"I really can't do it in this area, and it's very difficult to do anything. Ge Kang said.

"There is a famous saying that there are no strangers in the world, only unmade friends. In fact, all friends go from strangers to acquaintances, and then develop into friends step by step. Any deep friendship is built by cultivating strangeness to maturity. It can be said that learning to socialize with strangers is not only a need to improve one's social skills, but also an important way to meet new people and establish contacts. Huo Guangming said.

"There is a good saying that it is hard to find a friend, and the more friends there are, the easier the road to walk, which means that the road under your feet extends in all directions, and the door to wealth is slowly opening. Zhou Jun said.

Good relationships are a priceless resource, more friends, more ways out, even if you hit a wall, there are people around to give comfort and the power of life, wealth is not a lifelong friend, friends are a lifetime of wealth. The more friends you have, the better your relationship will be, and the more chic you will be. Now it is a society woven by a network of relationships, and if there is a relationship, it will be like a fish in water to do things, and the green light will be all the way. If it doesn't, it's likely to take a muddy and bumpy road. What is just a matter of words at someone else's point may be a matter of hardship and expense to you. In the end, nothing can be done, that's the reality. All in all, people always think more about the usefulness of the relationship in their hearts, and see if they can make something about the needs of the other party, so that the other party owes them favors, so that the relationship can be locked. This is human nature, and there is nothing wrong with it. Making friends also has to be snobbish. As long as you survive in society, you must rely on friends to help, although some friends may not be able to help much, and even drag them down. But without friends, there is no way out.

"It's right to make more friends, multiple friends have multiple paths, and the more friends we have, the more convenient and smooth things will be. Huo Guangming said.

It's an old saying that you rely on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. But that's just the way it is. One more friend and one more road, only with more friends will it be easier for you to embark on a successful journey. One of the most basic purposes of interpersonal relationships is to get married and have popularity. Asking for help is passive, but if someone owes you a favor, it will be easy to ask someone to do something, and sometimes you don't even have to open your mouth. Someone else offered to help you. Being such a beautiful person is mostly related to being good at making friends and being kind to others. Keeping people in favor on sunny days and borrowing umbrellas on rainy days is a panacea for the development and utilization of interpersonal resources. For a poor man begging along the street. The help of a copper plate may help him to solve his extreme hunger and hardship, and perhaps he can make a career out of his own wealth, and for a stubborn prodigal son, a heart-to-knee conversation may build his dignity and self-confidence as a human being.

"If you want others to owe you a favor, you have to learn to suffer. The more you suffer from others, the more favors others owe you. Others owe you a lot of favors. You have to sell well, otherwise it will be too unreasonable. Zhou Jun said.

As the saying goes, suffering is a blessing, but there is actually a certain truth. Because of the loss. You become the giver, and the other becomes the recipient, and it seems that you have suffered and he has benefited. However, the other party owes you a love, on the scales of friendship and friendship. You've added a chip that is much more important than money and wealth.

Ancient times. Li Lang, Wang Lang and Gao Lang lived in the same house. One day, Takaro came home. He took Wang Lang's gold by mistake. Wang Lang then suspected that Li Lang had taken it, and Li Lang hurriedly apologized to him and bought the gold and returned it to him. Later, when Gao Lang returned, he returned the gold to Wang Lang and explained the reason, and Wang Lang was very ashamed. Since then, both of them have regarded Li Lang as a kind and sincere friend.

Suffering a loss is not a good thing, but the consequences after suffering a loss are not necessarily a bad thing. Li Lang's actions allowed him to gain a loyal friendship between the two. And, from another point of view, Li Lang's approach seems to be worth it, if Gao Lang who took the gold does not return it, Wang Lang confirms that Li Lang took it, and he pays him back, for a long time, Wang Lang will forget about it, the two are still friends, the most afraid is that Li Lang and Wang Lang quarrel about taking the gold, you must know that before the gold is not returned, the more you argue, the worse it gets, maybe the two will turn against each other and the friendship will end.

Suffering losses will make others think that you are very open-minded and generous, and let you gain deeper friendship. This, of course, will make others more willing to help you and do things for you. Suffering a loss is a blessing itself is an exchange of interests, no one likes to suffer losses and losses in vain, but hope to use losses in exchange for a kind of blessing. As for what happiness is, everyone has a different opinion. Therefore, exchanging the temporary loss of immediate interests for long-term benefits is a blessing in the true sense. Otherwise, it is a stupid loss. There is a saying that suffering losses is a blessing in the clear place, and the losses are clearly lost, so that the key people know that you are actively suffering, identify with your losses, and thank you for your losses, so that others will be full of gratitude to you from the bottom of their hearts.

"It's an old Chinese saying, but it does speak to the true side of human nature. Huo Guangming said.

Once upon a time, there was a man whose family was so poor that his whole family was dying of starvation, and he had to beg from his neighbors. The neighbor lent him a liter of rice, and although it was only enough for the whole family to drink porridge for a few days, he was already grateful, because he felt that it was not easy for the neighbor to lend him a liter of rice. But if a neighbor lends him a bucket of rice, which is enough for the whole family to live for many days, after he has eaten enough, he will think that not only will he not be grateful to his neighbor, but he will also hate his neighbor. Because he was able to lend a bucket of rice at once, it shows that his family is very good, and his family is so good, why not borrow a stone of rice, it is really unkind to be rich. Therefore, if the purpose of suffering is to satisfy the interests of others and to give favors to others, then to suffer the loss of rice and to give grace to rice. Therefore, you must suffer losses in the open, otherwise you will suffer stupid losses. In order to calm things down, some people often go to suffer dark losses, and the result is that they are dumb and eat coptis, and there are words of suffering.

Sun Quan in the Three Kingdoms is a good example, in order to get back to Jingzhou, he pretended to marry his sister to Liu Bei. As a result, under Zhuge Liang's ingenious arrangement, he not only lost his sister, but also broke his soldiers, but Jingzhou still did not want to come back, and this loss was inevitably too unjust. If you lose money, you have to eat in the light, and if you eat in the dark, you are eating a stupid loss. When you suffer a loss, at least let the other party understand that the reason why you are suffering is entirely for him. In today's society, only those who will suffer will not suffer. If you don't suffer a loss, how can others be willing to do things for you. Whether it is a big loss or a small loss, as long as it helps your interpersonal relationships, you must eat as much as possible and cannot frown. Especially big losses, sometimes it is a big thing.

The shortcomings of people should be bent into a bridge, such as a violent attack, and it is a short attack on the short. That is to say, if others have shortcomings or mistakes, you should tactfully cover them up or persuade him, if you expose and spread them, you are using your own shortcomings to attack others' shortcomings, and it will not bring any benefits to yourself, so sometimes you have to learn to suffer losses and cover up some rights and wrongs for your friends, so that he feels that he owes you a favor, and let him know that he has done wrong. Anyone who can make friends and do things will be happy to cover up for their friends, which is a common technique used by Chinese.

The author keenly captures the changes in the lives of ordinary people in today's society due to the further penetration of informatization and socialization, and kindly ridicules people who are good at and willing to cover up and excuse their friends A new way of dealing with things, with a fresh breath of life. Among them, there is a classic line, a word of things, a word can make things, a word can be bad, a word can achieve a harmonious society, can you be sunny in your heart.

People will lie almost all their lives, and the key is the starting point and purpose of lying. If it is a malicious lie, then it is undesirable and should not be forgiven and understood. If it is a white lie, it should be forgiven and understood, because a white lie is people's good wishes for things, a dialogue of people's kind hearts, a trace of warmth for people to comfort each other, and a kind of tenderness that flows from the bottom of people's hearts.

In real life, lies are inevitable and ubiquitous. A lie from a parent makes the faces of children who are not deeply involved in the world like flowers and shines, a lie from a teacher makes hesitant students no longer confused and grow better, and a lie from a doctor makes a frightened patient go from ruin to a new life.

Covering up for others is an opportunity to build a good relationship with each other. When a friend makes a mistake in front of everyone or you, you should have the mentality of suffering, simply give him a face, help him, and make him admire you from the bottom of his heart. Just because you suffer a loss in a clear way does not mean that there are no benefits to enjoy. At least, you should let the other party know that the blind man knows how to eat rice balls, so that he will not suffer in vain.

"I usually don't burn incense, I hold Buddha's feet temporarily, there are people who have nothing to do, and there is no one who has nothing to do, these are the words that satirize the use of people, and I usually don't know how to contact and communicate with people. This is full of short-sightedness, as the saying goes, usually burn more incense, someone to help in an emergency, leave favors on sunny days, and borrow umbrellas on rainy days, this is a shortcut for people to walk in society, otherwise it is difficult to move an inch. Zhou Jun said.

"When people are on the road, love is priceless, and everyone needs the help of others. Your casual help to someone may make him realize the rarity of kindness and the preciousness of true feelings. Huo Guangming said. (To be continued)