"People who come out to mix must understand the world, this is the most basic requirement." Wang Baoguang said.

If you don't understand the world, what do you want to do when you come out alone, because from the beginning it is doomed to have no possibility of success, and it is just a waste of energy to toss like this. And a person who is proficient in the use of human feelings, even if his ability is poor at the beginning, there is still great hope for him to come out and mix, because as long as he masters this unique skill, he will be able to usher in a turn of fate sooner or later. Even if you are a martial arts master, if you don't understand the world, you won't be able to mix for a long time, and you will definitely be desperate. This is the truth. As long as you think about it a little, you can come up with a lot of facts around you. You will find that the real smart people are just right to behave and do things, not only reaping real profits, but also falling into good reputations, while some people are knife-mouthed tofu hearts, a lot of help to others, but none of them say that he is good, and he has cultivated a lot of enemies around him, which is mostly because he does not understand the world.

"It's easy to live, it's easy to live together, everyone has to face cruel competition, because they don't understand the world, many heroes and famous generals in history who have made great contributions, and finally ended up being killed, they did not fall under the enemy's sword, but died unjustly in the hands of their own people. Blood splattered the brains, and there was nowhere in the world to sell regret medicine. Even if there is, it will be too late to regret it. Their glorious lives ended hastily, with painful advice written in blood and brains. Zhou Jun said.

It's hard to get out and mix, and it's even harder to mix well. If you are not careful, you will be poor and achieve nothing. If you don't succeed in your career, even if you are only eight years old and rich and five cars, you will be reduced to shit, if you have a successful career. Even if it is a wine bag and rice bag, it will be touted as a genius, and the world is cold and cold, this is the cruelty of reality. The pressure to survive is too great, and if you want to mix well outside, you want to make a name for yourself. You have to make yourself understand the rules of the game. Life is like a game, people who don't understand the rules of the game will eventually die an ugly death, and people who are skilled in the rules of the game can have a good time in the game. Play what you want.

If you have the ability, you must have the skill of ingenuity, and there is such a fable story. One day, the lion king asked the donkey to be responsible for cultivating a 500-acre barren land. The donkey immediately sprang into action after receiving the order, and led the donkeys to get up early and stay late. Very energetic. A few days later, the lion king came to inspect it, and when he saw it, he said to the donkey: Why is it so long, it has not been reclaimed yet, and we must hurry up and strive to complete it next month.

The donkey was dumbfounded when he heard this, he didn't do it in vain or black, and he didn't fall yet. Finish next month, how is this possible. For this reason, the donkey was sad all day long. I didn't eat tea and rice, and I worked hard day and night, and I lost a lot of weight. One day, a fox quietly came to the donkey and said, "Brother donkey, you have to pay attention to your work, you don't see the lion king every time he comes, he turns around on the highway and leaves." When you go out into the field and see it, if you listen to me. First of all, the land by the roadside should be cultivated, and as for the inside. You take your time.

The donkey had no choice but to listen to the advice of the fox, and only reclaimed the land by the roadside and planted crops.

A month later, when the lion king came to inspect again, he was glad to see that the land had been cleared and the crops had grown seedlings, and immediately rewarded the donkey heavily. The fox has always left a bad impression on people that it is too cunning, but in fact, if you think about it the other way, you should also use your ingenuity and wisdom like a fox to think of a perfect way to protect yourself when you encounter a difficult problem. Don't stare at what is in front of you and be helpless, know how to improvise. In interpersonal communication, sometimes due to emergencies fall into a passive and embarrassing predicament, at this time, if you can adapt to the situation and come up with countermeasures, you can turn passive into active and skillfully solve the siege.

Ji Xiaolan believes that many people know that he is a person of great wisdom who adapts to the situation. One day, Emperor Qianlong had nothing to do and wanted to test Ji Xiaolan's adaptability, so he asked Ji Xiaolan: Ji Aiqing, what is the explanation of the word loyalty and filial piety?

Ji Xiaolan replied: The king wants the minister to die, the minister has to die, for loyalty, the father wants the son to die, the son has to die, for filial piety. Emperor Qianlong immediately said: "Okay, I want you to die now."

Ji Xiaolan said: The minister's decree.

Emperor Qianlong asked: Then how do you plan to die?

Ji Xiaolan said: Jump into the river.

Of course, Emperor Qianlong knew that Ji Xiaolan would not die, so he waited and watched his contingency measures, and after a while, Ji Xiaolan returned to Qianlong, Qianlong smiled and said: Why is Ji Qing not dead?

Ji Xiaolan replied: I walked to the river, and when I was about to jump down, Qu Yuan walked towards me from the water, and he said Xiaolan, you are very wrong in this move, I want the king of Chu to be mediocre back then, I have to die, you should go back before jumping into the river and ask the emperor if he is a faint king, if it is not a faint king, you should not throw yourself into the river and die, if the emperor is as mediocre as the king of Chu back then, it is not too late for you to die.

Qianlong laughed out loud after hearing this, and praised again and again: What a tongue like a spring, he really deserves to be eloquent, now I am convinced, and Ji Xiaolan has to avoid death.

Ji Xiaolan is indeed a person with strong adaptability, and the so-called poor use of words to observe changes is to observe his ability to respond to sudden problems or events through unexpected questions and answers. might as well take Ji Xiaolan as an example. One day, Ji Xiaolan and other ministers were waiting for Emperor Qianlong to come to discuss matters in the courtroom, and when they couldn't wait for a long time, he said to his colleagues: Why is the old man delayed? This happened to be heard by Emperor Qianlong, who came over, so he asked what the old man was. When everyone was trembling with fear, Ji Xiaolan replied calmly: Longevity without borders is old, standing up to the sky and the earth is the head, and the father and mother are the son. Emperor Qianlong turned his anger into joy after hearing this, and Ji Xiaolan once again saved himself from a difficult situation with his ingenious adaptability. Ji Xiaolan can be regarded as a capable person, and his skillful change has to be admired. Therefore, the more capable people are, the more people or things they need to face, and the more they need to flexibly use the power of ingenuity.

In life, the power of ingenuity also has the effect of eliminating embarrassment and activating the atmosphere. For example, in some occasions, due to temporary events, the parties are set up with problems, and if they can use local materials and take advantage of the environment, they can activate the atmosphere and get rid of the predicament. It is said that when the famous cross talk actors Ma Ji and Zhao Yan were performing in Shandong once, they were performing cross talk bragging, but they didn't expect that the light bulb on the stage exploded, and the audience was in an uproar. In the face of such a scene, the two actors on the stage did not panic, only to see Ma Ji improvising and saying to the audience: Our bragging kung fu is really home, and the light bulbs have been blown by us. After that, the audience immediately responded with warm applause, the atmosphere suddenly became lively again, and the performance continued. It can be seen that Ma Ji is not only an outstanding cross talk artist, but also a master of wit.

"It can be seen how important it is to be dexterously flexible, in the ever-changing life, any kind of strange questions may be encountered, and the best way to deal with these strange questions is to use the ambiguity of language to make quick and dexterous adaptations, and you must not be trapped by the original questions and fall into passivity, naturally, this flexible flexibility will also make you get out of the predicament and move towards success." Huo Guangming said.

In a certain sense, the skill of ingenuity refers to the life of Fang Yuan. The true Fang Yuan people are a combination of great wisdom and great tolerance, with the power of a brave fighter and the peace of calm and wisdom. When a stone was first placed upstream of the river, it was angular and irregular. Then as the river constantly hits it and pushes it to the middle reaches, the stones washed down by the rapids collide with each other and are eroded by the water, constantly rubbing against each other, and it will gradually become smaller and rounder. By the time it was washed downstream, the edges and corners had been worn away and had become rounded. Zhou Jun said.

The same is true of human nature, just like the stones in the water, which are sharp and angular at the beginning, but they always have to be squeezed and impacted by the society, and the setbacks hit the wall again and again, so that human nature finally becomes smooth, and people live in the society, and no one can do without the society. In this case, the only way to adapt to society is to learn to be tactful. Tactfulness also requires intelligence. Quick response, clever response, how to estimate the importance of good gains and losses and disadvantages, but also test the ability to control the current situation. To survive in society, the process must be long and bumpy. There may be countless setbacks. However, it is in this kind of countless failures that people slowly hone and gradually mature.

The world is full of knowledge, and the practice of human feelings is all articles. Life is exactly like this, the so-called life is round, life is round. Only when you have a thorough understanding of all kinds of things in society can you be regarded as learning; Only when dealing with human accidents is capable and accessible, it can be regarded as an article. And a person's life is nothing more than to behave in the world, which requires doing things in a square way and being a round person. If a person wants to stand firm in society, he can only be sleek, able to shuttle flexibly in society, and skillfully employed in society, so that he can be truly the best among people.

If a person does not even have the ability to adapt to survival, he can still be called a strong person, and it can even be said that it is the society that creates this kind of human nature, and the smoothness of human nature has created a vibrant, unpredictable and complex society. Let your humanity be a little smoother, and don't hesitate to polish your edges and corners. In ancient times, it was often said that the golden mean, in fact, the golden mean is a bit sleek. Once he encounters someone who has different opinions from him, and the development will cause contradictions, then he will immediately change his position, even if his heart has not changed, but at least on the surface he has stood in a line with the other party to avoid the intensification of contradictions. The price to pay for tactfulness is forbearance. Only in this way can you become strong in life. To be continued