On the way back, Pan Xueliang told Xu Feng not to take Li Jinghe's actions too seriously, he was doing his own thing, he was doing his job well, and he would do a good job, and others would not say anything. As long as there is an ideal, there must be a pursuit, although some people have been pursuing all their lives, but they have never realized their ideals, but they have no regrets. Li Bai, who is talented and rich in five cars, once followed Tang Xuanzong, enjoyed delicious food, glory and wealth, and finally because of his debauchery, he resigned and left, traveled through the mountains and rivers, and even the old Tang Dynasty. Did he regret it, no, because what he wanted was not glory and wealth, but the unfettered freedom he wanted. The talented Su Shi, who used to be so ambitious, wanted to share worries for the country and ask for his life for the people, but he degraded again and again, did he regret it, no, because he didn't want high-ranking officials who were flattered. Mr. Jingjie Tao Yuanming, although he is full of political ambitions, has never been reused. In the end, he wrote angrily that I was unwilling to bend my waist for five buckets of rice, resigned and went into hiding, ploughing the countryside, not joining the world, blending love with the mountains, sending love and water, and he never regretted it. Wine is expensive to be clear, and he knows that people are the same, with the breeze and two sleeves as the precious, and the jade pot ice heart as the precious.

Between preciousness and freedom, Li Bai chooses freedom, between high-ranking officials and integrity, Su Dongpo chooses integrity, and between flattery and innocence, Tao Yuanming chooses innocence. They pursue uninhibited freedom, they pursue the style of a humble gentleman, and they pursue righteousness. Although they lost a lot, they never regretted it. However, some people are not angry at all in the face of a red dust concubine smile, facing the loess face to face and facing the sky, but the people who still can't afford the heavy taxes are indifferent, because they want high-ranking officials and rich clothes. Compared with. Li Bai, Su Shi, and Tao Yuanming's pursuit is so noble. They did lose a lot. But they kept the high wind and bright festival. Retains a rare integrity. Everyone has a pursuit in their life, and it doesn't matter whether they have realized their ideals or not, but they are worthy of their hearts.

They all have a common feature that they have seen through society and people's hearts, but people can't help themselves in the rivers and lakes, and it's not so simple for you to give up. Tao Yuanming is a retreat from officialdom, and many of the reasons are mainly because he has ambitions and is unable to display them, depressed, and the darkness and power struggle of officialdom. It's related to his character. The best explanation is that if you don't bend your waist for five buckets of rice, you can see what kind of person you are. The development of the strong, the survival of the fittest, the elimination of the weak, life is a martyrdom, everyone has their own way of living, some have to get by, some struggle for the ideal, the process of the fighter is hard. From ancient times to the present, most of the successful people have been tempered and have not succeeded casually, while the losers have given up the good because of cowardice.

"Thank you for your advice. He is just a good one, Lu Yao knows the horsepower, and he will see the truth over time, as long as he treats people sincerely and gains people's trust, his tricks will not succeed. Xu Feng said.

"Sincerity is not just a verbal statement, let alone a formality, but an action. Pan Xueliang said.

It is a home built for you by fellow relatives, a pair of hands stretched out for you by friends, and a heart given to you by a lover. Only those who are sincere in their hearts can see the sincerity of others, the sincere sunshine is brighter, the moonlight is brighter, the stars are more brilliant, the flowers are more vivid, the trees are stronger, the singing is more beautiful, the earth is more fertile, the family is closer, the friendship is purer, the love is sweeter, and the world is more beautiful.

Treat others with sincerity, not for others but also to return with sincerity, if the motive is to exchange their sincerity for the sincerity of others, it is not sincerity in itself, sincerity is crystal clear, should not contain any impurities, yes, sincerity is also a kind of noble, the opposite of sincerity is hypocrisy, sincerity, sometimes your interests will be damaged, even so, your soul will be quiet. Hypocrisy can sometimes take advantage of you, even so, deep in your soul will be uneasy, sincerity does not speak to others, if others understand your sincerity, you don't say that others know, if others do not understand your sincerity, confession will often make things worse. Sometimes, we have been deceived by others, this is life to sue us, what is insincere, not to sue sù we should give up sincerity, the first is not to be a liar, the second is not to be deceived by others, grasp these two points, you can be an upright person.

Being a sincere person, you will feel relaxed both physically and mentally, while a hypocrite, he will often feel mentally exhausted. If you are relaxed, you will be constantly enveloped in a pleasant atmosphere, and when you are tired, you will be enveloped in a constant wave of frustration. Sincerity is like a pool of elegant lake, quiet, indifferent, beautiful, it is sometimes attacked by mud and sand, but with its own purification effect, it will soon precipitate filth, still do not change their glorious face, let us always maintain and love such a beautiful sincerity.

"I'm just scratching the surface, but in actual life, you still need to rely on yourself to grasp it, you can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't do without the heart of guarding against people, which is the foundation of being a human being. Pan Xueliang said.

Back home, Mom and Dad hurriedly asked about going to work, whether the environment was very good, Xu Feng answered truthfully, people were good to him, they took care of him very much, and caught up with the amount of work clothes in the afternoon, due to the long distance, the leader did not let him go back to the unit, which can be seen their sincere character, but did not say anything about Li Jinghe, afraid that the old man would worry about him again.

Xu Wanshan nodded, this job was not easy to come by, and told him to listen to the words of the leader, work hard to do his own work, maintain the relationship between colleagues, and do more work with less talk. The workplace is a group composed of a chain of interests, everyone will stand in their own perspective to analyze and deal with problems, there will be many, many contradictions, and many things are not the best to exist, often involve the whole body.

Communication is the most important part of interpersonal relationships, it is the process of handing emotions, attitudes, facts, beliefs and ideas between people, good communication refers to a two-way communication process, not that you are alone in the speech, playing the piano to the cow, or let the other party sing a one-man show, but to listen to what the other party is saying, to understand what the other party is thinking, what the other party feels, and give back their thoughts to the other party. The communication process may be misinterpreted due to the communicator's own characteristics or communication style, so the sender and receiver must clarify whether the two parties receive and understand the same information through continuous feedback. In addition, there are many other things that can be easily done to help build good relationships with people.

Interpersonal relationships are an important part of life, and if they are not done well, they will have a negative impact on work and life. In the real society, it is normal and understandable that there is a certain ideological gap due to the differences in people's personalities, aptitudes, life backgrounds and goals, etc. If you don't fit in with everyone at work or in life, it's not normal, and you need to adjust yourself and change it. People play different social roles according to their age, gender, occupation, position, environment, etc. Different roles have different norms of behavior when interacting with people, so when getting along with different people, there are different requirements and skills, that is, how to get along with colleagues and express some opinions.

First of all, we must be considerate of others everywhere, avoid being self-centered, and learn to consider problems from other perspectives and be good at making appropriate self-sacrifices in order to have a good relationship with colleagues. To do a good job, you often have to cooperate with others, and after achieving results, you are required to share them together, and you must not show yourself everywhere and take everyone's achievements as your own. Giving others opportunities and helping them achieve their goals in life is essential to managing relationships well.

Thinking about others also shows that when others encounter difficulties and setbacks, lend a helping hand and give help. Good relationships tend to be mutually beneficial. All kinds of care and help given to others will be rewarded when you encounter difficulties. Secondly, be open-minded and good at accepting others and yourself. Don't lose time in giving praise to others. However, it is important to be careful not to exaggerate, so that people will have a sense of hypocrisy and lose the trust of others.

When talking to a colleague, pay attention to listen to his speech, listening attentively represents understanding and acceptance, is a bridge to connect the heart, when expressing their thoughts, pay attention to subtlety, humor, conciseness, vividness. Implicit not only shows your elegance and cultivation, but also plays a role in avoiding disagreements, explaining opinions, and not hurting relationships. When giving opinions and pointing out the mistakes of others, we should pay attention to the occasion and use our words calmly, so as not to hurt people's self-esteem and produce a spirit of resistance. Humor is the spice of language, it makes conversations lively and interesting. Brevity requires mastering what to say and not to say when talking to people. When talking to people, you must be emotionally invested, so that you can move people with emotion. This is called vivid, of course, to master the skills of expressing oneself, you need to continue to practice, and constantly increase your cultural accomplishment, broaden your horizons.

Finally, it is also a good way to spend time mingling with colleagues, cultivate your own interests, make friends with hobbies, and exchange information with each other and learn from your own experiences to harmonize interpersonal relationships.

"In the future, when you work outside alone, you must have your own opinions no matter what you do, and don't act blindly. Qin Yaru said.

"When you encounter problems, take the initiative to seek the opinions of your leaders and colleagues, and remember not to make your own decisions. Xu Wanshan said. (To be continued......) u