After that unpleasant Sunday, the atmosphere in dormitory 206 has not been very good. Fastest updates

Although the last few people still didn't spend a penny, Zhao Qiannan and several of them left a stalk in their hearts, which was a little uncomfortable.

After the unhappy parting, Zhang Minyi also felt very unhappy, and was the first to run back to the dormitory and sulked, and she didn't bother to take care of them when she saw a few of them come in.

Zhao Qiannan and the others also kept their faces silent and golden, and no one took the initiative to contact anyone.

Yang Susu looked at this, looked at that, and didn't understand how everyone went out to play and came back like this.

And everyone also kept silent about the events of that day.

And Gu Fanxin is staying in the store directly for convenience, and she doesn't know about everyone going back, so she just happens to be out of sight and out of mind.

So Zhang Minyi, who felt lonely this Sunday, chose to go back to accompany her family.

But when she got home, even though her mother made her a big table of delicious food, Zhang Minyi still pouted and sullen.

"Mom and Dad, you eat slowly! I'm done!" waited for Zhang Minyi to get on the table, but after eating a little, she put down the dishes and chopsticks and ran to her bedroom in a daze.

Zhang Minyi's mother and father were left looking at each other.

Psychologist Zhang Minyi's mother felt that her daughter was acting too abnormally today.

His daughter has a lively and cheerful personality, and she has been bouncing without a moment of peace, she is simply like a tomboy, it is rare to see such a demure time.

If something goes wrong, there must be a demon, something must have happened.

"Dududu" heard a knock on the door, Zhang Minyi opened the door unhappily and let her mother in.

"What's the matter, look at the oil pot you can hang on your mouth, who made our baby daughter angry?" Zhang's mother sat on the bed, nodded Zhang Minyi's mouth with her hand, and pulled her daughter's hand.

"Mom..."Zhang Minyi hugged her mother a little embarrassed.

"Hey, what's going on? Look at your frustration and you don't have any energy at all!"

"Mom," Zhang Minyi, who was depressed and uncomfortable, finally had a place to talk. "Mom, I had a quarrel with Zhao Qiannan in the dormitory..."

"Oh, what's the reason for the quarrel? Is it because of any disagreement?" Of course, Zhang's mother knew that Zhao Qiannan and they were her daughter's roommates, so she said with a smile.

Zhang's mother, who has a lot of imagination, wondered what was the reason for their conflict?

Students in a dormitory may have disagreements about how to divide the common work in the dormitory.

In interpersonal relationships, some role norms are more clear, while others are more ambiguous, and if two people have different views on the rules, it is inevitable that conflicts will occur.

It's a clash of personalities and attitudes. This often involves differences in personality and values between the two sides, so it is a relatively deep-seated conflict.

For example, the dorm may be conflicted because of personality differences: on weekends, one partner likes to have a lot of friends to hang out in the dorm, while the other likes to stay alone in the dorm.

In interpersonal communication, these three levels of conflict may be intertwined.

Differences in behavior can lead to conflicts in the rules of the relationship, which can further lead to personality conflicts.

Generally speaking, the deeper the level of conflict, the more factors involved, and the higher the degree of emotional involvement, the more complex the conflict and the more difficult it is to resolve.

Conflicts may arise from objectively existing disagreements, or they may be rooted in contradictions of subjective imagination.

There are also girls with too strong personalities, many times, even if they know each other's wishes clearly, but they are unwilling to give in.

In a misplaced conflict, one party may have an objective reason and perceive the existence of the conflict, but does not directly address the real problem itself.

Another example is a classmate who found a peculiar smell in the dormitory, and she hated the smell.

She thought it was because of the stinky socks of her classmates in the dormitory, so she was warned not to store dirty clothes in the dormitory when they met, but in fact, the smell may have come from the smell of another classmate's feet.

In a potential conflict, there are objective differences, but the parties do not feel much about them. In a sham conflict, the two sides have differences, but there is no objective basis for such differences.

For example, your classmate calls a birthday party and you don't get an invitation, and you're upset about it, and he's upset because you didn't show up.

In fact, he called to invite you because you weren't there, and asked your classmates to tell you, but your classmates forgot about it. At this time, the conflict between the two sides was purely due to misunderstanding.

Then Zhang Minyi told the story of what happened that day in Balabala.

"Mom, now the people in the dormitory don't like me to be offended by me, and I'm embarrassed to go there, do you think I've done something wrong?" Zhang Minyi's voice was muffled.

After listening to her daughter's words, Zhang Minyi's mother laughed.

"Silly boy! I don't blame you, it's because you don't have enough experience and don't use the right way, you use the same words and a few words, if you use the right method, of course you won't offend people!"

Experienced Zhang's mother knows that there are many different reasons for conflict in life.

It may be that all parties have different needs and interests, or have different understandings and views on issues, or have different values and religious beliefs, or have different ways of behaving and doing things, etc.

The reason for the conflict between the daughter and the girl in the dormitory is that they have different understandings and views on problems, and they have different ways of behaving and doing things.

Zhang's mother knows that her daughter is good at everything, but she is too upright, she is honest and sincere to others, and she hates people who are not consistent in words and deeds.

If you like people, you like them, if you hate them, if you don't know, you don't know, and if you can't do them, you can't do them. There will be no pretentiousness at all.

"There's something wrong with what they're doing, silly girl, don't expect everyone to like you like your mom and dad like you do, you're not RMB!"

"Poof......" Zhang Minyi was immediately amused by her mother's words.

But she does know her own shortcomings, she can't speak in interpersonal relationships, and she offends people inexplicably with one mouth, and she doesn't know where to say it wrong......

"Mom, tell me, how am I going to get along with them? This time I embarrassed them, and I didn't look good on my own face!

The psychologist's mother patted her daughter's back lovingly, and slowly explained to her the communication skills between people, and the social and social psychology in interpersonal communication.

"Relationships are a big issue, and schools are a microcosm of a small society. Let's talk about one of them. ”

Zhang's mother understood the reason for the conflict. That is, the daughter and both of them have different opinions on a specific issue.

Knowing the cause and effect, you can prescribe the right medicine. Otherwise, if the students in a dormitory do not have a good relationship, further aggravation of the conflict will have an unimaginable negative impact.

The negative functions of conflict are mainly manifested in: due to bad communication, emotional estrangement, and even mutual slander and mutual demolition, or the breakdown of the relationship between the two parties due to mutual disagreement and malicious attacks.

Important notice of this site: Please use the free APP of this site, no ads, broken anti-piracy, fast update, member synchronization bookshelf, please pay attention to () Download free reader!!