There are two situations for mothers who especially like newborns, one is that the family works together to help take care of the child, sharing the mother's fatigue, so that the mother can enjoy the happiness of parenting faster, and the other is the subconscious unintentionally showing it to others and showing it to herself, but this kind of pretending is actually not a bad thing for the mother herself. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 ｉｎｆｏ

Most women will hypnotize themselves with "pretending" love, when the people around them feel that it is natural for a mother to love her child, she also hypnotizes herself like this, gradually accepts her motherhood, and falls in love with the baby faster.

It is not excluded that some people like Zhuzi's sister-in-law, life is too difficult and tired, and hypnosis is not good.

Let's ask such a tiring and torturous baby, if it weren't for self-abuse, who would like a child all of a sudden?

As if in response to Xiaoqian's statement, I don't know which neighbor's house, there was a hoarse baby crying, which still has super penetrating power in a well-soundproofed community, and it clearly reached the ears of Xiaoqian and Sister-in-law Zhuzi.

"Look, this kind of crying and noisy little baby, it takes time to get used to her existence all at once, you must have had a hard time at the beginning, right?" Xiao Qian's seemingly casual words are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

"Yes, but I'm tired to death, I was 120 pounds before I gave birth, and I lost 20 pounds of meat in the year I took the child, and then she was a little older, and I came back, and for a while what I wanted to do was to sleep a night."

"I understand your feelings." Xiao Qian also thought of the days when she took Xiao Wei in her previous life.

She had no family at that time, and her life was very poor, with a small baby she almost didn't have postpartum depression, and then the child was a little older, and she would call her mother sweetly, becoming more and more intimate, Xiaoqian's love for her daughter became deeper and deeper, so deep that she gave up the world for her.

The outside world will only use stereotypical thinking to restrain women, just like the pillar of thought, thinking that women should naturally like children, and if they don't like it, there is a problem, and this concept hedges and is easy to be depressed.

Therefore, many mothers will get postpartum depression.

The correct way to deal with it is to share the mother's fatigue, the family plays a role in sharing, the mother feels the joy of parenting love and being loved, listening to the baby call the mother for the first time, watching her toddler, watching her grow up little by little, that satisfaction will prevail over everything, and the mother's love will gradually get better, but everyone's actual situation is different.

The situation of the pillar sister-in-law is actually not abnormal at all, it is too common.

The most rare thing is to understand, Sister-in-law Zhu heard that someone understood herself, and she was indescribably moved, at a time when she felt that she was not a good woman, someone could understand her, and objectively analyze the problem, it was so healing and heartwarming.

"What should I do?"

"There are more problems in your family, I will sort you out little by little, the first is to solve the negative impact of your childhood father's lack of love on your current mood, after solving this, you will have less estrangement from the baby, but more importantly, you still want your husband to participate in parenting, which is good for you and your children."

"He... It's useless, he doesn't want to take care of the children, he says he's a man, it's all a woman's job. ”

"This is not in a hurry, I have a way to deal with it, but during this time, you had better be cautious about the plan to have a second child, whether you are born or not, but I can tell you responsibly that in the current situation of your family, having a second child can only exhaust you and make your eldest daughter's problem more serious."

is still the same sentence, giving birth to a child can't tie a man's heart.

"But if I don't give birth, he will make a fuss about divorce, if he really wants to divorce, what will happen to my eldest daughter?"

"Then you want your second child to give birth to a daughter, and he still wants to divorce, what about your eldest daughter and your second daughter? The problem has not been solved, you have a few or not solve the problem, it will only increase the troubles, now the first thing to be solved, is your emotional depression, I will help you to regulate so that you can fall in love with the child faster, and then for the sake of the child, you will find that you have unlimited ability to destroy everything you think is blocking you, including your husband. ”

Women are weak, but mothers are strong, provided that mothers accept role changes.

After doing a simple emotional channeling, Xiaoqian began formal treatment, Sister-in-law Zhu was too stressed, and she already had a tendency to be depressed, coupled with the lack of childhood emotion, so that her current mood is unstable, back and forth.

Xiaoqian used "acceptance and commitment" therapy for her, and used a series of professional and technical means to make Zhuzi's sister-in-law eliminate her psychological rigidity at this stage and flexibly look at the lack of fatherly love when she was a child.

The process took more than an hour.

After the treatment, Sister-in-law Zhu's mood was obviously much better, and she found that she missed her daughter a little and wanted to call her daughter.

When Xiaoqiang came back, the pillar husband and wife had already left, and Xiaoqian was alone looking at the moon by the window frame.

"Done?" He put his arm around her waist from behind.

"Well, where did you lead Uncle Liao to?"

"I'm going to play chess with my dad."

"Who won?"

"Uncle Liao has won a lot - it's actually not easy to lose to Dad, hahaha!"

Thinking of his old man's hateful face, Xiaoqiang wanted to be happy.

"I'll tell you, after our dad lost a few games, he was playing chess while glaring at me, which seemed to say, how did you bring him over, haha, I pretended not to see!"

Yu's father's desire to be a chess master seems to be a bit difficult for the time being.

"I guess Dad's inner feeling at that moment must be: How could I give birth to such a bastard rabbit cub?" Xiao Qian vividly imitated her father's voice, and Xiao Qiang laughed.

"I can't help but regret it, who let himself be a stinky flag basket and still like to play chess so much."

The neighbor's nightly crying baby began to cry again, crying hoarsely.

Xiao Qian listened to this cry, thought of today's treatment theme, and couldn't help asking.

"You and Xiaoxi are twins, so what should you do when you cried when you were a child?"

Bringing a child can exhaust people to death, let alone two.

"It is said that I was very able to cry when I was a child, I got up in the middle of the night and howled, and I wanted to lift the roof with my throat, and now I want to estimate that it is a lack of calcium, and the living conditions are like that at that time, Xiaoxi is the opposite of me, when I cry, she wants milk to eat, and my mother feeds her, and I have to find my father to take me to another room, sometimes my father is not at home, it is the eldest brother or the second brother to hold me."

Therefore, the eldest and second eldest of the old Yu family are particularly precocious.

Xiaoqiang also listened to his mother, saying that he liked his father very much when he was a child, and every time he cried, his father had to hug him, and when he was teething, he gave his father's shoulder a bruise and a purple piece.

Even so, Yu's father never lost his temper, and happily let him gnaw.