"Society is a complex relational body, and the reason why it is complex is because it is a collection of points, lines, and planes. Due to the extreme complexity of society, if you want to handle all kinds of interpersonal relationships well, be welcomed by all sides, and establish your own popularity, you have to be a little more tactful. Wang Baoguang said.

"Life is outside, a lot of things are involuntarily, it depends on how you deal with it, just look at it, remember to talk less, what people say, whether you understand it or not, what people say is right or wrong, you don't want to comment, just smile and nod your head, people are right, you accept it from your heart, what people say is wrong, you don't need to correct it, because it is not good for you, but it will make the other party feel disgusted with you, anyway, I think to be a man, you will lose if you say too much, and it is easy to offend people, all in all, it is almost the same to talk less. Huo Guangming said.

"People who mix in society, you must be careful everywhere and always pay attention, even if you have been glorious for most of your life, if you make a big mistake in the end, your life may be ruined like this, life is so wonderful, being a man is like farming, and the final harvest is the standard for evaluation. Zhou Jun said.

Take from above, get from it, take from it, take it from it, take it from below, take it from below, and you will get nothing. If the initial expectation is first-class, the final result may be only the middle stream, if the initial expectation is only the middle stream, the final result can only be the last stream, and if the expectation is only the last stream, you may not get anything in the end. On some special occasions, some smart people take the initiative to give up the position of the protagonist to others, and they are willing to play a supporting role. This is not a failure, it can even be said that it is a strategic victory, he is only giving up the false name of the protagonist, but winning the real benefit. There is a saying that what is called is what is missing. Although calling for moderation. But in real life, it is extreme.

For a person, how precious life is, how precious is face. If you give him enough face, he will give you enough qiē, but if you hurt his face and self-esteem. He will hate you to the core, and will completely push you against him. Don't criticize others in an emotional way, pay special attention to the facts, and avoid judging others' personalities, interests, and family upbringing. When criticizing, you can come up with solutions that are more constructive, while not forgetting to recognize the strengths of others. Furthermore. Criticism is often more effective if humorous language is used. Listening to sweet words is everyone's weakness, and no matter who they are, they are easily deceived. Almost all women in the world like to listen to sweet words, and many women marry the wrong person because of men's sweet words. The best technique for emotional investing is to be a nice-to-have, not a nice-to-have. At the beginning, give your subordinates a dismount. Let them know how good you are, and then slowly relax the scale, so that they appreciate your concession and easy-goingness. This is the management wisdom of the CEO.

When people get along with each other, many times it is not a single choice, with you without him, but multiple choices, which can be a win-win situation. Some people don't understand, they just know that the fish is dead and the net is broken. Either you die or I live. The example of fighting for fame and fortune and dying together is often staged around us. Such people never realize that they will give way when necessary. On the contrary, it can bring greater benefits to yourself. There is a young civil servant, graduated from a prestigious school, talented, and everywhere he goes, he has a momentum of pointing out the country and giving up who else he is. He felt that others were like useless ants, unworthy of being compared to himself. I'm the most capable, so I deserve the most. He always thought so. Don't share the benefits with your colleagues, and take the lead in everything.

What the result is. Colleagues in the department joined hands and formed an alliance. Compete with this talented person. Work together to tear down his corners, drag him back, and give him trouble everywhere, no matter how selfless and conscientious you are, we just don't cooperate. In this environment, it is really more difficult for a person to achieve something than to ascend to the sky. In the end, of course, this young man couldn't do his job well, he ran into a wall everywhere he went, and his talent was trapped in his stomach and couldn't be displayed, and he didn't even have a place to complain. As a result, the leader scolded him, his colleagues did not pity him, and he did not leave a good impression in front of everyone. At this point, the chair assigned to him by the unit should be taken back.

There is a saying that there are no eternal friends in the world, and there are no eternal enemies, only eternal interests. This sentence shows that the fundamental problem in interpersonal interactions is actually the distribution of benefits. Understanding the distribution of interests is actually to understand the essence of human nature and the truth of society.

The human affection is repeated, and the road is rugged. If you can't go anywhere, you must know the way to take a step back, and if you can go anywhere, you must give up three points of work. It is that the world is capricious, and the road of life is bumpy. Where the road of life does not work, you must know the truth of taking a step back. In places where you can go through, you must also give people three points of convenience, so that you can turn evil into good luck and smooth sailing. Leaving one step and giving three points not only leaves a way for others to live, but also a wonderful way to broaden interpersonal resources. Today you give him one step, tomorrow he will return you two steps, which is equivalent to making a good friend and opening a convenient door to success in society. If you don't understand the principle of equalization of interests, and you will take all the benefits by yourself, then even the amazing talent can only be a useless blank slate. If you learn a little sharingism, the benefits are distributed to everyone, and everyone's psychology is balanced, so that everyone will definitely work together to help you succeed.

All successful cattle people understand this without exception, and most of them spend a lot of money to let the people who follow them get benefits, so as to die and go to the soup. Even the most savvy big businessmen embrace this philosophy. A big project, obviously capable of undertaking it, but also to pull partners to develop together, in order to show that they leave a step on the road, taste three points of bearing, and declare that they are not the kind of people who cut off people's financial means and monopolize the source of blessings.

In fact, this is the case, self-esteem is the most dangerous, everyone has soup to drink is the way of the king, this way of life, is the unspoken rule that has been pursued for thousands of years. Whether or not you understand this way of dealing with the world determines whether a person's life is bumpy or smooth.

Everyone has heard the saying that real people don't show their faces, and they don't show their faces, and the real smart people hide their skills deeply, never show off everywhere, but wait for the opportunity to make a splash. It's good to be talented, but no matter how strong your ability is, you can't show off all day long on your head. Just like wealth, it's good to have money, of course, but you will wear gold and silver and carry a money box to the street every day to show off. Talent is the foundation of a person's success, a talented person can get a lot of opportunities, an incompetent person, even if he is public, he can not succeed. However, if a talented person shows off himself too much, suppresses the superficial space of others, and harms the interests of others, he will inevitably attract the unanimous jealousy of everyone. If he develops to this point, his future and career will be very dangerous, and he may be pulled down at any time.

"Walking in society, each of us must master this kind of low-key and forbearant life. Be more thoughtful, less sharp, and don't take out all the treasures in your belly like beans poured into a bamboo tube. If you don't understand this truth, no matter how many treasures you have in your belly, you will eventually become someone else's bag. Huo Guangming said.

"In this world, everyone is running for survival, and who can't escape this certain reality. Zhou Jun said.

In order to survive, in order to live better, it is necessary to make yourself wise, and it is necessary to navigate between complex social relationships. Therefore, one thing to keep in mind is that you can't be too honest, otherwise you are likely to struggle hard all your life and get nothing. Many people wonder why they can't get rich after working hard all their lives, and the right answer can be found here. Don't be too honest, not to teach people bad words, but to teach the world to be flexible and skillful in dealing with people. You must know that many people in history leaked their hole cards because they were too loyal and sincere, and they finally caused death for themselves.

Wei Dahai came to the hotel, but Li Jinghe did not come, and Zhou Jun told him that Li Jinghe would arrive in a while. As he was talking, Li Jinghe pushed the door in, and people congratulated him one after another, congratulating the old man on becoming the dean.

Li Jinghe bowed his hand to express his gratitude and said, "This afternoon, the old man told me that no one can go to the hospital, so as not to have a bad impact. ”

"That's for the colleagues in your unit, what is the relationship between us, it is a friend relationship, and it is not enough for friends to get together. Zhou Jun said.

"Colleagues are also divided, and there is no need to make a fuss about having a drink between buddies. Wang Baoguang said.

"It's okay for a few of us to drink, but I really can't go to the others. Li Jinghe said.

"Of course, I don't call anyone else, because they are all buddies, so I brought you here, the old man became the dean, it is a great joy, how can I congratulate him. Zhou Jun said.

When the wine and food came up, Ge Kang poured a full glass of wine for the audience, and Zhou Jun said: "Today's topic is to congratulate the old man on becoming the dean, and for the old man's promotion, let's all have a toast together." ”

"Thank you for your kindness and a toast to our friendship. Li Jinghe said.

"The above is really discerning, appointing the old man as the dean, with the old man's ability there is absolutely no problem, the position of dean belongs to him, no one has that ability. Wang Baoguang said.

"Of course, the old man has worked in the court for so many years and has extremely rich experience, which is unparalleled. Zhou Jun said.

"Brother is right, Dean Li is rigorous in his work, approachable, we all like him, see each other day and night, I have a personal experience of the old man's noble character, don't look at the dean, the old man never put a leading cadre on the shelf, easy-going, kind, amiable, polite. Wang Baoguang said complimentally. (To be continued)