Speaking of this, Uncle Taurus took a breath, and then continued: "As for the role of temperament and cultivation, knowledge, ability, talent and fame, expertise, IQ and other factors in erotic love, I won't talk about it, you can slowly experience it yourself in the future, I just want to tell you about the one you lack the most - emotional intelligence." ”

"Emotional intelligence?"

Niu Tiangou felt novel, and felt a little inexplicable, is emotional intelligence still the spiritual condition in love? Or what you lack the most? He knew what IQ meant, he'd heard of EQ, but he didn't know what it was.

"Emotional intelligence, also known as emotional intelligence and emotional intelligence, is a way to understand and control oneself, and then influence and control the emotions of others.

"People with high emotional intelligence can detect and understand their emotions at any time, and are not infected and affected by other people's bad emotions, while people with low emotional intelligence can not detect their own emotions, and are easily affected by other people's emotions, and even blushing for a little thing, and are more likely to be angered, angry, and lose their temper.

"When people with high emotional intelligence have misunderstandings or conflicts with their other half or others, they can control and adjust their bad emotions, treat them calmly and rationally, understand and tolerate each other, sometimes take the initiative to admit mistakes, and even occasionally deliberately take the method of temporary avoidance, and then deal with them after calming down - because emotions and tantrums on the spot will not solve any problems, but will make the problem worse - so as to skillfully resolve misunderstandings or contradictions, while people with low emotional intelligence are easy to be emotional, unable to understand and tolerate each other, and shirk responsibility, blindly takes it seriously, and even has to be unforgiving, and confronts each other on the spot, making things more stiff;

"People with high emotional intelligence can motivate themselves when they encounter setbacks, have strong resilience to frustration, can adjust their mentality in time, and rise in adversity, while people with low emotional intelligence are at a loss when they encounter setbacks, or blindly complain, sad faces, depressed, and finally depressed;

"People with high emotional intelligence can understand the emotions of others, take the initiative to ask and pay attention to the feelings of others, detect, take care of and understand the needs of others, because they can listen to other people's ideas, be good at observing other people's expressions and even body language, interpret other people's emotions and intentions, and use their own good emotions to influence other people's emotions, guide the other party's emotions to the front, and minimize the risk of direct conflict, while people with low emotional intelligence are short-tempered, reckless and arbitrary, and have poor ability to interpret other people's emotions, so they have to let others follow him. They don't understand the feelings of others at all, and often blame and hit others, which will only lead to the escalation of conflicts and even cause an unmanageable situation;

"A person with high emotional intelligence is in a cheerful mood, full of sunshine, and is prone to a strong aura of warmth, enthusiasm and happiness, and his kind smile, a sincere look, and a warm word will make you feel like bathing in the spring sunshine, and with such a person, even if the mood is very bad, it will be affected to become better, while a person with low emotional intelligence is the opposite, bringing people often negative emotions.

"I'll give you a very simple example. When the husband leaves work at 6 a.m. and arrives home at 8 a.m., the wife, who has low emotional intelligence, will angrily ask, 'Where did you die in these two hours?' You make it clear to me. And the wife with high emotional intelligence will say, 'Eat quickly, seeing that you are busy all day, it is distressing to watch.' Obviously, a wife with low emotional intelligence brings chills to her husband, and a wife with high emotional intelligence brings warmth.

"People with high emotional intelligence are good at communicating and exchanging with others, appreciating and encouraging others, accepting and appreciating the differences between people, cage people, can accommodate many types of people, are easy to have a wider circle of friends, maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships, and have many chances of success, while people with low emotional intelligence will not take the initiative to communicate with others, have little external communication, have a small circle of friends and a single type, have a weak ability to obtain close relationships, are prone to show excessive dependence on a relationship, and have poor ability to deal with interpersonal relationships. Naturally, the chances of success will be much less......

"In short, people with high emotional intelligence are favored by beautiful women, their work is smooth sailing, they are at ease, and their erotic love is smoother and harmonious, while people with low emotional intelligence are treated coldly, stumbling at work, troubles, and erotic love is also heartbreaking."

Seeing that Uncle Taurus Xing said so much at once, Niu Tiangou unconsciously felt a little big, and his face was embarrassed: "This spiritual condition is too much and too complicated, can you say it simply, let me focus on remembering, for example, summarize the spiritual condition into a few words?" ”

"Four words: character, ability."

Uncle Taurus said without thinking: "Character is virtue, ability is talent." If a man has a good character, he has a sense of responsibility, a sense of family responsibility, respects the old and loves the young, and is diligent and practical; If a man has a good character, he will have a good personality, he will be open-minded, his character will be gentle, his relationship with others will be harmonious, and his wife will be harmonious and trusting; If a man has strong ability, he will be self-motivated and enterprising, and only then can the material conditions be improved and the family can be relied on.

"Character and ability are the outline of spiritual conditions, and everything else is the goal."

seemed to think that Niu Tiangou would ask again, and Uncle Taurus Xing simply replied: "A woman's spiritual condition is also four words: gentle and virtuous." When a woman is gentle, the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious; Only when a woman is virtuous can she respect the elderly and treat her friends well. In fact, this also belongs to the category of character. That's simple enough, isn't it? ”

"But......" Uncle Taurus thought for a while, and still said, "There is another important spiritual condition, I have to mention to you, that is, family power and power. ”

"Family Strength and ...... Position? Niu Tiangou was stunned again.

"Yes, it is the power and status in the hands of parents or other members of the family, it is the power and status in the hands of the family, and the power and status in the hands of oneself is the position of power. Although they do not belong to the core of the connotation of men and women, they are also shrouded in a spiritual aura, which is a spiritual condition outside the core of personal connotation, and also belongs to the category of spiritual conditions, which is a special spiritual condition.

"Family power is the halo that hangs over the head of the family member, and it will benefit the members of the family - generally the family with power and status, the family is relatively wealthy, the spirit can become material, not to mention the power of the individual. However, because there are very few people who have family power or have power in themselves, it is not mentioned in the 'recipe'. ”

Niu Tiangou understood, didn't his uncle just fall in love with the tax chief's family (power and status), as well as the wealthy family brought by the family situation? What money can the black and ugly son of the tax commissioner have? Can the uncle not only not take into account his cousin's feelings, but also don't even want family affection?

"Okay, that's all for today."

Uncle Taurus said this, seeing Niu Tiangou's contemplation, it seemed that he was thinking about his own erotic love, so he smiled lightly and said: "Finally, I will tremble with you by the way, these three conditions can only be used as a reference for you to experience the erotic life in the world in the future.

"As long as the beauties feel good, even if one or two are not up to standard, they will ignore it, after all, they feel good is really good, they feel beautiful is really beautiful, they feel rich is really rich, they feel happy is really happy, and other physical conditions, material conditions, and spiritual conditions are all floating clouds.

"You are the same, don't think that beauties are stereotypical of these conditions, there are hundreds of people, and they are sese, maybe with the improvement of your other conditions, some beauties don't care too much about your height."

Knowing that he had talked enough today, he had to let this kid ponder carefully, so Uncle Taurus stopped being verbose: "If you have any problems, come to me tomorrow, I should also rest." ”

After speaking, Uncle Taurus disappeared as soon as he turned around, leaving only the rippling clear waves of the Bilian Pond in front of him to go with the wind and disappear into the distance......

I don't know how long it took for Niu Tiangou to wake up from a sleepwalking vision.

By this time, it was already dawn.