To put it bluntly, when the old man is old and in the unconfident stage of self-denial and self-doubt, what the younger generation needs most is not to correct her, but to accompany her.

"Old and young", the old man actually has a lot in common with the child, what is needed is patient guidance and affirmation, rather than simply and rudely telling her what she can do and what to say - that will make the old man more confused and unconfident.

Sometimes I think about it, my mother-in-law desperately expresses her opposition, and I work against the younger generations, isn't it a way to get your attention? From a very early age, Zhou Pinzheng left home, and the two sisters rarely came back, and my mother-in-law has always lived alone, as if everyone had forgotten her and became a dispensable existence.

So when she appears, she will desperately disagree with everyone, so that you will go to her again and again and discuss with her. This behavior is the same as a child deliberately making a mistake to attract the attention of an adult. But her method is very clumsy, and the more unreasonable she is, the more disgusting the children are, and the less she goes back.

Including the eldest sister with the best temper, it's the same. I was busy with work, and I finally had to take care of my parents-in-law and children at home, and every time I took a little time to go back to my parents' house, she was greeted not by care and greetings, but by endless questions. "Your brother is disobedient again, and he is in trouble......" "The second sister quarreled with her man again, you go and help say goodbye." "The neighbors are very noisy at night, you come back just in time, help me go talk to them, and make a little noise at night......"

It's all trivial, it's all a thing. In fact, the eldest sister is both working and housework at home, and finally went back to her parents' house because she wanted to take a break, breathe, and talk to her mother about the intimate words between women. But this small wish became an extravagant hope after my father's death. Obviously I can solve the problem, but I have to wait for myself to come back and instruct her to do it. Obviously there is no problem, but if you catch it, you complain, which is annoying.

The eldest sister was exhausted by the toss, and gradually came back less. Needless to say, every time he meets, he urges a blind date and goes on a blind date, which makes it difficult for him to think back if he has a home. What about Miss? She's heartless, and she still has a lot of bad things in her own house, so she has to ask her sisters and brothers for help. But these are their own flesh and blood, no matter how much Zhou's mother tosses, there will still be a limit, after all, she has to take care of the children!

However, Yang Xiaobei appeared in the sky, which poked Zhou's mother's lung tubes. Forget about your own children, what the hell is this? Hooked his son away without his consent, the tiger doesn't get mad, you think I'm Garfield?

It was like that before, which was the result of Zhou's mother's mentality. At that time, Yang Xiaobei felt that Zhou's mother was completely unreasonable, and she did not have the wisdom, tolerance and love for her children that her elders should have. But after this time of getting along, she went to find that the old man was not useless.

My mother-in-law is very hardworking, and every time she comes here, she doesn't stop. Laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, tidying up the house...... The busyness made Yang Xiaobei deeply doubt her age - is this an old man in his sixties?

The consequence of this is that Yang Xiaobei can't always be idle and watch her mother-in-law work alone, so she has to work together, and every time her mother-in-law leaves, she has a sore back and rests for most of the day...... This kind of high-intensity work efficiency must have been cultivated in the public factory at that time, it must be!

As a budget-conscious housewife all her life, her mother-in-law has a wealth of experience. Know where the vegetables are the freshest, the seafood is the best, and the crab is the most authentic...... If it weren't for her son's struggle to earn a huge family business, she would definitely train Yang Xiaobei to live the most frugal lifestyle, and how to use the least money to live the best life.

It's a pity that this ability can't be passed on, and my mother-in-law is very disappointed for this. But those who are used to frugality all their lives, and the most unaccustomed thing is wasting food - it seems that this is the common characteristic of their generation. People who have experienced hunger cannot bear to have every grain of food abandoned.

So there are often conflicts in life, at this time the mother-in-law seizes the moral high ground, and says that other people's are not, and her own strong reasons, she must be right!

What about Yang Xiaobei?"Mom, the color of your dress today is so beautiful, where did you buy it?" Originally, they were arguing over a matter, but she suddenly had a stroke of genius and talked about clothes inexplicably.

"Uh...... Aunt Li and her daughter-in-law in the alley made one for her, and I thought it looked good, so I sewed it, how about this color is not glamorous, right?" Zhou's mother's thoughts were immediately deviated, and she paused for a moment to discuss the clothes.

"How can it be gorgeous? This kind of big-flowered material can only be suppressed by people of your age, and it is too frivolous to wear it like us!" Yang Xiaobei praised vigorously, and at the same time understood the reason why her mother-in-law was not angry today-other people's daughter-in-law bought something, why didn't her daughter-in-law express it?

It's really not that Yang Xiaobei is stingy or ill-considered, she thought that she also wanted to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, but all the gifts she bought were complained about. Buying clothes doesn't look good, doesn't fit, and doesn't fit at all. Buy nutritional products and say it's a waste, she's in good health! In short, it's not good anywhere, and it's thankless and she has to complain, Zhou Pinzheng had no choice but to say, "My mother is too picky, so I still give her the money and let her buy whatever she wants." ”

That's okay, Zhou's mother is not short of money in her hands, and the juniors of the family have given things, and she will buy it if she looks good, and she doesn't have to look at other people's faces. Who knows that it won't be long before Zhou's mother feels uncomfortable again - why are other people's children so filial and considerate, and they help the old man think about everything, and she has to go to buy it herself? People see how pitiful they are, so poor that they only have money left!

Well, it's all wrong anyway, it depends on which direction people think about it. Knowing her mother-in-law's knot, Yang Xiaobei had a flash of inspiration and said, "It's going to be cold soon, Chengcheng and I also want to add some winter clothes, Mom, do you think you should go to the mall to buy it or do a few clothes?"

"The clothes in the mall are good, the styles are fashionable, but they don't fit. The clothes made are traditional styles, but the tailors in Ningbo are tailor-made, and only the appropriate ones are worn!" No matter how old a woman is, when it comes to clothes, she is talking endlessly, and if she can't finish talking, her mother-in-law has long forgotten the unpleasantness just now, and she has analyzed it with one mind.

Older people are still used to wearing clothes made by tailors, and my mother-in-law also has a shop where she is used to making them, and I heard that there are a lot of new good materials, so the two of them moved to the battlefield, and simply went to the tailor shop to see the new materials, and each made a few new clothes. When I turned out, I thought that since I was on the street, it was better to go to the mall to have a look, so I walked all the way from Huaihai Road to the pedestrian street.

A few shopping malls turned down, and there were a lot more things in hand. Most of the time Yang Xiaobei is filial to his mother-in-law, but when he sees a good thing that is suitable for his daughter-in-law, his mother-in-law also generously buys it for his daughter-in-law......