As long as a woman is married, she is a family member of her in-laws, and her husband's parents, brothers and sisters become a big family, and her husband's children and daughters are firmly bound together, which is an irresistible reality.

After living in the Xie family for a few years, Yuan Qiuhua's heart was filled with unknown troubles and unspeakable pain, and he realized that marrying a person who is responsible for the big family means being tied to all the responsibilities behind this person, and there are orphan 'daughters' behind whom grandfather's 'milk' and 'milk' are unable to raise, and parents who other brothers are unwilling to support. Being responsible does not mean that you will be happier and happier, it only means that you will pay more 'fine' energy, take on more tasks, and make more sacrifices. If you want to be strong again, want to be a filial son and daughter-in-law, want to fight for the honor of your ancestors, and glorify the 'door' lintel, it is equivalent to sending yourself to the altar.

Yuan Qiuhua tried his best to support the elderly and raise his children, but he was not rewarded for his efforts, not only did he not be grateful, but he took revenge. Marrying into a vulgar and vulgar family like the Xie family, those who are able to work hard, work in vain, suffer from anger and sin, suffer from hardships and suffer losses, suffer from debasement, are lazy and lazy, and are 'deceitful', but they are more favored, gain the upper hand in gaining power and wealth, and enjoy leisure without work.

In the face of the fact of reverse elimination, Yuan Qiuhua is unwilling to cut his feet to fit the suit, and will be high and low, only by being ingenious, starting from scratch, and finding a way out on his own, and we can't afford to provoke him, can't we still avoid it? However, Xie Han thinks that it is 'very' normal for people in the city to go to the countryside and not adapt to it, you can't change this family, these people will not change for you, and you can only be safe and sound if you accept the fact of "bullying" and accept it.

Xie Han was cowardly and ignorant, and he couldn't figure out the situation of "foolishness and filial piety" that outweighed the losses, Yuan Qiuhua couldn't explain it to him, he couldn't understand it, and he wouldn't believe it if he understood. As long as he "saves face" and disregards "ability", he not only cooperates with "going out to do business and settling down", does not work hard, "goes to the city to buy a house, moves to settle down", but also breaks the can, "Lao Tzu is a hillbilly, he should be an old man in the village".

Wine 'meat' friends, rice and noodle couples, the tedious life of men and women, seven things to open the 'door', everything is indispensable, Yuan Qiuhua as a housewife, how much firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea are in her own pot, she has a bottom in her heart, and she has a number in her account. Although she has long been mentally prepared to follow the customs of the countryside and be at peace with what happens, the poverty and insolvency deficit of the Xie family are still unexpected. Xie Han couldn't squeeze a few drops of oil on the oil press, but secondly, the shortage of materials can be improved by self-effort, Yuan Qiuhua laid the economic foundation, and then with the brains and skills of the two, as long as the two of them are concentric, starting from scratch, and reaching the level of well-off within five years, it is definitely not a problem.

Even though the tyranny and domineering of the feudal 'female' parents, the suppression of her 'spirit' spirit, it is difficult to eliminate until death, but in addition to the negative impact of the in-laws, the key is the management of marriage, loving husband and wife, grace is responsibility and obligation, love is the foundation of the family, affection is paving, softness is the resonance of interests, and is the same habits, a stable and down-to-earth day, and a plain and calm life, which is the true meaning of the family.

Yuan Qiuhua is a moderate temperate, cautious and well-behaved person, has high requirements for love, and always abides by the pure 'essence' divine realm, and despises low-level and vulgar behavior. Although I don't look forward to reading books together, having poems and harmonizing, dancing and accompaniing, and singing that is, I still wait for each other to be happy, to stay together, to cherish each other, or to hope that holding hands will not be negative, and the white head will not be separated. Xie Han doesn't understand elegance, doesn't understand mood, doesn't know taste, doesn't know the hearts of 'women', doesn't know how to cultivate feelings, just wants to use ferocious means to subdue her, like a soft cake in the palm of her hand, if you want to be round, if you want to be square. When he marries a wife, he needs a 'woman' to cook and wash for him, help him plough the fields and farm, earn money for him to support his family, accompany him to the 'bed' for fun, and give birth to 'daughters' for him.

Yuan Qiuhua washes and cleans up three meals a day, washes and picks vegetables every day, feeds pigs and cattle every day, and farms and grows vegetables. Lu's Huai Hanger Lang is the prime minister, evades responsibility, is an outsider in life, does not want to take on anything, the most undesirable to see him a cheeky smile of the scoundrel energy, do things according to the mood, happy to do, unhappy not to do, no matter who urges it is useless, the most unaccustomed to him idle and happy, where lively, where fun, where to run, no matter whether what happened is related to themselves, blindly catch up with the scene, like to make a scene, wandering outside 'swinging' and laughing, all day long do not return home. She feels very keen, decisive in the face of things, will not easily change her decisions, and is also very strict with her partner, she cannot be 'debauched', she cannot talk nonsense, she cannot be depraved, and she cannot be decadent.

Xie Han disgusted her with decent manners, scolded her for being hypocritical, asked her to be humble and lowly, opposed her emotional taste, scolded her for being pretentious, asked her to be submissive, hated her for being introverted and calm, scolded her for being eccentric and perverted, and asked her to be enthusiastic and unrestrained. He openly said that marrying a beautiful 'woman' is a blessing and enjoying a 'gorgeous' blessing, and marrying a talented 'woman' is unlucky, and under pressure, he tells me about Confucius and Mencius during the day and electronics at night. I knew it was like this, I didn't dare, I couldn't, I wouldn't marry!

The spirit cannot resonate, there is no tacit understanding of emotions, originally people from two completely different families, whether it is thought or concept, culture or experience, whether it is words or deeds, vision or mentality, there are indeed huge differences. A gentleman is upright, knowledgeable, righteous, and straight. Philistine, selfish, selfish, sleek, fickle, indistinguishable from true and false, loyal and disloyal, sincere and insincere, only God knows.

The two of them were originally incompatible with each other's 'sex', and then they noticed that they had different dreams in the same 'bed', and the two of them inevitably quarreled, quarreled, confronted, fought a cold war, gambled, ignored, negative, and did not bow their heads. The more reserved her expression, the rougher her demeanor, the more elegant her taste, the more ignorant his words, the more noble her ambitions, the more he yearns for the low, the more she feels, and the more deliberately vulgar his motives.

Men who have no self-control, do not work hard, and are not responsible, no matter what their family background is, where they go, and what kind of 'woman' they marry, have the same life trajectory, and spend their time all day 'wasting' on eating, drinking, chatting, playing cards, sitting idly and watching TV, or complaining about others, and doing nothing for some reason, how can the results be very different?

Xie Han only knows how to play mahjong with a group of 'women' and 'women' during the day, and only likes to drink with a group of fox friends and dog friends at night, and when he goes home in the middle of the night, he has to borrow wine to pretend to beat his wife crazy, and from time to time he keeps up with the situation, making scandals and making jokes. No matter how good Yuan Qiuhua's temper is, it will be affected, and no matter how patient he is, it will be worn out.

Between husband and wife, as long as they have scolded once, they will be scolded when they are angry in the future, and as long as they have been beaten once, they will do it if they are not happy in the future. Beating a wife, it seems to be a country man's customary habit of training his wife, although ignorant, although barbaric, but it is a common phenomenon, want his wife to be completely soft, low eyebrows and admit defeat, only beaten, injured, disabled, scared, wilted, easy to use, which 'woman' and 'woman' have not been beaten, either the in-laws have no authority, or the husband has a nest.

Xie Han often beat and scolded Yuan Qiuhua, scolding the street like a 'woman', biting and pulling like a mad dog, and being vicious like a devil. has no quality at all, a little upbringing, as Yuan Qiuhua hoped, love and tolerate her like a father, nor do you cherish her like a brother and tolerate her, let alone imagine being as gentle and considerate as Xiao Lizi, and polite. Besides, he twisted his muscles and bones in front of his wife, and his black mouth and strange face, but the Yuan family is a big family with strict etiquette, and when she suggested that he be civilized and asked him to be polite with the etiquette that he should behave in dealing with people, he was unwilling to admit that he did not understand etiquette, lacked education, and did not understand things.

The new 'daughter' went to her father-in-law's house to visit the New Year in the first year, and the Yuan family took it very seriously, inviting the elders and uncles of the clan to accompany them, and the other brothers and sisters were also invited to come together, and the banquet was set up for six tables. At the banquet, he was full of complaints, thinking that the dowry was small, and he returned the gift lightly, saying that the Yuan family did not attach importance to this marriage, ignored Qiuhua, and neglected him, saying that the father-in-law and mother-in-law valued the son over the 'daughter', and the son married and gave away a commercial house, and the married 'daughter' was reluctant to even give a motorcycle. He kept chattering, resentful, and found fault with his wife, dissatisfied with his wife, drank with this, drank with that, and finally drank himself into a mess.

Yuan's father is a professional writer, chairman of the Federation of Literary and Art Circles, deputy director of the Propaganda Department, and a visiting professor at the provincial university. They go to the 'door' to visit, or reminisce, if they are met by him, either with a face and a kiss, or to inquire about the news of the unit's infrastructure, demolition and relocation want to contract, civil engineering wants to contract, infrastructure wants to contract, road repair wants to contract, greening wants to contract, it seems that he is the general manager of the construction company, or a big boss with a net worth of more than 100 million, the deposit of the project bidding is not a problem, the advance payment of the contractor is not a problem, the working capital is not a problem, and the working capital is not a problem.

In fact, Xie Han has nothing but the skills of being a bricklayer, and if he wants to contract projects, he doesn't even have a qualification certificate, let alone registered capital and legal personality, and people at his level don't even have the qualifications to ask. He just wanted to drive his father-in-law to come forward, pull the relationship, go to the back 'door', treat him and give gifts, and try his best to help him contract it, and then subcontract it out, so as to make a "price difference" from it. There is no money, and he also wants to urge his father-in-law to come forward, find acquaintances, find students, and do everything possible to help him get a loan from the bank, and the bank loan must be mortgaged, and his house in the countryside cannot be mortgaged, so he wants to use his father-in-law's house as collateral.

How can such a whimsical idea, detached from reality, be realized, except for making the audience realize that his idea is wrong, shameless, and despised from the bottom of his bones?

Yuan's father said that he lacked funds on the surface, lacked knowledge in essence, lacked hard work in his brain, lacked updating of ideas, lacked action for change, was poor in lack of knowledge, and cheap in spineless.

But Xie Han didn't see it that way, but thought that his father-in-law was unwilling to help him, supported him to get rid of poverty and become rich, blamed his wife for refusing to help him intercede, and helped him make his dream come true. On the contrary, he further believes that other families love their 'daughters-in-law) and only want their 'daughters-in-law to be good to their daughters', and the Yuan family does not care about their 'daughters' because they don't want their daughters-in-law to be good to their 'daughters', and they don't want their daughters-in-law to be good to their daughters.

Suppose that the father should give his 'daughter' for a good day before marriage, and for a good day after marriage, it is time for a husband to give his wife. If it is a good life after marriage, and the father still needs to give a 'daughter' to the child, then what does the wife want her husband to do?