One afternoon, when I picked up Yangyang and returned to the community, I saw a young man running out with a child in his arms, followed by five or six adult men and women. www.biquge.info The moment I passed by them, I deliberately looked at the child in the man's arms, and was surprised to see that the child's face was purple, and his mouth was slightly open, and he looked very scary! What happened? The child was sick? Seeing this scene, many questions arose in my heart, and I couldn't help but stop, pushing the bicycle and standing in place, all the while watching the crowd of people holding the child walk away.

"Mom, let's go, go home, the animal world is about to start!"

I came back to my senses when I heard Yangyang's scream, and was about to push my bicycle into the carport, only to find that a large group of people were already standing behind me! Their eyes were also staring blankly at the gate of the community, as if the group of people who were holding the child just now had not gone far, in fact, the gate of the community was already empty. It seems that something big has happened, so much so that the residents of the whole community have been shaken out. The people gathered together seemed to be unable to get out of the shock for a while, and they all had serious faces, you look at me, I look at you, and they didn't dare to speak casually. The first to break the silence was an aunt who said:

"It's so careless that a kumquat stuffs the child's mouth. ”

"Do you see that?" someone asked.

"Listen to the child's grandmother. ”

"How can you choke on a kumquat?"

"At that time, the child was lying on his back on the bed, and he sucked the orange in his throat at once!" the aunt said this, and when she said this, she also tilted her head and opened her mouth, put a finger in her mouth, and did a demonstration of how the child was choked.

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Listening to the buzzing of the residents of the community, I roughly sketched this picture in my mind: the little protagonist who was less than a year old was lying on his back on the bed playing, and his aunt suddenly stuffed a small round kumquat with peeled skin into his small mouth, but he was defenseless, and this little kumquat was obviously too big for his small mouth, he couldn't chew it, and he had to keep breathing, so he sucked the kumquat in his throat, which eventually caused his face to turn purple and suffocate instantly!

"They didn't have first aid at the time? Didn't they do that when they turned the child upside down, patted him on the back or pressed his stomach, and manually squeezed out the food that was choking in his throat?"

I've read in books that if a person chokes on food, you can use a temporary first aid method of wrapping around the patient from behind, pushing back hard, and squeezing the patient's chest cavity to let the air flow in the chest cavity squeeze out the food stuck in the throat.

"They didn't understand this, they were just in a hurry to put their fingers in the child's mouth and dig out, but the more they pulled in. The aunt said.

"Well, how could this happen? Why would such a little child be fed kumquats? Can he bite?"

"My face is purple, and the situation is not good!"

"Young people don't understand anything!"

"Sometimes the elderly don't understand!"

"Look at the kids, you have to pay attention!"

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Everyone stood in the courtyard for a long time and refused to leave, all worried about the child, and had no intention of going back to dinner.

"Mom, let's go!" Yangyang, who didn't understand what adults were saying and didn't know what was going on, got impatient again and urged me for the second time.

After a while, although I took Yangyang back to the house, like the people downstairs, I always thought about the thing I saw just now, the child's purple face frequently appeared in front of me, so that I couldn't concentrate on cooking, and I actually cooked a pot of pasted millet porridge, so that I had to put the mushy millet porridge aside and keep it for myself, and remade a pot of egg noodle soup for Lu Tao and Yangyang. Normally, if the rice is not very mushy, I am reluctant to throw it away, and I will eat the part that is not mushy on it. Growing up eating coarse tea and light rice in the countryside, I was never a picky eater, and it was a sin to waste food every night. Of course, Lu Tao, who has a mother who is particularly good at cooking, is particular about eating, and will never eat mushy rice.

"I seem to have heard that there is a child in our yard who is choking?" Lu Tao asked me as soon as he entered the door.

"I've heard that, too. I said.

"Is it serious? Is it easy to deal with choking on food? Go to the hospital and let the doctor easily take it out for him, right?" Lu Tao may really not understand the danger of choking on food, maybe he hopes that things can have a good result.

"Yes, the doctor will easily take it out for him, but only if he makes it to the hospital alive!" I may have been too direct to listen to, and that's because I'm feeling uncomfortable, because of the kid!

Lu Tao and I discussed this matter when the news broadcast of CCTV stopped talking, and our attention quickly shifted to TV.

When I woke up the next morning, I was about to forget about it, but when I took Yangyang downstairs, I saw that there were still a lot of people gathered in the courtyard of the community, which made me think of the purple-faced child again. As I approached, I saw that everyone was either shaking their heads or sighing, and a voice was saying:

"Alas, it's a pity, it's not even a year old!"

I listened to my scalp and asked everyone, "How is the child?

Actually, I have already guessed from other people's conversations that the child has passed away, but I still have to ask this question, because my heart is just as reluctant to accept such a fact as the people around me.

"No! no!" the crowd made the bad news clear to me.

Next, I heard that the aunt who fed the child kumquat was arrested by the police, and I believe she didn't mean it, but she had to be legally responsible for her negligence!

The shadow of this incident lingered in the community for a long time, and almost every day I could see people lamenting for that unfortunate child.

And I remembered the day when Yang Yang had a fever of forty-one degrees, and the picture of him falling straight to the ground came to my mind again. Every time I think of this, I feel very guilty, I admit that the 41st degree of high fever in Yangyang was completely caused by my negligence, I despised his condition, and almost killed him! Afterwards, I asked the doctor many times whether the child would have sequelae when the fever reached 41 degrees, and the doctor said that as long as the child did not have convulsions, there would generally be no sequelae. Although the doctor said this, I always thought that the doctor was comforting me, and I was always worried that the high fever would burn Yang Yang, especially his brain! Therefore, I usually pay special attention to Yang Yang's intellectual performance, and I found that Yang Yang's memory is not good, so that he can not remember the ancient poems and pinyin he memorizes, is it really burning his brain? If so, will I not blame myself for the rest of my life?

Since then, I have been more cautious in taking care of Yangyang, he doesn't eat well, I will feed him, I will accompany him all the way when he goes downstairs to play, and I will carry him on his back when he is tired when he goes shopping, so that many people think that I am doting on my children, and often remind me not to spoil my children. Actually, I don't spoil my child, I just want to better fulfill my responsibilities as a mother, and hope that he can grow up safe, healthy, and healthy.

Speaking of doting, I think doting is a kind of parenting method that takes care of life and takes care of everything, and the behavior pattern is laissez-faire, almost ignoring the child's initiative, and does not pay attention to cultivating the child's good habits, and even does not explain right and wrong to the child in case of trouble. That's not how I treat Yangyang. In addition to trying my best to take care of his life, I will try my best to let him develop good behavior habits, and I will help him correct his mistakes in time and tell him what to do. Although he sometimes doesn't like to listen or doesn't understand, I will not bother to explain all kinds of things to him. For example, I would often talk to him about safety, warning him not to play with fire, not to plug and unplug the electric plug, not to open the balcony window to look out, not to eat food given by strangers, not to walk with strangers, and so on. I always carry a small note in his pocket with the names and phone numbers of Lu Tao and me, so that when he gets lost, well-wishers can contact us according to the note. Of course, he was still young, and it was still easy for him to do dangerous things, and it was easy for him to go with strangers, and he couldn't connect what I told him with reality yet. In addition, I will often tell him other truths, such as telling him not to take other people's things casually, to be polite to others, etc., I believe that as long as I talk about it often, these principles will enter his mind little by little, penetrate into his heart, and guide his words and deeds.

In terms of hands-on ability, I will encourage him to do things, children are naturally active and full of curiosity, and they have been imitating the behavior of adults: I wash clothes, and he also participates in washing them with me, of course, with him he can't wash them in a few books, because washing clothes is just a fun game for him, so okay, I will play with him until his clothes are all wet and the floor is sprinkled with water. I make dumplings, he also wants to wrap, I will give him a dumpling skin, let him play, he may spill the dumpling filling everywhere, may stain the outside of the dumpling skin is full of filling, but every time he is very serious about making dumplings or very seriously playing with dumplings, and finally no matter what the dumplings he makes are like, whether there is a filling in them, I will cook them in a pot, and after cooking, I will take them out for him to see or let him eat, so that he knows that this is the fruit of his own labor. Some parents call their children's participation troublemakers, and always drive their children aside, resulting in some children not being able to wash socks when they go to high school, or not being able to hot milk and peel eggs. In fact, many parents always go to two extremes, either doting or not loving, spoiling on the grounds that the child is young and ignorant, and when not caring about the child, using the exercise of the child's independence as an excuse.

As a mother, I believe that the process of raising a child is terrifying, in this world there are dangers everywhere, and life is extremely fragile, so raising a child should be protected first, and education second. Life always comes first, especially when our lives are linked to the lives of our children, and protecting them is equivalent to protecting ourselves. I can think of the family of the child who was killed by a kumquat must have been extremely sad, but what I admire is that they can still hold on and live bravely! If I were replaced, I would definitely collapse, and even lose the courage to live! Because I feel more and more that I can't live without Yangyang. Sometimes I think, maybe you can't say that a child is attached to an adult, it should be said that an adult is attached to a child, and when you love him too much, you will love to the point of losing yourself, and I think that's what I do, even though I know it's irrational. (To be continued.) )