Seeing that Niu Tiangou's face seemed to be very vegetable, Uncle Taurus gently patted him on the shoulder and asked, "What's wrong?" Would you like to hear me talk about the second condition? ”

"Isn't it just savings, investment money, and real estate?" Regarding the second major condition of erotic love, Niu Tiangou thought that he understood, with a trace of depression on his face, and asked disappreciatively.

"Not bad." Seeing that he looked clear to his chest, Uncle Taurus said: "There is no certain standard for the 'abundance' of wealth, it changes with time, in short, the wealth conditions of men should reach the point where women, especially beautiful women, are loved, and the level of wealth must be above the average wealth level of most people in the local area at that time."

"Most people earn a few hundred yuan a year, and if you earn thousands of yuan a year, you are wealthy; Most people have an annual income of tens of thousands or even tens of thousands, and if you earn 100,000 yuan a year, you are wealthy; Most people don't have a building, but if you have a building, you are rich; Most people don't have a car, and if you have a car, you're wealthy...... In short, your wealth must be above the average of most people in order for you to win enough favor with beautiful women. ”

After a pause, Uncle Taurus asked, "What...... What do you think of your material condition? ”

"Me?" Niu Tiangou was stunned. He hadn't really thought about it.

Do you have the material conditions yourself? Do you count yourself as "rich"? Is it above average for most people?

With a salary of less than 40 yuan per month, no other income, no savings when I just came out of work, no surplus and accumulation, not to mention spare money to invest; There is an old mud house and a simple brick house at home, and there are two younger brothers below, of course, it cannot be regarded as a house owned by himself, let alone real estate; At present, there is not even a single bicycle, let alone a vehicle, gold and silver jewelry, antiques, securities, and bulk goods.

Moreover, the family is in the countryside, the parents are the farmers at the bottom of the society, and they are in the rural school, and they are poor teachers, where can we talk about the family background, family background and home environment?

Your wealth level is not only below the average wealth of most people, but it is simply at the bottom! Grandma's!

Uncle Taurus seemed to know what he was thinking at this time, and said bluntly: "You can say that you have no material conditions now. Wages, simple housing, daily necessities, can only maintain your own basic food and clothing, and this is only the starting point of material conditions - food and clothing conditions are far from the so-called material conditions (wealth).

"Moreover, your family is poor and has no family conditions. In fact, whether it is the money and wealth of the man or woman in love, or the material conditions, it mainly depends on the family background - relying on the accumulation of parents and ancestors, how much money and wealth can a young man have? If you don't have family conditions and congenital material conditions, you can only rely on yourself to accumulate them slowly.

"Hmm...... If you accumulate slowly from your salary, you may have a little material wealth in a few years, and you may slowly close the gap with the average wealth of most people, but by then you will be long past the age of love. ”

Grandma, according to this, she only has food and clothing conditions at present, and the material conditions are zero?

Nima, it turns out that in front of the material conditions of erotic love, he is a poor boy! Nothing!

He is a typical second generation of farmers and poor second generations!

Poor light pole! Two poor eggs!

Sad!

"Okay, let's move on to the third condition of erotic love." Seeing Niu Tiangou's face, Uncle Taurus didn't want to talk about the material conditions.

"......" Niu Tiangou didn't dare to squeak this time, but listened carefully.

Uncle Taurus thought for a while and said, "The third condition is the spiritual condition that you don't understand very well. The reason why you don't understand it is because you can see the physical conditions at a glance, and you can know the material conditions when you see and hear them, but the spiritual conditions are difficult for you to understand if you don't go through the 'wisdom of the heart', that is, without long-term (at least 2 to 3 years) in-depth contact, communication and watching the performance of the other party.

"Mental conditions are ultimately the decisive factor that ultimately affects whether the erotic relationship is stable and long-lasting.

"There are often such situations in the erotic love in the world, as soon as two people meet, look at each other's appearance and material conditions, but after getting along for a period of time, they find that the two people's knowledge, ideas, concepts, and conduct are too different, and they can't talk together at all.

"Therefore, in addition to the combination of 'appearance' and 'wealth', in the end, it is necessary to 'match the spirit', and the dream is tied by the 'soul', so that the love can be stable and long-lasting. From the perspective of a person's life, appearance is just the appearance of a person, and it will decline over time; Property is only something outside of a person's body, and it is easy to gain and be vulnerable; Only the spiritual factor of 'soul' is the core of human connotation and can accompany people for a lifetime. This is often despised or even ignored by men and women in love. ”

After a pause, Uncle Taurus continued: "As I said earlier, spiritual conditions include character and diplomas, as well as personality, temperament and cultivation, knowledge, ability, talent and fame, specialties, IQ and EQ and other factors.

"Let's talk about character first. Character is the quality, character, and morality of a person, which refers to the stable psychological characteristics or tendencies that a person shows to society, to others, and to things around him when he acts according to certain social moral norms and norms.

For example, self-motivation and sense of responsibility, diligence and steadfastness, self-reliance and self-improvement, self-cultivation, open-mindedness, language civilization, mild character, kindness, virtuousness, and single-mindedness are all manifestations of good character; Not seeking progress, no sense of social responsibility, lazy, not self-reliant, uneducated, narrow-minded, vulgar language, short-tempered, provocative, frivolous, etc. are all manifestations of poor character.

For example, respecting one's lover or other half, knowing how to be considerate and tolerant, doing things fairly, rationally handling the relationship between lovers or husband and wife, respecting the elderly, honoring parents, and having a sense of family responsibility are all manifestations of good character; Not respecting one's lover or other half, competing, doing things secretly, being willful, not respecting the elderly, not honoring parents, and having no sense of responsibility for the family are all manifestations of poor character.

For example, treating friends with the heart, being honest and frank, being upright, not exposing other people's shortcomings behind their backs, and not causing trouble, are all manifestations of good character, while in front of friends, they are flamboyant, hypocritical, liar, like gossip behind their backs, love to say bad things about friends, and tell right and wrong, all of which are manifestations of poor character.

For example, not greedy for small profits, knowing how to share with others in front of interests, and not doing things that are harmful to society and others are all manifestations of good character, and in front of interests, they love to take advantage of small advantages, or harm others and benefit themselves, and even cheat and steal in society, eating, drinking, prostituting, gambling, and smoking, all of which are manifestations of poor character.

"People with good character are respected and loved, and people with bad character are despised and disgusted, especially men and women in love."

"Let's talk about diplomas. A diploma represents a person's academic qualifications and knowledge level, although it does not necessarily represent ability, but the level of the diploma reflects a person's intelligence (IQ) to a certain extent, reflects a person's intelligence, and reflects a person's knowledge, so the level of the diploma is still different in people's hearts.

"As a general rule, those with a high diploma are favored by beautiful women, and those with a low diploma are left out in the cold, because no beautiful girl wants to find a young man of average or low intelligence.

"Then on to character. Personality is a relatively stable personality psychological characteristic of a person's attitude towards reality and behavior, which is the core part of personality and can best express individual differences. We often say that a person has a personality, that is, that the person's personality is different from others. Uncle Taurus continued.

For example, honesty, humility, bravery, decisiveness, enthusiasm, cheerfulness, humor, gentleness, calm and maturity are all good characters and are easy to be accepted, while hypocrisy, pride, cowardice, indecision, indifference, depression, dullness, roughness, impetuousness are all bad characters and are not easy to get along with.

"There is a direct link between character and character. A person with a strong personality is often shown in quality as perseverance, perseverance, ability to work hard for ideals for a long time, and is not easy to be discouraged, and a person with a selfish personality is often shown in quality as petty, stingy, greedy, without feelings, and never considers others.

"It is difficult for people with bad personalities to get along with people, let alone men and women in erotic love.

"Do you like a person who has an eccentric personality, is narrow-minded, has a strong sense of jealousy, does not want to accept criticism and often finds fault with others, and is obsessed with trivial things or even turns his face away from others?

"Do you like a person who is stubborn, sensitive and suspicious, always suspicious and distrustful of you, always suspects that you are having an affair with the opposite sex around you, and goes to great lengths to check your post and monitor your movements?

"Do you like a person who has a cold personality, a lack of enthusiasm for people, a lack of interest in things, a lack of passion for the outside world, indifference to anything, and indifference to feelings?

"Personality is too introverted, lonely and shy, timid and withdrawn, depressed and gloomy, avoids social interactions, has low self-esteem and obscenity, and has poor ability to adapt to interpersonal relationships and social environment;

"The personality is too extroverted, emotionally unstable, easily stimulated, impulsive and aggressive, irritable and irritable, throwing things and hitting people at every turn, and will inevitably manifest as hostility and aggression towards others, family and society.

"These are all signs of bad character, all flawed or seriously flawed personalities, and of course they will not be popular with beautiful women.

"People with character flaws are very prone to conflict with others. There are many lovers or couples who are often quarrelsome because of their incompatible personalities, and even break up. ”