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What do you think of this assumption I've made from your superficial state, and your recent schedule?"

Xu Le lowered her eyes, her eyes were on the aggravated eye bags, she turned, thinking that she was more or less a symptom that Lu Ran said, she changed her tone and said, "Maybe, I've been a little busy recently, but this doesn't prove that work has anything to do with my illness." ”

Xu Le's attitude is still reluctant to explore this issue in depth, as if if if admitting that her work has caused pressure on her, it seems that she is not competent and good enough.

As she said, people who are not good enough will lose.

And she is the one who does not allow herself to lose.

It can be seen that Xu Le's work pressure not only comes from the heavy workload, but also from her strict requirements for herself, which is an invisible psychological pressure.

"It's possible to have a relationship. Lu Ran continued to state to her, "When people's senses become more fragile and sensitive, it is possible to induce underlying diseases.

In other words, if you are too stressed, it may induce some physical or psychological problems in you, some problems that have not been exposed in the past. ”

Lu Ran's words were the result of thinking after talking with Xia Lan that day.

If stress has the potential to lead to underlying physical illness, it may also induce internal mental illness.

In fact, if it was just after the exam that day, the conversation with Xia Lan had not directly reminded Lu Ran that Xu Le's illness might be related to work pressure.

However, Xu Le abruptly stopped the consultation earlier, saying that it was because of work and a time conflict.

At that moment, Lu Ran felt that Xu Le was struggling with his time arrangement.

In addition, recalling the details of Xu Le's suit when he first came to consult, Lu Ran felt even more strange.

The first time we met, it was on Tuesday, and it was a working day.

For white-collar workers like Xu Le, most of them choose to consult after work or on weekends, but Xu Le not only came that day, but also wore a work suit.

She said that she fainted two days ago, so she came to see the consultation, and Lu Ran basically guessed that Xu Le should have taken a holiday to rest because of physical reasons.

During the break, she is still wearing formal clothes, which shows that there are several possibilities: first, she has no other clothes to wear, and she rarely buys casual clothes, and second, she is ready to go back to work at any time.

Either way, one thing is almost certain, and that is Xu Le's extreme dedication to his work.

The discussion with Xia Lan after the exam that day made Lu Ran connect the two things all of a sudden.

Lu Ran thought about it carefully, from the date of onset reported by Xu Le at the beginning, as well as the recent recurrence, and her increasingly busy work during this period, it also coincided in time.

Xu Le naturally didn't know Lu Ran's reasoning, she vaguely felt that it sounded reasonable, but instinctively, a little repulsive, "I think it's unlikely, I work too much, I may not sleep well, but what does that have to do with me not daring to take the elevator?"

Seeing that Xu Le was resistant to this topic again, and he was unwilling to think about it further, Lu Ran felt a little interesting.

"You don't seem to want to talk about something. Lu Ran asked her dryly.

"Perhaps. ”

"It's like you're going to be afraid of something, and you don't want to face it. Lu Ran continued to speak in depth.

"What am I afraid of? I tried, did Dr. Lu forget, the hypnosis you did for me, let me try to go into the elevator and try to touch the seawater, but I failed. Speaking of failure, Xu Le's expression was a little self-deprecating and a little frustrated.

"Maybe that's the problem, that's what I asked you to face, not what you want to face. Courage comes from your own heart, not waiting for others to give, and a counselor cannot replace you with bravery. Lu Ran analyzed.

Xu Le looked at him, frowning slightly, feeling that these words were intriguing, but in his mind, he hadn't come back to it.

Seeing that Xu Le hadn't understood yet, Lu Ran continued:

"Let me start with an example. If this time, your promotion fails, that is, you lose, can you face it?"

Lu Ran's question was almost a bolt from the blue, and Xu Le couldn't dodge it.

"No, I did a lot of preparation, and it didn't make sense that I would lose. ”

"I mean, if. Lu Ran reiterated that he deliberately pushed Xu Le in front of a terrifying situation to make her open her eyes.

"But......" Xu Le's expression was a little painful, she struggled for a moment, and finally said, "I can't lose." ”

"Why can your opponent lose and you can't?" Lu Ran asked, a crucial question, and he waited for Xu Le's answer.

Xu Le was silent.

She lowered her head and put her hands in her hair.

Silence is good, for Xu Le, there is too much busyness in life, too little space, she needs silence to give herself a time to think.

"I, I don't know anyone else. All I know is, I can't, I don't want to lose......"

Xu Le's answer was intermittent and struggling.

"Good, good. You realize something, first of all, you don't know your opponent, and also, it's not that you can't lose, you don't want to. No one can't lose, and you're one too, right?"

Faced with this problem, Xu Le seemed to be a little painful.

She shook her head, but didn't speak.

After she eased up for a while, Lu Ran continued to ask, "So, can you tell me why you don't want to lose so much?"

"Isn't this weird? Nobody wants to lose, right?" Xu Le asked rhetorically, showing a kind of psychological defense and counterattack behavior.

"You're right," Lu Ran said in her words, "no one wants to lose." However, there are very few people who don't want to lose as much as you do. You can't even face the possibility, and the thought of losing makes you miserable.

If my assumption is correct, and your fear symptoms are related to your work stress and your fear of losing, then we need to seriously explore this issue. ”

Lu Ran told the truth eloquently, "Illness, sometimes for a person, is not purely negative, but also has a positive meaning.

Especially mental illness.

Sometimes it's a warning that you need to take care of your health.

Sometimes, it's also a refuge where you can escape from things you don't want to face.

For example, when your stress reaches a certain critical point and you can't face it, you will start to get sick.

Since you have to stop working because you are sick, the leader will let you take a day off.

As a result, you get rest instead of work, competition, and stress.

Such a disease allows you to benefit from it.

One thing, let you keep getting the benefit of it, you will keep it, and so, your illness will not get better.

That's what this disease means to you. ”

Lu Ran's theory is novel, and Xu Le has not fully understood it.

"What? My disease benefits me? No, I don't like illness. I need to work, and I don't want this to delay me, it will only make me more stressed. ”

Xu Le felt that Lu Ran might not know her situation well enough, her time was very tight, and she couldn't delay herself anymore because of the onset of the disease.

"Ms. Xu, I think this may be precisely your misunderstanding of yourself. (To be continued.) )