Because Xiao Lin was born by caesarean section, she had to wait three years between giving birth to her second child and another five years after giving birth to her third child. Her second brother Zhang Haichao got married two years later, and her second sister-in-law Yuan Chunhua was born naturally, with no interval. The first one is a girl, and then the next one is a girl, and then the next one, two in three years, both are girls. With three children and no one to take care of them, Yuan Chunhua can only take care of the children at home, with no time to go to work and no money.

Xiao Lin's mother still only has Xiao Lin's two children.

Yuan Chunhua originally had a job, was a forging worker at the Light Industry Machinery Factory, and belonged to the national system of regular employees of state-owned enterprises, who went to work at 8 o'clock in the morning, got off work at 6 o'clock in the evening, took a two-hour lunch break, went home for lunch, and had a regular holiday on Sunday, with a monthly salary of about 2,000. It was only because her mother-in-law was unwilling to help take care of the children that she weighed the gains and losses, and after careful consideration, she had to resign and go home to concentrate on taking care of the children. Get up early every day, buy vegetables and cook, clean and clean, dry and fold, in addition to doing a good job of housework in a large family, but also take care of the daily life of a small family, especially to take care of children, the big can not learn badly, the small can not fall, the baby can not be sick, she is busy with anxiety, the big one to bring, the small one to hold, the baby to feed, going out shopping is also to carry one, lead one, hold one, tired back pain, panting.

In the past, she spent money by herself, not only with peace of mind, but also with a reasonable spending, and now she reached out to her husband to ask for money, not only to look at her face, to be checked, but also to speak down, a little mistake, not only mother-in-law fingers, complaining and blaming, but also sister-in-law picking fat and thin, sneering. The mother-in-law does not take grandchildren, the wife has no choice but to quit her job, take care of the children at home, and the husband earns money to support the family. She uses her husband's money, but she has to be angry with her mother-in-law's family, her mother-in-law is an elder, and she can bear a little anger, but her sister-in-law who married out of the house has no reason to endure it if she repeatedly speaks coldly and bullies. She suffered hardships and losses, but she couldn't be angry, but whenever she wanted to be sarcastic, her father-in-law hurriedly stepped forward to comfort her, and her husband hurriedly persuaded and reconciled, and every time she couldn't do it, she maintained her positive image of "good sister-in-law". They all praised her as a "good person", "good wife", "good sister-in-law", put a high hat of "praise" on her head, beat gongs and drums, praised her to the top of the "virtuous" list, and helped her become a "moral" model, so that she was embarrassed to look at her angrily, and spoke viciously, so that her stinky temper was inconvenient to explode, so she had to pretend to be deaf and dumb, and collect the depression in her heart, and she was so aggrieved that she couldn't hold it back, so she took the child back to her parents' house to live for a few days, let the wind out, breathe, and relax.

In the in-law's house is an outsider, to be at peace with the encounter, in the mother's house is a guest, to the guest is as the host, only in their own home is the master, that kind of free, unrestrained feeling, that is, the gold nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own kennels. Whether it is the care of money, or the shelter of power, or the freedom to dare to do, the in-laws and mothers have it, but it is not as good as their own family. Yuan Chunhua for the bright future of her own family, for the healthy growth of her children, in the face of her mother-in-law's pickiness, she had to swallow her anger, in the face of her sister-in-law's clamour, she buried her head in doing things silently, looked up and saw each other again, but she showed a polite smile on her face, showing friendliness and affection, a "good person" regardless of the "villain" "open" mind, and a generous "gentleman" open-minded "calm" demeanor. In fact, she was irritable when she thought of them, she was not happy when she saw them, she was even more depressed when she heard the criticism, and the contempt and disdain in her heart did not need to be expressed in words that hurt decency, just because she wanted to save some face for the men and set a good example for the children.

Circling around the house all day long, busy working around the children, running and jumping inside and out, busy working, but the hard work can be seen, the credit cannot be discussed, and the arguments are due. Yuan Chunhua complained a little, and her mother-in-law Xiao Pearl reprimanded her with a straight face, "Women do it, you don't do it? If you don't do it, who should you do? If your daughter-in-law marries into the door, she has to take over the housework from her mother-in-law, and when a woman gives birth to a woman, she is the nanny who takes care of her, does it mean that the elders must also serve the younger generations?

Xiao Lin doesn't have a job, she doesn't have to commute to and from work on time, watch TV until midnight, or play cards until the early hours of the morning, sleep as long as she wants, deliver breakfast to her hand, and then go back to sleep after eating, and sleep until lunch is cooked. After dinner, the mother helped take care of the children, she would dress up and dress up, go out to play mahjong, or play and play, and go home at night. Her father earned money to raise her children, and her mother helped her take care of the children, and thanks to her parents' selfless dedication, she continued to enjoy leisure like an unmarried daughter.

The mother-in-law's reasoning is one set for the daughter-in-law and another for the daughter, the two sets contradict each other, and even on the contrary, in order to protect the daughter, she does not hesitate to backslid and become enemies of the world. The daughter-in-law must live in her mother-in-law's house, serve the elderly, take care of the children, and abide by the duties of a woman. As for the daughter, married but allowed to return, not only lived in her mother's house for a long time, gnawed at the old pit father, did not have to support herself, did not have to raise children, but also acquiesced to her doing whatever she wanted, arbitrarily doing nonsense, she could not go to work, she could not take children, she could not do housework, but she was in charge of her parents, her brother and sister-in-law, and she became a living ancestor.

Xiao Pearl didn't help Yuan Chunhua take care of the child, everyone thought she was disgusted with the girl. But if she really dislikes girls, Xiao Lin is also a girl, why doesn't she dislike it? Yuan Chunhua thinks that she hates herself, only blames herself for being stupid, and will not please her. Zhang Haichao also thinks that she doesn't love herself, she only hates herself for being incapable, failing to get ahead, and failing to glorify her ancestors, which makes her wish to be blessed in vain.