Two years later, Xiao Lin's eldest brother Zhang Haibin also got married, and her sister-in-law Xie Jiani was an undergraduate graduate of Central South University of Political Science and Law. She is a national cadre, and according to the family planning policy, she can only have one child, but she is very lucky to give birth to triplet boys. My sister-in-law has taken six months of maternity leave and has to go to work, who will take the child?

Xiao Lin's mother still takes care of Xiao Lin's two children full-time.

Xiao Pearl is happy to add three grandchildren, and does not favor sons over daughters, leaving her grandson alone, only helping Xie Jiani to take care of the children, or treating them equally, the grandson and grandson take it together, or it means that it is fair, and the grandson and grandson do not take it. Xiao Pearl is a grandson, a grandson, and does not treat everyone equally, everyone suddenly realized, it turns out that she does not dislike girls, nor does she hate daughter-in-law who gave birth to girls, she only loves the girl she gave birth to, even the girl born to her daughter also loves, she just doesn't care for her son, and she doesn't even like the son born by her son.

Although it is not a legal obligation for a grandmother to take her grandson, it has always been the same folk custom, and a grandmother to bring her grandson is purely a dog bite mouse - nosy, because the son has to bear the responsibility of supporting his parents, but the daughter is exempted from the obligation to provide for the elderly.

Xiao Pearl did the opposite, Xiao Lin's family also ate and lived here for nothing, and correspondingly, Xiao Lin should also share the responsibility of supporting her parents. Thinking that Xiao Lin had to share the responsibility of providing for the elderly, the brother and sister-in-law kept silent and did not mention whether the parents would take care of their grandchildren, since the parents treated their daughter as a son, and the brother and sister-in-law did not treat her as a sister, and there were many brothers as helpers, so what harm would it be?

Xie Jiani hired a nanny and took the three boys with her mother Gong Haiyan.

Zhang Linlin knew that his wife favored her daughter, and he also understood that Xiao Lin was indeed in financial difficulties, but it was common sense for her grandmother to take her grandson. The reason lies in the feelings, the grandmother takes the grandchildren hand in hand, dresses and feeds, takes feces and urine, helps the toddler to speak, sleeps in the same bed and hums nursery rhymes, accompanies each other day and night, and is accompanied day and night, which naturally cultivates deep feelings. For example, left-behind children are intimate with their grandparents, intimate and intimate, but they are relatively speechless with their parents who occasionally go home to visit relatives, get along awkwardly, and cry endlessly. Vice versa. Second, in reason, the parents are old and weak, the ability and energy are limited, the concept and skills are outdated, the son and daughter-in-law are in their prime, strong and strong, the mind follows the times, the vision keeps up with the trend, the old people take care of the children at home, the young people go out to earn money, the family income is of course on a higher level, the old people get recuperation, the young people get exercise, the future economic conditions will only get better and better, and the living standard will be higher and higher.

But Zhang Linlin couldn't explain this reasoning to his wife and daughter. Confucius said: Only women and villains are difficult to raise. He understands this "difficulty" The meaning of the word is that the difficulty is that the villain is insatiable, the desire is difficult to fill, it is to fight rice to raise enemies, only to know ingratitude, only to take revenge, the woman only cares about a private relationship, regardless of the rules and order, follow her own feelings, treat people with hatred and preferences, but whenever there is a conflict, do not follow the facts, do not reason, do not follow the customs, do not follow the rules, just want to be happy for a while, not to abuse and spo, looking for death and life, or to stir up nonsense, endlessly, regardless of the consequences, the aftermath of the troubles, often thrown to the men around to bear. Marrying such a woman is troublesome, you can't get rid of it, it's a burden, you can't throw it away, it's a burden, whoever gets it is unlucky, if it's close, it's disrespectful, and if it's far away, it's resentful and angry.

Xiao Lin caused trouble in the countryside, and when she couldn't resolve the crisis, she only knew how to evade responsibility, so she moved to the city to take refuge. has no skills to make a living in the city, has no money to rent a house, and lives in his mother's house as an old man. She got married in a beautiful way, slipped back with a gray face, and was already looked down upon. As the saying goes, there is no grass at the end of the world, good horses don't eat back grass, they bear hardships and stand hard work on their own, good girls don't spend their mother's money, and good cubs don't want their father's inheritance. She is disabled and not strong, she left and turned back, fled and returned, losing both the dignity of her mother's family and the face of her mother-in-law's family. Under the eaves of the boarding house, he does not think of himself as a guest, he regards himself as the master, not only fights with his parents for food, clothing, and treatment, but also fights with his brother and sister-in-law for real estate and property.

Zhang Linlin, of course, wanted to prevent that day from coming. once persuaded her daughter to say, "Lin, you can't be too different from others, and you can't deviate too far from the mainstream recognition." Otherwise, life will be difficult!"

Xiao Lin didn't know what to mean: What did I do, and what did I do wrong? Dad, what are you talking about? Lin'er doesn't understand what you mean.

Zhang Forest said: My daughter should abide by her daughter's duty, don't think about it, and don't act in vain. What can be given to you, if you don't bring it up, your parents will give it to you, they won't give it to you, even if you fight, your parents can't give it to you.

Xiao Pearl said: Your father and son are muttering behind their backs, do you want to take Lin'er away? My grandson is brought by me, and Lin'er is raised by me, what's the matter with you?

Zhang Linlin said: In your life, I still feed you, shut up! I can support Lin'er for the first half of my life, but I can't support her for the second half of my life. She has to rely on her daughter to support her in her old age, and as a mother, she should take on the responsibility of a mother, not to mention independent parenting, at least she can't be idle.

Xiao Lin said: Dad, I'm not lazy, I'm weak!

Zhang Forest said: No one is born to be able to take the lead, and they are all trained by long-term practice. There are traps everywhere, there are beasts at any time, the weaker you are, the more you have to strengthen your training, or you will be the first to be eaten.

Xiao Pearl said: Who wants to kill Lin'er if you kill a thousand knives? I will kill him, and if I can't kill him, I will bite him!

Zhang Linlin said: Everyone who harmed her was you, and every two people who harmed her were the head of Dadao Township.

Xiao Lin said: Aren't you ashamed? I have nightmares every night, don't talk about it! This is to expose the scar and sprinkle salt on the painful mouth!

Xiao Pearl said: Womb bag, it's all because you have no power or money, and if you are a doorman who has no eggs for a lifetime, you can't bring him down, you will only be angry with me!

Zhang Linlin said: I can't support myself, and I am not qualified to manage others. Get out of here first to earn money to support your family, and then talk to me about being the master of the house!

Xiao Pearl said: I can support my family, why do I need you? In the society, I will lock Lin'er at home, raise her for the rest of her life, and ensure safety!

Zhang Shulin said: I admit that I am useless, I can live an ordinary life with peace of mind without any interest, and it is not your idea of climbing the dragon and attaching the phoenix?

Xiao Pearl said: I didn't encourage it, it's just that Lin'er has no job, no house, many children, and her husband is unreliable, how will she live in the future!

Zhang Linlin said: She has a husband and children, how will she live in the future, will it be your turn to be the cook and replace herpes? You want to contract to the end and rely on dividing up the Zhang family's property, which is simply a fool's dream! Sensei forgot that this is the Zhang family, not the Xiao family. I warn you, if anything kills you, I will not spare you!

Xiao Lin said: Mom, it's all my fault, it's all my fault, Dad, I'm a burden, I'm a waste, Lin'er begs you, don't quarrel!

Zhang Linlin said: Lin'er, if you don't go out to earn money, you have to do what you can at home, help your sister-in-law do housework and take care of the children. If you need extra care from your loved ones, the more important it is to build relationships at home.

Xiao Lin said: Dad, the lesson is right, Lin'er respects the order, remember! Dad, don't worry, Lin'er will never act rashly!

Forced by the situation, for a while, the attitude of admitting mistakes is both upright and sincere, but it neither knows its mistakes nor corrects them, or changes their mistakes on the surface, makes big mistakes behind the scenes, and even intensifies their provocations. The character of this mother and daughter, he knows best, the woman is ignorant and troublesome, the mother is biased and misguided, and she puts out the fire by herself, since she can't say it clearly, there is no need to say it again, knowing that they don't accept it, they will strongly oppose it, and they can only be dictatorial and arbitrary, without consulting them, taking measures and acting directly.

The nanny holds his grandson all day long, shaking in front of his eyes, his mother-in-law revolves around his grandson all day long, the second daughter-in-law is busy working for his granddaughter all day long, which is equivalent to slapping him in the face all day long, and his wife plays with his granddaughter on his back all day long, which is equivalent to throwing him every day. He is over the age of sixtieth, he knows people and sees things for a long time, he has insight into the world and cannot be disobeyed, customs can not be abandoned, and he will be punished by God if he moves against the trend, and he will capsize the boat if he goes against the current, and he will be disapproved of the world.

As the saying goes, if you don't follow the rules, you don't have a circle, if there is injustice, there will be protests, if there is injustice, there will be contention, he taboos family changes, and thinks that his son has to bear the responsibility of providing for the elderly, so he gives his son 500 yuan a month as a nanny compensation to express comfort.