enjoy from elementary school to high school have to do with this.

Now, you should seriously think about it: if there is such a seemingly inconspicuous social activity in the future, will you not do it?

Making friends is a complex art, and I don't have much experience in this area, but there is a popular song that says, "It's always easy to fall in love, it's too hard to get along!"

2. With a positive attitude, we should observe the means and experiences of others in the society to broaden our horizons.

Here, I want to tell you a general guideline for people to look at people: don't blindly worship or be obsessed with height, like Napoleon, ***, Su Yu and others are not tall, but they are all awe-inspiring. Of course, tall people don't necessarily have nothing to do. The most important organ to judge a person is a pair of eyes, such as the love of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty Huo Quai's eyes like a torch, destined to be a young man and rich, and he was named a champion before the age of 20; At this point, you may ask: Isn't this superstition? No, it is often said that the eye is the window to the soul. In ancient China, a child who was just able to observe things was often placed on the table, and in front of him were placed representative utensils symbolizing workers, peasants, soldiers, officials, and literature, to see which one he liked in an instant, and to judge the direction of his life according to this. In addition, a person with good eyes is good at observing society, observing problems, and observing people, and can draw objective opinions from observation and thinking, so as to make correct decisions. There's a song that sings well: "Give me a pair of discerning eyes!"

In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", when Zhuge Liang dealt with Ma Jian who lost the street pavilion, on the one hand, he did not listen to the pleas of the ministers and generals, and insisted on engaging in Ma Tan's military law. On the other hand, he wept bitterly and made himself a tearful man.

Someone asked him, "Prime Minister, why are you crying?"

Zhuge Liang cried while stretching out his right hand, lifting up his long sleeves, and then half-covering and half-hiding the tears on his eyes and cheeks, and then wiped the snot flowing on his lower palate, before he said sadly: "I regret not listening to the last words of the first emperor, who told me when he was dying: 'Ma Yan's words are exaggerated and cannot be reused. 'It's all my fault for being negligent and making a big mistake. ”

Child, in my opinion, Zhuge Liang is crying to the heavens. He seemed to say, "My God, since you have given me a wise head and entrusted me with the important task of revitalizing the Han family, why don't you give me a pair of eyes as good as the first emperor?"

It is also said that although the defects of the first emperor Liu Bei are obvious, for example, when he was talking with Cao Cao about cooking wine and talking about heroes, he was suddenly frightened by a thunderbolt, which shows that he lacked courage, thus enriching the connotation and extension of the "thunderbolt" allusion that also came from the Three Kingdoms period and took Cao Cao's summary of war examples as an introduction. At the same time, Liu Bei's loyal liver was also mistaken, when he heard that his righteous brother Guan Yunchang was killed by Wu State, he angrily dragged his old body to attack Wu, and returned defeated, which shook the foundation of Xinghan. But Liu Bei's eyes are indeed top-grade, and he can see that Zhuge Liang can succeed and ask him to go out of the mountain is proof.

Let's talk about the eyes of Deng Yaping, a famous contemporary table tennis player. Her teammates and opponents have talked about the experience of competing with Deng Yaping, saying that as soon as she got on the field, she was engrossed and angry, and she was really "angry from the heart, and evil was born in the eyes", which made the opponent highly nervous, so that he could not show his skills and tactical level. The gold medal match she staged with North Korean athletes at the World Championships in the latter part of her athletic career was a classic, and when the North Korean girl who had swept other Chinese athletes went to the arena and saw Deng Yaping's angry eyes, she was so careful that she didn't even know where to put the hand that grabbed the racket. However, it takes hard work to turn the "eye of the eye" into the "eye of the king". Opportunities always favor those who are prepared, it is said that back then, Deng Yaping was rejected by the national team many times because she was a little shorter, and in the end, she became the king with perseverance and perseverance.

In all fairness, how I wish you had better eyes than mine, with a fearless glow in the midst of tranquility and serenity, how I wish you could enter society like driving on a highway, with a pair of clear, bright, blue eyes staring at the front 100 meters away, and maximizing your glorious potential, and how I wish you could observe the little things around you with your heart, so as to increase your ability to think visually and logically, so as to enrich your experience. You say, "As your father, will I, as your father, hope for you and your descendants be a little too extravagant?"

3. To find a positive concept of life in the real social environment, keep in mind the ancient adage of "natural selection, survival of the fittest", be willing to compete, have the courage to compete, and become a strong in the competition.

From the theory of the origin of life, it can be seen that on the earth where we live, at the same time as human evolution, many biological species have undergone the process of derivation, development and extinction. For example, the well-known behemoth, dinosaurs, only dinosaur egg fossils are left for people to admire. The evolution and decline of the earth's species reveals an eternal truth: natural selection, survival of the fittest.

It is said that in the early days of reform and opening up, there was a nurse in China, when she went to apply for a famous foreign-funded enterprise, the examiner asked her: "Can you type?" and at that time, she rarely even touched the computer, but she still stubbornly said: "Yes". The examiner asked her to come back in a week for typing. She worked hard to learn Wubi font in seven days and successfully passed the application assessment, and finally became the head of the company's China region. Later, she accepted the challenge and served as a director and branch manager of a limited liability company. Mr. Li ××, the chairman and CEO of the company, was also a trendsetter in the business world who used hundreds of thousands of real estate as collateral to obtain the company's management rights in the early years, and in the past few years, he has successfully expanded the company and moved towards internationalization with the spirit of "one road from ancient Huashan". What does this example illustrate? It illustrates that the brave wins, the wise wins, the initiative, and the hardships win.

Child, what I want to ask you is: Are you willing to become such a brave, wise, active, and hard-working person in the fight of the sea of society?

There is also a story about the fact that in the 60s and 70s of the 20th century, China was quite short of materials, the people lived in great poverty, and people's means of making a living were also restricted. It is said that an unmarried man in his thirties, in a town in Guangdong, asked his old father for money on the grounds of falling in love. One day, he said to his father, who was nearly 70 years old: "Dad: Now it seems that you are indeed old, and I am not too young! The ancients said: 'There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is the greatest', I still have to hurry up and find a wife, so that you can see your grandson before you close your eyes and go into the ground. ”

The old father was very happy when he heard his son's words, and the two gray beards hanging on his lips immediately smoothed out. I heard my son say again: "I can report to your old man very clearly: everything is in place now, and all you owe is the east wind—the lack of money." ”

At this time, the old father had tears in his eyes, and seeing that the tears were about to flow on his old face, he said in a trembling tone with a slight satisfaction: "This is like my son! As the saying goes: 'The prodigal son does not change his money,' and it is not too late to be sensible!" while putting his right hand into his jacket pocket, with great effort, he took out a wallet wrapped in a hand towel. I saw the old father open the wallet layer by layer very seriously, and then took out 20 yuan from it, held it in front of his son with both hands, and said, "Take it, good luck!"

As the saying goes: the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. In fact, the son of this old father asked his old father for money to spend on the grounds of falling in love. Later, it was like this for several years.

After a few years, the old father thought that it was wrong: he only saw the money out, but he didn't see his daughter-in-law return. So he asked his son, "How is your relationship?" and the son said, "Soon, I'm 50 percent sure!" The old father was really happy for a while. After a year, there was no movement, and the old father's health was getting worse and worse than before.

One day, the old father was lying on the hospital bed, and his son came to greet him. The old father asked his son about finding a wife, and the son said, "It's difficult! I'm still 50 percent sure that I like her, and she doesn't like me." "Poor old father, he never got sick.

The days after his death were quite difficult: when people saw that he always refused to give up, the uncles and uncles guessed the mystery in front of his hospital bed, and some said: "He was afraid that there would be no coffin to bury him after death, so he refused to die." ”

At this time, his son was considered filial and immediately borrowed a coffin from the villagers and put it in the upper hall of the house. However, the old father still refused to leave the world, and some people speculated: "He may be worried about cutting off his children and grandchildren, so he is nostalgic for the yang world." ”

What should I do? People think about it, and the only way to make him feel that his daughter-in-law is hopeful is to make some fuss. In the end, the son spent 100 yuan (equivalent to three months' salary of a state worker at that time) to invite a waitress from the state-run hotel in the town to be his wife.

Then, as had been agreed, the woman touched the old father's eyes with her hand. Strange to say, it was only then that the old father calmly lost his breath and closed his eyes. In this way, he may have left no regrets and went to the underworld. Of course, knowing his son Mo Ruo's father, when he passed away, he had already understood what his son had said in the past few years.

This is the story of "50% sure" that has been circulated in a certain place in Guangdong. The original meaning of this story is to say that "the eight characters have not yet been skimmed". However, you see that the old father with tears in his eyes took out a handkerchief with a trembling hand, and opened the handkerchief and gave his eldest son twenty yuan from the small amount of money, which shows the expectation of the parents of the world.

My opinion is: in fact, as long as a person dares to think, dare to try, dare to break through, he will have a 50% chance of success in doing things, although he does not dare to say that he will win, but on the contrary, he will definitely lose.

Fourth, we must dare to analyze our own mistakes and experiences, and be good at learning lessons from the experiences and mistakes of others, and warn ourselves.

Often, people are reluctant to talk about their shortcomings, and some smart people know their shortcomings and only pay a little attention to overcoming them. However, to be a strong person, you must always take stock of your own shortcomings, and often analyze your mistakes and setbacks without being ashamed. Why? The ancients said: Shame is almost bravery. First, only by confronting those who are concerned about their own shortcomings and mistakes can they have the courage, determination and confidence to correct their mistakes. Second, only by knowing your own shortcomings can you find your own position and avoid falling into the dilemma of being ambitious and talented, high and low. Third, only in this way can we always grasp the overall situation in a state of strategic control, suppress the negative play of shortcomings, and make ourselves invincible. The Hu ×× brothers, who were modern overseas Chinese businessmen, founded their own commercial empire, but their descendants were so mixed that they even sold the cemetery where the brothers' bones were buried. In my opinion, the lessons of these descendants are nothing more than that they are not good at learning from and applying the entrepreneurial experience of their ancestors, they are not good at establishing the concept of keeping pace with the times while observing the changes in society, and they are not good at analyzing the experiences and lessons in their daily work in a timely manner and discarding them in stages.

Admittedly, there is also a problem of method when analyzing one's own shortcomings or correcting mistakes. Don't blame yourself or regret something you see or have a problem. As long as we start from the day we recognize our mistakes and do a good job, there is still a lot of room for improvement. I have seen from some information that Chiang Kai-shek and *** had no shortage of criticism in their respective youth, youth and student years, but they have been tempered in the process of ups and downs in their lives and careers, and finally achieved positive results. Let's just say that Chiang Kai-shek, who has been scolded a lot by people, his life is multidimensional and complicated, but he still has the credit to the Chinese nation, especially in his later years, he did not split the motherland, and he deserves the respect of future generations. However, during the Kuomintang-Communist civil war from 1947 to 1950, the People's Liberation Army (PLA) advanced from north to south like a bamboo, and finally turned into a tragic and heroic situation in which "a million heroes crossed the river" and defeated him and retreated to Taiwan. I have seen the photos of Jiang Gong in his later years, and I feel that after he tasted the true meaning of life and faded away his true character, he was no different from the simple and generous old Chinese peasant who had been praised radically: "Even if there is cow on his feet, he is cleaner than intellectuals".

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