After reading these paragraphs, although there is a lot of content, Niu Tiangou, who has been a Chinese teacher, quickly grasped the main point:

The first point is the specific content of the three conditions.

Appearance conditions include a person's height, appearance, age, and skin, which are the person's appearance and skin;

Material conditions include people's money, materials, and the wealth and poverty of the family, which are things outside the body that life does not bring to death and does not take away;

Spiritual conditions refer to people's thoughts, emotions, will, etc., including people's temperament and demeanor, character, character, quality (morality), talent, knowledge, intelligence, talent, and name (talent), which is the core of human connotation.

The second point is that people with good conditions are popular in the erotic love field.

Because people with beautiful appearances are loved by everyone, it is easy to get "eye edge"; People with a lot of wealth and a good family background are easy to get "wealth"; People with good spiritual conditions have temperament and demeanor, character, character, quality, talent, knowledge, intelligence, talent, and fame, and it is easier to win hearts and obtain "heart edge".

The third point is that erotic love does not only refer to the beauty of the other party, but also extends to the love of the other party's wealth, the beauty of things, and the envy of the other party's spirit.

Fourth, the laws and methods of men and women pursuing erotic love.

The only condition that a woman pursues erotic love is beauty, so it is more difficult to obtain a mediocre or ugly woman, while a man pursues erotic love, in addition to the appearance conditions, there are also material conditions and spiritual conditions, a man with a beautiful appearance can pursue a beautiful woman by appearance, a man with a poor appearance can rely on a lot of wealth to impress a beautiful woman, and a man with little wealth can rely on a noble spirit to attract a beautiful woman.

Therefore, men pursue erotic love, the beautiful win the eyes of the beautiful with their appearance, the rich win the wealth of the beautiful with their wealth, and the noble ones win the hearts of the beautiful women with their spiritual conditions.

The three conditions are met, that is, "handsome, rich, and fashionable", and love is at your fingertips and long-lasting; If the three conditions are not met, that is, "ugly, poor, and despicable", you can only pursue a woman or an ugly woman with a mediocre appearance; If one of the three conditions is missing, you may be able to pursue a beautiful woman; If two of the three conditions are missing, you will be entangled and uneasy between erotic love and love, and the only remedy is to improve your material and spiritual conditions.

Although the main points were understood, Niu Tiangou seemed to feel that the condition of "soul" - spirit was all-encompassing, so he raised his head and asked: "Soul ...... It's too complicated for me to remember, can you explain it more simply? ”

"Simpler?" Uncle Taurus thought for a moment and said, "No matter how simple it is...... Then it can only be simply two words: 'virtue' and 'talent'. ”

"Virtue and talent?"

"Hmm. In terms of spiritual conditions, the girls in the world first value the virtue and talent of the young man. ”

Uncle Taurus explained: "'Loyalty', 'filial piety', 'benevolence', 'righteousness', 'courtesy', 'wisdom' and 'faith' are traditional virtues in the world. For example, some girls will say: 'I don't want the man to be handsome or rich, as long as he has a good personality and is good to me', although this sentence is simple, it contains the requirements for the man's morality.

"What does this 'good character' mean? It is to ask the man to be generous and tolerant of himself, in fact, to ask the man to have the character of 'benevolence'; what does this 'good to me' mean? It is to require the man to be single-minded, honest and steady, and to love himself wholeheartedly, which is actually to require the man to have the character of 'loyalty' and 'faithfulness'.

"For another example, some girls will say: 'I only ask the man to be knowledgeable and courteous, and to be kind to my parents', which is actually asking the man to have the virtues of 'courtesy' and 'filial piety'.

"As for the talent, I don't need to say more, of course, the girls want the young man to have a certain talent, to have a skill, preferably a talent that can be cashed in immediately or soon, and a talent that can be turned into money in the long term - this is the need to make a living, and it is also the basis for the stability of the marriage in the future."

"I see."

Niu Tiangou nodded, but after thinking about it again, he seemed to have some questions: "This ...... 'appearance is the first, wealth is the key, and the soul is constant', it seems to say that people's appearance, material conditions, and spiritual conditions are all important, right?" ”

Uncle Taurus stroked his long white beard, thought for a while, shook his head slightly, and said, "No, they have a sequence." The first thing to look at is the person's appearance.

"Take you as an example, you never want to see the girl with a long face after you first saw her, why? Because you don't like her appearance, you will veto it, and you don't bother to continue to understand what material and spiritual conditions she has, even if her material and spiritual conditions are good, you will not continue to associate with her.

"Appearance satisfaction is the first step of erotic love, and without the first step, there will be no second and third steps, so it is called 'appearance first'.

"Only if you like her appearance, you will be interested in the second step - to find out about her belongings, her family's wealth. The same is true for you, if she is generally satisfied with your physical condition, then she must understand your material condition, because in the final analysis, the appearance and body of a person must be supported by material conditions.

"Besides, family life after marriage -- firewood, rice, oil and salt, the raising of children and the support of the elderly, and the improvement of their later lives all need to be supported by a certain material foundation, and there is no material condition to have a short-term love -- it is said that it is short-lived, because love belongs to the category of spiritual emotion, and spiritual emotion needs to be premised and based on material, without a material foundation, spiritual emotion cannot be maintained for a long time, and if spiritual emotion is not long-lasting, there will be no long-term and stable marriage, so it is called 'wealth is essential'.

"When you are satisfied with your appearance, you also understand the material conditions - maybe you don't care about the girl's material conditions, and then you will proceed to the third step - after a period of time to understand the girl's character, character, etc.

"If the girl has a good character, a gentle personality, and can talk to you, is the type you like, and your character and talent have won the girl's heart, the two of you may admire each other, slowly enter the depths of each other's hearts, and gradually reach the level of spiritual harmony and heart-to-heart, and treat each other as relatives, and will not be swayed by external possessions, so that your marriage will be eternal, so it is called 'soul is constant'.

"In erotic love, appearance is the first step, wealth is the second step, and soul is the third step. Many human marriages stay in the first and second steps, especially in the second step, because in the money society, people are very realistic, and few go to the third step. ”

Speaking of this, Uncle Taurus sighed: "Alas, the marriage and love in this world, it is wrong to pick and choose, and in the end you can only make do with it - love beauty but God does not match, love money but not people, love soul and lack of wealth, and it is really rare to achieve heart-to-heart and soul and flesh blending, so it is said that 'the eye is easy to knot, the wealth is easy to obtain, and the only heart is rare'." ”

"Then which of these 'appearance, wealth, and soul' do you say is the most important in marriage and love?" Niu Tiangou seemed to have a tendon, and he had to ask a simple and only answer.

"Hmm......"

Uncle Taurus didn't expect Niu Tiangou to hold on to this problem, thought about it, and said: "Theoretically speaking, the soul is of course the most important, but the marriage and love in the world is very realistic, you can also say that it is very worldly, and the most particular about money, so the worldly marriage and love in the world, money is the most important, didn't you say 'money is essential'."

"From the worldly point of view, no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it cannot be turned into wealth, and there is a good skin; No matter how beautiful the soul is, no matter how high the virtue is, it can't be turned into money immediately, and it is also an empty cavity that can never be realized. ”

Wealth!

Money! Substance! Family!

This is the most important thing in marriage and love! This is true of plain love, and of course it is even more so of erotic love, because beautiful girls always want to cash in on their beauty. Niu Tiangou finally got a clear, simple and only answer from the old guy's mouth!

"Why?" Niu Tiangou asked again.

"Money is a survival resource, when a woman chooses a reproductive partner, the first consideration is whether the other party can provide enough survival resources for herself and her offspring to survive, so the first criterion for women to choose a mate is 'Cailang' - mainly wealth, supplemented by appearance and soul. This is also a standard that is generally accepted by the woman's family and the people around her, especially those who are poor.

"Because there are too many poor people in the world, the love of money has become the mainstream of marriage and love."

After a pause, Uncle Taurus continued: "However, although most women mainly love money, most men mainly love appearance, females choose based on appearance, and males compete for money.

"Of course, there are exceptions to everything. Although most women love money and take survival resources as the only criterion for choosing a mate, there are also some women who also value other conditions, and appearance and soul also occupy a certain weight in their hearts. Especially for those women who are particularly wealthy in themselves or in their families, they may lower the weight of the man in terms of wealth and survival resources in the choice of mates, and pay more attention to appearance and soul.

"In the same way, although most men love beauty and regard it as the only criterion for choosing a mate, there are also some men who will value other conditions of women, and wealth, especially soul, also has a certain weight in their hearts."

"However, my appearance and material conditions ......," Niu Tiangou muttered after listening.

Uncle Taurus smiled: "The three owe two, and there is a lot of anxiety between Yan Su, seeking wealth and cultivating the soul, and the way to make up for it is also." ”

Seeking wealth and cultivating the soul?

"How? How to fix it? Niu Tiangou asked with some confusion.

"Silly boy, haven't you already done that?"

Seeing Niu Tiangou's puzzled face, Uncle Taurus Xing explained: "When you were admitted to the normal school, wasn't that kind of ruthlessness and hard work in studying hard just to seek wealth and cultivate your soul?"

"It was because of your hard work at that time that you had the privilege of becoming a national teacher, and from then on, your food and clothing conditions improved—this is not a quest for money? Your cultural knowledge has been enriched -- isn't this soul cultivation?

"It is precisely because of your pursuit of wealth and soul cultivation that you make up for your height defect, and now there are so many handsome girls who are willing to meet you, this is 'seeking wealth and cultivating souls, and the way to make up for it'.

"In fact, not only men and women in marriage and love, but all the positive efforts and struggles made by all people in their lives are 'seeking wealth and cultivating souls'."

Listening to Uncle Taurus talk about this, Niu Tiangou finally understood a little.

However, it was not easy to be admitted to a normal school back then, it was a rare opportunity, and it was probably difficult to further seek wealth and cultivate the soul.

How can you ask for money? I am a poor teacher, relying on that dead salary, non-industrial and non-businessman, how to seek wealth to improve my material conditions? All that remains is to "cultivate the soul" -- to improve one's knowledge and diplomas, to improve one's teaching level, and thus to improve one's spiritual condition.

However, can improving one's knowledge, diplomas, and teaching skills improve one's mental condition? Why did Niu Tiangou feel so empty-hearted?

As far as I am a middle school teacher and a middle school teacher in a poor and remote rural area, it will be useless to "cultivate" my "soul" for 20 years.

You can't do it unless you study for a Ph.D. and become a famous teacher.

By that time, I am afraid that I will already be a white-bearded old man, and I can only "love" a "glamorous" mother-in-law!

Alas, the congenital conditions are insufficient, and the "way to make up for the future" is difficult, maybe there is really only one way left, "all three are not good, and Su Lian is also"?

However, he really didn't give up, and still wanted to ask Uncle Taurus again to see how he explained these three conditions, maybe he had any good way to improve these conditions?

Seeing that Uncle Taurus Xing took the "erotic love secret" into his arms, Niu Tiangou pleaded: "Can you explain the content of the three conditions in more detail according to the environment I am in now?" ”

"More detailed?"

Uncle Taurus pondered for a moment, and then spoke: "The so-called appearance conditions in the 'Jue' - appearance, simply put, refers to height and appearance, strictly speaking, it also includes stature, weight, age, and skin (including skin color and skin texture);

Strictly speaking, it is the surplus money and accumulated wealth after the income to maintain food and clothing, including deposits, money that has been invested for profit, fixed assets (real estate), and items with high economic value that can be sold into a large amount of cash at any time (such as vehicles, gold, silver, jewelry, antiques, securities, bulk commodities, etc.), of course, many of these are related to family circumstances, family backgrounds, and home environments;

"The so-called spiritual condition - soul, it includes a lot of content, simply put, it refers to character (morality) and diploma (talent, although diploma does not necessarily represent talent, but people are always accustomed to ask for diploma first), strictly speaking, it also includes character, temperament and cultivation, knowledge, ability, talent and fame, specialty, IQ and emotional intelligence and so on."