Not long after, the teachers had just eaten the wedding banquet of the son of Zheng Counselor, who was in charge of the school district, and two days later, a conspicuous message was written on the big blackboard of the school billboard: Director Xia's mother of the school district passed away, please contact ××× and ××× if you are interested.

The teachers of the whole school naturally flocked to it, and they all gave favors and gifts, and the general trend forced Niu Tiangou naturally couldn't be the "unintentional person", so he had no choice but to give the gift again.

In the end, it is worthy of the grandeur of the school district, Director Xia held the funeral banquet very grandly, set up a full 46 tables, not only the principals and teachers of the middle school, but also the principals and teachers of the primary schools in the school district, the students took a half-day vacation for this, and the leaders of the school districts in the county, plus Director Xia's relatives and friends, as well as some students' parents, the whole hotel was crowded.

There are also large wreaths in front of the hotel, a white expanse, like a state funeral.

Niu Tiangou wondered: Isn't it just an "old" person? In order to express condolences and take care of the face of the leaders, wouldn't it mean that each school sent a representative to send a wreath? Why do you want to be so excited, and let the students in the whole district "take a break from cooking" for half a day?

This is too much of a courtesy, isn't it?

When he came back with Cao Zhengdong after eating the funeral banquet, Niu Tiangou said his thoughts.

Cao Zhengdong smiled faintly after listening to it, and said: "Human favors and etiquette have become a trend, and the scale is getting bigger and bigger, the scope is getting wider and wider, and more and more compared with each other.

"You think, we ordinary people hold banquets and invite guests only to the circle of relatives, friends, fellow villagers, and colleagues, and the number of people is generally small, even in the larger circle of our school, the teachers hold banquets and invite more guests, but the teachers are all in contact with each other, and they can't make any money, everyone just wants to be lively, pompous, and vanity.

In addition to relatives, friends, and colleagues, there are also subordinate officials, colleagues and leaders of level-level units, units and related households with interests, and many employees, and the number of gifts is far beyond the comparison of ordinary people. In addition, most of the 'favors' received by the leaders except for a very few have 'coming' and no 'going'.

Why? If you think about it, those subordinate officials, their future and destiny of promotion and fortune are all decided by their top bosses, and they can't afford to offend, of course they have to walk and pat the horse, of course they have to give it, not only themselves, but also use public funds to 'send', and be generous to the 'public' (once something goes wrong, it is said that the money is used to coordinate relations, and the handling can only be characterized as a violation of financial and economic discipline), paving the way for themselves; In addition to sending their own money, there are also those who use public funds to send them; those related units and related households that have a stake in them, their survival and development, and the rolling wealth resources are all in the pen signed by the people in power, and they have to give them more and have a 'weight'; those who have a large number of employees, their jobs, wages, bonuses, evaluations, professional titles, benefits, etc., are all in the hands of those in power, and they cannot afford to offend, and they have no choice but to send them.

"When a leader accepts these 'favors,' even if he 'reciprocates' gifts in the future, he will only 'return' gifts given by private people to subordinate officials, and will not 'return' gifts given with public funds; he will only 'return' gifts from private people to his colleagues and leaders of units at the same level, and he will also use public funds to give gifts with public funds. As for the many employees, he will also 'return' the gift when he knows it, but every employee will notify him to force him to return the courtesy? Of course not.

"Take Director Xia's funeral banquet today, in addition to their own gifts, the middle school principals and primary school principals gave 300 yuan in the name of the unit, and each primary school gave 200 yuan in the name of the unit, plus the public funds sent by colleagues and the heads of level-level units, the 'bribes' sent by interested units and related households (such as chalk factories, purified water factories, garment factories, insurance companies, milk supply units, bookstores, etc.), and most of the middle school teachers and primary school teachers only 'toward' no Director Xia received at least 60,000 yuan of 'favor gifts', even if he removed more than 20,000 yuan for eating and drinking, and 10,000 yuan for 'return' gifts in the future, he also made a net profit of 30,000 yuan. Didn't 'make heads', do you think they're stupid?

"Therefore, some people say behind their backs: old habits of human affection are difficult to return, the masses become a burden, and the leaders are happy."

After hearing this, Niu Tiangou couldn't help muttering: "A small school district director can be like this, so if the level is a little higher, and the official is a little bigger, wouldn't it be even worse?" No wonder the trend of hospitality is so prevalent. ”

"Of course, the lower is even better, and the superior must be better. Although giving gifts has become an invisible shackle for us ordinary people, everyone is tired of wearing it, but everyone is unwilling to take it off.

In fact, everyone has been involved in this whirlpool of human affection that will never be able to break free from the first time they give or receive favors, and then they can only helplessly struggle endlessly in this huge whirlpool. It's a pity that they are sent back and forth, and in the end they are all 'wedding dresses' for officials, hotels, and cooks!

"Teachers are 'sending' favors to each other, and officials are 'sucking' favors downward. Director Xia accepted the favor from the teachers, but in order to protect his job and be promoted, he also had to send it when the directors and directors of the Education Bureau held a banquet and invited guests. As people say, gifts, gifts, one level to the next, all the way to the provincial and ministerial level; Favors, favors, layer by layer, have been received at the grassroots level! ”

"Then why don't the teachers work together to resist this crooked style of human courtesy?" Niu Tiangou interjected.

Cao Zhengdong sneered and said, "Do you think that the teachers are like you, thinking that as long as you bury your head in teaching well?" Definitely! In the eyes of many teachers, a teacher should be favored by the leaders, not only to grasp the business with one hand, to improve the teaching, but also to pat the sycophants with one hand, and to the leaders of all sizes to justifiably send 'favor gifts' (and even secretly send some New Year's gifts during the New Year's holidays) is one of the main means to have a good relationship with the leaders of the school district and school.

"You don't see that those excellent, exemplary, and advanced places above the school level have never been made public, and they have been arbitrarily given to teachers with good relationships as gifts by the leaders, and the promotion of teachers' titles is also up to the school district leaders to decide. If you don't have a good relationship with the leaders of the school district and the school, even if you are tired and vomiting blood on the three-foot podium, you don't want to get the slightest benefit in the evaluation of models, job title promotions, salary adjustments, and welfare benefits. ”

Niu Tiangou completely understood, no wonder over the years, he has the lowest salary among teachers with the same qualifications, what evaluation and model evaluation, title promotion, etc., has not been his share, and even some teachers with lower qualifications than him have "channeled" in front of him.

Although Niu Tiangou understands these truths, he is too wooden, his "emotional intelligence" is not high, he is not good at drilling, he does not know how to deal with people, he will not make friends, and he will not be able to lead, so he was "replaced" to Tuhuang Township Middle School by Principal Hu when he was assigned, and later "squeezed" to Tuhuang Township Primary School by the principal of Tuhuang Township Middle School.

Despite this, if he wants to make him slap the leader's ass, he can't do it anyway, which is determined by his stubborn character.

No one should be arrogant, but one must not be spineless.

Although he had been forced to give some gifts against his will for the transfer, he would not have done it if he had been asked to take the initiative to bow down to those unrighteous leaders for the sake of a little favor and a small favor, flattering and laughing, and giving gifts on New Year's Day.

He thinks that if he does it like that, even if he gets a little sweetness, it will be like licking urine under the crooked monk's crotch, although he will temporarily quench his thirst, but he will be disgusted and panicked when he thinks about it for the rest of his life.

Moreover, no matter how many favors are given, it is very difficult for those leaders to become real friends with the masses, and it is very difficult for them to have real favors, because in the eyes of such leaders, those masses who desperately curry favor with them are just a group of minions who want to get half a "dog bone".

Niu Tiangou decided not to participate in the boring game of giving favors anymore, and he felt very tired - financially and mentally. In addition to maintaining personal contacts with several teachers who have a particularly good relationship, even if Tianwang Laozi holds a banquet and invites guests, he will never send any favors like a mountain of sheep.

Nima, the overflow of favors sent back and forth, to put it bluntly, are all vanity on the face of the figure, and in the end it is the ordinary people who suffer, the fat ones are the big and small cadres, and the rich ones are the hotels and cooks.

He feels that human relations should be controlled within the smallest range he can bear, and there is no need to engage in comparisons, pomp, and vanity, so that he is financially relaxed and mentally happy, although he also realizes that his behavior is incompatible with the teachers, and he can't change the entire social atmosphere, but people always have to tailor their work and seek truth from facts, "how much flour makes how much pie", and they can't always earn three thousand yuan a year, but they tighten their belts and beat their swollen faces to compare with those big guys who earn tens of thousands of yuan and hundreds of thousands of yuan a year, right?

On October 1, the daughter of the school district's "miscellaneous hair" accountant got married, and it was widely advertised on the big blackboard at the entrance of the middle school.

Two days after school, the "miscellaneous hair" accountant stood at the gate of the middle school with a gift slip to pick up the "dropped guests" (the guests who missed the wedding banquet on October 1), Niu Tiangou happened to pass by the school gate and wanted to say hello to him, but the "miscellaneous hair" accountant glanced at Niu Tiangou with disdain, twisted the "miscellaneous hair" head with disdain, and glanced away, as if he did not see Niu Tiangou in front of him.

Niu Tiangou silently walked out of the school gate with a sad face. Somehow, he always felt that there was something in the disdainful and disdainful eyes of the "miscellaneous hair" accountant: Hmph! Boy, wait and see.

Nima, this is not a gift, and it is so embarrassing to meet people. Alas, it's no wonder that this favor gift is "face", you don't give face to others, others can give you a good face?

Maybe it's embarrassing, it's embarrassing, maybe people aren't what he imagined, anyway, he won't be involved in this endless whirlpool of human feelings in the future.