75. The Unspoken Rules
In this world, because the status of men and women is almost "equal" on the whole, therefore, among relatives, those titles that were originally used to show intimacy have begun to deliberately abandon the word "outside" in the name of relatives since the social form of "men are superior to women" in this world has basically taken shape:
For example, among the elders, whether it is on the maternal side or the paternal side, the parents and children of the parents collectively call them "grandma" and "grandpa";
The elders' address to the younger generations is to deliberately abandon the word "outside", which means that when the elders explain the relationship between themselves and the younger generations, they can only use "granddaughter (son)" and "niece (son)" to describe it!
In addition, among relatives of the same generation, there is no longer a distinction between "tang" and "table", and they are all called in order of age, the older one is called "brother/sister", and the younger one is called "brother/sister".
However, among relatives, there is one only exception in the title -- that is, for the "parents" generation, the children still retain the title of "distinction": the children of the maternal side still call them "uncle" and "aunt", and the children of the paternal side still call them "uncle", "aunt", and "uncle".
The reason why only this generation is an exception is mainly because, when such "unspoken rules" began to slowly take shape and become popular, most of the "parents" generation, at that time, were still the generation that was holding real power!
Therefore, in order to fully protect the interests of the family, the distinction between "self-family" and "outsiders" of this generation will naturally be stricter than that of other generations, and even the need to deliberately use "title" to clearly define and distinguish!
Due to the forced environment, the people here, except for the emperor's heirs, are surnamed their fathers, and the rest of the families are all surnamed their mothers. However, the whole society is a patriarchal society in which only men can participate in politics, so in order to balance the contradictions between men and women in terms of personal interests, family interests, and the ownership of "offspring", etc., even though the situation has developed to the end, no country has particularly stipulated anything, but there are basically the same unwritten "unspoken rules" between families (from the royal family to ordinary people): in addition to being the same generation and surname as the "person in power", Except for those who have a close interest in their own family, the rest of the relatives are treated equally, whether on the maternal side or on the patrilineal side.
That is to say, only those who meet the three conditions at the same time can be regarded as "their own family": first, they are the same generation as the "person in power"; second, they have the same surname as the "person in power" (there are people with the same surname who are written into the family tree), and third, the interests of their individuals and the interests of the whole family have a high degree of overlap, and their interests are very closely related to each other!
And others who fail to meet these three conditions at the same time, no matter who they are, even if they are related by blood, they are all "outsiders"!
Gao Ran remembered that at first, when she first learned that there were such unwritten "rules of naming" and the various meanings behind "rules" in this world, her first reaction was that she felt that the logic behind these "rules" was quite "interesting......
"That is to say, in this world, except for the emperor's family, other families are the same as our family, although the surname 'uncle' and 'aunt' are both surnamed 'Gao', but 'aunt' is 'own family', and 'uncle' is not! Equally, and, in the same way, what we mean to them is basically a lifetime...... In the final analysis, the yardstick for defining such a relationship is to look at the specific attribution of 'power' and the various 'interests' derived from it...... However, judging from the current overall social pattern, it is estimated that such 'rules' will continue for a long time...... At least, in my lifetime, the 'rules' will definitely not change! Well, I just need to know that!"
When she sighed with this emotion, Gao Ran herself didn't know whether she was expressing her admiration or just mocking......
"However, then again, this so-called 'own family' and 'outsiders'...... To put it bluntly, 'people' themselves are full of uncertainties! As far as people are concerned, their feelings or interests -- especially when their interests are still there, they may be 'their own family members'; but if they are gone, even if they may still be called 'their own family members' on the surface, the essence inside them may not be as good as that of an 'outsider' -- they may even be 'enemies' and 'stumbling blocks' that make each other disgusted and even want to wait for an opportunity to get rid of them quickly! There is ...... more."
Gao Ran couldn't help frowning, "According to this 'rule' of this world, wouldn't that be tantamount to more conniving with the marriage of close relatives between the same generation?!"
Thinking of this, Gao Ran couldn't help but feel a chill!
is also "ancient", the "ancient" of the original world described in the historical story that Gao Ran learned in his previous life, at most, it is the collateral peers on the matrilineal side who will intermarry, but in this world, there is simply no distinction between "hall" and "table"!
Isn't that tantamount to acquiescing in one thing: as long as relatives are defined as not "their own family" from each other, then "theoretically", wouldn't they all be able to intermarry?!
"This is the 'ancient' of my original world...... Anyway, under the social system there, we can still eliminate nearly half of the 'possible threats' ......"
The more I think about "genetics", the more Gao Ran feels that the human body structure of people in this world is really "wonderful"!
"How many generations have they been multiplying like this?!Could it be that the humans of this world will become extinct faster than the humans of my original world?!...... If the genetic inheritance of the creatures in this world is similar to that of my original world...... I always feel that they are bringing about their own demise -- the 'fertility rate' and 'survival rate' are not high, and they even don't even take into account the issue of 'quality of childbirth'...... Alas!"
Xu is the relationship between studying medicine with Zhao Yi, and now Gao Ran, once he thinks about the problem deeply, he can't help but think about medicine, and even thinks of some bits and pieces of medical knowledge he learned in his previous life from time to time......
However, even if she does not agree with this unwritten "popular rule" of this world, Gao Ran does not intend to resist anything, but intends to silently "accept" and silently "obey" - at least, on the surface, she intends to obediently abide by it.
Because she understands that every era has its own limitations. The "rules" that have been universally recognized by the people of each era in the social pattern of each era are often thought up by the people at that time with the level of cognition they could achieve at that time, at least at that time, they are the "best solutions" that can effectively maintain the existence and stability of the entire group, and can effectively help maintain the dynamic balance between the individual interests of each individual and the group interests of the entire social group......
This is the reality, and this reality cannot be changed by her own power - even if she comes from another world where "the general knowledge is far greater than this one."
What's more, realistically speaking, in the face of such an environmental pattern in this world, even if Gao Ran feels that his cognitive level in some aspects should be much higher than that of the vast majority of people in this world, but so what?
Many phenomena in this world, for her, she is actually experiencing it for the first time!
Like the people here, she is also unable to predict the possible future more accurately based on the "status quo" that can be seen in the present, nor can she offer a better, more effective, more sustainable and far-sighted solution to the "strange" state of the world than the strategies that are widely believed to work at the moment......
So, let's be silent!
Then, find the "answer" that suits herself: Tong Guò constantly runs into the various "incompatibility" between her original concepts and cognitions and the world, Tong Guò looks for the balance between her original self and her self who is more suitable for the world, and Tong Guò makes various big or small changes in the process, looking for solutions that she thinks may be more feasible in each moment......
In short, Gao Ran felt that what she could do was within her ability, and all she could do was to work hard to be alone. Then, let a qiē go with the flow.
She believes that once a behavior is produced and maintained, it must have some knock-on effects over time.
However, who these chain effects will affect, what kind of impact will be on whom, and what kind of consequences those effects will lead to, these are not up to her to decide and control, so she does not have to be responsible. And the only thing she needs to be responsible for is that she can control her own actions and the motives behind them.
Therefore, as long as you take care of yourself and keep care of yourself, the rest will go with the flow, in Gao Ran's opinion, this is the "best plan" she can think of at the moment and is most suitable for her at the moment! )