From a psychological point of view, changing the environment is an effective psychotherapy method, when a person is unable to adapt and change the current environment, and the current environment affects him more than good, he should consider changing the environment, which is not an escape, but a wise choice. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 infoSo when we can't adapt to Mr. Bai's teaching style, and we can't change Mr. Bai's person, we can only consider transferring to Yangyang. Like when you walk into a swamp and you see a flat road next to it, do you continue to walk down the swamp with difficulty, or do you pull your leg out of the swamp and get on the road and walk forward? I think most people will choose the road unless there is no way to go. However, psychology advocates that the first thing is to make people try to adapt to the environment, because not everyone has a choice, but even if there is a choice, it is too weak to want to run away when things go wrong, and one day you will have nowhere to escape. But when you encounter a hostile environment, and you are physically and mentally hurting and you are powerless to reverse it, you should think of leaving, of course, this premise is that there is another better environment for you to choose from, and you have the ability to choose.

After changing Yangyang to a new school, the effect soon became apparent, not only did he become more lively, but his academic performance also began to pick up. However, one thing that worries me is that Yangyang's English score has not been able to improve, and in the final exam of the first semester of the sixth grade, his English score only scored 21 points, as if he didn't take English at all! And one day, I saw his diary thrown on the table, I picked it up and looked at it, and saw that it was written in Japanese, and he was shocked when he saw me flipping through his diary, and then he smiled easily and said to me proudly: "You can read it if you want, anyway, you can't read Japanese!"

"Do you like to learn Japanese and not English?" I asked him, confused.

"I don't like to learn Japanese, I just learn Japanese to understand Japanese anime. He said.

"Mom always feels that you are a little unprofessional, the foreign language class at school is English, but you are learning Japanese, even if you are going to come to Japan to go to university, you still need English grades. "I was worried about him and advised him.

"I'll learn English too. He replied casually because he was watching a Japanese anime, and he didn't even turn his eyes to me, and he didn't want to talk to me at all.

"Then why did you only score 21 in English?" I asked again, standing behind him.

"Oh, Mom, can you stop talking to me about this now? "He's starting to bother me.

"Don't you know that watching anime is affecting your studies? As a student, is it important for you to study or watch anime? If you don't study hard, how can you be admitted to university in the future? How can you go to Japan? Don't you want to go to university in Japan?"

When I said this, Yang Yang had already covered his ears with his hands, indicating that he didn't want to listen to my nagging anymore. When I saw him like this, I walked away and went to the kitchen to cook. I know that when a person doesn't want to listen to you, you'd better keep your mouth shut, because it's useless to say more, he won't take your opinion, only annoy you more and more. But this does not mean that you have to give up persuasion in the future, but to find the next opportunity, to say it when he is willing to listen to you. As a mother, the first thing I have to do is tell my child what to do, how to do it, and I'm not sure how much the child will listen. Of course, I hope he will listen to my advice. But I also knew that I couldn't completely let him develop according to my plan, and he might be able to get into a good university as I hoped in the future, or maybe he would have to bypass the college entrance examination and take another path. But no matter how he develops in the future, he will always be my son, the love of my life, and I can be angry with him, but I will never lose my love for him.

Yang Yang's obsession with Japanese anime has become deeper and deeper, and he not only watches Japanese anime on the computer in large quantities, but also buys a large number of Japanese anime books, anime stickers, toys and other peripheral products. Now our house has become an anime world, with bookshelves full of anime books, anime cartoons on the walls, and Japanese songs often playing on the speakers.

One day, my mother brought me steamed buns, and when she saw this scene in my house, she kept shaking her head and sighing, and she said to me: "How can you let your children do some Japanese things, little Japan is not a good person, little Japanese things will not be good, little Japanese people think about harming us Chinese every day, they make these animations are also to poison Chinese children, don't you know?"

My mother hated the Japanese to the core, because during the Anti-Japanese War, three people in our family died under the guns of the Japanese, listening to my grandfather, one day they encountered the Japanese into the village, my grandmother and grandmother and old aunt ran slowly, and were all killed by the Japanese machine guns, my father was only four years old at the time.

"Yangyang loves anime. I explained to my mother.

"It's okay to like anime, why should you like Japanese anime, isn't there a lot of anime in China?"

"There are few anime in China, not enough for him to watch. I said again.

"How much does he want to watch? Don't you study and watch all the anime every day?" you don't care about him?" my mother continued to question me.

"Anyway, he doesn't listen. I said.

"Well, whatever you don't care about, look at what you're used to your children!" "My mother was so disappointed that she didn't want to talk to me more.

"In fact, his academic performance has improved. I quickly comforted my mother.

"Have you improved, have you taken the first place in the exam?" my mother choked me with a word.

"I didn't take the first exam, but I improved by more than ten points from the last exam. "I don't know if I'm defending my son or myself, it's both, I'm just letting my mom know that Yang Yang and I aren't as bad as she thinks.

In the end, my mother shook her head and left me, and it was obvious that she was worried about us and disappointed. Originally, when I was a child, my mother never cared about my studies, but now how can she care about Yangyang's studies? Maybe it is also influenced by the current era of exams, when I was a child, people thought about eating every day, and at that time it was people's greatest wish to be able to eat enough, so at that time my mother didn't care about my studies at all.

Not to mention that my mother hates Japanese, my mother-in-law hates Japanese people even more than my mother. Like my parents, my mother-in-law often told me about the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, and according to my mother-in-law, her brother was betrayed by traitors and killed by the Japanese one day. So when my mother-in-law came to my house, I was extra careful, always asked Yangyang to turn off the computer, at least the speaker, and told him not to let grandma hear Japanese, otherwise grandma would be angry. If grandma asked him, he would lie and say that he was watching Chinese anime. Mother-in-law counted the Japanese, and it was really a day and a night that I couldn't finish talking!

And Yangyang often buys comic books and anime things, and his expenses in this area are unbearable for me, so I had to change the policy, stipulating that he can't spend more than 20 yuan on anime every month, and the excess part is earned by himself. Of course, I couldn't let him drop out of school to earn money, and I told him that he might be able to earn money by picking up scrap and doing housework during his breaks. For example, he can earn five dimes from me by washing the dishes once. On the one hand, I did this to limit him from spending too much money on anime, and on the other hand, to cultivate his sense of survival and ability to work. Nowadays, most of the only children only know how to spend money, do not know how to make money, and most of them do not know how to do housework, and their ability to take care of themselves is very poor, and there are often reports in the media, for example, after a college student goes to college, he will send his dirty socks home every week for his mother to wash, and some college students hire nannies to wash and clean up the dormitory for themselves, that is to say, many children are still in childhood after going to college in terms of self-care ability. I don't want my son to be like that in the future.

But Yangyang likes anime too much, in order to buy more things in this area, every day after school, he picks up waste in the community, once, Wu Xuewen's mother curiously said to me: "Why do your children like to pick up waste now?", I replied embarrassedly: "He is to earn his pocket money." Then Wu Xuewen's mother sighed and said: "Your children are really sensible, they have learned to earn their own money." ”

He is not sensible, and if he doesn't study for a day, he will know that he is obsessed with anime. Of course, I didn't say this to Wu Xuewen's mother.

Also, as soon as he finished eating every day, Yangyang rushed to wash the dishes, and as soon as he finished washing, he reached out to me and asked me for wages. Sometimes he also mops the floor for me, and the salary for mopping the floor once is one yuan, which is more expensive than washing dishes. Then I had to fight with him, not because I couldn't pay him, but because he didn't do a lot of work, for example, after he mopped the floor, I had to do it again after he went to school, because he couldn't mop it clean, and the same was true for washing dishes, and I often went back to work. Of course, I don't let him know that I'm going back to work, but every time I'm done with it, I praise him and say he's done a great job. Treat children only with encouragement. The problem was that he later got involved in the laundry and cooking, and sometimes we had to eat the rice he made that was too hard or too soft, and we had to wear clothes that he didn't wash clean.

That's it, my son is an anime fan, I don't know if it's a good thing or a bad thing, and at the moment in the eyes of others, it's not doing business properly and going down the wrong path. But after a long time, I don't think so, I fantasize that my son can also do anime in the future, and making anime is also a good career.

Of course, I still have to use my brain more in his studies, and I can't go to college and learn anime. (To be continued.) )