Yan Rushun opened her mouth and didn't make a sound.

She was stunned by the opening statement.

80% conformity?

Let's not talk about whether this is a confession or a topic discussion, just say that he is a big professor of the "Thousand Talents Program", who is busy with major scientific research and college affairs every day, and can still find time to do a social research that sounds very unreliable for her......

I have to say that this incident is really impactful.

Yan Rushun hesitated for a moment and decided to listen to how the Thousand Professors studied this issue first.

She bowed her head: "Okay, please." ”

Xin Weiyang unconsciously took out the posture of lecturing in class, and said in a deep voice: "I browsed several well-known forums for mothers in China, and made an incomplete statistics on the topics of mothers, and found that the topics around children basically reflect two categories of demands: the first is the exploration of parenting knowledge and skills, and the second is the pursuit of parenting resources.

"During pregnancy and infancy, the first type of appeal occupies a dominant position, and as the child grows older, the second type of appeal gradually increases, and the proportion can basically reach 60%-80% by the school age.

"Further analysis, during the pregnancy and infancy period, mothers mainly pay attention to the physical growth and health of their children, and this largely depends on the judgment and suggestions of professional or semi-professional professionals such as medical staff, confinement sisters, and childcare sisters.

"So, in my shallow understanding: whether it is raising or education, first, first of all, each family's competition for resources; second, the competition around resources, especially cutting-edge, high-quality resources, will only become more fierce in the future, not the other way around; third, one of the core competitiveness of family education is how parents make reasonable use of various resources.

"If you, as a future mother, can basically recognize the demands of today's mothers, then can I understand that one of the most important abilities to be a father of children who meets your requirements is to seek or provide sufficient parenting resources?"

Xin Weiyang became more and more fluent and confident.

Yan Rushun was dumbfounded:

Before that, she thought that the most important thing to raise and educate children was patience and love, and then she worked hard to learn all kinds of educational knowledge and skills, and even sought an alternative to the child's father who could meet the first type of demands. And now that he analyzed it, she suddenly felt as if she had indeed ignored the important second type of demand.

Not to mention anything else, at least as the doctor's daughter, she knows very well: pregnant mothers and mothers during pregnancy and infancy are basically frequent visitors to the hospital. Even if there is a family doctor like my mother, many times there is a lack of hospital equipment and equipment, and my mother is also a clever woman who has no rice to cook.

The tight index of resources such as good hospitals and good doctors in China, and the unreliable index of hospitals and doctors like Putian, are all well-known to be high.

Resources are really at stake.

It's just that many times, when it's not time to use it, many people can't think of it at all.

Unexpectedly, she, a self-proclaimed EQ master, did not expect this layer, but Xin Weiyang, an EQ defect, revealed this truth to her through scientific research.

Admittedly, she was already captivated by his powerful analytical reasoning.

She also guessed what he wanted to talk about next, but because of this, especially the strong confidence that still sparked between his eyebrows, she became more and more curious: what kind of parenting resources could he, a professor of communication technology, seek or provide?

She decided to embarrass him: "I think you still have some truth, but, like you said, for example, when the mother and child need to go to the hospital or something during pregnancy and infancy, do you still have any way?"

D University is an electronic technology university, and it is not at all connected with the hospital. Judging from the situation during the Chinese New Year, the Xin family has no relatives who work in hospitals or related institutions.

He's just lifting a stone and shooting himself in the foot!

Who knows, Xin Weiyang nodded calmly: "It can be said that the provincial hospital is an affiliated hospital of D University, and the faculty and staff of D University enjoy the same treatment as the staff in the hospital in the provincial hospital, including registration priority, employee discounts, etc., I think this should be regarded as a high-quality resource." ”

Of course, the provincial hospital is undoubtedly a high-quality resource.

But something is wrong!

Yan Rushun subconsciously raised his hand, like a student in class: "Wait, why haven't I heard that the provincial hospital is an affiliated hospital of your D University?"

She's a native, isn't that an international joke?

Xin Weiyang explained: "It's normal that you haven't heard of it, and the provincial hospital only put out a D big sign last month, maybe most people didn't pay attention to it." ”

Really?

As if he had guessed her suspicions, he added, "You can find out if you look it up on the Internet." ”

She was not polite, and immediately took out her mobile phone and opened a check.

Soon, she showed a ghostly expression: Damn, it's really!

Xin Weiyang saw that she had nothing to say, and continued to say herself: "Of course, Aunt Ning herself also has the resources of the hospital, maybe you don't particularly value the resources of the provincial hospital. So, I took a closer look at parenting resources.

"This is roughly divided into three parts: the first part is money, as small as you have to buy milk powder for your child, pay for various training courses, as big as you want to be a stay-at-home mother, or even buy a house in the school district, etc., all of which add up to a lot of expenses. Based on the descriptions of mothers on the forum, I calculated that by the time of primary school, different families could pay anywhere from 300,000 to millions for their children.

"I also inquired with a colleague who has children at school, and now it seems that in this city, a family spends 200,000 to 400,000 yuan a year for the upbringing of children, which is still acceptable.

"I think I can afford it. I don't know if you think it's enough?"

Click! Yan Rushun seemed to hear the sound of his jaw falling to the ground.

200,000 to 400,000 per year?

OMG, isn't this just passable?

The cost of the Children's King Early Education Center was twenty or thirty thousand yuan a year, and she felt that it was quite high at that time. The cost of kindergarten is rising year by year, and the private kindergarten that the news said costs 70,000 or 80,000 yuan a year, and she was surprised.

Xin Weiyang's budget is actually 200,000 to 400,000 per year?

She felt that the three views were about to be shattered.

"Excuse me, how did you spend 200,000 to 400,000 yuan?" she humbly asked for advice—a number that could not allow her to be humble.

Xin Weiyang thought for a while: "I didn't ask too much detail, my colleague probably mentioned it, there are such things as international schools, English private tutors, etc., if you want to know more detailed content, I can ask again." ”

"No, no, no. She hurriedly waved her hand, "Actually, I don't think some projects have to be done, and some things don't necessarily cost that much money, right?"

"Yes. However, if you have a sufficient budget, you should be a little more relaxed. ”

Yan Rushun's expression was disillusioned: "Huh...... You're right. ”

After being affirmed, Xin Weiyang made persistent efforts: "Then let's talk about the second part - admission resources." ”

Every school season, every word of the news smells of bloody fighting.

Everyone on the earth knows that the weight of this part is quite heavy, and Yan Rushun put his ears up pointy, lest he lose half a word.

"School resources are very important for families with children, because unlike some other things, which can be bought for money, and in fact I know a lot of rich people are struggling with their children's schooling," Xin said. And in this regard, I have at least two major strengths. ”

Or are there two major advantages?

Did she underestimate him too much before?

"First, D University has affiliated kindergartens, elementary schools, junior high schools and high schools, and the children of teachers and staff can go all the way up without queuing up in the lottery. ”

Yan Rushun's eyes suddenly flashed with golden light: "Until the university?"

Xin Weiyang cleared his throat: "This ...... No. The college entrance examination has to rely on ability. ”

Okay, it's a little worse, but it's pretty good. The affiliated schools of D University are among the top schools in the city.

"Second, the city's talent policy, the children of outstanding talents can choose any school within the city. I'm also among the best of the best, so that's an advantage, right?"

Yan Rushun gasped: "Can you choose any school?"

These schools are all well-known in the country, and it is said that the acceptance rate of non-lottery places is several thousand to one every year.

Ouch mom, this one is awesome.

"That's how it should be according to policy, yes. Xin Weiyang hesitated, "If you are not sure, you can check it on the Internet." Qingqing told me that this is a document and should be able to be found. ”

"No need to look it up, I trust you. "Qingqing shouldn't tell lies about this kind of thing.

Yan Rushun made a fan with his hand and shook it vigorously.

It's cold and rainy outside, why does she feel hot all over her body inexplicably?

It's like I've been beaten with chicken blood, and I'm a little excited.

Xin Weiyang asked thoughtfully: "Do you want to turn on the air conditioner?"

"No, no," she waved her hand, straightened her spine, and leaned forward slightly unconsciously, "Well, you go on, I'll listen." ”

Xin Weiyang cleared his throat: "The third part, which I call a special resource, in addition to information and interpersonal relationships, there are also the ability advantages of the parents themselves. Information and interpersonal relationships, because I didn't pay special attention, I don't have a clue for the time being, but I still feel that I still have some ability advantages that I can give my children some help in the future. For example, I have more experience in teaching mathematics, physics and chemistry......"

Yan Rushun burst into tears in her heart: My weakness, my weakness!

"Another example: if my child is interested in IT, communication and other majors in the future, I can provide him with a platform to accumulate qualifications at a very early stage, such as internship experience in a state key laboratory - you know, if you want to apply to study abroad, this kind of experience will add a lot of points. I guess that kind of help is more meaningful. ”

Yan Rushun shook her head in confusion: she didn't know, she had never considered studying abroad, she was purely a turtle.

Well, even if it is a turtle, she knows how good the internship experience of the State Key Laboratory is.

If this internship experience is the resume of the child's high school, no, junior high school or even elementary school, how many peers can fight it?

No matter what the child's real achievements are, at least putting them out can calm a large number of people.

Just like Li Tianyi, no matter what his character is, whether he has real skills or not, that resume can really brighten the eyes of a blind titanium alloy dog! The parents of those children who despise Li Tianyi are actually still envious, jealous and hateful.

Damn, I didn't expect the professor to have so much capital to fight for his child's father.

Yan Rushun, who is a child madman, suddenly had the urge to immediately carry Xin Weiyang to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate, and then give birth to a baby to cultivate well.

Wait!Take a deep breath and calm down!

Although she really wanted to find a good father for her children, she couldn't hear any benefits, so she immediately jumped into it with enthusiasm.

Think about being a mother, think about a nanny-style wife, think about widowed parenting, think about widowhood marriage, the pit below is not small.

Raising a child is not just about resources.

Eating, drinking, and Lazar are things everywhere, and people must do them. She wasn't sure what she could do if she didn't have anyone to share.

Also, those mothers who are so angry with their children's homework that they are hospitalized with heart disease are not caused by their father's abandonment and too much mental pressure alone?

Moreover, because of the different parenting concepts, there are many divorces between the two couples. Although Xin Weiyang's description is full of flowers, if he can't keep the same opinion with her when it comes to children, won't her parenting ideals also fail?

Yan Rushun closed her eyes and didn't speak, a little indifferent, but her heart was like a branch in a storm, swaying, almost crazy.

God, why did you suddenly smash such a difficult choice on my head?

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