Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, and this sentence is not true.

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, when people's low-level needs are satisfied, in the process of pursuing high-level needs, people often don't care much about those needs that have already been satisfied.

And the husband and wife have walked out of the kind of relationship between lovers, and there will naturally be no more vigorous love.

However, passion can't be kept for a long time, otherwise it wouldn't be called passion.

It is very easy for people to like a person or something in an impulsive state, but it is difficult to maintain their interest after passion.

People often say that three minutes of heat, in fact, this is a common disease of human beings, liking the new and hating the old is also a common disease, this is the instinct of biology, and how to overcome this instinct is a test of wisdom.

And the relationship between husband and wife is the calm period after passion.

Except for the earlier introduction marriages (arranged marriages) of the parents' generation, marriages in society are basically free love.

And free love and marriage are very fast, divorce is also very fast, compared with the past, the divorce rate has increased a lot, of course, these are all for a reason.

The reason is that in fact, even in the lull period after the passion, the relationship between the two parties cannot remain as good as the love thing.

Distance produces beauty, when they were still in love before, two people were dead and alive because of the relationship between hormones, and they felt very uncomfortable when they were a little separated, and they couldn't wait to be together every day, and because the relationship reached a certain extent, so the two parties would choose to enter the palace of marriage, but after getting married, the relationship between the two parties began to break down.

Life is not like love, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, everything needs to be considered, those inconspicuous trivial things in life are the easiest to defeat love, even if it is a husband and wife, the two people's hearts on a thing can not be exactly the same, so the emergence of disputes seems inevitable!

And if no one takes the initiative to give in and make concessions between the two parties, such contradictions will accumulate quickly and explode soon, and after such a thing, there will be a slight crack in the relationship between the two!

And if no one has backed down, both parties will continue to attribute the fault to each other, such contradictions will continue to erupt, quarrels will become more and more frequent, and eventually the marriage will break down.

In the final analysis, the free love of modern society has consumed the best relationship between the two for a period of time, and once they enter the palace of marriage, they will quickly slide down the apex of love, and in this way, married life is different from what the two people think in their hearts, and the sense of gap will make people suspicious!

And people always lack review of themselves, people always like to evade responsibility, like to push the problem on others, so the contradiction happens.

It's been a while since I've been married to Denise, and Lin Quan himself has been very keenly aware that the relationship between them has become a little weird.

After having children, the change in that relationship is even more pronounced.

He felt that the child had taken away a lot of his love, and a person's energy was obviously limited, because it was the relationship between the first child, a mother must attach great importance to her child, the identity of the mother was the first in their hearts, and the identity of the wife could only be regarded as the second, so Lin Quanneng's time to get Denise was naturally reduced.

In addition, in the year-long period from pregnancy to childbirth, the life between husband and wife will not be so convenient, so the relationship between husband and wife is more prone to problems.

Of course, he had thought of all these questions, and he was still trying to be considerate of the other party.

Denise's temper is slightly tougher than Lin Quan's, Lin Quan's temper is relatively modest, and it can't be said that he has no temper, but he doesn't have a big temper, and people who don't get angry easily are the best people to get along with, and men who don't quarrel are definitely one of the first choices for women to choose a husband, after all, conflicts after marriage are inevitable, and having a person who is easy to bully and can tolerate is definitely much better than a person who can't tolerate and even wants to fight with you......

Young people will like to find beautiful and handsome rich people, when they grow up, they like to find people with connotation who can talk to them, and when they are older, they like to find some steady, good-tempered, different ages, because of their rich experience and experience, the criteria for choosing a mate are also different.

Lin Quan's temper was developed when he took care of his sister since he was a child, after all, neither of them had parents, and only his grandparents took care of him, so Lin Quan has always treated his sister very well, and this experience actually had a great impact on his character.

So, when he saw Denise busy in the kitchen, he didn't say that he would go back to the living room to watch TV, but chose to come over to help.

"This gas stove is twisted this way, your fire is too big, although the chili pepper looks thin, but this thing is not easy to fry, its skin density is relatively large, it is more difficult to fry than ordinary vegetables. ”

Lin Quan took the spatula in her hand and turned over the peppers in the pot in quantity.

It was actually a bit embarrassing for Denise to cook with such utensils, after all, Europeans rarely stir-fry, and there were many things they hadn't seen before, let alone used them skillfully.

And Denise also lived with Lin Quan for a long time, and accepted some Chinese food a little, and then made this, which is not something she would have done at the beginning.

"Are the eggs ready?"

When Lin Quan came in, he saw that there were eggshells in the trash can, and although he saw the shredded meat on one side, he took a look at the other side dishes and found that Denise did not prepare the side dishes for the eggs, which was probably the one she was preparing to scramble with pepper eggs.

In fact, in addition to this dish, she can also choose to steam eggs, put the eggs on when cooking in the rice cooker, and when the rice is cooked, the eggs will probably be steamed.

Lin Quan used to work in a hotel kitchen, as a food server, and as a side dish, although he had never done it himself, but he learned a lot of useful things.

For example, after the eggs are steamed, sprinkle the fried meat foam on it, and then add a little chopped green onion, the taste of this dish will change immediately, and it will be instantly raised to a higher level.

The eggs in the chicken farm are often slightly fishier than the native eggs, and if such eggs are directly steamed, the taste of the eggs may not be too good, and when the eggs are steamed, they are all to put lard in, but there is not much lard in the city, and everyone often only has salad oil, no lard.