"What do you make money for? Of course, it's for living. Xu Feng said.

A person lives and always wants to earn more money. When I see who buys a car, who buys a house, who has just returned from a trip abroad, who has bought a brand-name dress today. I can't help but have hot eyes, and after envy and jealousy, I will secretly think that I would be able to make a fortune somewhere, and I will think about how to make more money. In fact, what I see is only the surface scenery of others, and behind the beautiful life of those rich people, there will be unexpected sadness.

"As the saying goes, if you want to be noble in front of others, learn to suffer behind your back. Chen Zihao said.

It is necessary to withstand the double tempering of body and spirit, as long as you grit your teeth, hold your chest up, and persevere, you can become the final victor. Hardship comes willingly, and before success, you must suffer a lot of hardships and suffer a lot of sins. If you retreat, you are doomed to do nothing and live a mediocre life. And once you grit your teeth and persevere, you can tide over the difficulties, you can usher in a sunny day and enjoy the scenery of the dignitaries in front of people. If you want to get ahead, achieve success and let others look up to you, then there must be a lot of sweat piling up behind the success. As the old saying goes, only when you suffer is you a superior person. Only by working hard and paying hard work can we achieve success. People go to higher places, and water flows to lower places. It is only when people have a positive spirit that they have endured hardships like water flowing to low-lying places, and it is possible to become a superior person. In order to gain fame and wealth, and become a person respected and loved by others.

"The wind and waves are calm, and the person who can't train a good sailor, and the person who has been tempered by the wind and waves is definitely quite capable and experienced, and his heart will not shake when the wind and waves come again. If an aspiring person wants to become a successful person, he must learn to survive adversity and learn to endure hardships in order to realize his lofty ideals. Xu Feng said.

"Opportunity will always favor those who are prepared and idealistic, honor will always favor those who work hard and never give up, honor is precious, because it often belongs to only a few people, and it is a few who have gone through a lot of hardships and perseverance. When others win honors, we must not be inferior and discouraged, we can lose honor, but we must not lose the fighting spirit to pursue honor and success. Chen Zihao said.

"Just like the trustworthy them, if you don't go around and sit at home all day, you can't earn ⊙≦dǐng⊙≦diǎn⊙≦ Xiao ⊙≦ said, .2↘3.※os_(); to money, it is even more impossible to become a big boss. Xu Feng said.

"So, don't see others earning money, have such and such thoughts in your heart, everyone is the same, as long as you are willing to pay, you will definitely be able to get. Chen Zihao said.

"I have always had such a view that the money you should earn in your life, if you earn it in just a few years, then you will definitely lose your life, and you will have no time to enjoy it. Qiu Weiqiang said: "There are too many such examples around me now, people have no money to spend, they have not used up the hard-earned money of a lifetime, it is a pity to leave it to others, money is something outside the body, life does not bring, death does not take it, don't take it too seriously." No money is definitely unhappy, but once you can meet the needs of general life, it is not worth the effort and energy to get more money, so you will never envy others for how rich you are, how much money you use, how much money you use, how little money you use, as the saying goes, sometimes you have to have it in life, and you can't force it all the time in life, so why compete with it, go with the flow. ”

"Self-soothing, spiritual victory, new version of Ah Q. Xu Feng said.

"What's wrong with this, who isn't like this, when you feel bad because you lost your wallet, haven't you ever comforted yourself, and the right is to donate to Project Hope. When you suffer a loss, haven't you ever comforted yourself, and if you suffer a loss, you will take advantage. When you're in a bad mood, haven't you ever deceived yourself about how nice the weather is today. Qiu Weiqiang said.

And so on, it can be said that these views should be completely denied, but no, because after all, these practices have replaced the depressed mood with layers of layers, and have made the mind balance so that they can have a good mood again, live happily, and sing happily. It's not Ah Q's spiritual victory method, but the times are different, and the connotation is also different. It is safe to say that everyone can't do without Ah Q's spirit, otherwise that person will definitely die of depression. But at the same time, it will not be the same as Ah Q, because the times are different, the people are different, and the connotation is even more different.

"This is practical, if you don't have a good mood and are depressed all day long, there is no point in life. Xu Feng said.

"There are good and bad moods, mentality is very important, a person's mood is good and bad completely depends on your own mentality, a person's happiness does not lie in who he is, how much property he has and how much power he has, but in his heart, if you really want to make yourself happy, then you will be very happy, and will not disturb your mood by those boring locks, and will not be obsessed with these little things, as long as you have a normal happy heart, as long as you want to be happy, you can keep a happy mood at any time。 Chen Zihao said.

"It is inevitable that there will be unhappy things in life, and there will be setbacks and failures of one kind or another. Qiu Weiqiang said.

In the face of this situation, what to do, blindly sinking into it and not being able to extricate itself, of course, is not advisable. Therefore, people know how to ease their feelings, which is called spiritual comfort. People often say that taking a step back, the sea and the sky are one of them. The main difference between the Spiritual Victory Method and normal psychological comfort lies in the difference in the content of life faced. There are some things that cannot be tolerated, and there should be a struggle for actual victory. For example, when Ah Q was beaten, he should have resisted, and he didn't say a word about his son beating Lao Tzu. In dealing with such things, if there is unprincipled concession and unprincipled self-forgiveness, then it is the true method of spiritual victory. There are still some things in life that don't need to be thought about too much, and if you also care about it, and you are ashamed of being inferior to others, and at the same time use some way to explain yourself in order to achieve spiritual pleasure, it can also be called the method of spiritual victory. For example, you can only admit that you are born ugly, you don't have to be ashamed, and you don't have to comfort yourself with the fact that your son will be beautiful. Not everything has to be better than others, and it is very normal to be inferior to others in some things. If you approach life with this mentality, you will stay away from certain aqs.

"Normal spiritual comfort is very beneficial to people's mental health, everyone must learn to come out of the loss, must learn to regulate the mind, so that it can obtain some kind of balance, otherwise, will be in the long-term fame and fortune of the balance and suffering. Chen Zihao said.

Ah Q's fault is that he doesn't have any principles, he cares about everything, and all failures require some kind of transcendence. And he did not achieve it through a realistic struggle, but only made a spiritual assumption to seek a false victory. This kind of spiritual victory method will only paralyze people's fighting spirit and find an excuse for living in peace, which is not conducive to the transformation of reality and the progress of mankind, and should be discarded. When a career fails, people often say that victory or defeat is a common thing in soldiers, and whoever has the last laugh will laugh the best. When he is bullied, he will say that it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years. When you fall out of love, you will say that there is no grass at the end of the world. These comforts are what people need. Because only by facing the reality with a good attitude can we win the final success. However, if we can only make a forgiveness of nothingness and fail to take concrete action, then we will inevitably have a bit of a Ah Q flavor.

"It's quite philosophical and intriguing. Xu Feng said with a smile.

"You think that as long as you are educated, we are also cultured people, and we are not much worse than you. Qiu Weiqiang said with a smile.

"Every day everyone lives in this spiritual victory, and lives well, it is not good to have a good mood, it is not good to live energetically every day, it is not good to sing optimistically, in this case, why not deceive yourself appropriately, firstly, you have not harmed others, and secondly, you have learned to live a life of gratitude. It must be made clear that nothing can go to extremes. Human beings are not all about binary thinking. Naturally, you can't be immersed in your own spiritual victory method in a short life like Ah Q, and even draw a circle before you die, because you don't draw a circle well, you have to comfort yourself, and the one who can draw well is the grandson. Chen Zihao said.

"You don't live freely, laughing all day long, carefree, without a single diǎn worry. Xu Feng said.

"No one has troubles, but they all find their own troubles. Chen Zihao said.

Everyone has seven emotions and six desires, joys, angers, sorrows, and sorrows, and troubles are also human nature, which cannot be avoided by everyone. However, because each person has a different attitude towards troubles, the impact of problems on people is also different, and the difference between optimism and sentimentality is obvious. Optimists generally rarely find their own troubles, and they are good at downplaying their troubles, so they live a relaxed and chic life. And sentimental people like to find their own troubles, once they have troubles, they are full of sorrows, they are worried, they can't leave, they can't throw it away, and they live a little bit of a nest.

"There are no worries in the first place, or they are not troubles in the first place. Qiu Weiqiang said.

For example, after being the director for a few years, he wanted to be the director, but he was definitely unhappy when he was promoted to a person with much worse qualifications than himself, but in fact, I don't know how many people envy the position, and the director has the troubles of the director, and the director's troubles are not necessarily less. There are also people who are worried about money, with 10,000 think of 20,000, with 20,000 think of 30,000, they are still troubled. In addition to thinking about the pride of having more money, have you ever thought about the trouble of having more money? Those with less money may not be as energetic as those with more money, but those with less money do not have as many worries as those with more money. Small civilian families do not have the fear of thieves kidnapping by the big rich, and I am afraid that there is little sorrow for fighting for family property to turn brothers against each other, or even kill each other. (To be continued.) )