"Scheming and scheming are the greatest capital of being a person, and skills and means are the best skills to do things. ¥°F, all the people who have a successful career are all people with scheming and skillful means, and they can be used freely in their careers, so they have created a brilliant life. In today's society, if a person wants to succeed, in addition to relying on opportunities, he must also have the ability to play scheming and use tricks, adapt to the unique rules of the game, carefully study psychology, be good at figuring out the intentions of others, be anxious about what people are anxious about, only go to the top and not only books, and go against his heart and not materialism, so that he can be comfortable in the shopping mall, workplace, and officialdom, and will not be eliminated. Zhou Jun said.

"People who are really good at asking for help have a long-term strategic vision, prepare early, and only in this way can you get help from others when you encounter an emergency. Hospitality or giving gifts to those who have a direct stake in you, how to entertain, how to give gifts, when to entertain, or when to send, is not a simple question, but a lot of learning. Huo Guangming said.

"For example, if you give a gift to someone after they've helped you, they will take it for granted. Zhou Jun said.

If you ask for help from the beginning and send the gift in a thoughtful way, the recipient will think very differently. In daily life, often some people always treat people lukewarmly, and only when something happens to think of begging others, it is a gift, and it is a gift or money, which seems extraordinarily enthusiastic, but in the end others still do not agree to do things for him, usually do not burn incense, and temporarily hold Buddha's feet. Actually, there is no Buddha in your heart in the first place, and you will come and ask for something again. You think how the Buddha will help you. What's more, he's not your tool. Therefore, if we want to get help from others at a critical time, we should burn more incense at ordinary times, and this kind of incense burning is completely out of respect, not to achieve a certain purpose or a kind of transaction.

One leader lost ground because he made a mistake, and some of his former friends and subordinates left him. He was in a very depressed mood, felt that the world was hot and cold, and once lost his confidence in life. Initiated suicidal thoughts. At this time, one of his subordinates, not afraid of being affected, took the initiative to come to see him, brought him gifts, and enlightened him that he had to think of suicide and analyze the situation with him. The encouragement of his subordinates made him realize that his future was not so bleak, and he finally persevered. Later, the leader made a comeback, and he was very grateful to his subordinate for handing over the most important department in his hands to this subordinate. And after retiring, he helped this subordinate sit in his original position. If this subordinate hadn't gone to see him when he was out of power, he probably wouldn't have sat in that position in his life.

If you are attentive to the people around you. In the unit, some people always have nothing to do to go to other departments and posts, personnel, finance and other departments are the focus of patronage, there is something to say, nothing to mix the face of familiarity, when there is an opportunity to burn a handful of incense, especially those without cost and material input incense is burned tirelessly. In a few years' time, those who tend to succeed will be them.

Many such people in life, after helping others, feel that others owe him a lot of favors, so they have a sense of superiority, high and invincible. In fact, this attitude is wrong and very dangerous, and it often leads to negative consequences, that is, helping others, but not increasing the income of one's favor account, it is precisely because of this proud attitude that one qiē will be equal to zero.

There are also some people who always have the attitude that there is something to do and nothing to do, and they use their friends as crutches after being injured and throw them away after recovery. A person who has no personal touch, his favor account will never have much income. When people work together, everyone is in the same boat, and the common destiny links each other, as long as they adopt a cooperative attitude, support each other, help each other, and take care of each other, it is the easiest to have emotional identity. Especially in difficult circumstances, we rely on each other to get through difficulties together. Friendships are deep and may last a lifetime, and friendships will be stronger. For example, in those years, many intellectual young people went from the city to the countryside to cut the queue, in a few years, everyone ate in a pot, slept on a kang, which one was bullied, everyone complained about him together, such a heart-to-heart common words and deeds, will inevitably be transformed into deep feelings, engraved in their respective memories, even if they go their separate ways in the future, can not see each other, this friendship will always remain in their minds.

It is not enough to sympathize with the other person in a difficult situation and not take practical action, but to give specific help to help him get through the difficulties. For example, a person who has lost his life has borrowed money from several friends, but they have been rejected by others. Later, he extended a helping hand to a villager with whom he did not usually have much contact, and after he explained the situation, the other party did not hesitate to lend him money, so that he could make a comeback, and he was grateful from the bottom of his heart. Later, when he developed in his career, he still did not forget the kindness of his fellow villagers to borrow money, and often repaid the other party with the greatest harvest.

If you want to make more money on your personal account, you must learn to help others when they are in trouble, which is the bare minimum. We all have some needs in our hearts, some urgent, some unimportant, and when we encounter help from others when we are in urgent need, we are grateful in our hearts, and even never forget it. Giving a radish when you are on the verge of starvation and giving a mountain of gold when you are rich are completely different in terms of inner feelings. Therefore, if you want to have a good popularity, you must grasp the opportunity to give favors.

"The grass on the wall, the grass on the wall, the wind blows on both sides. In the nature of human life, the impression left by the wall grass has always been poor. For this reason, those who are vacillating and lack assertiveness are often referred to as wall grass. Huo Guangming said.

With the continuous change and development of the times, society is also progressing day by day, and great changes are taking place in various fields such as ideology, culture, politics and life. How can people not change in it, and in the minds of some people, they are very opposed to change. In their eyes, change means not being firm, change is betrayal, change is bad, in fact, this kind of thinking is wrong. In particular, as a leader, you should not have this kind of thinking, and those who are in office should be more good at changing things, judging the situation and moving accordingly.

One mentions judging the situation. Move with the times. Many people associate it with wall grass. Weak against the wind. Mind things. Swaying from side to side, where the wind blows, it will fall, many people like the kind of pine that stands upright in the wind, thinking that this kind of swaying grass is not good. In fact, in some simple words, it is that a person should have backbone. It is true that people are spineless. Moreover, what we are talking about here is not to ask people to learn from the grass on the wall and sway with the wind, things always have two sides, and everything has its strengths or weaknesses. Confucius said, choose those who are good and follow them, and change those who are not good.

Although the grass on the wall is swaying from side to side, this is a way to survive. It's not easy to imagine a few feet of grass on top of a wall, and it's not easy to get an inch of land. Between the rubble, new sprouts emerge. Graceful between heaven and earth, isn't it a miracle, although the sun and the moon shine on the top, but there is no sweet spring water nourishment, if you want to survive, it depends on the sky. But the grass on the wall also learned to be well-behaved, knowing that he was weak and weak by nature, so he avoided fighting against this strong wind. Moving with the wind, shaking by the wind. They all say that it shouldn't be like this, and that it's wrong to do so, but it can save itself and stand tall on the wall. The reef in the sea stands proudly and dares to compete for the sky with the waves. The waves are surging, but the reef is facing the wind and waves, standing still. In the end, it ended up with dry ditches, scars, and pits. It was said that they should learn from the reef, but they ended up with blurred faces and broken limbs. Therefore, we cannot say with certainty that the grass on the wall is useless, and the reason why the grass on the wall has to fall with the wind is to survive better. Just imagine, if you can't even keep yourself, what grand ideals, lofty ambitions, and great things to create. Looking at the past and present, at home and abroad, those upright people, which one did not end in tragedy, and those who knew how to adapt flexibly did not enjoy the end of life. It is true that we are not belittling loyal ministers and good generals, let alone praising traitors, and we should not beat them to death with a stick, thinking that they are useless, in fact, the more traitors they are, the more we should learn from his way of dealing with the world in today's society. You should use your sleek interpersonal skills appropriately, so that you can reduce a lot of unnecessary troubles and troubles, and of course, there will be no chance of being disgraced. If we want to survive in a complex society, we must understand the principle of adaptability on the basis of adhering to principles. Good at change, judging the situation, and moving the camera, many successful people in ancient times are enough to show that people who don't know how to be flexible want to achieve something in their careers, it is really more difficult than climbing to the sky.

The reason why people have so much suffering in their lives is actually self-inflicted. If the reef could temporarily release its backbone and learn the survival rules of the wallgrass, it would not have ended up so tragically, let alone have so much pain and burden along the way. Things in the world are done by people's hearts, things in the world are trending, and things in life are determined by nature. Which role you want to play, you look at a qiē and a qiē is completely different. Everything can not be hard-hitting, a lock and a key. Especially in the modern society, the tide of commodity economy is surging, rolling up waves, but also bringing up gravel, material desires are rampant, and people's hearts are not ancient. It's hard to say how others can think about it, modern people are more closed and more secretive. If you are not careful, you are likely to fall into a quagmire and make it difficult to get out. Therefore, we must learn to be flexible and learn to play different roles. As the saying goes, go to which mountain to cut firewood, follow the customs, and sing what song to the mountain, what is said here is the truth of being a man. People should not blindly demand the environment, but should conform to the society and adapt to the environment, because the objective external environment is not easy to change, but we ourselves are relatively easy to change. From time to time, learn to be a wallhead, save yourself, and develop the future, this is a kind of open-minded and transcendent survival wisdom. Of course, learning the wall grass is not only to learn its flexibility, but more importantly, to learn its tenacity, no matter how the wind blows, it is down-to-earth, never leave the post, and maintain the tenacity of the principle. And at this time, the role is changed to the spiritual invincible. In the final analysis, to be a man, you must learn to change, judge the situation, move with the camera, and learn to change roles at the right time.

"Do things should be fickle, not just one way to deal with all kinds of things, know the change, will all the road to Rome, do not know the change, will jump into a dead end, the more capable people, the more fickle, when the situation is not good, go is the best policy. Zhou Jun said.

In real life, there are always some people who compete in everything. It is undeniable that in the face of difficulties and the goals we pursue, it is not impossible to compete. However, some people's rivalry has turned into a bull's horn. For example, a large mountain appeared on the way forward, and it could have been taken around and easily reached the goal. However, some people like to go straight ahead, and as a result, they hit themselves on the head and bleed. There is nothing wrong with thinking that you are right, but that set of things does not conform to the reality of the situation, and if you die on the tip of the horns based on your subjective wishes, you will inevitably run into walls everywhere, just like a person who dies on the tip of the horns will eventually be trapped in the ivory tower, and the stubborn end will inevitably be failure. A lot of things, just laugh it off. Many things are either contrary to your previous outlook on life or wrong. The wisdom of life and the cleverness of life can only be answered if you constantly reflect and think about it. There may also be no standard answer, so why bother mediocre people and drill into the horns.

Be a person and do things flexibly, not rigidly, hanging from a tree. You can't stick to one place, you have to be flexible, so that you can succeed in society. If a person is too rigid, he does not dare to be flexible in dealing with people, because he is afraid that something will go wrong. This kind of person will lose his temper when he encounters the slightest unsatisfactory thing. In other words, the intensity of his outburst of affection is far disproportionate to the size or importance of the thing itself. But at this point, it is not so much his dissatisfaction with others as his own feeling that his survival or some aspect of himself is being challenged or threatened.

"So if you want to learn to be flexible, you have to start by changing your mindset. Huo Guangming said.

There are often two major stereotypes in people's way of thinking, one is straight, which will not beat around the bush, and will not reverse thinking and divergent thinking. The second is copying thinking, often using past experience as a reference, and unwilling to accept new things. There is a proverb in the West that when God closes a door to you, he will open a window for you elsewhere. Therefore, as long as you are willing to accept change, and be good at changing your thinking habits and concepts, you can get out of the predicament and enter a new world. (To be continued......)