He continued.

"Bai Xiaohua, I still need to repeat my thanks, thank you, thank you for being able to understand me, in fact, what I say next may make you a little uncomfortable, but I still have to say it. If you can, let's both forgive Zhang Hao, because it is obvious that Zhang Hao is also a person who knows his mistakes and changes, and Zhang Hao finally found out in his conscience, so let the two of us forgive him Let the two of us forgive his mistakes, let the two of us forgive his wrong behavior, and let the two of us forgive him for his wrong thoughts. Let's both forgive him. Because choosing to forgive others is choosing to forgive yourself. ”

Yes, choosing to forgive others is choosing to forgive yourself, Bai Xiaohua of course agrees with this sentence, but obviously, some people are worthy of being forgiven, and some people do not need to be forgiven, people like Zhang Hao, Bai Xiaohua feels that he doesn't need to be forgiven at all, because obviously, Zhang Hao doesn't feel that he is wrong from the bottom of his heart, Zhang Hao feels that he shouldn't do that because of his brother, yes, if it weren't for the death of his brother, if it weren't for the death of his brother, then it is obvious that Zhang Hao has no way to find his own problems, and Zhang Hao has no way to stop his behaviorto stop your own wrong behavior.

Li Xiaoya listened to Bai Xiaohua's words and nodded.

"I know you're right, but I still mean that, choosing to forgive others is actually choosing to forgive each other. Choosing to forgive others is actually choosing to forgive yourself for the previous things, although you are not at all wrong in the previous things, although the two of us are innocent in the previous things, but it is obvious that as long as the two of us forgive others, then the two of us can forget the previous things. ”

Bai Xiaohua shook her head, it was obvious that Li Xiaoya's statement was wrong.

"Li Xiaoya, do you understand? In fact, some people really deserve to be forgiven, and some people don't deserve to be forgiven at all. Zhang Hao didn't want to apologize to me at all, or Zhang Hao didn't apologize to you at all, so why should we forgive him?"

Yes, just now Li Xiaoya has told Bai Xiaohua all the things about Zhang Hao, and just now Li Xiaoya has told Bai Xiaohua all of Zhang Hao's reactions, obviously, Zhang Hao didn't realize that he was wrong at all, and Zhang Hao didn't think about the consequences of his wrong behavior at all, so he felt that Zhang Hao couldn't be forgiven at all, because obviously, sometimes you can't forgive some people at all.

"And Li Xiaoya, do you know? In fact, you choose to forgive others not choose to forgive yourself, because some people really don't deserve to be forgiven me, or this sentence, some people really don't deserve to be forgiven me, I hope you can remember this sentence. Zhang Hao doesn't deserve to be forgiven at all, although Zhang Hao said that he would apologize to me, but obviously he didn't say that he wanted to apologize to you at all, aren't you a victim? Don't you deserve an apology?"

At this time, Li Xiaoya found that Bai Xiaohua really had a lot to learn from her, and it was obvious that everyone understood the truth. Of course, Bai Xiaohua also understands this truth. Li Xiaoya also understood this truth, but it was obvious that although they both understood this truth, it was obvious that the two of them understood it from completely different angles. Li Xiaoya feels that if you choose to forgive yourself, if you want to make yourself feel better, then you should forgive others unconditionally, or you should relax your conditions to forgive others, but obviously, Bai Xiaohua doesn't think so at all. Bai Xiaohua feels that if a person really deserves to be forgiven, then of course you should forgive this person. If a person really doesn't deserve to be forgiven, then it's clear that you shouldn't forgive the person yes. It should be like this, so Li Xiaoya thought about it.

"Bai Xiaohua, I see what you mean. But I think you can forgive Zhang Hao, because Zhang Hao said that she wants to apologize to you, because Zhang Hao has said that he wants to apologize to you, but I shouldn't actually forgive him yet, I understand, because he hasn't apologized to me yet. Although I know that he knows that he didn't apologize to me because she has a little love for me, although I know that he didn't apologize to me because he feels a little in love with me, but obviously, whether he loves me or not, the two of us are still a pair of strangers after all, whether he loves us or not, the two of us are not lovers after all, anyway, if I can forgive her, then of course I can forgive him, if he is still like this, if he still doesn't say anything about apology, then obviously I shouldn't forgive him。 I shouldn't forgive him for his behavior myself, anyway, thank you Bai Xiaohua, you really taught me a lot. ”

Bai Xiaohua nodded.

"There is no need to say thank you all the time between the two of us, the two of us are very good friends, because the two of us are a pair of very good friends, because the two of us are a pair of friends who care for each other, because there is no need for the two of us to say this, I hope you understand this truth, I also hope you can understand, in fact, I will never blame you, because I know that you will never do those actions, although you are very convinced that you will do those actions, but obviously in my heart, I think Zhang Hao used what conspiracy against you, no matter what Zhang Hao said to you, no matter what Zhang Hao asked you to doObviously, I don't believe you're going to end up doing that. ”

At this time, when Li Xiaoya heard Bai Xiaohua say this, he was actually a little suspicious, because it was obvious that he really liked Bai Xiaohua's friend, because he attached great importance to Bai Xiaohua's friend, so he wasn't sure if he would do those behaviors in the end, and he wasn't sure if he would break up Bai Xiaohua and Jiang Fan in the end, but it was obvious that he had such a mind after all, so he felt that he still needed to apologize, or that he felt that he should always apologize, he felt that he should always feel guilty, anyway, all in all, although he had forgiven himself, it was obvious。 He is still thinking about his mistakes, because if you choose to forgive yourself, it is not to allow yourself to forget the past. If you choose to forgive yourself. At the same time, you let yourself forget your past things, if you choose to forgive yourself, and at the same time let yourself forget the wrong things you did before, if you choose to forgive yourself, and at the same time let yourself forget your previous wrong thoughts, then it is obvious that you are a particularly selfish person, so Li Xiaoya will not let yourself be a selfish person at all.

Li Xiaoya is not a selfish person at all, and Li Xiaoyan cannot be a selfish person at all. So Li Xiaoya has always let herself remember those things, so Li Xiaoya has always let herself remember her wrong behaviors, so Li Xiaoya has always let herself remember those wrong thoughts.

"I really get it now. In fact, if you really choose to forgive someone, it doesn't mean that you forget all the things they have done, if you really choose to forgive a person, you can talk about those things without being affected, if you really choose to forgive something, if you really choose to forgive certain behaviors, then obviously you should remember those behaviors, you should not forget those behaviors, you should remember those behaviors and still be so unaffected when you think about those behaviors. You should remember that there is still no little psychological fluctuation when you think of those behaviors, yes, only at this time, you are truly forgiving yourself, only at this time, you are truly forgiving others. ”

Hearing Li Xiaoya say this, Bai Xiaohua also nodded.

"Li Xiaoya, what you said is right, yes, we shouldn't forget those things, we shouldn't forget the people who hurt us, we shouldn't forget the people who thank us, we shouldn't forget the people who helped us, anyway, all in all, we shouldn't forget those things, if we choose to forgive, then of course we should forgive, we can talk about those things unscrupulously, we can unscrupulously show concern for those people, we can unscrupulously become friends with those people, but we shouldn't forget those things。 Remember the lessons that those things taught us, we should remember the things that those things gave us, we should remember the things that those things intersected us, if we remembered, if we could still talk about those things unscrupulously, if we could still be friends, then it is clear that we have truly forgiven ourselves in this way. In this way, we truly forgive those who hurt us. But even if we forgive those people, we don't have to be friends with them, and even if we forgive those people, we don't necessarily have to say or do anything with those people. ”

In the end, the separation of the two people was a happy separation, yes, although Li Xiaoya felt that she didn't need to leave now, but obviously, Li Xiaoya felt that she still wanted to leave for a while, because obviously, now he only understands these truths temporarily, yes, many times you may understand a lot of truths, and many times you feel that you understand a lot of truths.