Since the expansion of enrollment in colleges and universities at the end of the 90s, the difficulty of finding employment has become a new social problem. In the past, the pen &www.biquge.info amp; fun & pavilion were all allocated by the state, and then the market was allowed to adjust freely, and then it had to be regulated by the state's macro-control, so all kinds of employment projects continued to innovate, what "college student village officials", "selected students", "three branches and one support", "college student volunteers", "selected students" ...... The purpose is the same, in order to allow the not so "elite" college students to return to their hometowns with dignity, our relevant departments are really painstaking. The kingdom is like this, and no dynasty or generation has ever been treated badly in this face. Obviously, if the northerners crossed to the south, they had to engage in a "trip to Lin'an"; the emperor was taken captive, but it was said that he was "granted by the Son of Heaven from the north"; as long as he looked good in name, the substance was not important.

When I graduated three years ago, the county-level education bureau of each poor county had a task, and it was necessary to cooperate with the relevant policies to report the number of college students who were required to return to their hometowns to "teach". Yu Yue had good grades in college, and he was also an active member of literary and artistic activities, and he had an advantage in the examination and interview, and he got the graduate student guarantee examination before graduation, and the advantage of this project is that he returned to school to complete the graduate course for free after three years of work, and the state recognized and given a full-time double certificate after graduation. After Yu Yue signed the contract, he began to work for a five-year service period.

Yu Yue has always been motion sickness, even taking the train will vomit, because of this defect, he was forced to "go out of the door and not step out", except for group activities, there has never been a self-guided tour, I dare not go anywhere, even if there is the world in my chest, it is also half a step away. When I was an undergraduate, I was dizzy every year when I went back and forth to the provincial capital, and I couldn't stand up with weak legs when I arrived at the station several times, and I was so nervous that I had urethral spasms, and I couldn't pee out when I didn't go to the toilet for most of the day, and I squatted for a long time to tick a few points of water, and the tragic situation was really unspeakable. But I really couldn't resist the temptation to play for another year, and three years later, Yu Yue returned to school as scheduled, followed by Shiyuan. But he left the night he came, rushing back to school, and there was always a lot of work to do when school started.

The unfamiliar and familiar campus has long been a matter of fact. It's been three years, and Yu Yue has been counting this day three years later, living with longing. Now that I'm really back on campus, I'm so happy and worried. First of all, it's time to report to work, maybe it's been a long time since I've exercised, and that foot is swollen. Then it's about buying things, tidying up the dormitory, and all of a sudden, a thousand dollars evaporate. The dormitory is in the third district, and I just heard that the assigned room number Yu Yuele is broken, as if it was a pie falling from the world. When I was an undergraduate, I was very envious of the students who lived in the third district, there were few people and good conditions, and the canteen was downstairs. But as soon as I arrived at the dormitory, I was immediately dumbfounded, due to the expansion of graduate students in recent years, the campus dormitory was very tight, and the six-person room where Yu Yue lived was actually a four-person room, with two more beds, and the tables and cabinets could only occupy the position of the aisle, causing everyone to walk sideways in the dormitory. Lying in bed at night, I felt more and more that something was wrong in my heart, and suddenly I thought of the "logs" in the "germ warfare", ah, it was the "big road". Like canned sardines, they are lined up one by one in a small and cramped room waiting to be slaughtered. Hey, everything is really appreciating, only the diploma is getting more and more depreciated, it's only been three years, like a sea of vicissitudes.

A week passed quickly, saying that school would start this week, but it was announced that it would not start until the third week. Then why did you call us to report so early? It turns out that the life of a graduate student is really sad! Now I am glad that I brought the computer, and the otaku girl will be the otaku, at least it will not become a Yu girl. Life in the provincial city is more regular than at home, at home Yu Yue and Shiyuan are night owls, both of them are very able to survive, and now it is a collective life, nothing can be done by themselves, it is good to have constraints, at least the quality of life is guaranteed. The days of online shopping have started again, and Yu Yue must continue this "burning money" lifestyle, and now the food, clothing, housing and transportation are all solved online. I look forward to the phone ringing every day, and when I see a strange call, I know that the handsome guy is calling, so I grab a slipper and "da-da-da-da......", and go downstairs to sign happily. Three of the six people in the dormitory are "married women", and no, they already have the lover of their dreams. In addition to missing, there are many interesting memories. In the evening, the calls of the roommates are always one after another, so it is not lively. Until late at night, does everyone have a "he" in their dreams......

Yu Yue is a person who is easy to be lonely but not easy to be empty, she will not let herself be bored for too long, she can always find something to do. When I came back to school, I met a lot of classmates, some of whom I already knew, and occasionally visited the door, and handed over the extra time to the library. Reading is a high-end leisure art, Yu Yue thinks so. She always writes about her own while reading other people's books. The so-called "Tibetan ink on the chest is like a valley, and the poetry and books in the abdomen are self-explanatory", this statement is the most suitable for her. Yu Yuese is not amazing, she does not speak easily, she must be to the point, she was a news commentator on the school radio station when she was an undergraduate, she was not only the director of the news department, but also the student assistant of the instructor. She understands that learning is a lifelong career, and she will never practice utilitarianism, not asking why she reads, only what she reads.

There are fewer mundane things in the world, and friends can talk happily with each other. A group of Kochi women get together, current political hotspots, social news, human sentiments...... There are more topics. At a time when the whole society is hotly discussing the revision of the new "Marriage Law", sensitive topics are emerging one after another, and Kochi women are naturally also concerned about hot issues, and a topic is often easy to cause everyone to think deeply and arouse everyone's heated discussion. Under the new Marriage Law, which clearly favors the dominant group, men are obviously the main dominant group, so how should women, as a vulnerable group, protect their rights and interests? Similar issues can be debated not only in discussion classes, but even at dinner tables and on the road.

Yu Yue likes Jin Ting's straightforwardness very much, she is from the county with the highest salary standard in this province, her family conditions are very good, her father is the director of the local congress, and she still received a bride price of 50,000 yuan with such a family background, and the man is from the countryside, and his parents are farmers. Just when everyone looked sideways and expressed their puzzlement, she said that after all, the "sea dry and rotten" feelings in this world like those deduced in novels are in the minority, and the vast majority of men and women are united because of "suitability". The so-called "hire is a wife", asking for a bride price is not only to see a man's personality, but more importantly, to let a man know that it is not easy to marry a wife, and he will treat her better in the future, because the cost of divorce is too high. If the woman's family is too casual and even marries a lot, it will make them feel that marrying a wife is easy and very profitable, so they will despise the woman. Through this initial trick, the parents can see the personality and sincerity of the man's family, and if they are safe, they can rest assured that they can entrust it. After all, there are a few people who want to make money by marrying their daughters, and the average family is appropriate to put forward higher requirements than usual, and test the man's sincerity and ability with a certain degree of difficulty. In some places, the so-called "trickle of water and long stream" principle of marrying a daughter is only flexibly applied in my hometown. The villain first and then the gentleman, give you a certain degree of difficulty, let you complete, and then give support and help at the right time, such as when the young couple starts a business or buys a house, so that the man can feel the kindness from his father-in-law's family, which is to be remembered. Ginting's words silenced all the women present. It is undeniable that she said that she does have a point, and she will know how to cherish it if she pays more. It turns out that money is not only the meaning of "payment", but more importantly, there are many life truths hidden behind money. It's a pity that we are too self-righteous and don't have a deep understanding of the thoughts of the ancients, but blindly shout "equality between men and women", "private privacy", and "free space...... In the final analysis, it is necessary to "hire" a proper wife! Asking for money is not a shameful thing, it is just misinterpreted. In today's impetuous world, fast food culture is rampant, and everyone wants to have immediate results on everything. In the final analysis, girls still have to have a pair of discerning eyes and cherish themselves in order to be respected by others, which is the most important thing. The times have indeed developed, and men and women are no longer hidden, but what remains unchanged is that there is no woman who does not want to get the attention and sincerity of her husband's family in the process of the wedding, and the best way to reflect it is naturally his pay, who calls money the standard to measure everything? Of course, including people's hearts. Jin Ting reads political science, her interpretation naturally has a certain philosophical outlook, the development of things has the law of opposition and unity, it seems that men and women are opposite to each other on the issue of employment, in fact, both sides are out of the same expectations, hoping that the two will be good for a hundred years and have a happy life.

Ever since the philosopher Socrates famously said, "If you marry a good wife, you will be happy, and if you marry a bad wife, you will become a philosopher," marriage has begun to haunt us as a "problem." There are striking similarities between ancient and modern China and foreign countries on this issue, first there is an infinite sexual intercourse melee, and with the improvement of civilization, there is more spiritual interest between men and women, and selfish desires produce possessive psychology. In order to prevent incest, it is required that there should be a relatively stable relationship between men and women, so marriage is born. What should be a good thing that is sublimated by love has to set many restrictions for the multiple desires of human beings, which in turn desecrates marriage itself. The history of mankind is a history of entanglement, when the social atmosphere is too corrupt, the religious doctrine of advocating asceticism prevails, and when human nature is repressed to the stagnation of social civilization, humanism of the human heart also becomes an ideological weapon to break the abstinence.

The relationship between men and women in China has always been relatively free, and the so-called more than 2,000 years of feudal oppression of women can only be said strictly in the Ming and Qing dynasties. Since the prevalence of science in the Southern Song Dynasty, the moral norms of men and women began to be strict in marriage, and the official advocated the integrity of scholars and the chastity of aristocratic women. The Southern Song Dynasty was only the beginning, and it did not form a trend, and the Yuan Dynasty was ruled by foreign people, and the real strict implementation began with Zhu Yuanzhang, Taizu of the Ming Dynasty. The feminist movement at the end of the Qing Dynasty liberated women's physical freedom, but the oppression of women's ideology has continued to the present. The same situation has a similar history in Europe, that is, in the dark Middle Ages, when men oppressed women to the point of horrific proportions, such as chastity belts.

A certain school of religion in Europe once asserted that everything that is within God's sight can be traded. It is natural that the marriage relationship has become a special channel for the realization of the cooperation of interests. This kind of ideology and concept has been the mainstream of society for a long time, and this has been the case in ancient and modern times, both in China and abroad. Needless to say, at the beginning of the establishment of the marriage system, the family mission of "marrying two surnames" and having children and passing on the family lineage was given. Chinese ethics and morality regard marriage as the beginning of human relationships. "Yi Zhi Ci": "Heaven and earth are bound, and all things are alcoholic." Men and women are refined, and all things are born". The natural world is produced by the sympathy of yin and yang, and human beings are produced by the intercourse of men and women. Since the patriarchal system of the Western Zhou Dynasty, under this male-centered clan system, the relationship between husband and wife is extremely unequal, the husband's power is supreme, "the husband advocates, the woman follows", and women have no independent personality; Marriage and family are the carriers of family ethical relations, so they are full of ethical and moral constraints, and this creates a relatively stable marital relationship, and the control of patriarchy makes the relationship between the sexes simple, and stifles the degradation of marital morality. Under this system, attention is only a unilateral moral requirement for women, and there are very few constraints on men. The marriage system of the country is actually "monogamous and polygamous concubines", marriage is mainly for the "bride wife", and the state of etiquette has a complete description of the wedding, that is, the "three books and six rites": Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Naji, inviting dates, and welcoming in person. This wedding paradigm was established in the Zhou Dynasty and was first seen in the Book of Rites. Most of the subsequent generations followed the Zhou rites, but the name and content were changed. From this point of view, Ginting's argument is really based on the law.

If the Chinese marriage system emphasizes political interests, then the European marriage system is more reflected in economic interests. There is a story in history that the 20-year-old King Ottokar II of Bohemia married King Margaret, who was almost 50 years old in Austria, and once Austria was annexed, he dissolved the marriage. Except for property and territory, no one expects what marriage can bring to each other. Since non-primogenitures cannot inherit property, those frustrated youths begin to chase after the heiress who owns the property. The rich widow became a sweetheart. The young man marries the old widow who has real estate, and once the old widow dies, the young man (who has become a bad old man) can marry the young and delicate flower girl, and as soon as the old guy dies, the girl will soon become an aunt, and she can marry a young man, and carry forward the second spring. It's really a wacky marriage food bag. A more famous piece of history takes place in England, when Queen Elizabeth I came to power. She was the illegitimate daughter of Henry VIII. When she ascended the throne at the age of 25, she became the most valuable unmarried woman in Europe, and more than 50 monarchs proposed to her. She regards marriage as the most valuable bargaining chip, from which she can obtain rich benefits. Whenever Britain needed the support of a certain country or the easing of relations, the queen began to release the news, intending to find the right person, so that the princes and nobles would work for a long time, spending a lot of money, and the queen won a respite. She ruled Britain for 45 years and single-handedly created the Kingdom of Great Britain, on which the sun never sets. From then on, women woke up to the fact that it was possible to conquer and use men with marriage. Capitalist utilitarian marriages then swept the world.

At present, the essence of Western law lies in "equality for all", but equality for all does not mean fairness for all. On the issue of marriage, the laws of most countries directly acquiesce in the status of women as weak, and without exception set up many provisions to protect the rights and interests of women, especially divorced women. The revision of the new Marriage Law has largely taken care of the city's special circumstances, many of the problems caused by high housing prices. However, traditional Chinese society pays attention to the right person, which technically ensures the possibility of equality between men and women. Marriage in China is the marriage of two families. If the man is likely to bully the woman, then he must take into account the power of the other party's family. When getting married, the man needs to give a dowry, and the woman needs to respond to the dowry, which is completely equal. Unlike now, equality between men and women was just a slogan, and there was no corresponding cultural guarantee mechanism. So, in this sense, the way of pre-receiving dowry in Jinting's hometown can be described as traditional and modern. Yu Yue's marriage is not so much a marriage as a marriage, and there is almost no economic handover between men and women, and the typical "men do not marry women do not marry", in a sense, they are also equal. Thinking of this, Yu Yue became very calm, and only by not owing each other can they get along. Jin Ting listened to Yu Yue's thoughts, "hum" and sneered twice, who owes whom is not certain, the national situation is like this, women can come alone, what about men? Yu Yue has never been so weak-hearted and allowed others to rob her of white, she said what she was most worried about in her heart, just for this year's separation, she pushed back many pre-ambushed traps.

In Yu Yue's view, love is also a kind of grace of encounter. Why is it called "love", I think this is the explanation. Men and women, women and men, in the vast sea of people, sympathize with each other, appreciate each other, choose each other, and gather together for fate, which is a lifetime of love. There is no suitable or inappropriate, only cherish or not, and it is happy to be able to walk together and progress together. Many people have said that love is not an empty period of Ai Ai, it takes courage to hold hands with each other, and it takes more understanding. It is only in marriage that many people truly understand the true meaning of love. There was a saying, "one life and one love" how much unforgettable love is the way, otherwise how can there be such a resolute spirit? "I only wish that your heart is like my heart, and I will live up to my love", the Buddha said, acquaintance is fate. This is the eternal rainbow in Yu Yue's heart.

Jin Ting Xiao Nizi, don't look at the usual set of theories seems to be very rational, as soon as her husband arrives on the weekend, the usual dissatisfaction is immediately put aside, and she immediately dresses up and goes out happily to enjoy the sweetness of love. Haha, girls are like this, with hard mouths and soft hearts. The freedom and loneliness of not getting married, the shackles and happiness of marriage, are always the most difficult multiple-choice questions in the world. Married roommates are quiet, and there are many more trivial things in life in the topic of their husbands; newlywed roommates are busy preparing for weddings, people are in their hometowns at school, and every day is a warm and affectionate conversation with their husbands, discussing future life plans, and conceiving a beautiful blueprint for the future; unmarried roommates encounter emotional setbacks, and there are countless words to say to friends every day, one is the middle of the night; and then they are all girlfriends in love, and they are tired of their lovers in their own space at night, whether it is a phone call, QQ, girls have a kind of natural vanity about feelings, hoping that everyone can feel that they are valued and supported。 The common problem of women all over the world -- always feel that she is the best heroine in the world! But every girl has a doubt in her heart, I don't know if he on the other end of the phone is her lifelong partner? Maggie Cheung once had a classic: A woman's success is to have a lover by her side before she dies. The future is full of temptations for everyone, precisely because it is unpredictable. When it comes to emotional matters, who will be heartbroken for whom, and who will take whom seriously?

Qian Shiyuan also wrote this article "Days - To a Distant Wife" at this time.

"I just got married, April 1st this year, many people don't believe it, but I got married on that day.I'm so weird, my birthday is still August 1st! My marriage certificate is June 1st.My whole life is related to good days.I hope that in 50 years, I can also choose a good day, beautiful to draw a beautiful end to my life.,So, today's theme is: days!

The days are very long, and every day is difficult to pass, especially now, when my lover goes to the provincial capital to study for graduate school, leaving me to cook and do laundry; The days are long, especially now, hot, bitter, summer; The days are long, especially now, and it's hard to be alone!

The days are very short, every day passes quickly, and all of a sudden, my lover has been in the provincial capital for a week; The days are very short, especially now, when the summer is gone and the autumn is cool; The days are very short, and when you open your eyes, it is dawn; The days are so short, it seems that overnight, I am almost standing, and my parents are also gray-haired!

How should I grasp the days? The longing is so long, the progress of the career is so far away, the outstanding students and I have hurried by, they have gone to higher and better places, and they have gotten rid of their childishness, and I have left me with something? Get rid of me? Memory? Fulfillment? I am at a loss, I don't know what to do! The days are so short, I am no longer young, the post-90s generation has begun to appear on the stage of history, and the glamour does not belong to us? Our golden age has also begun to fade slowly, but my dream house? Where are you?

I finally survived until the wedding day, but I didn't enjoy the flowers on the eve of the flowers, the candles in the cave room, but my lover went to the provincial capital to study, one day, one week, one month, and a year! I don't know how to spend the days, I don't know, what to do with my thoughts, and I only know until the years end! At this moment, I fell in love with Li Qingzhao's poem: "I will never regret the gradual widening of the clothes belt, and I will make people haggard for Yi." I didn't think that the night was deeper, and the more I missed!

days, this week's days, classes, mahjong, even my wife's phone calls are so hurried; But after a whole night of online games, my eyes hurt so much; It was late at night, but I didn't want to sleep at all, and I couldn't sleep!

My dear, you said you miss me, you said you look forward to the love letter I gave you? Is this counted? Just give you this "day"! I hope that I want to live a good life with you, live every day well, and cherish every day!

Every day, I am in such a hurry when you call me, this day is not in a hurry, can you take a good look? This is also what I want to say, my thoughts, my thoughts about you, often a question and answer on the phone is difficult to represent my heart, wife, I really love you, I want to live a good life with you, I want to wait for you to go home to live!"

For some reason, Yu Yue can always see two completely different lovers, one is full of revolutionary romantic ideals, and the other is vulgar and humble in the face of power. These two understandings have been fighting in his heart, I don't know which one is the real him, or both? Shiyuan said, "Life is not a poetic novel, but an encyclopedia", Yu Yue replied, "I heard that life is like a play." There is also half a sentence hidden in my heart, "It's just that the roles are different, and the acting skills are different." ”

Love should be pure, and marriage is trivial. On the road of life, some people are affectionate and sweet, and some people are detached, and there are not many people who can love people for a lifetime, so true love is particularly precious. This year is very comfortable for Yue, no pressure, no worldliness, everything is at peace with the situation, friends can often get together in the old days, both "no silk and bamboo ears", and "no case of labor", the circle of friends can really be said to be "talk and laugh with Confucianism, no white ding", and it is indeed a very comfortable mood to savor the pure colleges and universities. Sitting in the corridor of the library, Yu Yue and her best friend Jin Ting talked, and their thoughts became clearer and clearer, and they both opposed and praised each other.

"Why AA, the stupid style of a stupid woman", since you have decided to live together for the rest of your life, can you calculate it so clearly, men and women in marriage are originally a confused account. Besides, men struggle outside the home to earn money and take it home to support their families. It is a matter of course for a woman to manage her family and finances. Why break this rule unless better institutions can be built because of the individual differences between men and women? Since two people can walk together is fate, since they love each other, they must treat both parties sincerely and seriously, communicate with each other, and get married with the attitude of going through a lifetime. It is normal for personalities to be incompatible, and seeking common ground while reserving differences is great wisdom. Isn't it strange that when people are together, money has to be clearly distinguished? It is not necessary to flaunt independence and nobility in this way! A man who is at ease with you in terms of money is the one who really loves you, because he will not be wary and will completely treat you as his own. A girl's financial independence is very important, but more importantly, she has an independent personality and dares to manage his money, which in itself is a sign of your self-confidence. "If there is a strong wife in the family, the family will be prosperous."

Yu Yue explained that his life is not "AA", but Yu Yue is not used to asking people for money, unless he is conscious. Of course, this is pretentious in Jinting's opinion. Ginting is the kind of woman whose husband has to pay an IOU even if she borrows money, and she is afraid that this husband from a poor family will reach out to their family to ask for money. Men are easy to raise, and things come too easily and will not be cherished.

"Why do we have to compete with men? Why do we have to prove the excellence of women by joining the WTO? Why do we have to work hard to show the equality of men and women?" Acknowledging differences is the real equality between men and women. Women are already very tired when they have to give birth and take care of housework, so why should they work hard to share the man's share of internal affairs? This will only make men feel that it is taken for granted, and as a result, their sense of responsibility will be reduced and they will not want to make progress. Girls read more for the next generation, such girls are knowledgeable and well-informed, and women are talented and virtuous. Don't worry that your talent is useless, being able to cultivate two talents for the country is the greatest contribution. The reason why there is so much "discrimination in the use of people" in society now, to put it bluntly, there are many jobs that are not suitable for women, so why not give you a rest? Quit, let the men who succeed you fight! This society needs masculinity too much. ”

"Why do you have to think that as long as you don't go out to work, you will not be able to keep up with the times and be abandoned by your husband?" This is a curse given to women by the whole society, an absolute misunderstanding. A woman who is confident in her bones always keeps pace with the times, because she is good at learning, and when she makes time, doesn't she have more energy to understand the society and do what she likes...... In the final analysis, it is better than being an "office slave", so why make yourself tired, look like a vicissitudes of life, and sometimes thankless, lose a watermelon and pick up sesame seeds. The best maintenance is to allocate time happily every day, and a woman is radiant, and a family will be thriving. Don't think that husband and child are not doing their job, this is a very great project, and ordinary women can't do it well. Men bear the heavy responsibility of strengthening the national economy, while women also shoulder the heavy responsibility of improving the quality of the people. That's all there is to it. ”

Inspired by feminism, today's Kochi women generally have a strong sense of self, do not bow their heads easily, think deeply about life and are mean, the higher the knowledge, the lower the ability to deal with others, less tolerant, more arrogant. In the end, I can't even deal with the minimum interpersonal relationships, and the older leftover women are mostly from the master's and doctoral departments of colleges and universities, which is not very clear. The traditional view is really non-mainstream in today's society, but the girl's heart is like a "Pandora's box": if it is released, will it still be accepted?

Yu Yue has no bottom in his heart. The living environment determines the way of thinking, the three views do not appear out of thin air, Yu Yue can't change her consistent independent attitude, she has a deep inferiority complex in her heart, and she has lost a lot of opportunities to go further because of this "can't let go" personality. In her diary, she wrote: "I didn't acquiesce, and ordinary men don't dare to show love easily." A woman's encouragement is the reason for a man to pursue love. In the end, I kept the stubborn loftiness and the arrogance as thin as a piece of paper, but I lost the most precious sincerity and youthfulness of youth. And after realizing his naivety and the situation that he had to bow to reality, he still had to enter married life and the world. But I can't figure it out myself, how did he become my husband, if it's just good to me, it's too far-fetched, some boys used to be very good to me, why didn't I want to cross the line with them?"

Yu Yue comes from such a typical revolutionary family, who has worked in the confidential department for several generations, and if his parents were good at drilling, it would not be the current situation a long time ago. It is precisely because of the conservative family style that Yu Yue is also accustomed to self-restraint and does not dare to exceed his duty. Over time, she learned how to please herself, how to kill boredom, and in this kind of day, little by little she became strong and enriched, she cultivated her beautiful and reserved heart, but unconsciously formed the kind of "rejecting people" high and cold style so that many people can only watch from a distance and it is difficult to get close, she protects herself too well. Shi Yuan once said on the phone that there was an invisible pressure to get along with him, although it was only a passing word, Yu Yue also heard the helplessness and haste in his heart. In fact, he is not the only one who has said this. Basically, since high school, all friends of the opposite sex have similar expressions. Yu Yue is very abusive and harsh on herself, and she first finds the reason for her mistakes, even if it is indeed someone else's mistake, so that the other party is often afraid of her, lest she be looked down upon if she is not perfect enough.

Girls who study history have seen too much truth, so they are sensible. Reason is terrible, it annihilates talent, obliterates romance, and carefully verifies it, and the result is only thinking. Yu Yue and Shi Yuan always have too many differences, Yu Yue is not used to the worldly taste of Shi Yuan, and Shi Yuan also does not like Yu Yue's nihilism that is hollowed out by life, you know, this is the most important point of mutual appreciation between the two sides at the beginning.

Yu Yue is a very romantic woman in her bones, and she will not be lazy when she is romantic. Once I got on the car home and went to the county seat in the middle of the night, and the moment I pushed into the door, Shi Yuan was very moved, he was a person with a board and one eye, and all the romance was to buy gold jewelry. He said that gold is equal to emotion, and nothing is as valuable as gold. His theories are so crooked.

Husband and wife reunited, the night is deep, the candle talks at night, there is no sleep, the two talk relatively eloquently, talking and arguing, the past can not be recalled, the accumulated resentment is a powder keg that is about to erupt, and it is easy not to touch. Men and women must not leave a legacy at the beginning of their marriage. In marriage, men and women are in the same boat, sharing weal and woe, how can they regard each other as opponents, and eliminate the strengths of one and the other? When the world of happiness becomes a dark forest, we will not be able to get out. "A gentleman is especially cautious", the result of competition is only a quick tongue, no one will be the winner in marriage, and if you know each other, you will not be able to get along, the same but incompatible. After all, who is really entrusted?

Yu Yue wrote in her diary: "I have a kind of simple stubbornness. A person, as long as you don't lie to me for the first time, I will believe you for the rest of my life, no matter what you will say or do, I will believe you without hesitation, even if you are spurned by thousands of people, I will still be your friend until you lie to me...... However, as long as a person cheats me for the first time, no matter what he says or does in the future, I will doubt it to the end, and it will be too difficult to win back my trust. "Here, deception is not telling the truth, it is opportunistic. Yu Yue always believes that people who are sure do not disdain to lie, and lying is often a sign of lack of confidence. Sometimes she also feels that her feelings are too deep and she is very tired. After all, is it a woman, you have to know how to entertain yourself, relax your feelings, and occasionally go out of your body to let your soul go home. One man's world, perhaps, is poetic, but too narrow. It's not about character, people are animals of their environment. With people who are well-informed and interesting, the whole person is relaxed a lot, most of them are open-minded and cheerful, not strange, and they are more tolerant of people and things, adding a bit of charm, and it is really better to read 10,000 books than to travel 10,000 miles, and it is better to see 10,000 people than to travel 10,000 miles.

Yu Yue doesn't talk when she is not talking, except for eating and sleeping is reading, in addition to professional related to her profession this year, what she has read the most is ancient medical books, what age do you do what, the senior beauties around her pay special attention to this issue. In the dormitory, Yanyan was pregnant, and her mother came to the provincial capital to wait, and the two lived together. Liqiu in the dormitory next door is also pregnant, and her husband often comes to accompany her. There are also a few cases where you don't dare to get pregnant, all of which are similar to Yu Yue, but they still have reservations about emotional issues. Huihui has been living in the dormitory since she got married, and she insists on not buying a new house or having children. She said that buying a house is a test of a man's attitude towards life, and that he doesn't want to have common property with you means that he has reservations. Yu Yue knows that the housing prices in their hometown are not high, and the double income workers gritted their teeth a little and the down payment came out, and the monthly payment was not a burden at all, the husband was good, but the family relationship was very traditional and complicated, and the mother-in-law brought her nephew to live soon after she got married, and said that she would help the two of them cook for the sake of the children's study, Huihui was miserable, this kind of hard stuffing gave people kindness sometimes very crazy, she said that she regretted it, if she proposed to buy a house before she got married, she would not be so passive, or too soft-hearted, and now bring it up, it is difficult for the man to accept, and feel that you are doing a lot of things。 Yu Yue listened to Huihui's complaints, and had to contact herself, for most of the past half a year, all the disputes with Shiyuan were caused by family relationships, and the most common was the problem caused by money. Yu Yue's pressure comes from the fear of the future. The most anxious about giving birth to a baby is Jinting, she is too fat, her menstrual period is abnormal, and she has not moved in her stomach for some days after she got married. The conflicts between the two husbands and wives are mostly caused by this, Ginting has no confidence in herself, she is eager to use the child to tie her husband's heart, she said that she can see that her husband has a lot of perfunctory ingredients for herself, most of which are aimed at her own family. Before he got a job after graduating from undergrad, he could think of asking Ginting's father for help, this young man was by no means an ordinary honest man. Later, I was lucky enough to be admitted to the railway, but I didn't expect to receive a lot of benefits. Ginting saw that he had the intention of getting rid of himself, but he didn't find a better one, and it was more likely that he would compromise. Jin Ting found a woman's things in her husband's bedroom of the unit, and also found the text messages that came and went, her husband was a slippery head, and made up a reason to push it to Jin Ting to guess, Jin Ting didn't want to pierce this layer of window paper, and the two of them were so tacitly consumed. Jin Ting's husband did a good job before and after, and he was also polite and thoughtful to us classmates, but it was difficult to say about the two of them. Yu Yue has always been envious of the feelings that he has been talking about since he was a student, thinking that he must know the root of the matter more solidly, it turns out that the relationship is really complicated, and the reason why many people do not change their minds is simply that the cost of betrayal is not easy to estimate, it is better to push the boat down the river first and then try to move forward.

On this day, Jin Ting was in a good mood and was overflowing with joy. It is said that the previous account will be written off, and in the future, it will be good to eat and drink, recuperate the body, and have children for the lover, and teach husbands and children. The speed of its change is incredible, and the ruthlessness that gritted his teeth and hated iron without being able to make steel before was gone in an instant. In other words, she is a gentle, virtuous, hard-working, and virtuous Chinese woman, the cause of which is a material promise from her husband to give her a mobile phone. In fact, as far as Jinting's current situation is concerned, what good mobile phone can't afford to buy? She just wants a man to buy it for her. It is no surprise that sensual women are easily satisfied. Yu Yue reminded her, "Buy an expensive one, when my boyfriend bought me a mobile phone, I only picked more than 600, all because I already regarded the other party as a confidant in my heart, and I didn't expect to test it step by step with material, thinking, practical is not necessary." Now that I think about it, I should have chosen 1600, not 600 if I was empathetic, and he would never be grateful for your kindness." Jin Ting blinked his eyes wide, "Yo, you have this enlightenment? I can do a lot of this kind of thing, you save him, he is happy enough to turn around and dislike you." Why should you buy a cheap product and compare your worth? Stupid, you fool people like this for a long time and don't take you seriously. When a woman uses a man's money, she will have the joy of being loved, and she will feel that her heart is entrusted and she belongs. Nothing to do with the wind and the moon, hehe......" After speaking, Jin Ting flattened his mouth and jumped away.

All graduate students must be in place to revise the college entrance examination papers, which is a life experience, and how to know how you were killed and taken away in the hands of others. It was rainy for several days, and there was only the sound of the keyboard ticking in the computer room, and occasionally a few complaints floated out from the third review team, "You are optimistic about knocking again, is there a problem with your level when there are so many three evaluations?" The people who revise the papers are composed of teachers of various subjects in high schools and graduate students in various places. After all, high school teachers come from the front line, and they are clear about the academic situation, and the most scolded are graduate students, who have no teaching experience, and blindly pursue the lofty views, and even disdain to refer to the answers, and the changes are slow, which is really unrealistic. Our group of people, who have first-line experience and re-study, are valued. During the break, teachers from all over the world gathered together to express their opinions, and they exchanged ideas, and at the end, they sighed that they had been useless scholars since ancient times, and the teacher's line was despised everywhere. Most of Yu Yue's classmates came to the first round, and when it comes to the college entrance examination, Yu Yue, who is usually the most talkative, is unusually silent, and she can't speak after three years of high school experience.

As the final exams approach, each department is thinking about how to pass the exams smoothly, and having a meal and giving gifts is the most discussed topic recently. The students were unusually united, and they were all working together to figure out how to take down the professor. Recently, I heard that the Department of Chinese in the Department of Mathematics refused to give gifts, saying that it could not contribute to the atmosphere of corruption. Sure enough, it is more sentimental, and our history department is to hold a thank-you banquet. It seems that only people in the political department are more polite and courteous, that is, giving gifts and eating, Jin Ting is worthy of coming from the second generation of officials, see what she said, "We don't materialize everything, sometimes material things are really nothing, I think gift-giving is a kind of respect for the teacher, an affirmation, and a way of communication, this can't be measured by money, it's too vulgar, I think it's people-oriented now, teachers are also people, we got things from teachers, what is it to give some material things" , Jinting's in-depth analysis in simple terms is convincing to everyone, and their dormitory classmates have donated money without hesitation. The things that everyone is entangled in their hearts, she can settle them in a few words, and she can make an embarrassing thing very frank, how strong family education must be behind it. "Think about the current people, K song went to 200-300 at once, what is this?" Yu Yue deeply felt that Jin Ting had the potential to be an official, or that sentence, people are animals of the environment.

Yu Yue has always hated dinners, she is more inclined to give gifts, Jin Ting said, gifts have to be given one by one, just come together for dinner, as far as you are those who have no money, you don't need to give gifts one-to-one, hold a thank-you banquet to kill. To tell the truth, Yu Yue is not good at inviting guests to dinner, and he is even more idiot at wine table diplomacy, but he can still listen to what makes sense, after Jin Ting said this, Yu Yue was immediately refreshed, and he was not so awkward about this matter. But Yu Yue has never been able to adapt to the atmosphere of the dinner with Chinese characteristics, in addition to not knowing how to drink, and more importantly, disgusted with an illusory friendship. This is not a simple meal, it is related to the examination pass rate of the 12 masters in this major, and it is a must. Unfortunately, what only a few students can do in undergraduate years has become a trend in graduate school, and it seems out of place and out of touch with the times if you don't follow the trend, which is not enough to reflect your maturity and sensibility. The main thing is the mentality, if you think it's worth doing, then convince yourself to do it. You think it's material, it's material, everything is corrupted, you think it's spirit, that's spirit, everything is respectful.

Yu Yue was afraid of the dinner, afraid of the wine banquet, and even more afraid of facing the proverb that "there is no banquet in the world". Fan Fan, a friend from the undergraduate school, came back to the school to see her, "The group photo at the graduation banquet, only you are absent, what a pity", Yu Yue smiled, "Afraid of separation, afraid of crying, and afraid of aftertaste, without the memory of graduation, I will stay in the university forever, fixed in that innocent era, isn't it very good." Fan Fan pouted, "You are fine, the rest of us is missing."

said that Shi Yuan would come to pick up Yu Yue home, but in the end he couldn't make the trip, Shi Yuan said that his mother had a leg pain and wanted to accompany her to the hospital to see, so he couldn't come to the provincial capital, so he could only pick him up at the city train station. "It's not that her leg hurts now, she's been hurting all her life", Yu Yue was unhappy, she subconsciously suspected that Shiyuan was afraid of spending money, or that her mother didn't want her son to feel too sorry for her daughter-in-law? After a lot of luggage was taken away by the courier brother, Yu Yue went to embroider her eyebrows very indifferently, no matter how unhappy she was, she still had high requirements for her image. A good woman knows how to cherish herself, not for "women who please themselves", but "women for themselves", self-feeling good, in order to please others. She will not treat things casually because people can't see them, cheap is not the goal, the trend is not the style, and feeling the care is the essence. A good woman, gentle as water, demure as a flower.

The good days of the year are coming to an end, don't look at everyone silently carrying luggage, but everyone knows in their hearts, "It's time to wake up and come back to reality!"