"I know that everyone as a parent has difficulties, and everyone does have difficulties, but if you ask me about this, my opinion, you say I'll tell you about it, once when my child, when his preschool started, all our parents listened to a lesson shared by the principal for us. ”

The principal told us an important thing, and the answer I got from our counselor teacher was the same, child, if you want him to have the ability to learn independently in the future, then should parents always accompany her?

Some parents start from their children's school, and accompany their children to study at night, write homework, do questions, and brush up on questions until their children graduate from college.

Until the children graduate from high school, and even some children go to college, the parents rent this house next to them and are still accompanying them. Teachers say that we don't approve of this, because in the most critical years when children develop learning habits, parents should do their best to do high-quality companionship to help children develop this independent learning habit.

"Then in the next few years, you don't have to watch her learn every step of the time, the habit formation is very important, which is what we usually say is better than teaching her to fish."

Just you look at him every day, you might as well cultivate a particularly good study habit for him, what is the method you are, not everything must be with him, this method is very important, so what is the most critical time to accompany the child for a few years?

At that time, the principal said, there are three things that are the most important, and if your child goes to preschool, then it is preschool, and that year is the first grade of primary school, and the second grade of primary school is helping.

Every time I put the old man there with the child's father, or the mother does it herself, you work every day, make more money, or how you two may have made a lot of money in recent years, and you have been busy at home a lot, but the most important thing for the child in the past few years, he has passed in the past few years.

"Some of them didn't pick up their children from the old man until they were in junior high school, and found that many of the first children had developed habits, or they didn't like to study, or as long as they didn't train you, they couldn't manage it at all. ”

Second, the child is not close to his parents, why is his family affection with you the most intimate and most dependent on you during the period when you are absent, parents are absent children, why should they be close to you? He is his blood, because of the blood, he knows that he and you, this should be the closest relationship, but you want him to be habitually and psychologically I trust me, this father and mother are very close to them.

He couldn't do it, why did he need people to accompany him the most? When he was weakest, he said that when he was growing up, we often saw some pictures and saw some small videos on the Internet, which was very interesting, but everyone should not take it as a joke.

At the beginning, I went to see it, and I wanted the big cat to drink water there, and a kitten next to the big cat looked up after a few sips of the kitten, and the kitten lowered its head to drink water, what was that?

That's the child imitating the adult big cat while teaching the child to accompany the child, and I tell you that the baby drinks water like this.

"The position of the parents in the process of hunting his growth is irreplaceable, and he has developed this habit, do you understand what I mean, accompany the child, the child's life, I know it may be you to express it, but I think at home, I covered our conversation at the beginning, I said that we are very busy, everyone is very busy, they can't spare time, maybe they want to do it, I think we can be as far as possible, that is, try to spend some time with the child"

And the child now needs his parents to help him form a habit, this critical moment age ha, then let's play this if you push it to the tutor, the teacher lives there so many children, there are big and small teachers who can do it close to our seven-year-old children, I will help you develop this habit, right?

"The teacher can't do it, he can't be busy, like you just said that the eldest daughter said, the teacher has to have a meeting and other students, eat and live there, and then everything has to come by himself, then he may not have that habit yet"

Other people's parents have representatives to accompany their children after the most important thing, and the heart is particularly uncomfortable. Six-year-old companionship is very important, after going to school, it is quite important to accompany the first three years of school, develop a good study habit, how much effort can parents save in the future, many parents' children go to junior high school and high school that study the whole face, the line scraped down all down.

He didn't understand what he was thinking about before, and he didn't complain about everyone if he didn't understand this, but now that the child is still young, brothers and sisters, don't despise it, just accompany him during this time, why? This is a single-arrow process, you missed your two years and said, I went to earn money, how much money did I earn, I will tell you that the child will not worry about it in the future, how much money do you earn?17

I want to plan a route, this route must be the closest to me, but I can send the most people, and I start to think about how to make more money in the shortest time.

To cultivate his emotional intelligence, he has read a lot, and this book on economics has touched a lot of this thing clearly, thoroughly, so in the process of investment, you will find that there are almost no mistakes, they have several characteristics.

I think it's because I'm asking too much, or is it really irresponsible to the family, the two of us work in the same place, but in different factories or go, he often doesn't go home when he goes to work, I just told the director, that is, three or four years ago we were like this, he lived in the factory, I was working at home.

"Later, I told him to go home to work, and it was good for her to come back for three nights in ten days, but she often didn't come back, and sometimes I asked him to come back, so it was hard to hear."

In the past, it might have been a little better, that is, we have been married for nine years, and he didn't gamble in the first year or two, and when we got married, it was yes, and when I married him, he didn't have anything, and the two brothers had a house in one house, and it was that kind of mud house.

Nothing, the next two years called you really poor, but I feel that he is quite self-motivated, at that time we gave birth to our own baby?

At that time, after giving birth to the child, the two of us went out together to work and make money? In those two years, I felt that he was very good, and he would not gamble, and when the child was older, he asked my father-in-law and mother-in-law to come out and bring me a child, and then we went to work in the factory.

"The development of his work is actually much larger than your space, but he doesn't work hard and has no sense of responsibility, your current income and expenses are basically the same, you feel that the economic pressure is quite high, you want him to work harder, you say that he is very selfish, and very lazy, not working hard at all, often unreliable at critical moments, you have been separated for three or four years now. ”

Our separation does not mean that the two husbands and wives are very far apart, in fact, we work in the same city, my factory is only 20 minutes away from his work, he just doesn't go home to live, in fact, we are separated normally, we think we should live together, saying that he lives in the dormitory of the workplace.

It's not far away at all, so you also suspect that he is having an affair, but there is no evidence, what should you do? It's been like this for three or four years, she doesn't go home to sleep at all, and she doesn't take care of the children, and now the child is studying in her hometown before, and now she is picked up in the second half of this year, studying outside, she gets out of school every day, and she comes back in the afternoon to pick up the child, and she leaves without eating at home.

Why do you do if a married person doesn't come home? This in itself is faulty, who are you fooling? Life has its own rules, and you have to take care of the children together, even if you are busy with work, every day when the sun comes out, the whole family can see the whole family when they get up together.

Being able to see the whole family before going to bed is a ritual that no matter how busy you are, you don't even have this kind of self-awareness, I can only say that his mind is not at home at all, let alone on you.

There are many places where you can sleep, then your home is suitable for those places, are they all the same, for him not to call a hotel is not called a hotel, because he has other meanings, that is because there are relatives.

Your family has children and yours in this home, and it is a place for him to spend the night, so he might as well just say that I have no feelings for this home.

Attitude and way to face it, you have considered all these things and then you go to verify, you have a certain child in your heart, and after you have a score, if it is really a falling rock, what should I do about this thing? What kind of dish do I want to face my child? You get rid of all this, you have figured it out and arranged it, you go again,

Because people will instinctively avoid people who give themselves negative energy, when you reprimand her, you are also when you deny him, you are lazy and unmotivated, the family money is not enough, you are not hard, your development space is bigger than mine, you don't work hard, it is better to give me this opportunity, you see what you do, what you can't eat, what is left, are you a gentleman?

You are almost 40 years old, we still have two children, what can happen to anyone's children, do you see our children in such a place, can we go? A person says this to you all day long, you can't wait to stay away from him, I would rather listen to me, I would rather not go home, I will live in the dormitory of the factory every day.