With the development of the domestic economy, people's lives have changed a lot!

The first is that the income gap between people is getting wider and wider. Before the reform and opening up, everyone was not rich, and the income gap between the average person was not large, and the gap between the rich and the poor was nothing more than a fraction of the gap. However, with the reform and opening up of the country, the income gap is getting wider and wider, especially in the cities, several times, dozens of times, and even hundreds of times. So some people proudly shouted a slogan, "If there is a problem that money can't solve, it only means that you don't have enough money!"

On the other hand, there are many people who are struggling to make ends meet. Pray that you will never lose your job, that is the most fundamental source of income for your family; don't get sick, even a minor illness will reduce your income, and a major illness may drag down the whole family, and even the whole family's economy; some people say, "Then why don't you pay for insurance?", this kind of saying is like "why don't you eat meat moose?", an ordinary working boy, in addition to supporting his family, the little money left is not enough to pay insurance! Even if it was sufficient, in that era, it was necessary to have a hukou to pay insurance, and it was not something that you could pay if you wanted to! Moreover, the reimbursement for medical treatment also depended on the hukou! How many migrant workers had a local hukou? Not to mention that at that time, medical insurance was not universal throughout the country......

Don't complain about people's regional discrimination, that's because the state stipulates many regional differences in treatment, and don't complain about why local parents there are unwilling to let their children marry foreign daughters-in-law or foreign sons-in-law, because they have too many concerns, which is reasonable!

And divorced men and women are also excluded from consideration by many people, and it makes perfect sense, and not just because they have a piece of paper.

Why is it difficult for a divorced woman to remarry?

Objective reasons: divorced women are generally older, and childbirth has certain requirements for the age of women, and men have concerns when choosing such women; in addition, men generally like younger, simpler women, which is almost a biological instinct to think about future generations. Due to the different social roles and cultures, it is difficult for women to understand the complex psychology of men.

Many divorced women are divorced because of their own character defects. Men tend to see character flaws and give up when they associate with such women. Generally speaking, the personality of this type of woman has different degrees of irritability, arrogance, vanity, jealousy, intolerance, miserliness, willfulness, selfishness, laziness, indulgence, lack of hygiene, disrespect for in-laws, naivety, lack of self-motivation, hedonism, low taste, economic or emotional dependence and inability to stand on their own.

Divorced women are often tormented and devastated physically and mentally, causing men to have concerns when choosing these women, worried that it will be detrimental to childbearing.

If a divorced woman has children, it will reduce some men's choices and increase men's concerns. Worried that she is unwilling to have another child, worried that the family expenses are too large, and worried that she will continue to cling to her ex-husband.

Judging from the subjective reasons of the woman, a divorced woman is "once bitten by a snake and afraid of the well rope for ten years", and she is too wary of men and no longer has a sense of security! Generally, it is difficult to trust men anymore and to accept new men. And men are also afraid of being repeatedly considered by such a woman and fight a protracted battle - it is better to find a simpler unmarried woman!

Because I have invested in real feelings, I often can't get out of the shadow of my old marriage, and there are psychological and physical obstacles to remarriage, and it is difficult to accept a new man. The more you invest, the stronger the effect.

Divorced women are looking for a man who is easy to compare repeatedly with their ex-husbands, afraid of losses, and even secretly vow to find someone who is "stronger" than their ex-husband. In this way, I limit my thinking, and it is easy to cut my feet and try on shoes, and I am in a hurry to get results. Let go of the man who is really suitable for herself, and the man she likes may not like her.

Some divorced women are too self-conscious, only consider their own feelings, once they find a man who meets their requirements and desires, they are full of enthusiasm, ignoring the real feelings of the newly selected man, and hurriedly investing when the other party has not fully accepted her psychologically, and acting too active and eager, the result is counterproductive, either scaring the man away, or even if the weaker man is "forced" to marry, he is unwilling to resent the woman, burying hidden dangers for future married life.

Women's compensation psychology: because of divorce, they feel that they "suffer" too much, and they don't believe that there is true love in the world when they remarry, so they ignore the existence of love, and lack of communication with men in terms of feelings, personality, hobbies, tastes, and habits, so they pay too much attention to material and hardware things to "compensate" themselves. As a result, because of the small loss, the loss of one and the other, without the nourishment of love in the new marriage, naturally I will not feel happy. When men come into contact with such women, they are wary, and they will despise, dislike, and resist such women. Some people say: The first marriage depends on feelings, and the remarriage depends on reason, and reason is difficult to find a perfect marriage. Love needs passion, too rational will naturally not taste the taste of passion, the kind of repeated picking, weighing and calculating, is the biggest killer of love and marriage. This is a paradox.

There is also a category of women who choose to divorce because they pursue perfection too much and lack the ability to tolerate, so they still seek perfection and blame when choosing a newcomer, and it is difficult to accept men. Or too independent and unwilling to accept a man who is so different from himself. They only consider remarrying because of temporary loneliness or pressure from their families. This kind of woman "loves" herself too much, they will not and are not willing to spend time to run the "two-person world", it is not suitable for marriage and remarriage at all, or to remain single and celibate, it is more beneficial to others and themselves, which is the best choice.

A small number of men can remarry quickly after divorce, but there are more men who will not choose to remarry, and the most important factor affecting it is economic reasons!

As the income gap widens, many reasons for divorce are chosen by the wife, and the most common reason is that the man is not motivated, and to put it bluntly, the income cannot meet her requirements.

And this is also the biggest obstacle to their remarriage in the future!

There are those who have been divorced, and there are those who have remarried. There are those who have been very happy, and there are those who have not been happy. In fact, divorce is also very good, after all, whether a happy marriage is a very personal spiritual experience. Whether unmarried, married, divorced, remarried, remarried, or single, it is just a way to live, and as society becomes more and more open, how to live is completely an individual's own feelings and choices, which is a very natural and normal phenomenon.

Fortunately, Guo Yi's eldest brother at least does not have this problem, not only that he kept the house when he divorced, because it was purchased by his parents, although he has a daughter, but he at least has a degree and a stable job with a relatively high income, so it is still very popular among the blind date crowd in the park, and there are even many women who are unmarried local girls.

Zhao Hong and Guo Yi looked at the little proud eldest brother over there, and the two of them looked at each other, both of them a little helpless.

I hope he can learn his lesson and find a suitable lover, I hope he can be lucky enough to meet a suitable her! so that his parents and family don't have to worry anymore!