What do you think about divorce? If I had asked this question a few decades ago, everyone would have thought that divorce was a distant thing for them, but now, do you still think so? Open the major search engines, you enter the divorce rate, in fact, the data found is not very large, it is calculated in the number of thousandths, even if the divorce rate is among the top in the country, it is only a few thousandths. But if we convert it into the number of people, then you will find that the number is actually quite staggering, and there are many divorces in every province basically every day.

Why do so many people get divorced? Some websites blame the high divorce rate in China on the infiltration of feminism after China's reform and opening up, and feel that after China's reform and opening up, the propaganda of "women can hold up half the sky" has led to the current women abandoning the tradition of "bearing hardships and standing hard work, enduring humiliation", and began to compete more and more in everything. Moreover, the website also believes that the remuneration of women in Chinese society has also increased much more than before, and the system of equal pay for equal work between men and women has made more women straighten their waists, and they do not need to rely on men to live both mentally and materially, so it has led to the high divorce rate in China.

But I don't think this point of view is comprehensive, although now men and women are equal, equal pay for equal work, can make women straighten their waists at home, and there is no need to "follow four virtues" as in the past, but it does not mean that economic independence leads to divorce. What's more, I think that hard-working and hard-working is a good quality, which will not change with the development of society, and enduring humiliation is not a good thing in itself, and it should be abandoned. I think the reason for the high divorce rate now, many times, comes from the current popularization of equality between men and women, everyone will not think about saying that divorce is embarrassing, nor will they think about saying what "three from four virtues", everyone thinks that two people can't get along and divorce, it is not a shameful thing.

Although the divorce rate is very high now, domestic violence incidents are also frequent, many people say that domestic violence is a reason for divorce, but why do many people prefer to endure domestic violence rather than divorce?

A few years ago, the domestic violence case of a famous English teacher shocked the whole of China, this teacher advocated "crazy" in English learning, but everyone did not expect this teacher to be even more "crazy" in the handling of family relationships. This famous English teacher is the founder of Crazy English in China, Li Yang.

Originally, although Li Yang was a celebrity in China, he was not yet at the bottom of the country's well-known knowledge. However, on September 5, 2011, a Weibo post by Li Yang's American wife, Li Jin, directly pushed the famous English teacher to the forefront. On the same day, Li Yang's assistant even suggested that Li Yang cancel his speech and go home to deal with the matter.

Afterwards, no one received Li Yang's reply to the domestic violence incident, until later, the video of Li Yang's interview with Chai Jing was exposed on the afternoon of the domestic violence incident, and Li Yang admitted frankly in an interview with Chai Jing that this marriage was an experiment in his family education, and he and his wife were together to do family education experiments.

In this regard, many years later, a famous host Jin Xing's evaluation of the incident and domestic violence was that "domestic violence is like a toothache, the more it drags on, the more serious it gets." The only way to solve it is to pull it out.

I don't know what you think about the Li Yang incident, and I don't know what you think about the relationship between domestic violence and divorce, but having said so much, today's story has something to do with the two words I said above.

The other day, my mother came from the countryside and told me something.

My mother said that there was an old man in the countryside, and his daughter-in-law ran away and didn't come back for more than half a month, and everyone didn't even know about it.

I think it's very strange, why is it that no one knows about the disappearance of people for more than half a month? Everyone knows that the countryside is the kind of place where everyone knows who has laid an egg immediately, and there is no one for no reason, how can everyone know nothing?

It turns out that this old man has always beaten his wife. In fact, in rural areas, this situation is also common, to put it mildly, wife beating is everywhere, and no one cares about it at all.

This old man is also a member of the army of wife-beaters.

Let's call this old man Uncle Bao. Uncle Bao is in her fifties and sixties this year, and Uncle Bao's daughter-in-law we call her Aunt Bao, and Aunt Bao is also in her fifties. Uncle Bao and Aunt Bao have been married for more than 30 years, and there has been nothing else, of course, there are things that Uncle Bao has solved by force......

At that time, in fact, it was normal to beat his wife in the countryside, machismo was deep-rooted, and some women in the family couldn't even go to the dinner table, let alone slap their wives or something, no one cared about it at all.

Aunt Bao, unlike others, Aunt Bao is a very face-loving person, the kind of woman who has to dress well and comb her hair when she goes out.

In fact, this matter is normal in the city, but it is very abnormal in the countryside of that era, everyone just wears clothes casually and walks around, you are neatly dressed and your hair is combed, how do you look at it. You must know that at that time, everyone was pulling up their pants and hoeing the ground and planting seedlings, and you were so neatly dressed, weren't you also covered in mud? So Aunt Bao was at that time, it was simply a scenery in the whole village.

Especially, this aunt is still beautiful and white, and she is not at all different from those rural women who are dressed in rustic clothes and tanned.

Of course, when he was young, Uncle Bao also belonged to the kind of very down-to-earth and hard-working, and Aunt Bao's parents just fell in love with Uncle Bao's down-to-earth and hard-working, so they married Aunt Bao to Uncle Bao, although Uncle Bao was not tall and his appearance was not good.

The two of them, there has been no contradiction, Uncle Bao also feels that he is a daughter-in-law, except for loving face and dressing up, there is nothing else, he should work and work, what is not good?

But later it was different, after Uncle Bao and Aunt Bao got married, Aunt Bao gave birth to three daughters to Uncle Bao in a row, and Uncle Bao was not happy now, and he lost money and goods, and one by one was the same as Aunt Bao, beautiful and white, with slender jade fingers, where is the material for work......

In addition, Aunt Bao was less than thirty at that time, and it was the time when she had the charm of a mature woman, and Aunt Bao also paid attention to dressing every day, so she was often considered a young woman who had just gotten married, and even felt that Aunt Bao looked like a little girl, so there were often people staring at Aunt Bao, and there were young people whistling at Aunt Bao or something. But Aunt Bao didn't care, and Aunt Bao should do what she should do.

At the beginning, Uncle Bao also felt that it was nothing, his daughter-in-law was beautiful, what could he do, he couldn't let his daughter-in-law smear some mud on her face every day in the future and then go out, right?

But then it gradually changed, more and more people were interested in Aunt Bao, and some people joked about Uncle Bao, saying that Aunt Bao was so beautiful, Uncle Bao looked so bumpy, and I didn't know when Uncle Bao wore a green hat.

This rural gossip, you don't know, one by one has a nose and an eye, this day in addition to doing farm work, is just sitting together and chatting, but not a bunch of gossip comes out.

On this day, some people said that some people said for two days that Uncle Bao didn't take it to heart, but when there were more people who said it, Uncle Bao began to mind, and Uncle Bao said to Aunt Bao, can you not dress up so flamboyant every day, like a fox spirit.

That Aunt Bao must be unwilling, she has nothing to do, how can she be a vixen when she washes her face and combs her hair, and her clothes are not worn out of order, not to mention those things that are not visible, what are you doing in your heart?

As they spoke, the two of them quarreled.

After arguing and arguing, the two of them started to fight.

Uncle Bao has great strength, although Aunt Bao also often does farm work, but this strength is not as good as Uncle Bao after all, and she must not be able to take advantage of it.

This Uncle Bao also drank some wine at the time, and he didn't pay attention to what this Aunt Bao was beaten into, so he fell asleep on the bed.

The next day, I found that my daughter-in-law had a blue nose and swollen face, and there were a lot of bruises on her body.

This aunt loves face, and she usually loves to dress up, but this face is beaten like this, why is she embarrassed to go out? What's more, there was no reason to go down to the field to apply grease and powder at that time, so Aunt Bao simply didn't go out to work, waiting for the injury on her face to heal.

Uncle Bao saw that he had done a good job, and he also felt very guilty, so he asked Aunt Bao to rest at home.

But the matter of these two people must not be told to others, Aunt Bao loves face so much, and she will definitely not tell others about being beaten.

But how can there be an impermeable wall in this countryside?

The sound of the quarrel between the two the day before was broadcast live in the whole village in the dark countryside as soon as it was dark, not to mention the shouts of Aunt Bao being beaten later, everyone already knew about Aunt Bao being beaten.

In addition, I didn't see Aunt Bao in the field the next day, and everyone felt that this Uncle Bao was too ruthless, and he beat his beautiful daughter-in-law so much that she couldn't get out of bed. Some people saw this and went to visit Aunt Bao's house.

For Aunt Bao, you can not go out, but when people come to the house, it is impossible not to entertain, right? So people saw the injuries on their faces, but Aunt Bao didn't say that she was beaten, she just said that the road was dark at night and she fell.

As soon as Aunt Bao said this, everyone speculated a lot, this was beaten, and everyone was not beaten, and it was not that no one was beaten, and it was said that it was broken, it seems that there is something wrong with this Aunt Bao, I am afraid that there is something wrong.

Some people even began to say, this Aunt Bao wouldn't have been beaten because Uncle Bao cuckolded Uncle Bao and was discovered by Uncle Bao, right? Otherwise, why wouldn't this aunt dare to admit it? At first glance, I knew that he was beaten, and he had to say that he fell, and the whole village knew about the movement of beating his wife this night, and he said that he fell, and it seemed that something was really wrong.

This statement, once it was proposed, it spread throughout the village in an instant, and everyone saw Uncle Bao smiling ambiguously at Uncle Bao, as if they had seen Aunt Bao cheating.

Uncle Bao was also uncomfortable with this look, and even began to suspect Aunt Bao of coming.

In this way, every time Uncle Bao drinks, he will quarrel with Aunt Bao when he comes home, and after the quarrel, he will start to beat Aunt Bao, every time he beats, his nose is blue and his face is swollen, and sometimes he even beats Aunt Bao so that he can't get out of bed for two or three days.

Aunt Bao didn't think about it, but looking at her three daughters, Aunt Bao endured it again, she left, what should these three girls do, this Uncle Bao is patriarchal again, as soon as he leaves, the three daughters have to suffer.

So Aunt Bao has been enduring it.

But Aunt Bao's forbearance did not bring Uncle Bao's change of heart, and each domestic violence will only be more ruthless and miserable.

And because Aunt Bao loves face, she will definitely not be seen when she is beaten, so gradually, Aunt Bao sometimes doesn't go out to work. Sometimes it is common to be beaten so badly that you don't even go to the ground for ten days and a half months.

Uncle Bao has been guilty for so many years, and then he didn't care about it later, and in the end, he even began to complain that Aunt Bao didn't do farm work because of it after being beaten, saying that Aunt Bao was lazy, and it was another beating.

But Aunt Bao never said anything, because Aunt Bao was afraid, afraid that if she resisted, Uncle Bao would take her anger out on her children, and Aunt Bao was even more afraid that she would be hurt and embarrassed.

So everyone is very used to it, they can't see Aunt Bao for a period of time, and everyone knows that Uncle Bao is beating his wife again.

Just ten days ago, Uncle Bao's house heard another news of beating his wife.

It's been more than 30 years, everyone has long been used to it, this has been married for more than 30 years, Uncle Bao has been beating his wife for 20 years, every time there is a big movement, and there is nothing to do the next day, everyone thinks it's nothing.

In addition, for so many years, the rumors of Uncle Bao being cuckolded have spread widely, and everyone thinks that Aunt Bao deserves it, and they don't say anything. What's more, Aunt Bao is indeed well-maintained, and now she is in her fifties, and she still looks like she is in her thirties, and her charm still exists.

Everyone didn't expect that this beating would be the last time Aunt Bao was beaten.

After Aunt Bao was violently beaten that night, she packed up her things and left the house overnight.

Uncle Bao and Aunt Bao's three daughters have also been married a long time ago, and there are only Uncle Bao and Aunt Bao in the family, and everyone has long been used to Aunt Bao's not going out, but Aunt Bao was beaten, embarrassed to go out, and everyone didn't ask.

Everyone just thought it was strange that Uncle Bao was looking for his daughter-in-law the next day.

Everyone watched Uncle Bao look for Aunt Bao everywhere, and jokingly asked Uncle Bao if Aunt Bao ran to the bed of the junior and forgot to come back.

No one took it to heart.

Only Uncle Bao knows that Aunt Bao has not returned since she left that night, and the three daughters do not know Aunt Bao's whereabouts. I also went to the three girls' houses to look for it, but I didn't find Aunt Bao, and Aunt Bao's maiden house also went, but I didn't find that Aunt Bao went back.

Uncle Bao was also embarrassed to tell people that he beat his wife, but he ran his wife away, so he had to say that he was missing, and he was looking for it. The three daughters don't have a good attitude towards their father, they only feel that they deserve it. The three daughters even said that they would not tell their father even if they had their mother's whereabouts. Uncle Bao was helpless about this.

Everyone really knows that Aunt Bao is missing, it is half a month later, and Uncle Bao said to the public that his daughter-in-law is going away, but everyone knows that this Aunt Bao is afraid that she will not come back.

(To be continued.) )