In fact, many things are not as bad as imagined, it is not the troubles that come to you, but the troubles that you find yourself, so that there will be a lot of useless worries in your heart, and you will not be able to get rid of the entanglement of sorrows. Chen Zihao said.

When a speaker was giving a speech, he first took out a few strands of hair and asked the audience. Do you know what it is? Even though it was some distance from the podium, the audience could still make out a few hairs. So they replied in unison, "It's hair." The orator was satisfied with his head, and then raised the hair on his hand and said, "The hair should grow on the head, and who can tell me why these hairs are falling out?" The audience did not know how to answer this question, and they all stared at the orator with wide eyes and waited intently for the orator's explanation. The orator went on to say: This is because of the relationship of troubles, how beautiful it is to have hair on the head, but we have to leave, why should we worry? Why should we worry about the beauty of life? Of course, life will not be smooth sailing, but optimistic people not only achieve success lightly, but also live a long life. I believe that the rain in life will always pass, believe that the sunshine will come, and let myself strive to realize the value of life in optimism.

"A psychologist made a very interesting practical yàn, he asked a group of practical yàn people to write down all the troubles for the next seven days on Sunday night, and then put them into a large worry box. Qiu Weiqiang said.

On Sunday of the third week, he opened the box in front of the realizers and checked each of the troubles with the members one by one, and found that ninety percent of the troubles did not really occur. He then asked everyone to put the remaining note back in the cardboard box and wait three weeks before finding a solution. As a result, on that day, when he opened the box, he found that those troubles were no longer troubles.

"There's a secret that doctors know, and that's that most diseases can be cured untreated. Xu Feng said.

Again, most of the worries will get a lot better the next morning. The secret to overcoming anxiety is to develop a detached attitude, to see the overflowing sorrows of the heart as a river flowing through the water, not to let yourself dwell in them, to always focus on reality and the things around you, and to be sure to develop the habit of being grateful for everything. Sometimes the mind is like being in the dark night of winter, and asking yourself to write down the reasons why you are happy can guide you out of the maze of sorrow quickly.

∏→dǐng∏→diǎn∏→小∏→ says,.2☆3.o◎s_();" A philosopher once said that the so-called troubles are all found by yourself, and others can never give you troubles, if someone makes you miserable, it must be that your own cultivation is not enough, and your own heart can't let go. People suffer because they pursue the wrong thing. Chen Zihao said.

On the surface, the troubles are caused by external events, but it is true that it was planted by itself a long time ago. When one chooses, one also gives up many other choices. Choosing yes means choosing no. People are often only willing to accept the good results, but not the bad ones that exist at the same time, so that troubles arise naturally.

Once upon a time, there was a very honest young man, and many times his values were inconsistent with the values of the mainstream society, so that his loyalty and simplicity were particularly precious in this materialistic and deceitful society. His dream has always been to become a national civil servant, and he has put a lot of effort into it, but this dream has been so slim from the beginning. By chance, he met a rich man, who offered him a very generous offer to work as his secretary. And so began his busy and very fulfilling life. While he was working, he was busy with his dream of becoming a national civil servant. One day, Xinran was talking to someone about his current job. Someone told him that at some point in the future you will be troubled by your dilemma. When the time comes, you have to be calm and don't have to worry too much, because the troubles in the future are caused by your choices now. In this case, in the face of troubles, what is there to complain about, choose worries and complain just because you are not willing to reflect.

"Once upon a time, there were two showmen in A and B who studied hard together and prepared to enter Beijing to catch the exam. Qiu Weiqiang said.

Among them, A Xiucai belongs to the optimist, while B Xiucai belongs to the conservative group. This year's Beijing exam, the two Xiucai went to Beijing together, less than ten miles away from the capital, suddenly saw a group of people carrying a coffin and walking towards their road, Yi Xiucai said to A Xiucai: Let's avoid it, it will be very unlucky if you encounter it. Jia Xiucai was not easy to refuse, so he agreed, and the two avoided the main road and took the trail instead. didn't go far, and the two saw that there was also a group of people on the road who were criticizing Ma Dai Xiao and also carrying a coffin and came over, and the two couldn't avoid it, so they had to meet it. After the group of people walked by, the more Yi Xiucai thought about it, the more uncomfortable it became, and he began to sigh. Jia Xiucai asked him what was going on? Yi Xiucai said: Today is really too unlucky, I met a dead person, the previous one avoided it, and I ran into it again on this road, which is really unlucky. Jia Xiucai didn't think about this, but he was also shocked when he heard his words, but as a classmate, Jia Xiucai still cheered up Yi Xiucai and said: Actually, what's this, isn't it just that I met two coffins, don't go to my heart, sometimes good things are not necessarily good things, bad things are not necessarily bad things, you must know that Saion lost his horse, he doesn't know if it's a blessing, this one met a coffin, maybe it's a good thing, that has a coffin and materials, yes, officials and wealth. Speaking of this, Jia Xiucai found another reason instead, and continued happily: Yes, yes, yes, it must be like this, that is both official and wealthy, we have also encountered it when we take the big road, and we have also encountered it when we take the small road, it seems that the official and the wealth are beckoning to us, and we can't hide it, and we can't stop it. A Xiucai was originally cheering up Yi Xiucai, but instead cheered for himself, and he was very happy for a while, but Yi Xiucai was in a depressed mood all the time, and he didn't listen to it at all, and his feelings became more and more depressed. After the two of them entered the examination room in the capital, Jia Xiucai was in a very happy mood, and he played to the fullest in the exam, and naturally got high results. And Yi Xiucai was full of coffins and bad luck in the exam, and his mood was depressed and depressed, and his performance was less than half of his usual performance. The result can be imagined, A Xiucai won the first place in the gold list of high school, the champion, and B Xiucai fell to Sun Shan.

This is called asking for trouble, and as a result, it delays your future. Xu Feng said.

"As you can see from this story, mindset and mood can sometimes determine a qiē. If you have a good mentality, just like the optimist Jia Xiucai, you can do something very smoothly, on the contrary, like the conservative Yi Xiucai, the name is Sun Shan. Qiu Weiqiang said.

"Everyone has a rational side and an irrational side at the same time. Chen Zihao said.

Human beings are born with the ability to confront irrational beliefs with rational beliefs, but they are often distracted by irrational beliefs. In other words, everyone has different irrational beliefs, but people with psychological disorders hold more and more complex irrational beliefs. However, it is this irrational thinking that creates an imbalance in mentality. The perceived world is only a small part of the whole world, and the ideas derived from this small part are often incorrect, but they always regard these incorrect ideas as the truth of life, and as a result, they fall into unnecessary distress. Fear is useless in the face of troubles. This is because troubles do not turn away from you because of your fear, but because of your cowardice, because of your timidity, they become entangled with you. In the face of troubles, we must have the courage to resolve them, so as not to be swayed by them.

"Life is often unsatisfactory, and if you want to be happy, learning to forget jì is a good way. Clean up your memories every once in a while, remember what is happy and forget what is troubled. Some people are particularly easy to get angry, anger is to punish themselves for other people's mistakes, always remember the bad things of others, in fact, it is themselves who are uncomfortable, and people who are tolerant of others are easy to be happy and relaxed. Free and easy life, no worries. Xu Feng said.

"At all times, we have to meditate, and meditation is to let the mind settle down, to let it go easily, and generally things will change, but our nature will not change. Therefore, we must know that even if there is no suffering now, it can happen later, and even if there is no happiness now, we will soon experience it, why? Because the nature of things is impermanent and changeable, and they all change, but there is no change in our nature. Qiu Weiqiang said.

"Usually imagination is always more beautiful than reality, and when the development of reality deviates from the imagined picture, there is regret. If you understand regret, you will understand life, there is no perfection in life, and regrets and incompleteness will always exist. There are too many beautiful things, we can't get them all, but for things that don't belong to us, don't expect anything, if you have regrets, you know how to cherish them, no regrets, no matter how much happiness you have, you won't experience happiness. Chen Zihao said.

"All the troubles of today may no longer be worth worrying about tomorrow. Xu Feng said. The more you bother with yourself, the more you think about yourself, the weaker you become, the more bound you become. On the contrary, the less you value yourself and the less you pay attention to yourself, the stronger you will be. The difficulties of people and things are the whetstone of wisdom, and courage and perseverance are also born from it. People are poor, and sometimes they have encountered failures in work, feelings, and life, but there are not many people who have been inspired by it and awakened. Most people experience failure, either as if they have cancer, or they are shrouded in the shadow of failure, losing confidence and courage and giving up halfway. (To be continued.) )