In fact, Jin Yue knew about Hong Tao and Zhang Yuanyuan when she was in the United States, and this colander mouth was none other than Qi Rui. She and Cindy are not only best friends but also relatives, and most of the topics of talking on the phone together are men. is still very proud of Hong Tao Qi Rui, so it is inevitable to show off with his girlfriends.

After a long time, the topic of Hong Tao is no longer just positive, sometimes Qi Rui will also fall into a dilemma, and then what Hong Tao does she will talk to Cindy, not asking for any way, it is completely an emotional catharsis.

But she is comfortable, Hong Tao has become Hong Shimei in Cindy's eyes, a standard rotten man, which is why Cindy is always hostile to Hong Tao. Later, Cindy and Jin Yue got closer and closer, and the two became best friends, so they naturally talked about the future and men, and then Cindy couldn't help but expose Hong Tao.

Jin Yue believed it, she didn't believe it in her mouth, but she believed it in her heart. The women around Hong Tao are all more beautiful than him, and they have the ability, and they can't convince themselves if they don't believe it. Credible conversion, she didn't let Hong Tao know, nor did she quarrel with Hong Tao, let alone listen to Cindy's direct breakup with Hong Tao, but buried this matter in her heart and pretended not to know.

Hong Tao is no longer just a man for Jin Yue, she is very arrogant and silly on the surface, but she is not really stupid, nor is she really stupid, she can feel Hong Tao's feeling for her. And she has been a person with wilted ideas since she was a child, otherwise it would be impossible for her to get mixed with Hong Tao, in essence, the two of them are the same kind of people.

Why does Hong Tao take care of himself so much, when he is in trouble with Wei Jianhua, the first thing that comes to mind is not his parents, but to ask Hong Tao for help. He did come forward, not only to help himself, but also to take the responsibility on him as much as possible.

In fact, the days of raising his body at Hong Tao's grandmother's house were the happiest, watching him serve himself every day, it was really like a couple who had been married for a long time, and that feeling was very sweet.

Later, I encountered even greater trouble, trouble that ordinary people could not bear. As a result, he didn't complain about himself at all, and still stood up and used his methods to help him solve the trouble. Although the means made me a little frightened, it turned out that there was no other good way.

Then he asked someone to spend money to send him to study abroad, which not only allowed him to successfully avoid a disaster, but also opened his eyes to see that there is a more colorful life in the world. At that time, my father once said to myself: Son, you have met a good person, cherish it, don't follow our old path.

Now that he has cheated, and even has a child with another woman, should he abandon him? Jin Yue thought about this question for a long time, and finally failed to convince herself to be ruthless.

After having a baby and going into exile, she has matured a lot and has seen some problems more clearly. Regarding the issue of husband and wife, I have discussed it with Hong Tao before, and if I think about it carefully, his ideas at that time did not seem to be too traditional. In his mouth, the husband and wife seem to be a cooperative relationship, both parties have a large independent component, and whether they can be together or not depends entirely on the feelings of both parties.

Do you still have feelings for him? Jin Yue couldn't think of this question, and she was confused and hesitant, and even had feelings with Huang Yi. It can't be said to be revenge on Hong Tao, but it's not all because he likes Huang Yi, it's really impossible to say why.

It wasn't until Hong Tao suddenly appeared in front of him that Jin Yue realized that the person he wanted to see the most was still him, even if he had become the father of other people's children, he didn't complain too much. Only with him can I have that feeling of complete relaxation, which is something that no one else can give me, even my father.

I thought that this matter would always be a secret between myself and him, and neither of them knew that the other party already knew, so they went on peacefully, but now it seems that they can't hide it. But Jin Yue didn't want to break this peace, and she didn't want to see a Hong Tao who always felt guilty about herself. If he changes, he really doesn't have to get used to it.

To make trouble is to protect one's marriage, and not to make trouble is also to protect one's marriage. It's hard to say which of these two diametrically opposed approaches is more justified and appropriate.

Everyone will encounter troubles with different backgrounds, different details, different starting points, and different difficulties in life, and how to solve them has become a big problem that we often have a headache for.

The ancients have passed the clouds, and they have to be forgiving. Why do we have to be forgiving if we are reasonable, and why can't we be justified? This has to be analyzed in detail from the perspective of the problem you want to solve. If you want to solve the contradiction between the enemy and us, then you must be upright, and you can't wait to beat the other party to death with a stick, and if you die more, you will have less trouble.

But how many contradictions in the society we live in are contradictions between friends and enemies? Most people are afraid that they will never encounter them once in their lives, and the vast majority of contradictions cannot even be called contradictions, but at most they can be regarded as frictions. Friction between friends and friends, friction between colleagues and colleagues, friction between husband and wife, father and son.

This kind of contradiction is absolutely not to the extent of life and death, and it is basically because of the inevitable differences between each person's different personalities, different outlooks on life, different pursuits, and different living environments.

People have a habit of always asking others to live and think about problems like themselves, but in fact this is impossible. The reason why people are called human beings is because they can think, and no two people are all the same, including thoughts.

Two people live together, they don't look up all day long, and they have their own differences, and it's strange that there is no contradiction. If you have to fight and be justified every time you encounter friction, not to mention whether you can find an opportunity to be 100% reasonable in these daily trivial matters, even if you are reasonable, do you have to make the other party pay the price, or even lose face?

If you like to do this, you may put up with someone with a better temper a few times, and you will turn against someone with a temper once you meet someone. No, even if one side loses too badly, it won't do you any good.

So what are you trying to do? Just want to be happy for a while, but in fact, there is one more enemy, and there is even more trouble. Is this worth it? If someone says that as long as I'm happy, it's done, then this kind of person will stay away as soon as possible. A person who lives entirely on the basis of a petty temper will not bring the slightest happiness except for the endless trouble that will bring you the slightest.

To put it nicely, this is called straight-tempered, emotional, and straightforward. To put it mildly, this kind of person is called living in vain, and he can't live any famous life for a lifetime. No society will allow such a person to succeed, because in his eyes he only has his own temper, and the interests of others are not considered.

That's why the ancients left us a practical aphorism after dealing with this kind of thing countless times: when you are reasonable, you should spare people, and the word Rao here expresses not ignoring and pretending not to know, but telling us to pay attention to ways and means.

That is to say, when we deal with this kind of problem, whether it is in the workplace, at home, or in society, we must have a standard and not be capricious.

This criterion is very simple, everything that is in line with one's own interests, beneficial to both parties, and has the same goals as oneself is what needs to be pursued, and everything else should be ignored. What kind of petty temper, violent temper, grievance, uncomfortable, self-esteem, unwillingness...... Everything has to make way for its own goals.

Specific to Hong Tao's matter, Jin Yue only has two choices, either confront Hong Tao face to face and figure out the whole story of this matter, or pretend not to know and endure it.

With Jin Yue's understanding of Hong Tao, the former means that the two of them have completely parted ways. Hong Tao is really not a very generous man, his careful eyes are very small, some things can be remembered for a lifetime, it is basically impossible for anyone to turn his face with him and then want to reconcile as before. He may still be kind and polite to you on the surface, but in his heart he will never treat you as a relative anymore, and he is basically just polite.

Hong Tao himself knows this kind of problem, he once told me Jin Yue that the reason why he has a good temper when he interacts with others and doesn't care about a little contradiction is not that he was born like this, but that it is difficult for him to get along with people who have turned his face, so he tries not to turn his face with others.

There are also examples of this incident, so many neighbors who have been with him for more than ten years in the back two small courtyards, since they turned against him because of the demolition, no one can make him remember, and he doesn't even want to see him.

Whenever he talks about these people, Hong Tao himself admits that some things are not entirely to blame them, and some people are indeed kind to him. But just saying that, it's impossible to get him to do it.