This question, in fact, Yan Rushun has repeatedly asked himself for a long time.

Her experience in the education field is not long, but it is relatively rich, and it can be said that she has observed a longitudinal section of society, which can be regarded as well-informed and insightful.

Needless to say, the children who are enrolled in school normally, and the minority who dare to find another way have more or less the following characteristics:

First, they have their own set of ideas about education. This kind of thinking is not only the disappointment and criticism of education in the system by ordinary people, but also a set of ways and methods that they think are more promising and hopeful, such as school education, homeschooling, or a clear promotion and development path in art and sports or other majors.

Second, families have the confidence to let their children try. The most typical is the second-generation family, for example: the rich second generation is not afraid of the failure of the experiment, anyway, they have a backup plan, the big deal is to hire a private tutor to surprise teaching at home, and finally go abroad to gild; If the new path works, you will go, and if it doesn't work, you will take the road paved by your parents, so you don't panic at all.

Of course, there are also people who do not have such a strong confidence, but they have strong self-confidence in themselves and have the courage to take their children to break through the sword gate of the education world.

She also thought about her own situation: she had the idea that she had it. The family has barely the foundation, but the situation is relatively embarrassing - in terms of their family's family assets, they are definitely not the second generation of rich. And the second generation of science is definitely the highest difficulty level among all the second generations, and any other second generation can enjoy or take over the network resources of the father's generation to some extent, but the second generation of science cannot, because you can't rely on network resources alone to engage in scientific research, you have to stand up first, otherwise no matter how much "0" you have, it is also a word: get out!

So, the more she knew, the more cautious she became.

The advantages of "homeschooling" are obvious, and she has also practiced homeschooling to a certain extent, and Jian Jian can have a certain reading ability at this age, which can be regarded as a landmark achievement.

However, education is a marathon, and you can't be complacent just because you lead it early.

She spent three years studying in the "homeschooling" group and met all kinds of families.

There are those who come out to homeschool halfway, but find that the results are not good and return to school; there are those who think clearly about what to do at the beginning, and they persist very well, and they have gone smoothly until today; there are those who stumble but feel that the results are better than those in school; there are those who plan which stage of homeschooling and which stage to return to school to participate in the high school entrance examination or college entrance examination; there are also those who rush in headlong and find that the situation is different from what they think, and constantly adjust and change their plans, and they don't know if they can find a way out......

In short, the atmosphere in the group is open-minded, everyone often speaks freely, learns from each other, and sometimes argues to the core...... It has a bit of the Peking University flavor of "free thinking and inclusiveness" in the Cai Yuanpei era.

In these daily discussions, Yan Rushun roughly understood why everyone embarked on this path, what their goals were, how they were going to go, where they went, what the effect was, and so on.

And looking at the people coming and going, in the end, everyone has to return to one basic question: parents are 100% responsible for their children's education, and can you afford it?

Dig a little deeper and ask: If you fail, can you afford the consequences?

Most families answered no, which is the main reason why most students go to school, leaving teachers with most of the responsibility for education, and why most of the students who go off the beaten path are second-generation.

In fact, Yan Rushun can't confidently answer the above questions.

However, she has one of the biggest advantages, and that is - Jian Jian is still young now.

According to the education in the system, the normal age of enlightenment is 6-7 years old, and Jian Jian is only a little more than 3 years old. Before elementary school, she could be confident and bold to try to cross the river by feeling the stones.

Of course, success is good, and failure is not afraid.

Therefore, she has full confidence to stand in front of both parents and fight for this opportunity with them: "First of all, I want to say that kindergarten has never existed!

"It has only been a little over 200 years since the British utopian educator Owen founded the first 'New Lanark Nursery School' in 1816. In China's recorded history of 5,000 years, the vast majority of people have not received kindergarten education, and they have laid the foundation in family education and finally successfully entered the society. So, not going to kindergarten is not as important as you think. ”

The opening statement worked well, and the whole family fell silent and listened with their brows on their faces.

For a moment, Yan Rushun almost thought that he was back in H Communication, carrying out his daily PPT work report.

Even though it was three years ago, the confident and calm professional woman didn't seem to walk away from her.

She was suddenly very glad that even after full-time, she did not lose her life goal, and she did not have a day of monks hitting the clock, so she still retained that upright spirit.

For a while, her confidence doubled, her back straightened, and her aura was more sufficient: "Let's analyze the function of kindergarten in modern society: the first is childcare, so that parents can go to work without worries, so when I was a child, many kindergartens were called nurseries;

Therefore, objectively speaking, kindergarten is indispensable for dual-income families, and it is also necessary for families who cannot complete even the minimum standard of living habits and social etiquette education, but not necessarily for our family. ”

The phone vibrated a few times, Xin Weiyang opened it and looked at it, hung up quietly, and continued to look at his wife with appreciative eyes.

Yan Rushun noticed his movements, paused, and then continued: "My working hours are free, our family's economic foundation is sufficient, and I also have knowledge and practical experience above the average standard in preschool education, so we should consider this question from the perspective of being more conducive to children's development: can the kindergarten meet more than eighty percent of our needs?"

"I think the answer is no! The kindergarten only provides a 60-point pre-school education, and we are asking for an 80-90 level of education. And this requirement, 10,000 yuan a year of kindergartens can not be reached, 50,000 yuan a year of kindergartens can not be reached, as far as I know, a year of less than 100,000 yuan of kindergartens can not be reached. ”

Xin Weiyang's phone vibrated again, but he still ignored it.

Yan Rushun knew that he was trying not to interrupt himself, so as not to weaken the persuasive effect, so he couldn't help but speed up his speech: "I haven't seen more than 100,000, so I don't know - but, so many years of research on early education have shown that no matter how expensive early education is, it can't withstand the company of parents." Not to mention, I also develop the content and method of education specifically for Jane's personality traits and interests.

"So, I ask you: What reason do we have to think that the effect of homeschooling will not be as effective as the passing level of education in kindergarten?"

The two fathers and mothers looked at each other, some speechless.

Yan Rushun took the opportunity to conclude strongly: "I myself am confident in home education, because I am not just talking on paper, and my efforts in the past three years should be said to be effective." Take 10,000 steps back and say, even if the final effect does not meet the ideal expectations, I think the effect is better than that of kindergarten education, isn't it?"

No one answered, only Xin Weiyang's phone vibrate.

This time, Xin's mother finally noticed: "If you have something to do, you can be busy, let's just talk about it here." ”

How can this kind of thing be casual?

They are now standing at a crossroads, making important life choices for Jane.

Xin Weiyang waved his hand and said, "It's nothing important, I'll come back later." ”

After that, he raised his voice again: "I agree with Shun Shun's opinion. Personally, I believe that for children, knowledge is very important, and life accumulation is also important, which may not necessarily show up in learning, but will have a great impact on the whole life. When Shun Shun takes Jian Jian to experience in science and technology museums, art exhibitions, and concerts, and when she takes Jian Jian to walk in the journey of the four seasons, the poems and distant things that Jian Jian feels will enrich her life. I think it's more meaningful than life in kindergarten. ”

The four old men exchanged glances, as if encouraging each other to come forward.

In the end, Yan's father spoke up: "At this stage, you can be a teacher for Jian Jian at home, but what about the future? Now that elementary school students can stump university professors with math problems, what confidence do you have that you can continue to tutor?"

As an older generation, he subconsciously feels that "if you learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, you will not be afraid to go all over the world", but he has little confidence in his daughter, who is blind in science and wants to eat crabs.

"I didn't say I wanted to tutor all the time, and I didn't have to. Because in the future, I will teach her to continue learning in a self-taught way. Yan Rushun replied without hesitation, "And what we are currently discussing is only the period of preschool education." At present, only about 50% of children in China are enrolled in kindergarten, and kindergarten is not compulsory, so before primary school, Jian Jian can not give it a try - I will definitely not force her, so at least the result will not be bad. So, what can we not afford to gamble on?"

After a pause, she added: "As for whether you will continue to stay at home after primary school, it depends on the learning effect of these three years." Personally, I prefer to spend half of my time at school and half of my time at home. Of course, even if she continues to be at home, her teacher will not be me, but the online school online class of the Internet. After a pause, he added, "It's not good, and her father is still here." ”

Speaking of this, the little two looked at each other and showed a knowing smile at the same time.

The question has been explained so thoroughly, the old man should not have any objections, right?

However, this time, Yan's mother, who rarely spoke, aggressively threw out a fatal question: "Are you going to spend the rest of your life on Jian Jian?