Some people say that behind every successful man, there must be a good woman. It is also said that in a family with its own misfortunes, it also has a lot to do with the mistress of the family. I'm not sure what people will think of me in the end, but it's okay to talk about your mother.

In his later years, he said that he did two things in his life, one was to overthrow feudal rule and establish New China, and the other was to launch a "cultural * revolution". I think that if some historians believe in the future that ***'s life is half of the credit and half of the fault for the country, there may be many people who agree. To tell the truth, *** has become the founding monarch of the country after more than 20 years of struggle from a farmer's son, and there are many outstanding points. Although I have some opinions on some of the practices he engaged in in his later years, but in 1957, when I was born, I did show the demeanor of a king who swallowed thousands of miles like a tiger. Even the characters he wrote before him represent his highest level of calligraphy art. Some of his articles, such as "Why Can China's Red Regime Exist?", "On Practice," "On Contradictions," "On Protracted War," "On the Correct Handling of Contradictions Among the People," and "On the Ten Major Relations," are indeed classics. Interpreting what is surging in his bones: "As long as the line is correct, no one can have anyone, no gun can have a gun, and no political power can have political power." The kingly spirit of "pointing out the country, inspiring words, and dung was ten thousand households" jumped on the paper. I have been influenced by the ideology since I was a child, and I highly respect the tragic history of the bloody struggle of the Chinese communists, especially the founders of the republic. My experience is that in peacetime, as long as a person is open-minded, willing to adapt to society, and willing to endure hardships, he will certainly be able to do the following: If there is no money, there can be money, if there is no material, there can be material, and if there is no career, there can be a career.

When people commented on Ye Jianying, who can be called "Lu Duan's big things are not confused", they also said that he did two things in his life, one was to take a firm stand on the Long March, and sent a letter to the party Central Committee in danger in the midst of danger, thus laying the foundation for the glory of the Communist Party of China in Yan'an and even the victory of the whole country; As a result, the current Chinese people are all enjoying the fruits of the reform and opening up of their predecessors. Mr. Ye has the demeanor of a Confucian general, sometimes writing poems, sometimes practicing calligraphy, sometimes accompanying the prime minister to meet foreign guests, and then tracing back to his assistance in participating in the peaceful handling of the Xi'an Incident and the coordination of Chongqing, his achievements to the motherland and the people are not insignificant. But as a marshal, in terms of the calculation of specific military merits, it seems that he is slightly inferior to Su Yuda, who fought against the Central Plains and won seven battles and seven victories in the War of Liberation. However, Ye Jianying's contribution is foundational and key, and it is not an exaggeration to say that he shows the style of Zhuge Wuhou's lupine scarf.

Ye Jianying has a very high success rate, always on ideas, and is the best among the top ten marshals, as if he has responded to the saying: "Blessed people don't have to be busy."

To be fair, your mother did a lot of things, too. Coincidentally, there are at least two things worth remembering: one is to marry into the Xia family and become your mother, and the other is to strongly advocate moving the family to Shenzhen, and decisively buy a ticket to push me on the bus to Shenzhen for an interview, thus starting the survival journey of the whole family and future generations in Shenzhen.

As my mind examines the pictures of your mother's life in the family for nearly 30 years, an interesting image lingers in my mind:

March 14, 1982 (February 19 of the Lunar New Year) was the day when my mother and I agreed to go on a blind date. At 7:30 a.m., I was about to go to your grandfather's house after breakfast, when a blue bird flew into the room through the window, and I quickly closed the window and invited a few colleagues to watch it. Then, I picked up my grandfather and grandmother at the station and went to my grandfather's house to get married. The birds are released at night.

Nearly thirty years have passed. Your mother has many advantages, such as: she is very tactful, regardless of previous suspicions, has the roughness of a man, is more generous, does not value money, has decisiveness, and so on. In addition, when dealing with the black and white entanglements encountered in life, he also tried a knife and showed his edge, showing rare calmness and composure, which is better than many eyebrows.

While tasting your mother's advantages, it also reminds me of the story of Chaplin's "small shortcomings" when the prime minister of the Republic invited American movie star Chaplin to eat Peking duck in Geneva.

It is said that when Premier Zhou saw Chaplin eating deliciously, he asked him sincerely: "How does it taste?"

Chaplin nodded as he ate and said, "Yes, yes, but there is a small drawback."

Chaplin squinted at *** concerned gaze with his well-known little triangular eyes, and then said slowly: "It's just that I can't eat more." ”

Smiling knowingly, he gave him two Peking ducks when he parted.

……

Then again, your mother also had some "small shortcomings", can you name two or three of her "small shortcomings"?

Child: I can share with you the results of my research on the role of shortcomings in life:

First, any shortcomings in a person will leave a mark on his life path.

Second, when the quality of a person's shortcomings is greater than the quality of his strengths, a life of failure awaits him.

Thirdly, when a person's strengths and weaknesses are prominent, his life course is in a state of irregular beauty (sick beauty), and it is possible that his life may be very brilliant or it may be a mess.

Fourth, in the course of life, sometimes people's strengths play a major role, and sometimes it is their weaknesses that play a major role.

Fifth, people's "small shortcomings" will, under certain conditions, become regrets that affect their lives and are also a breeding ground for regrets.

Sixth, when a person has the following "small shortcomings" at the same time: one is not knowing his own shortcomings, the second is unwilling to learn and improve himself, and the third is willful. Well, this person is in danger!

When I look at you, it's not so easy. It's not all because of complaining about you, maybe it's because your parents want you to do things, start a business, and inherit the Xia family, so it seems heavy. It is true that I am anxious when I see that you are not well prepared and have not accumulated too much, with the mentality that elders usually hate iron but not steel. Can you analyze whether you have many strengths or weaknesses in your father and mother, or what are your own shortcomings, and how are you prepared to overcome them?

Of course, don't be too nervous, the spirit of the ancestors in the heavens may not be very satisfied with me. According to historical records, the surname "Xia" itself is a sign of brilliance. Think about it: If we talk about the glory of officialdom, how can we, the descendants, catch up with our ancestors?

Fifth, establish the idea of "there is no best, only better", do not ignore the small things, be willing to start from the small things, and strive to do the small things well. It is necessary to understand the truth that there is a big in the small, and the big in the small is small.

As early as 2001, in an article I wrote about your studies, I commented on Miss Lang Ping and her advocacy of "there is no best, only better". Lang Ping, who was born as an athlete, was not only praised as the "iron hammer" fist because of her longevity, but also established a miracle for the Chinese women's volleyball team to achieve the "five consecutive championships" and made the Chinese people unforgettable. Her philosophy of "there is no best, only better" is a reflection of her practice. You see her, she is good at being an athlete and even better at being a coach: in foreign countries, she is very good at guiding those swaggering foreign ladies, and at home, she is even more proficient in training delicate Shenzhou girls. Once upon a time, the Chinese women's volleyball team, which was scattered after the "five consecutive championships", was pulled to the podium of the Olympic silver medal. This is compared with several male coaches of the Chinese women's volleyball team before and after her. You see: Didn't the head coach of the Chinese women's volleyball team at the Sydney Olympics hold his hands on his drooping head and have no face? There is something more interesting than this: The Chinese men's volleyball team also once had an outstanding athlete who retired and worked abroad for a period of time before coming back to become the head coach of the national team. As a result, he led the team to play in Asia, but lost to Japan and South Korea, which were ranked ten in the world, and the identity of this man immediately changed from the head coach of the national team to China's "volleyball celebrity".

In the 80s and 90s of the twentieth century, the famous comedy stars Feng Gong and Niu Qun "auctioned" the few hairs on the smooth head of the head of the Chinese football team Schlapner as a national treasure in the cross talk "Auction". Since then, the Chinese football team has become a problem for the Chinese people. It is also strange to say that it is reasonable for the Chinese team to lose against strong teams in Europe and Latin America, but it is difficult for national teams such as Bahrain, Qatar, and Oman to win against countries with only hundreds of thousands, millions, or even tens of millions of population resources. For decades, the Chinese team really couldn't get up, couldn't become a talent, couldn't burn money, and ignored the scolding. Many high-ranking officials, mayors, and entrepreneurs like to use it as a comparison when analyzing their own work.

People will ask: Is it because there are 25 sturdy young men among the 1.3 billion Chinese? No, there are many Chinese who are alive and well; is it because there is a lack of coaches with football awareness? No, there are many famous foreign coaches coming in; is it because the living conditions of the team are not good and there is no enthusiasm? No, Chinese players are high-income earners; are they not able to practice and their skills are not perfect? No, it has become professional; is it that football has not "started from the baby"? Not to mention that the dolls sent to Brazil to learn football are now fathers!

"Oh yes, kill me too!" - the dialogue in Peking Opera says, don't ask!

However, the story related to football naturally led me to name a foreign man - Hiddink. From 1984 until I write this, he has been playing out his legend: he was an assistant coach at PSV Eindhoven in 1984 and was promoted two years later. In the first year, he led the team to win the Eredivisie title, and a year later they won the Dutch league, cup and European Champions Cup, and then achieved three consecutive Eredivisie titles. In 1998, he led the Dutch national team to the World Cup in France, where he made it all the way to the semi-finals. In 2002, in the South Korea-Japan World Cup, he wore the uniform of the South Korean team, and the flag waved everywhere, and a miracle appeared: he reached the semi-finals, achieving a historic breakthrough for South Korea and even Asian teams. Later, Hiddink, who took off the South Korean team's shirt, took over the leadership of the Australian national team, and trained a group of "Australian kangaroos" who had never won a game in the World Cup, ready to show their success in the 2006 World Cup in Germany. It seems that a new magic is about to emerge again.

Some say Hiddink is a "jack-of-all-trades" – he can be used anywhere. As for me, I have a little personal emotion: whenever I see Hiddink's old face like watermelon skin on the sidelines of the arena, there are words in my mind: "It's gold, it will shine wherever you put it." ”

Having said that, the Chinese are smart and resolute, and they can still work the verge of collapse of the national economy, and they have impressed the world with twenty years of struggle, while the Chinese football team, which has long been unable to find a reason, has become the best ideological heritage that people use to spur themselves ( Author's note on February 16, 2010: In mid-2009, more than a year after the entire book was published online, a powerful professional earthquake broke out in Chinese football: hundreds of people, including senior officials of the Chinese Football Association, were involved in the case. Since then, the criminal shady curtain characterized by fakes, gambling and gangsters involved in Chinese football since it embarked on the road of professionalism has been slowly revealed, which has opened the eyes of the Chinese people in shock. Interestingly: on the eve of the Spring Festival in the Year of the Tiger, the head of the Chinese Football Association has just been detained, and the Chinese men's football team, which has been on a downward slope for more than ten years, has long been the opponent of Japan and South Korea, and was ordered to participate in the East Asian semifinals, and won the championship with an undefeated record, especially the 3-0 victory over the South Koreans, thus ending the 32-year history of defeat in South Korea, which makes people amazed. ）。

By observing the various cases of the rise and fall of today's sports people and the ensuing war of words, I naturally think of the feeling of watching the movie "Southern Expedition and Northern War" when I was a child. In this film, which is based on the Menglianggu Campaign, which eliminated one of the "five main forces" of the Kuomintang and reorganized the 74th Division, a general of the Nationalist Army said to the annoyed Commander Zhang after suffering a defeat: "It is not that our army is incompetent, but that the communist army is cunning. This may be true. A Kuomintang veteran who participated in the battle said to me after watching "The Southern Expedition and the Northern War": "The Nationalist army lost, but it was not so embarrassed. Today, 50 years after the smoke of the civil war has dissipated, the generals of the communist army at that time also positively evaluated the combat capability of the five main forces of the national army. However, when people dig out their minds to find excuses for failure after failure, it is indeed a great sorrow in life.

At the time I started writing this, it was rumored that Lang Ping had been hired as the head coach of the U.S. team. I think whether or not she succeeds again, one thing is certain: I have a common language with the cunning Americans in my view of Lang Ping. Interestingly, after Lang Ping became the head coach of the American women's volleyball team for three months, he led the team to participate in the World Grand Prix in Hangzhou, China in July 2005. And in November 2005, at the 2005 World Grand Prix Finals in Nagoya, Japan, the American team beat the Olympic champion Chinese team 3-0 in straight games.

A reporter wrote under the subtitle "Learn more skills from the "master": "In the battle between China and the United States, the master defeated the apprentice. "——This master is Lang Ping.

People, the comparison shows wisdom, and the results reflect the level.

It should be pointed out that I am not a blind worshipper, I believe in the concept of "there is no best, only better", I emphasize "only", is the need of competition, is exclusive, no choice, is the meaning of "one road since ancient Huashan". At the beginning of 1995, when it invested 30 million yuan and needed 5 million yuan to open and had no way to raise it, I wrote a reserved opinion and then signed a loan of 5 million yuan to give it a loan. After opening as scheduled, business was very good, and China's popular famous singers *** and Dong Wenhua have performed in its song and dance hall. At that time, it was called the "best in Shenzhen" in the industry, but the operator thought "I am the best" every day and stopped making progress, and in 2001, it collapsed.

"Don't sleep in!" - this is the connotation of the interpretation of the tortoise and rabbit racing story, and I think it can be passed on as a family motto.

You should also know that the Chinese nation has a long history of civilization and was once the most powerful country in the world, and Britain was once known as the "empire on which the sun never sets." However, China and Britain, which were powerful in those days, were later left far behind by the United States, which had only been founded for two or three hundred years, and China was still bullied by many countries in modern times, and the lives of the people were miserable.

What does this lesson teach us?

My view is: no matter whether you are in good times or bad, strong and weak, successful or unsuccessful, you should keep in mind: "you can only be better" and make unremitting efforts for better goals.

There is another saying that has been circulated among the people and can also be carried forward for the correct ideological concept, that is: It is better to have a day to think about the day than to think about the time without a time. On May 6, 2005, China Central Television (CCTV) broadcast a talk program about a senior engineer who became a nanny because of the family's financial difficulties due to the closure of the factory and her son's college education. In my opinion, she should be praised, but her lesson is more precious: if a person lacks a sense of crisis when the path of life is going well, does not strive to continue learning, and is not active, proactive, and not good at turning knowledge into skills, he will be in danger. As the saying goes: people have no long-term concerns, but they must have near-term worries, which is also the crisis consciousness that people often talk about. Since you were five or six years old, whenever you heard the "National Anthem of the People's Republic of China" playing on TV, you would listen intently and watch the five-star red flag rise. I don't know how many times I've been excited about our National Anthem of the People's Republic of China. She not only has a pleasing sound and inspires people to forge ahead, but the warning that "the Chinese nation has ...... at the most dangerous time" is indeed the best spur and encouragement for the children and grandchildren of China.

The details lay the success, and the small places cast the great man.

Even if a person has great ambitions, he must start from the basics, as the saying goes: "If you don't accumulate steps, you can't reach thousands of miles." "This is true for being a person, and it is also true for doing business. You see, Liu Bang, Zhu Yuanzhang, Chiang Kai-shek, and Chiang Kai-shek, which is not the case? Didn't Li Ka-shing, the richest Chinese man in the world today, also start out as a part-time worker and eventually become famous! When Thaksin Shinawatra visited the United States for the first time after the 11 September incident after becoming prime minister of Thailand, security guards asked him to pass through the hotel kitchen, and this immediately reminded him of the first time he went to the United States to study and work as a handyman in a hotel kitchen when he was young. From a kitchen handyman to a wealthy businessman to the country's prime minister, Thaksin said with deep feeling: "Anything in the world, as long as you work hard, there is nothing that cannot be achieved." ”

The old Mr. Lu You of the Song Dynasty said it well:

The ancients spared no effort in learning, and the young and strong kung fu began to grow.

On paper, I finally feel shallow, and I never know that I have to do it.

Child: When you encounter something big or small to do, you must work hard to do it well. Don't give in to yourself: "It's okay this time". Those who always say "it's okay" and "it doesn't matter" don't necessarily have any big problems. However, if a person thinks in his heart that it is okay and that it does not matter, then this person must be a person who has done nothing.

Be willing to start from small things and be willing to do small things well.

There is a story that said: During the Anti-Japanese War, the national government moved the capital to Chongqing, because Chongqing was too small, so many people crowded together, the sanitary environment was naturally very poor, the calligrapher Mr. Yu Youren, who was a member of the Standing Committee of the Kuomintang at the time, wrote a notice of "do not urinate anywhere" and pasted it on the street. Child: In society, there are many examples of gains and losses due to one sentence, and one small thing affects the whole course of life. Some companies hire employees who like to look at small things. Why? Because in the big picture, people pay attention, they all package it well, and they actually cover up their true selves with packaging. But the personal disposition that is reflected in some small things is the expression of the true self. Therefore, since you are a good person, you must pay equal attention to big and small things, so that you are the same as the inside and the outside, and the big and small.

In fact, paying attention to small things is not an invention of modern people, didn't the ancients say: "A little water can see the sun", and said: "If you can't bear it, you will make a big plan." ”

Sixth, we should pay attention to grasp the balance between reality and ideals, dreams, and fantasies, and firmly grasp the critical point of career success.

What is the tipping point? It is the condition for the realization of the transformation of things from one state to another. In my opinion, it's a great application for applications and management. Words such as "proportionate" and "just right" may be used as a commentary.

In practice, there are countless examples of the application of the critical theory in people's daily lives, from state management to people's daily lives. Let's talk about cooking: steamed sea bass, cooking time is an extra minute - old, one minute less - undercooked. Grasp the critical point between cooked and uncooked out of the pot - freshly cooked. If you invite the three of you to taste it, Zhang San said, "It's so sweet." Li Si said: "It's really fragrant." Wang Haozi said: "It's so tender! It's simply a beautiful enjoyment." For example, if people talk: if they talk too much, they will be "wordy", but if they don't say, "why are you dumb?" Only when you talk to people in terms of time, occasion, quantity, attitude, etc., will the listener feel comfortable. In terms of business, whether you speak moderately is the premise of whether you can achieve your goals.

It can be said that a person may not know the name or concept of the critical theory, but he or she may not know how to apply the critical theory. If there is such a person, then he will not be able to take care of his daily life, let alone contribute to society.

Now, I will use the mathematical concepts you are more familiar with to talk about "reality", "ideal", "dream", "fantasy" and other issues: "reality" is a point, from which three lines can be drawn to connect "ideal", "dream" and "fantasy", and determining which of these three lines is long and which is short is the key to whether a person can succeed in life. Take me as an example: my "ideal" is to be a writer. When I was young, I thought that being a writer is such a noble profession, and how many generations of Cao Xueqin's "Dream of Red Mansions" have been fascinated and passed down to this day. And those dignitaries and nobles were not so lucky, as he said through the mouth of the characters in the book:

Everyone in the world knows that the gods are good, but only the fame cannot be forgotten;

Where will the ancient and the modern meet? A pile of grass is gone!

Yes, only the book he wrote when he tightened his belt is still there. However, the "reality" is: I always have no market for writing, prose, and poetry, and I can't get enough to eat. At this time, I should realize that this "ideal" is not suitable for me, and I can only choose to turn back. Because of this, as soon as I talk about reality, I have never been to Beijing in my life, let alone my essays, but my papers, articles, and reports have already crossed the Yangtze River and the Yellow River to Beijing, and some have even entered the Great Hall of the People and other elegant halls.

When it comes to "dreams", I'm probably a little luckier. As early as 1974, when I graduated from high school and returned to my hometown to work as a farmer, the old uncles in the village said to me: "I won't stay in the village for a long time, if you look at the blue light from his eyes, you will know that he is an official."

Hearing this, in addition to working hard, I also dreamed of getting out of the village gate. In 1976, when I went to the county party school to participate in the training of armed cadres, and when I saw the "educated youths who went to the mountains and went to the countryside" in the orchard farm, including your mother, I thought that I would come here to see them more than them in the future. Sure enough, four years later, in 1980, I came to this fruit farm again, and the director of the farm took the initiative to accompany us to pick the fruits they planted.

To put it a little earlier, when I was 11 or 2 years old, I once took a bus from Dazheng → Shizheng Highway to walk on the road, smelled the smell of gasoline emanating from the car, and saw the green mountains and green waters all the way, and I suddenly thought: If one day I go out in this way, and then take the car back to see these mountains and rivers like a young man leaving home! Sure enough, in the spring of 1978, I took this road as a starting point and took the car to Guangzhou to become a state cadre; in the spring of 1992, I set off from this road to Shenzhen and started a second venture. Three years later, on August 18, 1995, when I drove my brand new Toyota sedan on the newly built National Highway 205 and 206, I arrived at my hometown and looked at the curling smoke.

I also have a "dream" worth mentioning: from January 21 to February 11, 1991, I went to Guangzhou with you and your mother for some reason and stayed in a suite in Shahe, Guangzhou, which I bought in the county. Judging from the housing prices in Guangzhou at that time, the 90-square-meter house could be bought for 40,000 yuan. Four years later, in 1995, my family spent more than ten times more than Guangzhou to buy two sets of 90-square-meter commercial houses in Shenzhen.

There is an even more bizarre story for you: in October 1987, the family returned to the village to build a grave for my grandfather. At 9:20 p.m. on October 15, the ceremony of putting the grandfather's ashes into the earth was held. At about 11 o'clock, when everyone got home, a small snake walked into their room, and everyone was busy for a while without fighting. The next day, I went to the Ziyun Cave Mountain, where the bones of my aunt Xia Ping were reburied, and according to my uncle who was doing things at the time, "When Ah Ping fell into the ground, the dumb people from Shuikou Village passed by, and they kept saying 'wow, wow, wow', saying that it was 'ten thousand households'?" That night, my nephew talked to me about the rare earth business. After that, in less than half a year, with the trust of the villagers, I only spent three or four nights helping the villagers sell rare earths, and I became the "10,000 yuan household" that people envied at that time.

You may see that when I say "dream", it seems that it has become "reality" inadvertently. Yes, this is because the line between "dream" and "reality" is relatively short, and it is constantly shrinking through subjective efforts to expand the objective inevitability of its realization. As soon as the points (tipping points) of the two of them fuse together, they are grasped immediately, and this is a success.

However, if you look at my diary, you will find that my experience in officialdom and work has been full of twists and turns:

In 1980, the state advocated that cadres should be revolutionized, knowledgeable, younger, and professionalized, and I was precisely this kind of "four modernizations" cadre, who was determined by the organization as the "third echelon" of leading cadres and trained without becoming regular, which also attracted many strange eyes. In 1981, I was rated as an economist as soon as I became a formal state cadre, and on August 22, 1987, I was rated as an economist by the ×× branch of the Industrial and Commercial Bank of China. At that time, the evaluation conclusion signed by Luo Chang, chairman of the Intermediate Position Evaluation Committee of the ×× Branch and stamped with the official seal of the branch, was: "Comrade Xia graduated from junior college and has been engaged in professional work for eight years. This comrade has systematic knowledge of economic theories, has mastered and can correctly implement the relevant financial and economic principles, policies, systems, regulations, and methods, is able to solve relatively complex operational problems and put forward important opinions, has rich experience in economic work, and has achieved relatively good economic returns in his work. After the evaluation committee conducted an evaluation and assessment from seven aspects, the score was 75.5 points, and Comrade Xia was assessed to have the qualifications of economists. ”

Curiously, on April 20, 1988, the following paragraph was added to the remarks column of the evaluation form: "According to the provincial ...... The spirit of the meeting is important for ...... Young cadres should strictly grasp the principle, and after reconsideration by the intermediate evaluation committee of the local branch, it was confirmed that Comrade Xia has the qualifications to serve as an assistant economist. ”

Not to mention the "problems and solutions of the five-level power station in ×× county" that I dealt with after I took charge of the credit work of the county bank and was praised by the credit department of the provincial branch to the person in charge of the county government as a "excellent credit team", nor did I say that the secret document "On the Development of Rare Earth in Our County" written by the president of the ×× branch and talked about by the leaders of the provincial bank and the ×× branch made contributions to the financial system and economy of Guangdong Province, I came to Shenzhen with the title of assistant teacher, while the Shenzhen Special Economic Zone Corporation was appointed by the president of the branch and wrote the secret document "On the Development of Rare Earth in Our County" and other contributions to the financial system and economy of Guangdong Province. Chief Engineer) is to tap into my potential. Whenever the unit makes important decisions such as project research and marginal contribution analysis, no matter how many middle and senior professional titles participate, it always pushes me to the core position, and my written opinion is generally the formal conclusion of the unit. In the spring of 1998, the Shenzhen Minmin Bank took the initiative to send the "Senior Economist Approval Form" to my office and repeatedly told me to submit it as soon as possible.

You see, in the humanistic concept of treating talents in the two places, on the one hand, they should try their best to suppress it, and work the same way anyway, which is harmless; on the other hand, they should be used when they can be used, and if they have the conditions, the more talents, the better, and the impact of the evaluation on the unit is positive. I think this is the difference between my hometown in the mountains of Guangdong Province and the Pearl River Delta. I came to Shenzhen in response to the principle of "people move to live, trees move to die".

Now, in response to the key steps in life mentioned above. I can tell you what I think of the steps I have taken in life:

The first step, graduating from high school, returning home to work as a farmer is a helpless step, but it is also the most natural, simple and comfortable stage of my life. This period of life made me deeply realize that a person who relies on his own hands to endure hardships and stand hard work is the best advertisement recognized by society. This experience taught me to be honest, and at the same time, it also trained my indomitable will. Because of this, for many years, whenever I heard "Fathers and Fellow Folks" sung by famous singers in his early years, my tears that never flicked would burst out of my eyes.

The singer's singing voice really has the power of three days. Whenever I dream of returning to my hometown, browsing the fields and mountains where I once worked, my mind will echo her high-pitched, beautiful and gentle and sweet singing:

I was born in a small mountain village,

There are my fathers and fellow countrymen;

Little rice raised me,

Teach me to be a man in the wind and rain.

Call me by name,

Call me by my name one after another.

How much intimacy, how much love,

How many open (love, love, love) hearts.

Ah!

Ah, old folks......

In the second step, when the country resumed the college entrance examination in the autumn of 1977 and faced an opportunity for a major change in my personal life, I immediately gave up the idea that I might be taken care of in the future, seized the opportunity, and succeeded in the examination with my own knowledge accumulation, which was a proactive step. Now it seems that this step has revitalized his life. This is because studying in Guangzhou not only made me a national cadre, but also played a fundamental and crucial role in opening up the work situation for the knowledge and qualifications I gained through my studies.

In the third step, when I had not yet graduated from the Guangzhou Finance College, I was favored by the school and the Provincial People's Bank of China, and the organization repeatedly asked me to stay in Guangzhou, while I insisted on returning to my hometown, which was a stubborn and ignorant step. In fact, he is also "paying" for his immature life, lack of experience, and incomplete consideration of problems.

Fourth, from October to December 1983, when I returned to Guangzhou Financial College for further study, and after writing the lecture notes and giving a speech on "Industrial and Commercial Credit", the school was willing to spend a greater price than the transfer of the old presidents (section chiefs) in the province to move my family to Guangzhou to settle down and have already settled in the house. Considering that the unit also intended to reuse me, I wrote to the principal a month later, rejecting their kindness, which was a hot-headed step.

It is instructive for future generations that when there are multiple opportunities to favor you, you should realistically take advantage of the first opportunity. This lesson is not only taught to me, but I don't know how many people are still repeating it every day. The famous table tennis player Ma Lin defeated Waldner in his heyday in his prime, and competed with Liu Guoliang for the world championship. I still vividly remember the time when they fought for the red shirt before the game, which Marin lost and took home the "Dare to Fight" and the runner-up trophy. In the nearly ten years since, no matter how good Ma Lin's form and opportunities are, and how long she has stayed in the No. 1 position in the world, she has not been able to win the men's singles championship of the Olympic Games and the World Championships that he dreams of (Author's note: On the evening of August 23, 2008, at the gymnasium of Peking University, the men's singles final of the 29th Olympic Games was underway, and the book was being revised for the second time. A sign in the audience reads: "Marlene: You can't wait!" Ma Lin, a late bloomer, really lived up to expectations, and beat his younger teammate and last Olympic silver medalist Wang Hao with a 4:1 innings, and finally fulfilled the dream of the men's singles championship. After the victory, these tears, like spring water in the stone rock, welled up from Marlene's eyes. In the end, I finally started crying—what a man who doesn't flick when he has tears!).

Fifth, in the winter of 1991, your mother took the initiative to discuss with your aunt and uncle behind your father's back to move south to Shenzhen. On December 21 of that year, she bought a ticket and pushed me on the bus to Shenzhen for an interview, which was a crucial step for the whole family and even future generations. My impression of life in Shenzhen is that it is full of challenges, crises, excitement and hope.

Step 6, On December 11, 1993, I had just returned to the company from Yinhu after attending the municipal audit meeting, and when I learned that the assessment results of the municipal organization department had listed me as the person in charge of the proposed head office (municipal first-class enterprise) (at the department level), after soliciting the opinions of my colleagues, I decided to leave the head office and resume my old job as a loan officer from scratch (it is very interesting that I also received a phone call from Merlin Financial Services Co., Ltd. on the same day that I had been admitted). On December 16, I took advantage of the "annual leave for cadres" to start working at Merlin Financial Services Agency. On January 6, 1994, after my persuasion to the general manager, I was officially transferred out of the SAR head office as I wished. It is a commendable step for me to become a loan officer without being vain and letting go of the general manager at the department level who has the power to control people, money, materials, production, supply, and marketing, and I have done it with lightning speed.

Seventh, starting in 1996, I kept thinking about leaving the hot and sensitive post, and finally chose the opportunity to change the team in January 2000 and faded out of the Citizens Bank, which was a calm and wise step. I left the Citizens Bank five months after the Party Committee of the Citizens Bank solemnly commended me for the second time as an outstanding Communist Party member, which was a bit helpless, but it was also a wise move. Maybe people have different opinions about my departure, however, the right conclusion is: leaving is right. People can remember one thing: people need to know how to advance and retreat, and while it is gratifying to move forward, it is even more precious to retreat. When the work you are doing lacks passion and challenge, you have to think about leaving or giving up.

Private management after fading out of public office is also a process of practicing one's own enterprise management theory. Let's draw a coordinate that crosses the midpoint of the coordinate at an angle of 45 degrees below the start of the horizontal axis, which is called the input line, and 45 degrees below the start of the horizontal axis and goes up through the midpoint of the coordinate at the beginning of the horizontal axis, which is called the return line. Stretch from the midpoint to the left and right sides at equal distances and draw a vertical line at each end to form two equal triangles like dumbbells. As a pioneer of business, at the beginning of the triangle on the left, you will be worried and worried, and when you reach the intersection point, which means that the balance of investment and returns, you will be excited and excited, which is the growth period of the business. In the triangle on the right, the operator invests less and earns more, and you will say "that's it", and gradually become lazy, which is called the maturity period of the enterprise. In this case, if we do not analyze management-related issues from a forward-looking perspective and take appropriate countermeasures, the company will become negative.

There is nothing more enjoyable than a business operator's struggle between success and failure, then succeeding, swinging the balance at the break-even point and eventually flipping slowly or quickly to the side of profitability. That's why I like classics such as "On Protracted War" and the People's Liberation Army's Thousands of Miles Advancing to Dabie Mountain.

The eighth step, when the whole family has no worries about food and clothing, and then make up your mind to invest in the shop is a step to cherish your children and grandchildren and be willing to be a paving stone. For ourselves, this step is not necessarily beneficial, and it even creates unnecessary concerns about the family's daily cash flow. But with this platform, children and grandchildren will have the foundation to confidently stand on their own feet in the local society in the future.

Above, I have written some true stories of the process of telepathically realizing my wishes, which may make people feel that I am advocating the belief in the rule of inaction and the idea of destiny. On the contrary, in fact, I want to express two meanings: one is that each person should use his or her own wisdom to adapt to the social reality in which he lives and realize his or her self-worth, and the other is not to pursue wealth and money excessively, because when everyone is born, the reality and possible wealth are written on their faces, and only the question of how to get it remains. Therefore, when people's eyes are full of money, the word Venus, just like the song sung by Wang An: "Glory and wealth fly, and people in the world chase and chase ......." At this time, Mr. Cao Xueqin's "Okay Song" should be able to be taken as a calming agent:

Everyone in the world knows that the gods are good, but only money can't forget;

I only hated to gather much all my life, and when I got to it, my eyes were closed.

For a long time, I didn't think much about money, but practice has proved that when it comes to money, I can both see it and afford it. Sometimes losing money can be said to be a short-term loss and a long-term benefit. Interestingly, I'm not a big fan of money, but money hasn't completely abandoned me, and some people don't really get rich because they have their eyes fixed on money. Look at me: After leaving the township, those fathers and villagers saw that the county government raised funds and came to the door to send their hard-earned money to me and run it through me, they were relieved; when the rare earth was not allowed to be operated by individuals, the fathers and villagers in the hometown saw me, and they could send nearly 100,000 yuan of rare earth products to my house for my disposal without spending a penny or signing (at that time, my monthly salary was only about 100 yuan). In addition, whenever I open the record book when I worked at the Citizens Bank (Hubei Financial Services Society), and when I see the manuscripts of the work manuscripts of more than 400 million yuan of deposit customers, more than 200 million yuan of loan customers, and more than 70 prosecution and enforcement cases (nearly 1 billion yuan of subject matter) that I have handled, I still vividly remember the scenes of depositors, loan users, judges, and even defendants (borrowers) looking at me with respect. Before 1998, I used some of these examples to educate my subordinates. People can evaluate my personality from different angles and even say diametrically opposed opinions, but for decades, I have shown my true self with my personality and wisdom, and I have been able to stand in society and reflect my own value.

Finally, I would like to talk about "fantasy" and "utopia", which are only relevant to scientists. I also dream a lot, sometimes I dream of beautiful things, and waking up and slowly realizing my dreams can indeed be pleasant, which is not bad for me. What I'm saying is: in real life, in interpersonal interactions, when someone promises you lightly, when pie may fall from the sky, the premise is that you sign a document, write a note, or do something together. At this time, you must be brace and beware of being deceived. If you don't take care of it at this time, it may be when disaster befalls you. This is the essential difference between a person engaged in practical work and a scientist and a fantasist who has fantasies and fantasies.

I've had the experience of signing a lot, and when something went wrong a year and a half later, I regretted it, "If only I hadn't signed at that time!" You should not underestimate what you write, what you say, or what you do, but you should ask others more and think calmly before doing it, so as not to regret it later. In order to deepen your impression, I would like to quote the case of "Betting" in CCTV's "Economy and Law" column on October 8, 2005 for your reference. The synopsis is: The protagonists: Mao and Yang in Henan Province. Mao suspected that 9 of the 79 ××× yuan in the bill written by Yang were changed after the fact. Yang felt it was a sign of damage to his reputation and morals. Later, under the witness of the police, Mao signed a "betting agreement" in laughter: if the 9 words are true, Mao will compensate Yang for 50,000 yuan for reputation damage, and otherwise, Yang will compensate 50,000 yuan to Mao. Since then, the two sides have been tossed several times from the county to the province, and the public security certification authority has confirmed that the 9 characters are true. Because Mao did not admit his mistake, Yang sued the county court, and the county court determined that the transaction between the buyer and the seller was creditworthy, and ruled in favor of Yang. Mao was dissatisfied and appealed to the Intermediate People's Court, which held that the agreement with gambling as the subject matter violated national laws and social moral norms and was an invalid contract. At this time, Yang was not satisfied and protested to the Provincial People's Procuratorate. The final result was that the Provincial People's Court held that the contract was valid and should be upheld. Under the auspices of the court, the two parties reached mediation: Mao compensated Yang with 10,000 yuan.

I think that Mr. Mao's problem was caused by him when he signed his name in laughter.

In the several units I have worked for, the leaders of the units have entrusted me with more sensitive tasks, such as managing money, printing, expenses, and material distribution, so I am often on the cusp. Some people would like me to use more money and goods from the public for different purposes. For example, from 1987 to the end of 1991, the ×× Economic Information Consulting Branch of a state-owned bank of which I was the legal representative (manager) accumulated a manager fund of more than 60,000 yuan. But I was unmoved, and when I left my job, I returned to the bank in good condition. When I worked in the Shenzhen Special Economic Zone Headquarters, I held three positions almost at the same time: Minister of Enterprise Management, Minister of Audit, and Minister of Industrial Development. They also want me to pay more myself, but I never take advantage of it. After working in a bank (including Hubei Financial Services Society), due to the unit's reliance on me, the leaders often took the initiative to ask me to reimburse various expenses, and I was still very cautious to do what I should be reimbursed. I have worked in the financial system in Shenzhen for six years, and I have accumulated 37,000 yuan in unreimbursed invoices. Some people may say, "How stupid this is, you should regret it." "However, whenever I see the disappointed eyes of some ill-intentioned auditors after checking the accounts I handle; whenever I see the municipal government entrusting the Municipal Audit Bureau to audit and the Citizens Bank after repeated audits, it has been confirmed many times that the internal and external accounts, large and small accounts I handle, and have passed the screening; whenever I think of the scenes when several of my leaders were reluctant to sign my opinion after seeing that I had signed the expense bill or even the loan approval form; whenever I remembered that the Party Committee of the Citizens Bank had the courage to sign and agree with my opinion. In 1996-1997 (the year after I took over the financial services agency), I had the courage to commend me as one of the 10 "outstanding party members" in the citizen banking system who had been working in a sensitive position for a long time (which is rare in the citizen bank), and I felt that these were the rewards of my honest life.

To tell the truth, I have also had the experience of floating on the shore of the sea like a swaying boat; I have also experienced the danger of being picked up and dropped off by people in a car with a tape recorder for more than 10 days, and later listened to their boring recordings; I have also seen with my own eyes that the person in charge of the deposit customers and some familiar financial colleagues who we had worked so hard to develop in those years spent their lives chatting within the high walls; and I also participated in the "visit to the Shenzhen Detention Center" organized by the bank twice activity, I heard a regular roar of "good chief" from the prison number. I feel confident and calm about all of this. This is just a testament to the limerick poem I wrote when I was 18 years old as a primary school teacher teaching students to write poetry:

If you eat salted fish, your mouth will be fishy, and if you steal something, you will be shocked;

People are not afraid of crooked shadows, and they dare to hum loudly when they sing.

"Be cautious about making friends, keep the alarm bell ringing" -- this is the epigram I wrote in April 1994 in my address book and felt the feeling of a person named Yu Sen who had given the first pot of gold support to his career. This man built a commercial plaza in the name of Yusen Real Estate Company, but because of his hypocrisy and treachery, he was willing to be used as a tool for his greater good. It was precisely because of his unscrupulousness that the person who helped him start his business almost fell on his heels.

Now it seems that it is because I have always maintained this unique calmness that I have been able to escape from the big dye vat of the complicated world of money.

It is said that there was an entrepreneur who started during the overlapping and replacement of the two systems in the early days of reform and opening up to the mouth of the Pearl River by boat, and when he saw the confluence of the river and the sea, his eyes glowed blue for a while, and then he was confused, and he only heard him mutter: "The place where the most fish eat, the place where the most fish, and the place where the fish are the freeest...... "Yes, fish food, bait, fresh water, saltwater, fish and fishermen, boats and seas, risks and opportunities complement each other and are relatively mutually reinforcing. Corresponding to this is the cycle between cicadas and praying mantises, yellow finches and hunters.

Keep your feet on the ground and lose your illusions – children and grandchildren should remember.

Recently, I read Mr. Zhu Ziqing's article "Back" with a lot of emotion. In the article, Mr. Zhu said that when he was 20 years old, his family encountered great changes, and his father not only sold and pawned the family property in order to provide him with his education, but also went out with him because he was worried that he might get lost when he went to Beijing to study. He recalled seeing his father's busy back at that time, and wrote an article fondly about his father.

Coincidentally, when I was 21 years old, I went to Guangzhou to study, and it was my father who personally sent me to Guangdong Finance College for a month's salary.

The night before I left Guangzhou, my father and I went to Guangzhou with me to study and Huang Yongshou came to watch a movie at the county Martyrs' Pavilion (when the county cinema was demolished). That night, I was very anxious and had been thinking about how to get to Guangzhou, and it was difficult to sleep all night. At four o'clock the next morning, we got up, my father let me eat the stewed stone pillar ginseng, and the three of us traveled to the county bus station and got on the bus bound for Guangzhou. Along the way, every time I passed through a county, I looked at the Guangzhou brand watch that I had just bought yesterday after spending a year's labor remuneration of 110 yuan, and I wanted to remember the time.

We arrived in Guangzhou at about 7 o'clock in the evening, and my father took us to the No. 5 bus in Guangzhou very familiarly. In the car, my father watched from station to station, for fear of missing the road. When we arrived at Yide Road Station, my father said, "It's here!" and the three of us got off the bus.

After getting out of the car, my father looked at his surroundings and said, "No, there is still some way to go." ”

I was so angry that I lost my temper and kept talking.

My father didn't say much, and led us down another street to the gate of the People's Bank of Guangdong Province.

The next day, he took us to Beijing Road to find a fellow villager, Chen Youwenbo, to have lunch at his place, and told us that in the future, when there was nowhere to go on Sundays, we could buy some roast pork and add vegetables to his house. Then, he led me to meet Principal Xiao Qinhua and Teacher Li Dan'er, whom he knew.

When he had finished telling me, he took out a shaver and sewing kit from his bag and gave it to me, and said, "Don't underestimate these things, they can be used!"

Then, he was relieved to go back.

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In the album in honor of your grandfather, there is a picture of him taken from Haizhu Square in Guangzhou. You see: The grandfather in the photo is standing on the side of the Haizhu Bridge, how energetic! With a high chest and eyes, he crossed the Pearl River and looked directly at the south of the Yangtze River with his eyes connected with the Haizhu Bridge, and he seemed to have all kinds of ambitions in his heart.

This photo was taken by my classmate Chen Jiansheng on July 16, 1979, when my grandfather and Uncle Wu Changkuan were on a business trip to Guangzhou in my second year of study in Guangzhou. Grandpa died at midnight on August 26, 1987 (with a smile still on his face two hours after his death). At this time, it was less than ten years since he sent me to Guangzhou to study and take this photo - I really sigh that life is too short, which can be called a moment in history!

From Zhu Ziqing's father, my father, your grandfather, and your father, I (admittedly, as far as I am concerned, not only in the article), you may be able to comprehend: Fathers in the world are full of love for their children! It is true that sometimes this kind of love is rigid, and sometimes it may even be difficult for children to accept, but who makes the world's fathers all men?

In our country, there was a man named Mr. Xuehai who was quite accomplished in Buddhism, and later changed his name to "Lifan", and when he was sixty-nine years old, he wrote "The Four Teachings of Lifan" to his son Tianqi, who was happy after doing 3,000 good deeds at the beginning of his heart. The book says, "...... That is to say, those who should be glorious and prominent in their mission should always think of being cold and lonely; even if the times are prosperous and smooth, they should always think of adversity; even if they have abundant food and clothing, they should always think of poverty; even if others respect me, we must always think of humility and not pride; even if they are of high rank and fame, we must always think of humility and lowliness; and even if they are very good in learning, we must always think of shallowness. In the long run, we should carry forward the virtues of our ancestors, and in the near term, we should make up for the mistakes of our parents, repay the favor of the state, create family happiness for our subordinates, relieve the difficulties of others externally, and restrain our own selfish thoughts internally. Every day, we must check our own mistakes and change our ways. ……”。

I think that Mr. Fan's admonition to his son, Zhu Ziqing's commemoration of seeing his father's hunched back when he sent him to Beijing, and your grandfather's willingness to accept whatever I muttered when he sent me to Guangzhou to study, are actually similarities and completely express the selfless and infinite expectations of the previous generation for future generations. Later generations may have tears of sorrow in their hearts, or regret that they regretted not being the first time for their elders, or they may be excited and energetic. However, what you should do more is to keep in mind the earnest teachings of your ancestors, and be consistent and practice them. If this is the case, when the descendants set candles and burn incense to pray for their ancestors, and enter the realm of "family sacrifice without forgetting to tell Naion", the ancestors in heaven will be overjoyed and will all be good!

I've been writing this article for quite some time, and it's been a year since I started writing about it. To be honest, at this point in the article, I felt a rare lightness and happiness from my heart, which was better than what I felt after publishing a paper. Today coincides with the forty-eighth spring and autumn period I spent in the world, so I will write a poem as a commemoration:

The forty-eighth birthday passed quietly

May 21, 2005, the 14th day of April in the lunar calendar, Xiaoman. Yu's forty-eighth birthday. The mother is in her hometown, her wife is away, her son is in the factory, and she is at home. Then he made seven unique two pleasant songs. The eight characters of this person's birthday are: Year Pillar Ding You, Moon Pillar Yisi, Day Pillar Yi You, Time Pillar Jia Shen.

One

The birthday of the sixth and eighth is full of wishes, and the hope of the children and grandchildren is endless;

Looking back on life, there are more emotions, and there are fewer waves in the journey!

Second

The warbler in the garden cries to add a good dream, and the cuckoo sways in front of the court;

The Qi family consolidates the foundation and cultivates the mind, and understands life and talks eloquently.

However, my article is not quite the same as my previous papers, and the objective effect is that it is easy to read, good-looking, and difficult to understand. According to my analysis, people who have read this article will generally form no less than three representative different views. At the same time, I can also imagine that you may not fully understand what I have written. I estimate that when you can fully appreciate your father's painstaking efforts in terms of his parents' writing ideas, synopses, dictionaries and summing up life experiences, perhaps your children have reached the cardamom years. It doesn't matter, you can read my article to them, and if they can read it catchily, their grandfather will be very pleased. On that day, you may be able to think that you have completed the task given to you by your fathers.

What I want to emphasize is that when a descendant can really understand this article, as long as he is in China, he can look at the sea and shout to the east on the coastline of any place along the coast of the motherland: "Grandpa! I can read your article!" Perhaps, after a few generations, if a descendant really understands the samadhi in the text, he should still shout to the sea: "Ancestor! I am practicing your teachings!"

At that time, when you saw the surging waves crashing against the shores of the motherland without ceasing, and let out a roar of tightness, it was my praise for these descendants.

Xia started with brilliance and continues to create brilliance.

History has proven the past, and I have no doubt about the future.

At this point in the article, I seem to be unsatisfied, so I borrow the rhyme of a famous modern Chinese poet and learn to hum two modern poems as the conclusion of this article:

Are you ready?

- Written on 4 October 2005

Descendants!

You're as bad as I am:

They all grew up nestled in the hot chest of the motherland.

On the road to growth,

You have no shortage of sunshine, rain and flowers.

It's a dazzling world!

Intricate mountain trails are waiting for you to climb.

People say:

I was born to be useful!

Here's what I'm asking you:

When the motherland needs you,

Are you ready?

Friends!

You're as bad as I am:

All were both fortunate and unfortunate to sit on:

The train of the era of global integration and informatization.

In the train where challenges and opportunities coexist,

In the face of difficulties,

The winners melt with the blood and sweat of the losers.

People say:

Dare to fight hard to succeed.

Here's what I'm asking you:

In the face of difficulties and challenges,

Are you ready?

In the summer, I finished writing "Father's Advice", saved the disk, and turned off the computer. Then, taking a deep breath, I slowly spit it out of my mouth again.

At this time, he felt that the most important thing of his life had been done. It is true that there is a lot of fierce language in the text, but it is also a portrayal of one's own straightforward expression, and there is no need to be cowardly. Thinking of this, his mood was very relaxed, and he recited Liu Kezhuang's words in the Song Dynasty "A Cut Plum Yu Goes to Guangdong, and the Night of Reality is Eaten in the Wind Pavilion":

Drinking hot ears,

Knock down the adjacent wall and knock down the Hu bed.

Watching the clapping and laughing frenzy,

What's the matter with being sparse, what's wrong with being crazy.

Then, he recited words in his mouth, and sang the four lines of the famous Qing Dynasty poet Gong Zizhen's "Poem End of the Red Zen Room":

It's not gratuitous grief and resentment, and the experience is written as a groan;

may be 100,000 pearl words, buy all the hearts of thousands of children.

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