Teacher Yang did not rush to speak, but got up first to pour water, as if to free up time to think about how to tell his story.

She poured two glasses of water, handed one to Lin Ruoxi, and said: "Twenty years ago, when I was still a college student, I was also very beautiful at that time, my classmates and teachers called me the class flower, you should know that a young and beautiful girl will always receive more men's attention, beauty is a unique capital, but sometimes it will also bring you unexpected trouble." I remember that after school, I liked to do volunteer work with my classmates, such as going into the community or nursing home to give some emotional care to the elderly, and doing what I could for the elderly; For example, set up stalls on the sidewalks of downtown areas to publicize the dangers of gambling and drug abuse to individuals, families and society; Another example is to print some leaflets on how to prevent hand, foot and mouth disease out of their own pockets and distribute them to parents of young children for free. "One afternoon after class, I was unexpectedly stopped at the school gate by a man in a suit and leather shoes, this man was about thirty-two or thirteen years old, and after he was sure that he had found the wrong person, he said to me several times that I had helped his mother relieve the pain of illness, and he had come to thank me for his mother. When I asked, I learned that he was the youngest son of an old lady I had served in the community. The old lady had rheumatism and had difficulty walking, so when I went home from the National Day holiday, I asked my old Chinese medicine doctor father to prepare a pair of Chinese medicine and took it to boil water for her. After taking it for a while, her pain was relieved to a certain extent. In order to thank me for taking care of and helping her, the old lady asked me to go to the photo studio with her to take a group photo, and I agreed to her. "At the time, I thought that this man must have seen my picture so that he could recognize me at a glance. Indeed, my conjecture turned out to be correct, and he personally told me that as soon as I saw the photograph, I was thrilled and wanted to chase me down. So he carefully concocted a play of 'thank me for my mother'. "He invited me to dinner that day, but I had never gone to dinner with a strange man and was not used to it, so I instinctively refused him at first. But after refusing several times without success, he insisted on asking, saying that I was so sincere to help his mother, and that it was right to invite me to a meal, just to express my gratitude, and had no other meaning, if I didn't go, it would be him. I couldn't stand his repeated persuasion, so I reluctantly agreed to him. "At that time, I was relatively simple-minded, thinking that others were just giving me a banquet to repay my kindness, and had no other meaning, and if I knew that he had other plans, I would definitely not have gone to dinner with him. There was only me and him at the dinner table that day, and the food was very rich, including abalone and lobster, but my throat was inflamed, and I didn't eat much, and he couldn't finish it, and most of the sumptuous dishes on the table were wasted, which was a pity. At that time, I criticized him for ordering too much food, which should not be extravagant, and there are still many people in the world who are hungry, and when we are enjoying delicious food, we should think more about those who are hungry. He promised me that I would never be extravagant and wasteful in the future, and that I would order as much as I could. In fact, he did not really fulfill his verbal promise not to be extravagant and wasteful, he grew up in a wealthy family with no worries about food and clothing, and his parents did not teach him how to cherish his clothes and food, so he developed a habit of extravagant life for a long time; He promised me no more extravagance and waste, but in fact, he pandered to me in order to win my favor. "If he had not listened to my advice and insisted on extravagant consumption, I would have refused to associate with him again. But he is a very scheming person, and in order to achieve his personal goals, he looks like he is listening to me in front of me. You must know that an old man plays tricks on a young girl who is not familiar with the world, this girl must be not easy to detect, and even thinks that she has great powers, and the other party has been influenced by herself. "I remember that night he asked me what my ideal positioning and pursuit were, and I told him that I had been determined to be a people's teacher since I was a child, hoping that I could cultivate batch after batch of outstanding students. He said that I am so beautiful and smart, why am I only willing to be a teacher, being a teacher is very poor, if I choose something else, I must have a good development. I told him that I am not a materialistic girl, and that spiritual wealth is more important than material wealth in my life. "I didn't know it at the time, but now that I think about it, he was trying to get to the bottom of me." You may be wondering, I'm not a vain girl, so what does he use to impress me? In fact, he has his own set of methods. First of all, he 'respected' me very much, and 'supported' me to do public welfare activities, and asked me to call him when I went to carry out public welfare activities, he wanted to experience the life of volunteering, and he said that this was because I was infected; secondly, in front of me, he uncharacteristically showed a 'frugal' style of life, did not buy expensive cigarettes, watches and clothing, and did not go to high-end entertainment places to spend, I asked him why he suddenly went from luxury to frugality, and he said that it was because of my influence. In the dark, I thought I had become a savior, and I was touched by the changes he made because of me, and I felt that my life was worthwhile. In fact, when a person values his life, he exposes his weaknesses and will be exploited by people with bad intentions. Unfortunately, I became the one to be taken advantage of. He deliberately gave me the satisfaction of getting value in him, and then took advantage of my good feelings for him to lead me into his emotional ambush circle and capture my heart. "From the time I met him and fell in love, it took no more than three months in total, and it was surprising that I was in a relationship with him in such a short period of time. I still remember the day he courted me was my twenty-third birthday, and he actually gave me 99 roses and said he loved me in front of more than a dozen of my classmates. It was too sudden, and because of the suddenness, I was pleasantly surprised, and I had a large bouquet of bright and dazzling roses, as if there was a cluster of flames burning in my heart, and I couldn't hide the excitement in my heart, so I agreed to him on the spot. This hasty decision made the classmates around me feel incredible, and the classmates privately advised me not to rush to develop a romantic relationship with him for the time being, and should have a further understanding of his personality and ambitions, and then make a rational analysis, and then talk to him when I feel that it is appropriate, and if it is not suitable, I will turn the rudder back. However, I couldn't listen to it at all, I felt that he was suitable for me, and he would not marry in this life. "Like all infatuated women, I hope that the man I love is my only one, I asked him if he loves any other woman besides me, and he swears no, I believe him." After I was with him, some of his shortcomings and faults were gradually exposed, to be precise, he reverted to spending money without restraint, and he advised me to stop serving the old people in the community, who were afraid that they would have infectious diseases, and that I would infect him again. It's ridiculous. Of course, I couldn't listen to him, I told him that volunteering is a kind of pursuit of my life's value, and no one can deprive me of my right to serve others; I also advised him to spend his money wisely, and to be self-reliant, and not to spend his parents' money all the time, which is very immoral. He didn't listen to me, and I was very angry, so I argued with him, and it turned into a quarrel, and he spoke badly to each other without showing weakness. When I was not in a relationship, he was obedient to me and listened to me in every way, but after being with him, he turned out to be a different person, which made me feel sad. Despite our quarrel, I was reluctant to leave him, and the reason was that I loved him too much, like smoking opium, knowing that it was poisonous, but I couldn't help but continue to smoke it. When Mr. Yang said this, he smiled bitterly, and then said: "Later, I got pregnant unexpectedly and went to the hospital for an abortion, but it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy, and the doctor had to remove my fallopian tubes. As a woman, what does it mean to have your fallopian tubes removed? It means that you are no longer a complete woman, it means that you have lost the dignity of being a woman, and it means that you will never be a mother in this life. This is definitely a fatal blow to me, but what can I do, fate cannot be changed by my will. "And that's not all, the ensuing blows plunged me into an abyss of pain and despair, and I almost committed suicide by slitting my wrists because his wife had returned from treatment in the United States and he offered to break up with me. I asked him why he wanted to hide that I was not married, and he said that he loved me very much and was afraid that he would leave him after I knew the truth, so he deliberately concealed it. He said that he initially planned to divorce his wife and marry me, but when he saw that I had lost the function of inheritance, he had to give up. When he said these words, it was like a shuttle dart thrown at me, and it was plunged deep into my heart, and I felt a heart-rending pain. I lost the most precious thing of a woman forever because of him, and yet he irresponsibly said that if he left me, he would leave me, no matter me, how could I stand it? I begged him not to leave me, not to abandon me, but he would not listen and resolutely departed. It took me a long time to come out of the shadow of pain. "This is the consequence of my rash decision due to my lack of understanding of him in the first place. If I had listened to the advice of my classmates and chosen my love partner rationally, I would not have suffered such a painful emotional blow. It's a pity that there is no regret medicine in the world, no matter how bitter the fruit is, it can only be chewed slowly by you. "After this failed relationship, I lost confidence in my personal relationship and vowed not to fall in love again, I was afraid of being hurt again. Actually, not every man is as ruthless and unrighteous as my ex-boyfriend, I have also met good ones, they really like me, take care of me, I am very moved, but I think of the hurt I had, remember that I am a crippled woman, I have no courage, so I euphemistically rejected all men's pursuits. "I am telling you so much today, in fact, I hope you will take it as a warning, you must be sober when choosing a love partner, don't be blinded, others care about you a little, you think that is his nature, think that he will always be good to you, that is wrong. You should understand him from multiple angles and aspects, rationally judge whether he is suitable for you, and don't love someone by mistake and harm yourself for a lifetime. If Teacher Yang didn't say it, Lin Ruoxi would never have imagined that she would have such an unbearable past, and under her strong appearance, there was a heart that was extremely fragile to her feelings; Lin Ruoxi feels that women must know how to take care of their bodies, and never agree to men's non-specific requirements casually, even if they are their boyfriends, they must keep their chastity, otherwise they will be ruined, become crippled flowers and willows, and they will suffer losses. Lin Ruoxi is very grateful to Teacher Yang for telling her this enlightening story, and at this time, she knows how to deal with her emotional problems. This book is derived from this book from /book/html/34/34389/