The daughter-in-law of the pillar came in, as if she had cried, and her eyes were a little red. Pen, fun, and www.biquge.info

She was chatting with Xiaoqian's mother outside, I don't know what she talked about, and when it came to sadness.

"Sister-in-law sits. Xiao Qian's tone towards her was obviously a little gentler than towards the pillar.

She can see that this sister-in-law is really her fan.

She can also see that this sister-in-law has really reached a collapse point in her life at the moment, if she is not desperate, how can she show such a look of help to a person she doesn't know, sometimes unintentional indifference may make a person who has nothing to love lose the last bit of desire to survive, a small help, may also help a desperate person regain hope.

"Xiaoqian, shouldn't I tell you this, after all, you are a relative of the pillar, I..."

She really has no one to talk to, knowing that Xiaoqian may not help her, but she can't control her desire to talk.

"There are no relatives for doctors, you come to me, sit opposite me and be my counselor, if you don't want to call me Xiaoqian, call me Meiwei, just use this as a radio emotional outpouring phone, don't think about who I am, just tell me if you have something. ”

"Well, I don't know where to start..."

"You've got a baby, don't you?"

"Yes, my daughter's name is Xiaoli, she is an introvert, she is not like other children by nature. Speaking of her daughter, Sister-in-law Zhu took out her wallet from her pocket and showed it to Xiaoqian.

It was a very thin little girl, looking at the camera shyly.

"With all due respect, her hand—"

When this topic was mentioned, Sister-in-law Zhu's eyes were red, and tears were about to come down again.

"The child's right hand is six fingers when he is born, the more he grows up, the more introverted, especially after going to kindergarten, other children are curious about why her hands are different from others, she cried and said that she didn't want to go to school, so young children, the words have not been learned, but they have low self-esteem. ”

Maybe for other children, asking Xiaoli's fingers is not necessarily discrimination or what, but children are naturally curious, but everyone is paying attention, the child's psychology will definitely change, there will be inferiority complex, and gradually the child will become more and more introverted.

"I heard the pillar say, you don't hug the child when she cries?"

"I also worry a lot about the child's affairs, I checked a lot of foreign parenting books, I see that it says that if you want the child to be independent, don't hug her, she is originally six fingers, what if you don't improve yourself?"

"She's three years old, is she a year old or a virtual age?"

"We also looked for several kindergartens to find a private kindergarten for such a small child. Her father had a big opinion of me, the cost of the small class was 200 yuan a month, and he felt that I should quit my job and take care of the children at home. ”

"Between the six months and the age of 2 years, there will be a cycle of emotional attachment, and the baby at this stage may be a little anxious and need more parental love, hugging her often, meeting her emotional needs, can help her reduce anxiety, and what is written in the parenting book is not necessarily correct. ”

"Ahh

"With all due respect, why do you insist on going to work instead of giving her more company? She should receive professional psychological counseling in her current situation, because her individual situation is somewhat special, she is in a period of emotional need, and in an environment like kindergarten, realizing that she is different from others will make her anxiety more serious, and if she continues to do so, the baby's personality will be affected when she grows up. ”

After Xiaoqian was reborn, in order to better take care of her children, she deliberately added early childhood psychology and gave professional advice on these.

At the mention of this, the pillar sister-in-law hid her face and burst into tears.

Her father didn't want to do it for the child, saying that the child's grandfather and uncle were both six-fingered, and they were doing well without surgery, and they were not affected at all, I knew that he just saw that the child was a girl and didn't want to invest in the child. ”

Mothers can't let go of their children.

Six fingers are different from other congenital diseases and do not affect their independence, but these people did not expect that their children might be looked at differently when they grew up.

By the way, Xiao Qian remembered that the cousin who was very good at making wooden furniture was indeed six fingers, and she was still curious to look at it when she was a child.

Most of this curiosity may come from being strange to people who are different from themselves, and may not be malicious, but when most people look at it this way, it will bring a devastating blow to the person being looked at, causing low self-esteem and depression.

"This surgery is not expensive, and it is best to give the child a treatment before elementary school. "Xiaoqian is supportive of the child's surgery.

That's what I thought, so I told her dad about the conditions, saying that I have to make money from my part-time job at my own disposal, and I always have to take care of the children when I am a father, and I will earn less, but it is enough to save a little, and strive to have the operation done before the child is in elementary school. ”

"In that case, why do you still want to give him a second child?" This paragraph is not psychotherapy, it is Xiaoqian who is understanding the situation.

"Because of work, we always quarrel, and sometimes I want to have a stable relationship..."

"Confused. Remember, never use having children to save feelings, because the contradiction has not been solved, when you do not solve the original contradiction and go to the new trouble, it will become a greater contradiction, I will give you the assumption, if one day your marriage comes to an end, you only have one child, you can take your daughter away, another one, if it comes to the end, you have to lose one, what should you do then? If the second child is still a daughter, what will you do? The daughter will have a miserable life without a mother. ”

Xiao Qian's words were cruel, but they hit the nail on the head.

The idea of using a son to save the marriage was wrong from the beginning.

Whether it is a son or not, they have already classified themselves as a tool for giving birth to children, even if they give birth to a son?

The husband doesn't care about the children, but only cares about wearing open crotch pants for his son to show the happiness of his successor.

What about the?

If a man lacks a sense of family responsibility and refuses to let go of the male power under the straight man's mind, he can only give birth to more women who are not old and decrepit.

Don't talk about love when the time comes, all that's left for the rest of your life is hard work.

If the second child is a daughter, it will be even more miserable, and all that awaits her is endless white eyes and ridicule.

"So what do I do, I'm desperate now... I think I'm a failed woman, I can't sleep all night crying when the child is born, I want to die with the child in my arms, what hope is there in life, every night my heart is panicked... I went to work better, but when I talked about having a second child, I was conflicted, one would want a second child, and the other would think that the second child was terrible. ”

It seems that there is still a case of postpartum depression... Xiao Qian sighed in her heart, it was really a house leak that happened to rain overnight.