Chapter 61: Coaxing Xinya to see a doctor
On the weekend, I came back from playing ball, and after eating a sumptuous dinner cooked by Xinya, because I was a little tired from playing, I lay on the sofa and watched without a match, and under Xinya's entanglement, I told her about my wife when she first learned to drive.
My wife didn't know how to drive, and there weren't many families with private cars at the time, so she didn't think about learning to drive.
But at that time, I was faced with an opportunity to move up to the middle level of the group of companies, and I was sent overseas to set up a new company. My daughter had just started elementary school at that time, and she had already enrolled in some interest classes outside, and as long as I wasn't on a business trip on weekends, I basically drove my daughter to class, and my wife sometimes accompanied her, and more often she cleaned up the house at home and did housework. Faced with this opportunity for promotion, my wife saw that I was hesitant to let go of her and the child, downplayed all the difficulties she might encounter, said that she was completely able to take care of her, and immediately took action to enroll in a driving school training course and get my driver's license before I went abroad.
Women's driving skills are mostly not favored by men, let alone new female drivers like my wife.
At the beginning, when I sent my daughter to school, the engine turned off countless times on the road, and I was scolded by other drivers countless times. Once, when I was at a red light at an overpass on the main road, I was catching up with an uphill climb, and when the green light started, the manual transmission car always turned off, and after a few stops, the car completely stopped walking. Because the traffic jam was late, she was so anxious that she was sweating profusely, and her daughter was afraid that she would not be able to catch up with the class, so she habitually called my mobile phone abroad, saying: "Dad, come back to help my mother, my mother's car is parked in the middle of the road and can't move, my mother is crying urgently." ”
The daughter is still young and not very sensible, and she is thousands of kilometers away from her.
But I answered my daughter's call, and I didn't feel good about it, and I didn't have the heart to play the ball in the back.
Speaking of this place, Xinya suddenly became excited, her face was crimson: "You don't know how anxious you were at the time, how to step on the accelerator This car just doesn't go, the driver behind honked the horn vigorously, and poked his head out of the window to scold, Niuniu was also there so anxious that she cried, urging me to hurry up and be late, the more I urged me, the more chaotic I became, the throttle whined and the car didn't move, and then a kind taxi driver came up and found out......"
I was a little dumbfounded, but I had calmed down by this time, and interrupted her, "You didn't have a gear at all." ”
Perhaps realizing that she had made another cameo in the role of his wife, Xinya's face turned even redder.
I knew Xinya was embarrassed, and I really couldn't remember if I had already talked about this experience, so I joked: "Xinya, don't do it with me, it's too condescending, I invested in you to open a detective agency, what happened to others N years ago, you can reproduce the scene, reasoning and imagination are too strong, you must become the world's first detective." ”
The bewilderment shown by Xinya for what I said was expected by me, for this or something like this had been done N times.
I don't want Xinya to have any problems, whether it's the cranial nerve or the mental or psychological aspects. As for whether her current problems are congenital or the sequelae left by the car accident, the doctor last time did not make a conclusion, and only determined that there was nothing wrong with the organic.
If there is no organic problem, it must be a psychological or spiritual problem.
Mental illness is indeed sensitive, and I don't want to overstimulate Xinya. After tricking her into going to the hospital for an organic examination, and then tactfully mentioning to her several times about going to the doctor, she glared at me, and she knew that she had some strange hallucinations, but she always insisted that she was fine.
I had already decided to take Xinya to see a psychiatrist no matter what, so I secretly asked Xinya's uncle for the contact information of Xinya's post-accident rehabilitation hospital and the attending doctor, and went on a business trip to learn about the recovery situation at that time, so as to provide reference to the doctors here.
But then he caught up with a series of bad things such as injuring Guimei, perjury, and alcohol poisoning, and the matter of taking Xinya to see a psychiatrist was put on hold again.
Comparing my heart to my heart, Xinya is so anxious about my illness, how can I see her situation getting worse, how can I not worry and not care.
"I have to take you to see a psychiatrist, your problem really can't be taken lightly. "I don't care about Xinya's self-esteem anymore.
"You don't rush to solve your own problems, you don't cooperate well, but you think there is something wrong with me. Do you feel that you are very unbalanced without someone who also has problems with you?" Xinya's tone was a little disgusted and a little sympathetic.
"You're so talented! That's what I mean. I smiled, as long as I could coax her to the doctor.
Xinya is still like that, denying that she has any mental or mental illness. She quibbled that it was only when I told her about my wife and children that she occasionally behaved abnormally, and other times, whether at work or in life, she had no problems at all.
That's true. This is also what makes me confused and a little hesitant, because no one in the office seems to think that Xinya is abnormal, and I sometimes even wonder if I have hallucinated in my brain and regarded Xinya as his wife instead of Xinya as a guest wife.
I asked Xinya why she always behaved abnormally when I told the story of her wife and children, and she said that every time she listened to me, she felt very happy, very happy, and sometimes she was very kind when she thought about that scene, but she didn't think there was anything abnormal, but because I always said that she was not normal, she acquiesced, in fact, she didn't agree with it in her heart.
======
Although it is not as exaggerated as dragging and dragging, it took a lot of words and compromises to coax Xinya to the hospital.
Perhaps everyone believes in themselves the most, and this psychologist is the same, repeating the items that were examined last time, ruling out organic problems.
After listening to our introduction and description, the doctor said that this situation is really rare, and his personal opinion is that it may be related to a car accident.
The doctor said that most of Xinya's memories of the past after the car accident may be fragmented, and new stimuli may sometimes evoke one of the memory fragments, and then graft them to form a new memory puzzle, which is not a complete reproduction of a scene in the past, but also retains some characteristics of the scene in the memory, so it will feel familiar, as if you have seen it, but you can't remember when, where, who or what.
The psychiatrist said that this was just his personal opinion, and that there was no solid theoretical basis in medicine or psychology.
"Do you think the doctor has a point?"
When I turned my head to ask Xinya, I noticed that she looked a little embarrassed, but she was calm, and then she pointed at me and said:
"When he talks about his wife and daughter, sometimes I feel that something is familiar, including some details, and even the next scene, and sometimes it comes to mind, as if I have experienced it before. ”
The doctor said to Xinya: "Yes, the feeling of déjà vu happens to everyone, and it is normal to have the subjective experience of 'déjà vu' occasionally, but if it occurs often, it is not normal." ”
"Isn't that normal for us?" I asked.
The doctor paused, smiled faintly, and said, "It's too often." ”