Here's a story translated from abroad:

The young King Arthur was captured by an ambush from a neighboring country, and the monarch of the neighboring country, impressed by Arthur's youth and optimism, did not kill him. and promised that he could give Arthur freedom as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur had a year to think about it. If a year does not give a convincing answer, Arthur will be executed.

The question is: What does a woman want most?

It's a question that puzzles even the most knowledgeable people, let alone young Arthur. As difficult as the question is, it is much better than being put to death immediately. Arthur accepted the king's proposition and promised to give the answer on the last day of the year.

Arthur returns to his country and begins to ask for answers from everyone: princesses, housewives, priests, wise men, court jesters. He asked all the people, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. He was told to consult an old witch and that only she could know the answer. But they warn him that witches charge very high fees, and her expensive fees are notoriously high throughout the country. When the last day of the year came, Arthur had no choice but to bite the bullet and go to the witch. The witch promised to answer his question, but he had to first accept her quid pro quo: to marry Garwin, one of King Arthur's noblest and most handsome knights ———of the Round Table, and the king's closest friend. King Arthur was horrified, and he looked at the witch: hunchbacked, ugly, with only one tooth, with a foul smell like a stinking gutter, and often making obscene noises—he had never seen such an ugly monster.

King Arthur refused, he could not force his friend to marry such a woman and carry himself a heavy mental baggage. Knowing of this quid pro quo, Gavin said to Arthur, "I agree to marry a witch, there is nothing more important than saving your life and saving the Round Table." ”

So the wedding was announced, and the witch finally answered Arthur's question——— what a woman wants most is to control her own destiny.

Everyone immediately knew that the witch had told a great truth, and Arthur's life was saved.

So the monarch of the neighboring country released King Arthur and gave him eternal freedom. King Arthur wept in excruciating pain that could not be relieved, but Gawin was as humble as ever, while the witch showed her worst side at the wedding celebration: eating with her hands, burping, farting...... All of them felt nauseous and uncomfortable.

The wedding night came: Gavin, still strong in the face of the terrible night, entered his new house. What a sight awaited him! A beautiful girl he had never seen before was half-lying on a marriage bed! Gavin was stunned and asked her what was the matter.

The beauty replied that because Gawin was very good to her when she was an ugly witch, she decided to spend the day half on her terrible side and the other half on her most beautiful side. She asked Gavin, "Which side do you want me to have in the day or night?"

What a cruel question! Gawin thinks about it: to show a beautiful woman to his friends during the day, and at night, in his own house, to face an old and ugly ghostly witch, or to have an ugly witch wife by day and spend every intimate moment with a beautiful woman at night?

If you were warmer, what would you choose?

In the speaking class on the second day, there were various answers, but they were summed up in two ways: one was a witch during the day and a beautiful woman at night, on the grounds that the wife was one's own, and there was no need to love vanity, and the other was to be a beauty during the day, because she could get the envy of others, and at night, she could have fun outside, and when she returned home, she would face the dark house, and it didn't matter if she was beautiful or ugly.

After listening to all the students' answers, the teacher didn't say anything, only asked us if we wanted to know Gavin's answer. Of course, everyone said yes.

"Gavin didn't make any choice but to say to his wife, 'Since what a woman wants most is to be in charge of her own destiny, then it's up to you to decide.'" ’”

So the witch chose to become a beautiful woman both day and night. Everyone was silent——— but no one made the choice to warm up.

At this point in the story, there is finally a perfect ending. But in real life, this cruel truth is played out every day. Every woman feels as if she can control her own destiny, but every woman involuntarily sinks and loses her way in the whirlpool of fate.

In other words, living in modern Chinese society, women don't even know what they need, let alone control their own destiny.

At the class reunion, I talked about a female classmate. The task given to me is that I must marry myself this year, book a hotel, buy a house, and send a groom. When everyone was chatting and joking, I just felt a deep desolation flowing through my heart. It seems that yesterday it was a group of teenagers in their prime, but today they are sitting together discussing family, marriage and children. When our relationship must be committed in the form of marriage, when our marriage has no choice to make do with the passage of time, then, what should we use to control our destiny?

Think about the once repressed youth, we secretly like someone, secretly love someone, those feelings that are cleaner than the ice floes floating in the Arctic Ocean in winter, but can't stretch and bloom in the sun. Our cleanest emotions are met with the most ruthless resistance to academics.

It wasn't until we graduated from college and started working that we were allowed to fall in love. Oh, the child is so old, if you don't hurry up to find a partner, you will become an older youth. So, we began to fall in love, began to go on blind dates, and began to be selected again and again in our lives.

At the very beginning, such feelings have been branded with utilitarianism and reality. We are only allowed to fall in love after participating in work, and we are only allowed to fall in love when we have to get married, so in our youth, where is that love affair with no purpose, no utilitarianism, no mixing with reality, and just clean feelings, pure dedication, quiet thoughts, and silent tears?

Where is that love with sorrow, joy, heart-rending pain, and unforgettable memories?

I don't know when a woman will be able to truly understand the helplessness and sadness in Anita Mui's "Woman Flower".

I have a flower

Planted in my heart

The bud is waiting to be released

Morning and twilight

I waited eagerly

Those who have a heart come to dream

The woman's flower swayed in the red dust The woman's flower swayed gently with the wind I only hope that a pair of gentle hands can soothe the loneliness in my heart

I have a flower, the fragrance of the flowers is full of branches, who will really look for the traces, when the flowers do not bloom much, they can be folded straight and folded, and women are like flowers and dreams

I have a flower that grows in my heart No one understands true love The weeds everywhere have occupied the hillside The lonely fang appreciates the most heartache

Woman's flower swaying in the red dust Woman's flower gently swaying in the wind If you have smelled the fragrance of the flower, don't ask me Who are the flowers for

I have loved and known, I have been drunk, I have known that the wine is strong, the flowers are blooming, and Xie is empty

Fate doesn't stay, like a spring breeze coming and going, women are like flowers and dreams。。。。。

Anita Mui's deep voice, with the kind of sadness that sees through the warmth and coldness of the world, can always resonate in my heart. The fall of the superstar, in addition to deep emotion, I feel that this song sings about the helplessness and sadness of women. A girl, blooming from the age of seventeen, to the age of thirty must complete the choice and transition of life, leaving a girl's youth, about thirteen years. In the past thirteen years, I have been ignorant and have gone all the way, missed the scenery in the stubborn choice, missed the love in the hesitation and retreat, and looked back at the twilight, only to grasp the man who can give marriage like a life-saving straw, and then get married and have children in ignorance to live a lifetime. Not to mention being in charge of their own destiny, many women don't even know what they really want.

A woman, before she knows what she wants, is just like a flower that seems to have a long flowering period but is actually very short. From blooming to withering, every step is so heart-wrenching.

I have seen too many unhappy marriages, so I hesitate to find all kinds of reasons and excuses not to step into marriage, and I am always a little afraid when I watch my classmates around me jump in voluntarily or helplessly.

I also know a few special women who, like all women, regard marriage as the last sublimation of love, and end up losing a mess. It's just that after admitting defeat, he didn't wronged himself, returned to being single, and no longer compromised and gave in to an unhappy marriage.

Sometimes when it comes to marriage, I can't help but sigh that women have to take this step sooner or later, but don't set the expectations of marriage too high, marriage needs responsibilities and obligations, but it doesn't need love. No matter how powerful a woman is, she also needs a man's arms and shoulders, but almost all women dare not open their eyes and work hard to find it, and gradually lower their persistence and dreams on the long journey of life, and then accept a different embrace from their fantasies.

In fact, marriage could have been very happy, but after all, there is a lack of men like Gawen in this world, who are not bound in the name of love, bravely face all difficulties, and truly respect women. Therefore, a happy marriage is gradually drifting away from each of us in this increasingly utilitarian and realistic world.

What women want most is to control their own destiny. It's just that before this, every woman who wants to truly control her own destiny must see clearly what she needs, whether she needs to be more lacking than abundant, or she needs to be rather lacking. Both of these are choices, and there is no wrong or right one. Women can compromise and surrender to reality, after all, even the most beautiful angels will lose their hair in the passage of time. Women can also choose to live proudly, even if they lose their hair, they still keep the pure fantasy in their hearts, and do not wronged themselves to spend their lives with someone they don't love.

In the short years of youth for more than ten years, it is a question whether to love vigorously, or to make choices and preparations early, and find a man who can live a long life. In the one-way line of life, where there is no way back, it is indeed difficult to make a choice question of being responsible for life.

In this feast of youth that is about to end before it has time to start, woman, are you really ready?

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