After Xie Qingquan was bedridden, he not only matched his eldest son with his mother's brothers and sisters, but also wanted to match the family of Zhang Zhibang, the younger brother of the Zhang family, and the family of Gong Haiyan, the second brother of the Xie family, and shook hands with his wife and children.

When a man is about to die, his heart is also bitter. Out of two-sided considerations, the positive is that after his death, if his sister-in-law and brother do not socialize with his wife and children, resume human contacts, because it is better to be close than to be born, flesh and blood relatives are real relatives, and it is not as good as bone relatives to get close, and bone relatives are serious relatives. As the saying goes, the next layer is cold, and the leftovers are cold and not sticky, so the palace magpie relies on flattering and pulling the relatives of the five suits, etc., in case the family is in distress and cannot be relied on, it is bound to be helpless and helpless, trapped and lonely. On the contrary, according to Gong Magpie's behavior, he may not have a good relationship with his daughter-in-law, and he can be the same as the eldest son to make enemies, or he can be incompatible with other children. If there is another falling out, if the family cannot resolve it peacefully, the children can also ask their uncles and cousins to mediate, which can condense the adverse effects into a small area.

Xie Qingquan's starting point, although it is good, in the face of life and death, there is no major event, but people are afraid of sadness, resentment is unforgettable, there is no sense when they can't see it, they don't see it out of sight, they don't worry about it, when they see the past, they rush to their heads, and the evil rises to the side of their hearts, and they are immediately not calm. Instead of panicking and losing control of emotions, it is better to bear the "criticism". Since we can't get over this hurdle in our hearts, why do we have to go over? Besides, communication is not like building a road, and filling in the hole is a smooth road. My brother and sister-in-law are not clear, the family is still in a mess, the brothers in the previous generation are not in harmony, and the brothers in the next generation are still not united, what is the reason? What my sister-in-law is best at is sowing discord and complaining about the crime, and she can also open her eyes and talk nonsense. The scourge is in charge, tossing every day, leaving from the betrayal of relatives, the shrew is the master, the family is restless, the six relatives do not recognize, the three generations of this family are really unlucky. My brother is a scumbag and incompetent man, and he never dared to resist his sister-in-law, which completely disappointed his relatives. Everything in the past has made us understand that reconciliation is only a bubble, and in the end it will be disillusioned, God knows how we survived? My brother is right, and ordinary people such as us really can't understand this kind of vulgar and ignorant, narcissistic and self-pitying, threshold essence, bitter and mean, ugly people, and robber logic. My brother has become ill from hard work, and it is estimated that he was also depressed by his sister-in-law, holding his breath, depressed, and tired, my brother is already dying, and I can't turn over old accounts, everyone will make mistakes, I was originally tortured by guilt, and we have been poking this pain, and my brother will definitely not be able to stand it. Tearing these bumps and bumps so directly and clearly, it feels like revealing scars, and I dare not face reality, and I also feel that I have to take care of the living. It's not bad for us, a single slap can't make a sound, one person can't get better, if we can really speak kindly and be honest with each other, we won't be deadlocked until now.

After Xie Qingquan told someone, the younger brother of the Zhang family and the second brother and daughter-in-law of the Xie family, although they came to visit, bury, condolence, and funeral, but they did not say a word to the palace magpie from beginning to end. Although Xie Qingquan begged them to forgive Gong Magpie's mistakes in tears before he died, they were resentful and hateful, and they refused to forgive her easily.

Alas, they are all ordinary people, all mortals with the naked eye, and no one thought that they would make mistakes? When people make mistakes, it's not a mistake, it's a mistake. But if you don't admit your mistakes and don't repent, you can't save them, you can't take your mistakes, you don't make amends, you don't make progress, you don't correct your mistakes, you don't make any changes, and this kind of mistake is a mistake, or a mistake on top of a mistake, a big mistake.

Well, everyone can make mistakes, but not every mistake must be forgiven, and if you do "evil" and "bad" things that you "can't" do, you have to bear the consequences of "not good" and "bad", and pay the price that "must pay".

Moreover, no matter what mistakes occur, Gong Magpie never reflects on his own behavior, either due to the social environment, or thinks that he is unlucky, or that he has not done enough cunning. When the situation is unfavorable, although they say that they are wrong and deal with the past for the time being, they do not know where the mistakes are, how to correct them, and how to change them, so they will make mistakes again and again until the victim no longer forgives.

They expressed their attitude to the clansmen, and this time they made an exception to go to the funeral to repay their brother's affection, and they did not associate before, and they will not associate in the future.

Before the silent funeral, Zhang Zhibang threw himself on Xie Qingquan and cried loudly: Ah brother, why did you say that you would just leave, you are not a few years older than me, why did you leave?

In the folk, only the "hairy ghost" who has not yet reached adulthood is buried with death, and all those who die after adulthood, especially the old man who dies at the end of his life, have the custom of staying at home for at least three days before entering the funeral, the so-called "three dynasties". Because of the hot weather, according to the ancient rites, according to the special case of urgency, people have to be buried in a coffin the next day after death, so as to avoid foul odor polluting public places and even spreading diseases.

Because the family had no money to spare, Xie Qingquan did not prepare a coffin for himself before his death, so he could only stop the "corpse" and wait for the coffin. Now cut down the tree, now sawing the board for a day and a night, now make a coffin for two days and two nights, now make paint for two days and two nights, and have to die five days and silently.

The dyer suggested: The drier the longevity, the better the paint, it is better to paint the body after it is put into the coffin.

The day of the funeral, please see Mr. Yin and Yang, is nine days later. Xie Wen nodded.

Xie Xiong disagreed: It is said that sleeping in a dry coffin can make people have fewer diseases in the next life, and sleeping in a wet coffin will cause more diseases and disasters!

Gong Magpie said: Shoucai must be painted first and then buried, otherwise, the deceased will touch the dark road of the dark hall, and he will be blind in the next life!

Xie Ying said: Death is like life, quick burial without grace, forgetting the steps of the fox squirrel, ashamed of the wandering of the bird, and the injury is reasonable, so it is not great. Loyal ministers go out of the door of filial piety, and they must set an example with their children and grandchildren!

Xie Wen said: It's a long time, and the smell is good, I'm afraid there will be insects.

Xie Xiong said: You are not afraid of being ridiculed and treated poorly by your father, and I am also afraid of losing a reputation for unfilial piety. It is better to exceed the system than to be in a hurry! It is better to be too extravagant than to be simple!

Xie Han said: I asked Mr. Yin Yang to calculate that if Daddy dies on a sunny day, he should be buried on a soft day, otherwise it will be unlucky. Those who die in the even moon should be buried in the strange month, otherwise it will be unlucky. Daddy died of illness, the time of death is the same as the time of birth, and he has committed a "heavy funeral", and the day of the funeral must be different from the day of birth, otherwise there will be another death in the family.

Xie Ying said: Around that, there are a few fans blowing day and night.

Xie Han said: Use the refrigerator to make ice cubes and pile them up in front and back.

Yuan Qiuhua said: It's better to rent an ice coffin, 100 yuan a day.

Xie Ying said: You have a wide range of contacts and many acquaintances, so I will hand it over to you! You won't be reluctant to give up this thousand pieces, right?

Yuan Qiuhua said: This is as it should be, no problem.

Gong Magpie said: That doesn't freeze people to the point of hard erection? As soon as I think of it, I feel cold for him, from the tips of my hair to the heart of my feet. Your father, this life is not easy, good people, I haven't passed through anyone, and if you die, you will suffer foreign crimes? No, I don't agree!

If you can't be buried for three days, then you will be buried silently for five days. The craftsmen worked overtime day and night, and the palace magpies surrounded the acceptance, either that it was not good, or that it was not right, extremely careful, particularly harsh, and the craftsmen slowed down the progress and worked slowly to produce a good job. The lacquer craftsman will paint finely and finely painted, three black lacquer inside the coffin, three vermilion lacquer outside the coffin, gold dot decoration, the coffin head is written with the word "Fu", the side adds bats and other patterns, the end of the coffin is painted on the incense burner candlestick, the boy and girl who lead the west day with the flag, and the side of the coffin is the color painting of the eight immortals crossing the sea.

The carpenter delayed for a day, and the lacquerer overstayed the deadline for another day, and the coffin was painted, and it was silent for seven days. Silent burial is not to beat gongs and drums, not to invite ghosts and gods and not to recruit souls, except for relatives and friends, and even family members are not allowed to cry loudly, and the undertaker quietly and secretly puts the "body" into the coffin, also known as "stealing the funeral". When it comes to the official funeral, the deacons have to go back to the morgue and make false movements, lifting the imaginary "corpse" and re-entering the coffin, also known as "falling wood", or "returning to the big house".

Xie Qingquan has been on the spiritual bed for many days, and his body has been swollen and deformed, and he can't even button the door of his gown and pants, so he finds another strap to tie it, and the cotton clothes can't be worn in at all and covered on his body. As soon as Zhang Zhibang pounced, black water that seemed to be blood but not blood, and black water that seemed to be thick and not pus, and the smell was very strong and strong, choking his nose and throat, and he was dizzy. Hurriedly sprayed the smell of wine, and hurriedly lit sandalwood to neutralize the air.

Gong Haiyan helped: Brother, let's mourn and change, but you can't drip tears on the eldest brother, if you stain your tears, the eldest brother will get lost in the underworld.

Xie Wen said: Everyone is going to die, but when they die, they are blessed, they don't worry, they don't get sinned, they don't get angry. If you die peacefully, you will accumulate virtue.

Xie Han said: Where does he want to die, he is really sick, and the king of heaven and Lao Tzu can't be cured, and the millions of family fortunes are helpless.

Xie Xiong said: Qianjialang Chinese medicine is not good, and it does not work after taking all the medicines, but those who are children do their best.

Xie Ying said: Life is rare for seventy years, Daddy is seventy-three years old, and the king of Hades does not invite himself to go, it can be said that he is happy and mournful, happy and mourning!

Xie Wen said: Although Daddy has suffered all his life, he has given birth to such a large family, and he has not lived in vain in the world.

During the silence, as soon as the deacons moved, black water poured out, and all the shrouds they wore and covered penetrated them, and they had to wrap them in white cloth again. Asked Gong Magpie to ask for it, she said, "No, I'm already worthy of him!" Xie Wen brought his own house. He was wrapped in layers of white cloth, wrapped so tightly that he didn't even show his head and face, and the thick strips of cloth with his fingers were tied three times horizontally and three times vertically, but he still didn't dare to raise it low and raise it casually. He also asked for a sheet for external use, pulled up the four corners, and carried it away. When asked the palace magpie for it, she said, "No, I'm good enough for him!" Yuan Qiuhua brought the new silk quilt sheet that had never been used in the marriage, embroidered with a dragon flying phoenix dancing picture, and painted with auspicious Ruyi.

First, there are deacons in the coffin under the bottom, with glue to mend the joints, and then with lime to pave the bottom, and pad grass and wood ash paper package, about four inches thick, the tail is charcoal paper package, which is spread with white paper, and then pressed with the seven-star board, the seven-star board is intended to seek longevity, the board is covered with yellow silk embroidered cotton mattress, commonly known as "paving gold". Put the chicken song longevity pillow on the mattress, the longevity pillow is made of black cloth, filled with lime, and padd with two pieces of clay tile for the pillow of the deceased, and the black cloth is filled with lime, which means that the deceased "comes clearly and goes to understand". Everything is ready, just waiting for the "corpse to be buried in the coffin".

Taboo, forbidden, avoid mourning. But when the "flesh" was put into the coffin, it could not fit in, and pressed the left arm down, and the right arm came out again, and the arm was stiff and bent like a sickle.

Relatives knelt in front of the coffin, Zhang Zhibang complained to Xie Wen: As soon as a person breathes, he has to put his body flat, and you don't care, what is it like now?

Xie Wen said: Lotus leaf needles, all of them are in their early stages, my family's affairs are complicated, you don't need to say it, you also know it.

Zhang Zhibang said: Child, you are really miserable, your mother lives for a day, and you will not have a chance to come out. Alas, the wrong person died!

Xie Wen stepped forward and rubbed the joints of his father's arm: "Father, you have had children, you have worked hard all your life, you live a pitiful life, the task has just been completed, how old are you, and you have not enjoyed the blessings of your old age, why did you leave when you got sick?

Xie Han also jumped up and rubbed his father's other arm: My poor father, I haven't lived a good life in my life, but I have died of a bad disease, the children are all miserable, but I can't enjoy the blessings of the children, seeing that life is going to get better, why did you leave, why are you so unblessed.

Gong Magpie leaned her back against the wall, clapped her hands and beat her chest, crying wow, not mentioning her husband's many benefits to her, only crying about her pitiful, how to live in the future.

Relatives cried in the coffin, sent each other around the coffin, saw the last face, and looked at the last look. The filial daughter cried and sang the "Shoucai Sutra". Filial piety cries and sings "Hot Material Sutra".

Xie Ying held a vermilion lacquered wooden plate in both hands, which contained funeral items. In order to ensure that the deceased is left intact, the lost teeth, nails, and hair are wrapped in small red cloth and placed in the coffin by the family. A bunch of hair cut by the palace magpie is wrapped in a small black cloth bag, the so-called married couple, the husband dies to take the wife's hair in the coffin, and the wife dies to the coffin with the husband's hair, in order to show that they will never be separated.

During the small funeral, in order to avoid "running around and tired all his life, coming empty-handed and going empty-handed", the folk pay attention to letting the deceased hold gold in his left hand and silver in his right hand. The Xie family is a three-generation poor farmer, with neither gold ingots nor silver bills, and the ancestral gold rings and silver earrings of the Xie family, the palace magpie is also said to be lost and is reluctant to take it out. Xie Qingquan had no choice but to put a copper coin in his left hand and a handkerchief in his right hand. was so stingy, Yuan Qiuhua couldn't get used to it, so he brought the collection and asked his father-in-law to hold the gold seal in his left hand, the silver dollar in his right hand, the jade cicada in his mouth, and the five emperors' coins on his head. When the children remembered that they were sad, they folded the tin foil in the cigarette case into silver ingots, and the golden paper into gold ingots, and put them in the coffin. The hookah, wine jug, and wine glasses used during his lifetime were also put into the coffin, and the father continued to enjoy them in the underworld. In addition, there are also "town things", grains, pig iron, peach kernels, wicker, chicken blood, etc., with the purpose of hoping that the deceased can smoothly enter the Dharma path and be reincarnated.

First the cotton mattress is removed, and then the grass and wood ash paper wrap is removed, and the person is barely put in it sideways, and the person cannot move properly, cannot lie on his back, stretches out his limbs, and puts his hands flat on his knees. Then use an axe to cut the inside of both sides of the coffin, knead the arms softly, and can be stuffed in, but the shoulders are raised horizontally, and finally cut the wood to fit the shoulders, remove the wrapping cloth, and cross the arms in front of the chest, the right arm on the left arm, the palms are flat on the chest, and the fingers are inserted under the flanks. Cover the three-foot brocade quilt, pour lime, fill the grass and wood ash paper package, and cover the coffin.

Two days later, the official funeral, gongs and drums sounded in unison, firecrackers whined, the coffin was covered, smeared with glue, and seven "descendants nails" were nailed, commonly known as "town nails", which is said to make future generations prosperous. A "descendant nail" located in the middle of the coffin, nailed to death by the deacon, should be nailed by the eldest son of the deceased with the eldest grandson. Xie Wen first tied a red thread on it, which was pulled by the filial grandson with his hand, and he gently knocked it with his hand, which means that it is forgotten, and the folk call it "leaving behind".

Next, set up a filial piety hall and set up a mourning hall. In front of the coffin, a table of eight immortals is placed, a white tablecloth is hung, offerings, incense burners, wax tables are placed, and a "permanent lamp" is lit in the right corner of the coffin. A liter is placed under the coffin, which is filled with grain, a scale is inserted on it, and a bowl lamp is placed. In the mourning hall, white candles shine high, and cigarettes surround the beams. Later, the wine and food were sacrificed, and the hall sacrifice ceremony began, and the lisheng shouted: filial sons and grandsons, filial sons and daughters, please come forward, bow three times and kowtow, and send your father to heaven.

After the "dress" ceremony, the old and young of the Xie family wore linen and filial piety, knocked in three steps, bowed in five steps, walked around the coffin three times, and walked around the coffin three times, kowtowed and bowed. The eldest son, Xie Wen, went to the land temple to report to Lord Wu, invited the dead, burned the paper money, returned to the mourning hall to offer incense, toast, toast, and perform the "three offerings" ceremony. Then, the eldest daughter-in-law added incense, tea, food, and "three offerings".

Next, the worship begins, with the intimacy and proximity, the upper and lower respect and humility as the order, the elders are in front, the younger generations are behind, one family (times), the family sacrifices first, and the outsiders sacrifice later, all kneel and worship.

The first salute of the east of the mourning table held a bouquet of incense and sang: "One incense!" handed the incense to the person standing in front of the desk, and the worshipper received the incense with both hands, held it high, and after making a bow to the mourning hall, he handed it to the west head of the salute and inserted it in the incense burner. Then repeat the action, in order "two incense" and "three incense". After the incense is finished, the Dongshou Praise Lisheng sings: "Worship!" The worshipper kneels on the straw bales in front of his knees, arches his hands on his forehead, and places his hands on the left and right with the momentum of bowing, and his forehead touches the ground. The West Leader Chancellor sang: "Get up!" and the worshippers immediately stood up, holding their hands down. Continue to repeat, goodbye, again, three worship, three times. After the "three offerings" ceremony, the praise of the lisheng sang: "Retreat!" The filial son and grandson prostrate on the left side of the case, and the filial daughter and daughter-in-law prostrate on the right side of the case, kowtow to the worshippers, and kneel and bow back.

The clansmen set off firecrackers to worship, the guests set off firecrackers to worship, and the filial sons knelt down to thank them. All those who worship will enter the flowing water and eat tofu rice.

Gong Haiyan said to Yuan Qiuhua: Be her daughter-in-law, you are asking for your own sin, you want to open up everything and look farther, how long can she live at her age?