"I'm going to help him and say goodbye to his father......"

Ms. Yin vaguely understood what Lu Ran meant. Pen | fun | pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

It's just that when she thinks of her husband and then thinks of saying goodbye, she suddenly feels a little sad in her heart.

"He's been gone for so long, and now it's going to be sad for Devin to say goodbye to him again.

Although I know that Dewen has always regarded his father as still there and has not left, I rarely mention his father at home, which is a tacit understanding between us, because we know in our hearts that no matter who mentions it, the other party will feel sad again. ”

"I understand your dilemma. Lu Ran expressed understanding of her difficulties. "Farewell is sad, separation is painful.

Another goodbye may bring another pain.

You're right.

However, it is precisely because of the failure to say goodbye in the past that the pain continues to the present.

In the past, I didn't have a clear understanding of what parting was, so I never learned to turn away. A brief period of pain slowly boiled into a chronic heart disease.

As the saying goes, long pain is better than short pain, and there is a reason for it.

It will naturally be more difficult to deal with this issue now than it was in the past.

But I believe that after you understand the crux of the problem, you can better communicate with him, and this knot will eventually be untied. ”

Listening to Lu Ran's words, Ms. Yin almost forgot that Lu Ran in front of her was just a young man, she felt more and more reasonable, and her trust in Lu Ran also deepened.

As if she were facing an older person, she humbly asked, "So, what should I do?"

"Do you have any ideas, what will you do now?" Lu Ran turned around and asked Ms. Yin what she thought.

"I, I don't think I'm going to talk to him directly about his father just yet, it's too sad for him...... However, I will talk to him more, and there are some things that I will not run away from again. ”

"You're braver than you used to, and that's good. Lu Ran first encouraged Ms. Yin's change, then affirmed her ideas, and provided some communication skills along her lines:

"You're right, mentioning my father too abruptly will touch his sore spots. Don't rush to do anything, try to communicate with him first. Let him understand your thoughts, your difficulties.

He is a smart child, you take the initiative to take a step and he will slowly understand.

Talk to him about your business first.

Let him try to understand you, understand what you do, your reasons. Don't pretend to be strong, and don't be afraid of his questioning. Tell him that a lot of times, you don't know what to do better, and you're always trying.

If he is not satisfied with one of your actions, don't rush to explain or deny. Ask him, what better can he do?

Let him learn slowly, think from your point of view, and maybe he will understand your difficulties. ”

"Good, good. Ms. Yin remembered them all in her head.

"When you feel that he is able to think from your point of view a little bit, then he grows.

At this time, you can try to talk to him about your father. ”

Lu Ran said this, paused, he thought of something, and continued, "There is a method, I once wanted to try to let Dewen experience it, which will help him.

Now it seems that you may need to help him with this. ”

"Method, what method?" asked Ms. Yin eagerly.

"When you think it's too decisive to let Devin say goodbye to his father again.

It's not impossible to do it another way.

Once your relationship with Devon has eased a bit, you can ask him to try talking to his father. ”

"Talking to your father?" Ms. Yin was a little confused again.

"Yes. Give him a piece of paper and a pen and ask him to draw what his father looks like.

Let him try to talk to his father.

Listen to what he said to his father.

If he is willing to share with you, you can find out if he is transforming and growing.

When he figured it out, he could naturally say goodbye to his father in this way. ”

Rite.

Ms. Yin could tell that it was like a ritual.

Let Huang Dewen have a way to say goodbye to his father at the moment when he wants to say goodbye, which can make him have a sense of farewell ceremony.

Compared with just thinking about it in his heart, or thinking in his mouth, one more process of painting is more solemn.

"I see. ”

Ms. Yin nodded in understanding.

Looking up at Lu Ran again, her eyes were full of gratitude.

Ms. Yin knew that the young man in front of her, who claimed to be a counselor, had said every word to herself for the sake of her own good and her own good for nearly 40 minutes just now.

He is helping to mediate the relationship between himself and his son, and help his family life return to a normal trajectory.

However, Ms. Wan did not know this Dr. Lu until today, and it is unlikely that he is the counselor that her son paid for.

It is impossible for Devin to find someone to convince his mother, and then convince himself through his mother.

So, why did this Dr. Lu help me? Ms. Yin was puzzled again.

Lu Ran glanced at the time, and it was almost time to say, and he finally confessed, "If you encounter any difficulties, you can call me." ”

Ms. Yin knew it was time to end the conversation, and she seized the opportunity and asked, "Why are you helping me?"

Lu Ran thought for a while and said with a smile: "Because, I hope that the next time I hear his music, I will be happy." ”

……

After saying goodbye to Ms. Yin, Lu Ran planned to go back to the blue ocean to have a look, after all, the office was near here.

At this time, his phone vibrated again.

It's been a busy day, so what's the news?

It's Mr. Zhang Xiaoming.

"Lu Ran, are you free now? I heard that you are visiting nearby, if you are free, come back to my office, I will be there before getting off work." ”

It seemed that Mr. Zhang was in a hurry to find him, but he did not explain what was going on in the text message.

This made Lu Ran feel a little abrupt.

However, he and Teacher Zhang haven't seen each other for some days, and Lu Ran himself is also busy.

It was good to go to meet the teacher, Lu Ran did not hesitate, replied to the teacher's text message, and soon returned to the blue ocean.

Walked towards Mr. Zhang's office.

"Teacher, are you looking for me?"

The door of the office was not closed, Lu Ran knocked on the door and asked the teacher inside.

"Lu Ran, here, come in. ”

Teacher Zhang looked at his proud protégé with a smile on his face, and it didn't seem like there was any urgent matter at this time.

Lu Ran sat down opposite Teacher Zhang.

"Lu Ran, the teacher has a happy event to tell you today, but it's inconvenient for me to tell you about this matter in text messages and phone calls, so I'll let you take the time to come over. ”

Wedding?

Lu Ran didn't know what Teacher Zhang was going to tell him, and he couldn't help but look forward to it.

"Okay, I'm supposed to come over and see the teacher. ”

"Yes, I've been busy with some things during this time, and now that you're famous, you must have more things to do, I've heard Sissi tell me something.

But this matter must be told to you in person, that is, about your treatment. (To be continued.) )