Although Lan Xinyan is studying medicine, it is not easy to quit drug addiction, especially psychological dependence. Yuan Qiuhua not only can't let him have a sense of abandonment in his life, nor can he have a hint of dislike in his spirit, but also help him find another spiritual sustenance, what is Lan Shao's specialty? I want him to have no distractions, arouse fighting spirit, and go all out, only to participate in industry competitions.

Yuan Qiuhua and Lan Xinyan agreed on three chapters: If you win me three times in a row in press releases, novel creation, and cultural relics identification, I will marry you!

After returning from undercover (and Lan Shao said it was a business trip), Yuan Qiuhua planned a marriage investigation. After half a month of busyness, the newspaper adopted Yuan Qiuhua's manuscript. In the end, Lan Xinyan lost the first game.

preface

Love can't be interpreted, there are as many kinds of love as there are.

In the past few years, Haiyan's tragic love, Jin Yong's chivalrous love, Qiong Yao's romantic love, etc., have analyzed the definition of "love loyalty" and the desire for "true love is invincible" through TV dramas, and the sigh of "lovers will never become married".

After the turn of the millennium, the differences between men and women's views on marriage and love are reflected in all aspects of their emotional life: the trade-off between work and family, the contradictions and demands of men and women in marriage, and the seven-year period----- what kind of attitude does the Chinese people's concept of love present, and what role does love play in life?

This is a real society, once upon a time "holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son", into today's "rich family, no money will break up", from the past "willing to have a heart, white head will not be separated", to the current "pain in a different place, temporary heating", the one who is deep in everyone's heart, is he (her) still with you in the end?

Companionship is the most affectionate confession, if there is no bread support, what do you take to accompany you? material foundation is the guarantee of a stable life, while you are young, work hard to make money, you will meet a better her (him) in the future.

The questionnaire of "Chinese Marriage and Love Survey" was launched in the reading group of Southern Metropolis Daily from July 9 to July 15, 2002, and a total of 21,000 valid questionnaires were collected, of which the gender ratio was 61.1% and 38.9% respectively. In addition to the questions related to the concept of marriage and love, readers also filled in basic information such as region, education, and gender. "Life Tells the Truth" summarized these bills and combined them with random interviews with reporters on the street to get this "China Marriage and Love Report".

A choice of mate: in the face of the object of preference, the hard conditions are not important, the "right person" is important, the spiritual needs are improved, the material conditions are reduced, whether the thoughts are synchronized, whether the spirit can be compatible, and whether the concept is consistent, have become the main criteria, among which character, true feelings, and common interests are the three most important factors. Even if they meet the right person, most people are cautious, take responsibility and obligation, and refuse to live together and get married. Half of them chose to get to know each other carefully for two or three years before entering into marriage. After knowing each other for less than a few months, the sloppy engagement, the faster it will tie up, the faster it will leave.

The two-seven-year itch: Maybe 7 years is really a hurdle, when the couple is in the newlywed stage, the spouse is more likely to idealize the other party, even if the spouse makes mistakes, mistakes, shortcomings can be tolerated; when the longer they get along, there will inevitably be more run-in and conflicts in the lives of both parties, which will affect the satisfaction of the marriage; however, once the 7-year curse is overcome, both parties can understand and tolerate more, so as to achieve a relatively high marital satisfaction.

3. Love: Emotional strength is the support, life is more motivated, more than half of the people said that love/marriage makes them better. Survey data shows that the higher the education, the higher the satisfaction with the relationship, and the happier it can be. Knowledge changes fate, from now on, for the happiness of feelings, lifelong learning!

Fourth, companionship: "Companionship is not a willful squandering on call, and there are not many clingy partners." Survey data shows that when it comes to companionship, people value "supporting each other in important moments" more than "being together all the time". The data also shows that nearly 7 out of 10 male respondents believe that there must be room for independence in a marriage relationship, but 7 out of 10 female respondents are angry because their partner is not company.

summary

Qixi Festival is approaching, the two love each other, listen to the heart, no questions about the West and the East, and the topic of love will never go out of style.

In the fast-paced urban wave, under the countless psychological anxieties, and in the emerging impetuous desires, it is still everyone's most simple wish to find the right person and harvest the true love.

"Life Tells the Truth" produced the "2002 China Marriage and Love Report", which uses rational data to depict the multi-faceted status quo of marriage and love in China. "Looking at the house, looking at the face and looking at the household registration" is not the mainstream mate selection standard, "flash marriage" and "naked marriage" are actually rare, and most people are still more open to the attitude of "premarital cohabitation", but they still maintain more "self-principle" stance on feelings, and do not let feelings become casual because of unilateral "derailment".

In this survey, it was found that whether it is in love, or married, companionship is always the best preservative of feelings, 7 years of marriage is a hurdle, to welcome a new life, it is not easy for women, men face the test of time and energy, but also to pass the customs, over the hurdle, the long-lasting companionship is more precious.

Whether the relationship is a flash or a long time, whether it is dissipated or unforgettable, as long as there is emotional strength as support, sincere companionship can always make each other better, and it is also the secret recipe that makes love eternal.