I don't advocate asking children to read too early. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 infoI have a prejudice about raising children, maybe it's the right opinion: before the age of six, don't teach them anything, only work their bodies, not their brains. Over the age of six, the entertainment should be confiscated, but still not strictly supervised. They're smart, and they're good at reading, and they're not smart, and they're not good at reading. Anyway, you have a good body to live.

-- Lao She's view of parenting

What a simple mind! It's just that it doesn't quite adapt to the current society.

But I also agree that children should not be taught some fixed things at an early age: such as literacy, counting, and memorizing poems.

It is wrong or even stupid to discourage, suppress, and destroy children's intellectual curiosity in education: for example, children's problems and interests are perfunctory and wrongly taught by adults, and children can recognize a few words, memorize a few poems, and count a few numbers to show off and satisfy the vanity of parents. As everyone knows, the happiness, health, and achievement of a child's life are the eyes of members that parents should have!

I herd sheep to educate Doudou is: never forced to teach her literacy, counting and memorizing poems, literacy is when she wants to know the content of the text on the comic book when she looks at the comic book, I write down the words on it with different colors of colored paper, cut the paper into different shapes and paste it on the door panel, and learn while playing. By the time I go to school, I can already read on my own. As for mathematics, I have not been taught, even to preschool I have not taught at home, the teachers of Ou Yibao are also very little to teach knowledge content, until the first grade, did not really start the study of mathematics, she is interested in mathematics learning, six years of primary school to the second year of junior high school today, mathematics learning and performance has been outstanding.

I have always adhered to a principle: what she is interested in will try her best to satisfy, never perfunctory, I will teach her the right knowledge the first time she asks her questions, if I don't understand something, just tell her that I don't understand either, and we will look up the information together to find the answer. Now about 14 years old, she is passionate and eager for new knowledge, and her thirst for knowledge has always been strong, and her initiative and enthusiasm are increasing day by day.

This is also the result of my efforts to ensure the health and good growth of my children, while never pulling out the seedlings to help them grow.

Therefore, I am always happy and proud to have such a lively, cheerful, sunny and motivated child.

As a parent, although I hope that my children can excel and achieve something, the most plain parents' wish is that their children can grow up healthy and happy.

Whether it is a parent-teacher conference in elementary school or a parent-teacher conference in junior high school, parents of my classmates will come to me to ask me how to educate my children. Even several old professors from this hospital came to discuss the education of children's scriptures after having contact and communication with Doudou. Especially when my father left suddenly at a critical time in my child's growth, Doudou still thrived under my care, and they were impressed with me and my child.

In fact, as a human being, dignity is the most important aspect, my attitude and practice in the face of disasters, as well as the psychological guidance and care for the child has been made, so that the child has never shied away and felt inferior when talking about his father's affairs, I told her: we can't change what happened, it is not our fault nor our shortcomings, although it gives us a lot of pain and harm, but it should not affect your growth.

In fact, every child is an angel, and the success of her life path is destined to depend on half of the day and half of the education of the day after tomorrow. My so-called success is not soaring, but joy, happiness, and inner feelings.

The most important thing in education is family education, and it is essential for children to have a peaceful, democratic and relaxed environment for their growth. is still growing up at every step, even if it is a rebellious period, parents must be treated peacefully. Sometimes when it doesn't make sense, I will also use rudeness, but the purpose of rudeness is not corporal punishment but to increase the effect of education. Education without punishment may be possible, but I don't think it's comprehensive. It is very important that the truth after the punishment must be explained clearly, some parents will beat up when they are angry, and the matter will pass after the beating, thinking that the child will understand the truth. In fact, it is not, children are still children, and many of the truths we think are very simple must be told to her before they can understand. Otherwise, the punishment will be meaningless, and perhaps worse. There is also a matter of facts, one thing is clear, the rain will pass and the sky will be clear, and the violence of the child's soul should not be given. It is also important to teach children to be a person who is upright and dares to express themselves.

The math teacher who was transferred by heart was a young male teacher who taught very well. Doudou always wanted to be a representative of the math class, so he applied with the teacher, and later got it. I was dismissed from my position as a class representative by the English teacher because she didn't score 100 points in English dictation, and I saw that she had been sad and indignant about it twice, and it passed. Not holding grudges is also one of Doudou's strengths, which even I can't do, but Doudou's heart is broad.

Speaking of the things that his classmates were joking and playing, Doudou said: I really don't understand how they laugh so much at everything, every time I think they will laugh so much when they don't think it's so funny, I just look at them calmly and do my own thing. Hehe, this child has never been a hypocritical child, think about the little girl's pretentiousness at this time, and Doudou's character and her nature have avoided these vanity and pretentious things, and she lives her own truth.

I didn't expect much from my child, I just wanted her to have a happy and happy life.

In fact, the cultivation of her temperament and personality has been basically completed. When she faced every small setback, I could see her psychological journey, from the initial frustration to the indifference in the middle to the end to come up with her own way to resolve and overcome the setback, during which there was not much mental frustration. Nothing is just a "passing cloud" for her, her calmness is not to see through the red dust or pretend to be high, her character determines her mentality of not caring too much about everything, she will go all out to do what she likes to do, and she will take the initiative to fight for what she wants, and the result is of course most of the time to meet her initial expectations, in case it is not reached, she will self-adjust and will not fall into it and languish. I would always quietly observe her, or guide her lightly, and I felt a lot more proud to see that she could do so many things on her own.

A good friend who is the same age as Doudou and grew up together lives upstairs, and the two children often play together, and they are not at her house but at my house. When he met her father in the elevator by chance, he praised Doudou endlessly, compared with his own children, he said that Doudou is independent, self-reliant, has his own unique thinking and ability to deal with the world, and will definitely have a lot of achievements in the future. Hehe, I don't have much complacent about his words, but it also reflects Doudou's ability to deal with people outside.

In fact, Doudou's development rate has been slower than that of normal children, one year and three months old to stand against the wall, a few minutes without holding it will fall, one and a half years old before starting to walk, more than two years old has not been able to say a whole sentence, almost three years old to figure out "me" feelings. Oh, her father and I have never been in a hurry, because other indicators of development have been exceeded, her father is studying traditional Chinese medicine, he is an authority on the growth and education of children, he has always advocated that the development of children should slow down, not to pull out the seedlings to promote and quick success, to have a normal heart, to raise their children as ordinary people, to her happy and healthy growth is good.

Hehe, I am very relieved to see Doudou who is now open-minded, sunny and healthy!

2013.12.15